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Gender: Female
Location: Houston
Age: 18
AIM: airy red rose
Member Since: October 21, 2005
Answers: 10
Last Update: October 26, 2005
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Lately ive been so stressed , its not even funny... my best(guy)friend who i kinda like, I dont even know whether or not anymore got a new gf and shes like my friend and she told me that if i wasnt ok with it that she wouldnt go out with him but what am i supposed to do be like no you cant when i know how much my friend likes her... i couldnt do that to him now i dunno i dunno whether i feel like i want to cry or what, im thinking if i try to like a guy and get a boyfriend i wont be stressed about it anymore and crap like that but i dunno i do like him but im so happy for him at the same time cuase he likes her so much and i cant find anyone to like or who i thinks cute, and i cant stop thinking about it, and today i saw him kiss her, whats my problem why i cant i just be like no i dont like you you have agf whos my friend and now who likes you... ugh something inside of me just wants to break... :( anyhelp... (link)
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hey love,
It is good that you are mature enough to not throw a fit when the guy you like is going to date your friend. I think it shows that you are a caring person since you want them both to be happy. Just remember what goes around comes around. You will find someone that you like eventually, no worries. As for your guy friend, maybe you should try to distance yourself from him a little bit so it will make the transition eaiser. I used to have a HUGE crush on my best guy friend all through middle school (3 years) and he always liked my best girlfriend. Trust me, I know it's hard. Be careful in what you decide to do because you do not want to end up losing both of them as friends. Who knows if their relationship will even last. If they start to have problems, he'll start coming to you for advice and he might end up liking YOU. I suggest just waiting it out, and continuing to be the good friend you are. Don't let anything inside of you break! Good luck =) if you need anything my AIM sn is: airy red rose
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to me, everytime a guy and me become close like almost to the point of g/f and b/f, i get like cold feet and i back out of the relationship. its not that i dont like the guy this is happening too, but its like i lead them on then i stop liking them once he likes me! i dont know whats wrong cuz in my head i have the perfect picture of me and the perfect guy as g/f and b/f but when the guy starts liking me, i back out. its like im afraid of commitment, but i know i want it. this is confusing but can anyone give me tips or advice to help me solve this?
btw im not talking about one guy really, im talking about them in general. =] (link)
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Hey Doll,
It seems to me that you like "the chase" more than dating which is totally fine. I know a lot of girls that stop liking the guy once they know he likes them back. I am not sure there is much you can do to solve this problem other than just becoming someone's girlfriend (as long as you really do like them) and seeing how it goes from there. If you are afraid of commitment, then maybe you just aren't ready for it yet. There is nothing wrong with just dating different guys until you feel like you are ready for a boyfriend. If you think you are ready for a boyfriend, then just do your best to follow through with it instead of getting cold feet. Maybe you are scared of getting hurt. Just remember everyone gets hurt eventually by someone else but it's just part of growing up and learning from your mistakes. I hope your cold feet go away! If not, have fun dating and being single =) You will get a boyfriend eventually when the right guy comes along. Have faith!! if you need anything else you can reach me on my AIM SN: airy red rose
good luck!!
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there's this guy at school that I really like, and I think he likes me back because he always kinda flirts with me and stuff during class, but i dont know. the thing is, i know he likes this other girl because he always walks her to class, but i no for a fact ther not going out (plus, he told me). is there any way to tell if a guy likes you?
ill rate high 4 good answers (link)
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There are a couple of ways to find out if he likes you but you'll never know for sure unless you hear it from him. Guys can throw such mixed signals. I suggest talking to some of his friends and finding out a little more about him and that other girl. You might find out that she is just his good friend.
You can also tell if he likes you by the amount of attention he gives you. Is he always trying to talk to you? Does he smile a lot when he talks to you? Is he shy and afraid to look you in the eye? Does he always offer help? Does he sit next to you? Does he offer to be your partner in a group activity? Does he walk w/ you after class? Has he made an attempt to hang out after class? Has he gotten your Screen name or telephone number? If you answered yes to most of these question, then i would say he definitely likes you. Plus, if he made sure to tell you that him and that other girl are not dating that also might mean that he did not want you to assume that because he wants his chances with you to be good.
I hope I helped some. Good luck with him!! I hope he likes you =) Love, Lex
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Ok..i think im realy bad w/ guys. It just seems like i never get a guy nemore...or no guys like me this year. Im not ugly, i think im pretty attractive..wat do i need to do to get guys to notice me more? (dont give me that BE YOURSELF crap) (link)
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You are not bad with guys especially if you are attractive. All a girl has to do to get guys to notice her is flirt with them. Give them LOTS of attention. They love it. Laugh at what they say, hang out with them, join in on conversations, dress cute, do your make up and hair, anything you can think of. Dress sexier, or as sexy as you can get away with in school, and I am sure they will notice you. Maybe you need to narrow down between the guys you WANT to like you, and specifically go after them by making conversation, laughing, playin hard to get, flirting, minor "accidental" touching, stuff like that. I hope I helped and things start looking up for you!! Love, Lex
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Ok.My boyfriend and I go together over the summmer.When we are in skool ppl keep sayin that he is touchin other grls.I don't believe them & I believe him.I dunno if he is?(Cheatin on me)What should I do?
i rate 5's (link)
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You should make no assumptions. First, maybe watch him a little closer to see if you notice him doing certain things or acting a certain way around other girls. Try to find out for yourself if he is lying before jumping to conclusions. However, if you cannot find out then really ask yourself if he's worth the worry you are going through. You do not want to be with someone you cannot trust. He definitely should not be touching other girls when he is dating you, unless they are his friends and he is giving them friendly hugs. Also, ask him in person, face to face, so you can judge whether he is lying or not. Look for the common signs like: he will not look you in the eyes, he changes the subject, he appears to be nervous, he fiddles with something (like his hands or anything he's holding), etc. Good luck, and I hope he is not lying to you and things work out. Love, Lex
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I gotta a really big game on Monday againist our rival school, and i want some ideas on how to get excited and pumped for the game! (link)
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Listening to music that you know will pump you up
Eat healthy meals beforehand
Talk about the game with your teammates and get excited!
Energy Drinks
Have your friends come to watch you play
Practice
Have some of your teammates over on Sunday and just have fun and pump each other up
Tell People in your classes to come
i hope i helped. music is definitely a good way to get pumped up though!
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theres this boy i like... and i wanna ask him out..
i've been dropping him hints..but i dont think he gets it. i think hes afraid to express his feelings (if he does like me which i have no idea about) like one time, at a school dance (we both had no dates) and i told my friend to ask him out for me and she did and he said no..but she said she was just wondering and i didnt really know she was doing that. but that was before he started to know me. cause hes a new kid. but now we know each other a little bit better and i've been really pretty and funny (i guess thats what he looks for in a girl) and a few days ago, i told him i thought he was hott. he didnt say anything though. haha...should i ask him out? but i kinda want to wait til he knows me a lot more... cuz if he says no..i'll never have another chance..but im so confused. what do i dooo? thanks! much love!!
P.S. he rides my bus too. ♥♥♥♥ (link)
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Hey Love,
I think you should wait to ask him out. If you have any doubt about whether you should ask him out, than just wait a little longer until the moment is right. When you said "i kinda want to wait til he knows me a lot more" that indicates to me that the two of you still have to get to know each other a little better before you try dating. Just enjoy being able to flirt with him. You also want to make sure that dating is what he wants. If he says "No", then it will ruin yalls friendship. I think you should wait a little longer before asking him out. Who knows...maybe he will ask YOU out. Good luck with the boy that rides your bus ;). Love, Lex
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There's this one guy named julian in 2 of my classes and i dont sit near him in any of them. He's really cute and i want to get to know him. The only problem is that ive never really talked to him..i'm to afraid to. does anybody have any ideas on how to start a conversation with him?
and i dont feel comfortable with just going up to him randomly and saying something to him.
any other ideas?? please help..
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I have a couple of ideas that just might help. If you are too shy to go up to him randomly and make conversation, then maybe you would feel more comfortable getting to know one of his friends first. Then, you can walk up to that person when he's around and it will not be so random to talk to him. Or, since he is in two of your classes maybe try to be in the same group as him, try to sit next to him, ask him about homework, or anything along those lines. Asking about homework, or asking for help, is not random because wouldn't you talk to anyone else about that? Do not be shy, my dear. You only live once, so do not let an opportunity pass you by. Just remember that even though you like this boy he is no better than you, and you should just be yourself and make conversation with him. Maybe find out his SN if he has one, if you are really too nervous to talk to him in person, and IM him. Just be like..Hey its "so and so"...and ask something about class, and then change the subject and keep talking to him. Well, I hope I helped some! Good luck with Julian.
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I need instant answers pleas
i am in desperate need of a new sn
i love preppy girly stuff i like cheering shopping makeup just anything girly im also a little on the blonde side (although im brunett) and i love pink so let me no pplease (link)
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PrettyNpink (add some numbers on the end like ur bday)
ShoPPaHolic
LovelyLadyPink
Cheer4it
Fashion911
Kissable Lips
Blonde n Pink
ThinkPinknBlonde
Prepitup
BlondeBomb
DirtyBlonde
Blondaholic
Pinkaholic
Keepin it Real
xxxHotPinkxxx
xoxoBlondexoxo
XoHugsnKissesXo
XXpInkXX
Pretty Doll
Fiesty Blonde
2 Cute 2 Boot
LovinPinkLife
XcluelessX
Shop Til Drop
Hope I sparked some ideas! Love, Lex
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well I sent alot of emails to a guy that I like, and then I figuared out that I aint ready to date agian for a while, how do I tell him that I aint ready to date yet, cause he really likes me as well, and I am just wanting to look around and find my self before dateing agian...how do I tell him??? that I aint ready to date yet?? (link)
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Just be honest with him and straight forward. If you lie, you might end up making things harder on yourself and him. If he brings up dating, tell him exactly how you feel. Ways you could tell him are: in an email, on AIM, over the phone, in person, and in a letter. I definitely suggest being honest with him because it would not be fair to lead him on, especially if he really likes you. If you value your friendship with him, make sure you tell him that you still want to remain friends. Do not worry, plenty of girls would like to "find" themselves before getting into a relationshp and becoming dependent on someone else. I hope everything works out, and you find a way to tell him how you feel. Good luck =)
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