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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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my boyfriend and i have talked about sex. and he is much more experienced then i am and he says that he will wait as long as i need until im ready. i think im ready. i just am afraid out of my mind about the pain. he is pretty big and im not. im really scared. ha. so from your experiences. how bad is it?

i imagine it hurt a lot.

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when my boyfriend fingers me for the first time. will i bleed? and if i do. will he be disguisted?

:(

you won't bleed unless he gets really aggressive then you might... he won't be disguisted but he won't know. you won't know either until you go to the bathroom and wipe it's not like intense bleeding.

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i have had sex with one guy.
and i think its incrediable!
is it bad that i like it so much?

it would be bad if you didn't like it. lol yeah just don't do it with just anyone. make sure it's someone you truly care about before you do it again. because thats when people get the title 'slut'

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im a virgin and i have been fingered 2 times and ate out 2 times will the doctor be able to see that?

nope =] your safe

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alright so there is this guy
we've been on and off since july.
but we broke up about amonth ago..
and started seeing other people.
well i dumped the guy i was with
but my ex it still iwth his girlfriend
but the thing is..
i still love him.
like really l-o-v-e.
and he says he still has feelings for me,
and that we'll just break up again.
but i want more than anything to make it work
how can i show him that if i have one more chance,
considering i've given him like 5
that it'll be worth it?

please help ; im sick of crying =/

you have to tell him you love him or else nothing will get done. tell him you love him and your want him back. simple. don't give up either.

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Do guys shave down there usually or not? I want to know what to expect (not that im doing anything anytime soon. just curious)

i know a lot who do. not a lot who don't. like they'll shave but not everything; like not there balls. just above there penis. it all depends on what the guy believes in just like how it all depends on what a girl wants to do..

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I used to be on birth control for over a year, but was recently taken off my family's health insurance..so I can no longer afford it unless I pay out of pocket. I'd like to go to Planned Parenthood to get on it again, but I have a couple questions for those who have gone themselves or know the answers: 1.) Do I need health insurance? 2.) If I don't have health insurance & have a decent income, how much will I be looking at paying for birth control every month? 3.) What will my appointment be like? 4.) What should I bring with me to my appointment?

Any other suggestions or tips would be great. Thank you.

i just went there today for my first time soo here :

1. no you do not
2.if you are under 18 it's free
3. they will bring you into a room and ask you questions. then you go into a room undress from waist down they take your heart beat blood pressure andd if you want they check for STD's and put plyer things up your vagina and put swoves in there.. then she'll give you a tissue to clean up and your good to go
4. your social security number i didn't have mine and it didn't matter buttt just in case. your odn't need anything else. but if you are over 18 probably a photo id =]

there are 3 different types that they could give you
- the pill
- a shot that lasts for 3 months and come back every 3 months for it
- or the patch which you change every 3 weeks

if you need anythign else let me know =]

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ok so me and my bf just hookedup and he asked me not to tell anyone what does that mean?and what do i do?

he wants you not to talk anyone because she doesn't want people to talk smack like they always do;; so just do what he says and don't tell anyone =]

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Ive been together with my boyfriend for 4 and a half months now. We talked about us both being ready to make love. Theirs just one thing holding me back. He has condoms but I dont feel comfortable with just that i heard the pill can give you cancer so I was woundering what else I could do to be safe. I dont want to tell my mom i know she'll ruin the experiance for me.

spermicide. it kills the sperms inside of you. the pill is VERY rare to give you cancer

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i am thinking about letting my boyfriend finger me,but i have really long large in lips on my "lower area" will he get freaked out? or should i do something about it, or not let him finger me, do guys think that is weird ?

he's a boy lol they don't care as long as their pleasing you. and if he likes you that much it won't matter =]

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is there a way to get
birth control with
out letting my parents
find out? 15/f

go to planned parenthood. look it up in the phonebook i'm sure theres one near you;; all you have to do is schedule an appointment and they will give it to you for free. of course they'll ask you questions and it might be awkward but it's worth it

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i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months and all we have done is make out so far. i would like to go farther and im sure he does too. what is a good way to bring it up?

dont' bring it up..

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I had sex one time , but i did all the other stuff [fingering,blowjobs,etc] more times.
All with the same person, and thats who I lost my virginity too.
Well we both lost our virginity to eachother and he's never done anything with anyone else except me.I'm constantly thinking about doing it again,literally all the time.I havent talked to him in a while but in the time we were doing it he said he thought about it.
He brought it up a couple times recently and said he would do it again, but he has a girlfriend.
Do you think he thinks about it alot like i do?
Im wondering because I dont want to be the only one.

the person who you loose your virginity to you always have a certain bond with that's kind of unexplainable. i'm pretty sure he thinks about it as well because if you were his first then you have something special;; and it wasn't just a 'lets do the dirty' kind of thing. so yeah pretty sure =] good luck hun

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ok so sometimes when i get my period it's brown-ish colored with a few drops of red every couple days then the next period is all red & healthy looking but then in between periods milky-white slippery stuff comes out...which means i'm healthy
is this healthy???
i'm confused....
13/f

your fine hunnyy same happens to every girl.. i know for the first year when i got mine it was a gross brown color and a lot it's still that gross brown color but yeah the milky white slippery stuff is called discharge or nick named 'snail tracks' yeah it's gross i know. but us women have to deal with it =[

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my parents were married in late may and my sister was born in mid december. my sister was born right on time. did my parents have sex before they were married?

yes; they had sex because it takes 9 months for a baby to be concieved and that woudl only leave you with 7 and 1/2 -8 months and that's not enough time =/

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alright i'm 15 - and i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. i'm still a virgin, and plan on keeping it that way until i am ATLEAST out of highschool. anyways, we haven't had sex, but he HAS fingered me. and i've bled before -- maybe because he was being aggressive, but maybe because he popped my cherry. i was just wondering if i were to go to the gyno, whenever i decide to go, if it would look like i wasn't a virgin anymore because my hymen could in fact be broken. like, would he/she be able to tell that i haven't had sex? or would it look like i have?

not at all because i broke my hymen when i was five (so excited) and so you don't only break it from having sex =] as far as they can tell all they know is that your broke your hymen they know better than to think you had sex =]

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is it bad to get the hpv vaccine when your already sexually active?

not at all; i would get one right away though just to be on the safe side =]

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ok i know all about like what a girl goes through during puberty & all but what do the guys get if girls get periods??
nothing?

haha boys. grr. all boys get is facial hair, deep voices, and rageing hormones. they also continue to grow and develope but their testoterone (which is the male hormone) level is at an all time high

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How do you know if you have had an orgasim or not? My boyfriend had fingered me before, and it has felt great but I don't know when I have an orgasim or not. I know when I do it myself sometimes, I get this chilling feeling in through my legs and back. Is that when I get one, or does it feel different than that?

no it pretty much feels the same way. the ways you know if you did is because you'll likeee release fluids and everything will tighten up. when you had one by yourself it will feel the same way or better than with your boyfriend

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Okay, so I got fingered for my first time.

Problem is, I didn't even feel it.

Like I mean, you know how when you put in a tampon, you aren't supposed to feel it?

Well are you supposed to feel getting fingered?

i guess your supposed to feel it ?

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