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For the last 9 years my wife and I have been going down a rocky road for our relationship. I was a selfish prick to her and my two daughters. I would go off and go drinking with my buddies, I would refuse to help her in any way shape or form, and I would take full on advantage of her services. I felt that since I was the sole provider then I can do what ever I want. About two years ago she had an affair and it was a huge wake up call for myself. I started to turn myself around, quit drinking, and be there for her more. Then one day, something snapped inside of me. All I could do is think about the affair, every time I looked at her I would get so angry at her I couldn't even stand it so I would go to the bars with my buddies and go drinking to drown out the anger. I did this for six months straight with now break. During this time she was working real hard to make things right but I would simply ignore her. I got so tired of her trying to make our marriage work and I got so tired of being angry that I told her that I want a divorce. Well after I said that I went out of town on business and that gave me time to think about what I said and what I really want in my marriage. I contacted her and I told her that I have been doing some thinking and that I want to make our marriage work and turn our situation around. Well its been almost a year and my wife still is shut off from me and she keeps telling me that if she opens up a little she feels I will go back to my old ways. I have seen the errors of what I have done and I truly love my wife. She is my everything. I would love it if I could get her to open up, but everything that I try gets shut down, she turns me down for dates, she refuses to touch me, she refuses to talk to me. I figured she would just up and leave but she hasn't. Is she punishing me for what I have done? Is she feeling guilt for the affair? How do I get my wife to open up after nearly a year of her being shut down? (link)
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I don't blame her. You disrespected her and now she doesn't trust you. You nee to work to get her trust back. Do you think ahe wants to ignore you? Do you think she has to? She doesn't want to be with you when you left her for other things and now she feels useless and isn't going to make that mistake again. So be careful what you say or do and earn her trust and show her you love her by making breakfast, being nice, cleanng ect.
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So there's this thing I can do that has been trialed many many times and it worked EVERYTIME. I can tell someones personality just by looking at them. I don't have to know who they are or have to have met them or anything, I just need to see thier face. It's pretty cool. It also comes in handy when I need to see if a boy is right for me or not :) My friends cant do this but can anyone else? Thanks! :D (link)
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I feel like I can do this most of the time but lots of people can depending how social you are you may just have a special thing where it commes natural for you but no necassarily a power..
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I play with my butthole alot, why is this? (link)
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There is no certain reason especially because you didn't give us any backround knoledge like how old you were ect.
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Okay my bf birthday is coming up. and there is something on my mind.We do have sex a lot. But I was thinking that maybe in till I'm 18 to(he's 17 right now)we should not do have sex. But I don't know how to tell him this. Because we can only do it in his car and if a cop was to see us they might let us go with a talking to because we were both "kids" and under age. But I don't know what they would do him being 18 and all. And I won't be 18 till May. I don't want to get him trouble or anything.I know he's not even thinking about this because he's not one to hold thing up inside. He would have already said something. I don't know if I'm being a worrier. Or if this is something to think about. And how do I tell him if it is? Help! (link)
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Honeatly you should not be having sex in a car it should be an njoyable thing and not even done at this age wait till your 18 and can do it somewhere else but also your sex life is none of the cops business but make it romantic not in car. Just do it when the time is good
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Ok so i am a 13 year old girl and i have liked this guy for a long time and he has liked me. we have had an on and of "thing" like all year but never officially "went out" and we got paired together in the play Oklahoma for dance partners. we are both considered somewat "popular" also. he is will parker and i am ado annie for the dream ballet part in the play and we hold hands slow dance he lifts me we flirt and get married in the play! how awk! he just found out that i liked him again and he doesnt like me and i dont anymore but he thinks i still do and it is sooooo awk!!!!! what do i do????!?!?!!helpp!!! (link)
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Yes awkward but he will figure out you don't eventually just do what your asked to do in the play and nothing more and it will be all good. Just act like it's all normal
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This guy told his friend who told me that in gym he kept trying to hit my butt(which is very popular with the guys in my grade(8th) with a doge ball to see it jiggle. ? why does he want this and what should i do? (link)
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This is how to goes in 8th grade :P every guys want this to see a girl and her reactions to it. So if it bothers you tell him to stop because he shouldn't be doing that. it's all bout boys and how imature they are (hehe ) So stand up for your self if you feel the need becase it is Inappropriete
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OK so i am a single 8th grade girl and have lots of friends. i went to my future high schools basketball game yesterday. a boy named *Jack(one of my guy friends) came up and sat right next to me and guys were like scooting him closer to me.he kept talking to me and bugging me like being annoying. he was taking my phone and stuff and he changed his contact name and texted himself from my phone saying i love you. and he kept texting me when he was sitting right there. he kept taking my phone and joking around and touching my hands and shoulders and back and hair. and would tap me and look away.a boythere goes a boy here likes you but then people turned around so he couldent tell me who. does *jack like me?? (link)
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I would say he likes you if his friends were participating in this and if he was doing all this. If you really want to find out ask his best friend cause they will know everything abouthim :) haha but I would say he likes you ;)
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Sorry if this is lengthy, but I need advice!
Alright, so me and this boy are sophomores in highschool. He's liked me since 7th grade, and we dated over this past summer. I broke it off because after 3 months of being together, he didn't try to make a single move! We didn't hold hands, kiss, or anything. A hug here and there, but that's about it. Now, a couple months after I broke up with him, he dated this girl for about a week, and kissed her inside of 3 days! Here's my first question.. why didn't he kiss me? When I saw they were dating, I realized how much I still like him. (As a side note, the first time we dated, half the time I really liked him, and the other half I could have lived without him. I'm pretty sure it was just dumb teenage hormones doing that, anyway.) But I decided that I lost him, and I couldn't just stand back and watch them go out when he made and gave me a CD with songs that remind him of me, like Smile by Uncle Cracker, Dreaming with a broken heart by John Mayer, and Not over you by Gavin DeGraw. It held my lucky number of songs, 9. And then I knew I couldn't just sit back and watch him with someone else when we both knew what we really want. We both had our wakeup calls that I think we desperately needed, and right now we're doing a trial week. Yesterday in school, he pulled me aside and said he wanted to give me something. I knew it'd be a kiss, and made an excuse as to why I had to go, and took off. I don't know why I did that, because I've wanted him to kiss me for the longest time! Again, right after school, he asked me to step aside with him and I said I had to go see my sister, to which he got upset (as he should have) and left. I've got no idea why I seem to be unable to go through with it, but I want to! All for the rest of the day I was giving myself forehead slaps in exasperation. I had two chances to get my long awaited kiss, and gave each of them up. Why, do you think? And how can I fix it? I told myself before the second time he tried yesterday, that I would do it even if I didn't want to, just to get it out of the way. I couldn't make myself. I know I don't like PDA that much, but I also don't think its that big of a deal. What do I do?? As my third and final question, should you be able to picture yourself kissing someone? Because when I try to, I can't picture myself kissing anybody.
As a recap, my questions are:
Why didn't he kiss me in the 3 months?
Why don't I "want" him to kiss me, or why won't I let him?
How can I fix it?
And should I be able to picture us kissing, or doing anything intimate?
Thanks for taking your time to read this! (link)
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1.) He may of been shy to kiss you because it seemz you guyz are pretty close.
2.) Right now your probably thinking you can do it and stuff but then it happens and you get all nervous and afraid so just stay open minded and you'll be able to just enjoy it because it's always magical.
3.) there's no way to fix it but take a risk and dive for that kiss
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Ok so heres the situation,
i am a 13 year old girl in 8th grade. i have a ton of friends and guys flirt with me ALOT but i have never had a boyfriend. i mean i can easily find flaws in myself so r these flaws y i dont get asked out alot? :( (link)
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Maybe guys are to shy to ask you out and the time's not right. Just wait and when you get to high school next year that won't be the case
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I am a 20 year old female I have a 1 year old daughter with my boyfriend who is 22. We have been together 4 years. He now lives in another city where he is working 2 hours away. He has came to town twice & drinks partys with friends & misses his chance to see us. Then he goes back to work & starts telling me if I'm going to go out and/or cheat on him. He feels guilty & says he does love & miss us. I do not go out. When I am not working or at a class I am with my adorable smart baby girl. We are not on the same page at all. . Oh and ps. We want to move in together when my job ends in April (link)
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He does not want to participate right now and it's not fair for you to have to stay home and take care of the baby while he's out partying. Remember, he's the one who got you pregnant and at 20 you may need help. So if he's not going to help you then he really doesn't care so tell him that you need his help and yes if he doesn't start helping move on and he will most likly come back then move in together but I would wait for him if he says he's coming.
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how to cope with adult son and his wife, living 200 miles away, father is controlling and narcissistic, i am the mother, caught inbetween,father wants son and wife to live in our town and be there for us, i am 77, husband is81, (link)
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I think the father is right it's appropriete to have family close to you at this age in life and I would try and make them live closer to you and I would explaine your reasonings towards them.
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How do I know that I'm hitting puberty (link)
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When your body begins to change
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I was wondering what funny stories you guys have..Cause I have one that made me laugh so hard I skipped my afternoon ab exersice. So at school during lunch today, my friend was about to throw a bananna peel at someone sitting next to him(dont ask why....) and a piece of the peel flew off and went REALLY high up and landed flat on one of the most popular guys head!!! I was about to die I was laughing so hard...But his friends didn't look to exited. LOL I can't get to picture of the peel flying through the air...wow. My abs might hurt tomorrow from that. :D Well, what's your story??? (link)
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Haha aww good times! My story is I was at school running through the hall with my friend and this kid who was older well he was delivering papers that were being dropped off at our class and he got all creeped out cause we were following him then we were pretending to be ninjas and started running then she toatally droped down on are stomach and started crawling and we were both laughing so hard and then he was about to walk in to are class room and we grabbed the papers from his hand and he thought we were so weird hahahaha
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year or so, and lately the most we have done is something along the lines of this: He would jack off, or I would do it for him - and then once he was to his point of climax, he would finish himself off and wipe it off with a towel. Then he would wipe off his hands. Though this may sound gross I've licked it off his fingers once, and before he fingers me sometimes he licks his fingers aswell. And then he proceeds to finger me or I masturbate for him to watch. Of course, I put lotion on after I give him any sort of a hand job and use my hand, not finger tips in which I use to masturbation. I haven't had my period, I'm two days late. I get worried very badly at startling situations - can I be having symptoms of phantom pregnancy or can I actually be pregnant? (link)
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If your 2 days late just wait because I dont think you would be pregnant if that's it. As for your other symptom you mentioned it depends on your age. If your really worried go get cheked by a doctor
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Im a 14 year old girl in 8th grade I have liked this guy for a long time!And he has off and on been interested in me too! But this year my little sister and his little brother started "going out" they are 5th graders! They have been together forever! It seems like they will never break up! My crush has recently been flirting with me more and more and we want to go out soo bad but we can't I have no clue what todo! HELP ME (link)
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Whyy can't you? It's alright if you do, there's nothing wrong with it and your sister wouldn't be involved because it's not her business if that's what your worried about. You only live once so do what you want and what feels best. Do it :)
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so im female and 16, not that it matters. There are these three guys and i dont know who i like. i feel like im horrrible person to be crushing on all of them at the same time. The first one is really sweet and shy and in a few of my classes. we dont talk much cuz we are both shy. He seems sweet and i had fun when we talked in class. But whenever i see him in the hall he'll wave and say hi, my face goes beat red. the second guy is really funny and makes me laugh a lot. i have fun talking to him and he seems cool. the third is really smart and we have lots of things in common...and we talk a lot lately. i dont know how to decided. i cant really ask you to choose but would any of you give me advice on how to figure it out. I dont even know if they are interested...thanks (link)
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There's nothing wrong with crushing on the 3 guys if your not in a realationahip. Go through the pros and cons with each one and see which one you like best to be honest you dont have to like one more than the rest. Just do what you think :)
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Ok plz don't judge me I was havin an affair with someone who has a child and a partner but his partner has now found out and he and her have split and I haven't heard from him was he using me??he told me he loved me said if he could be with me he would and now he can u hasn't even bothered with me :( I don't know what to do I feel hurt and angry at the same time I don't really have friends or anything he was someone who I thought actually cared someone I cud talk to etc now I have noone x (link)
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If he did this to you he doesn't really love you. Expressing love through actions and not words is best. Go and tell him how you feel then find a new partner
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I shave my pubic area, not just for my boyfriend, but for myself aswell. But he doesn't. He wants me to go a bit further and go down on him, which I have, but the pubic hair is a bit irritating, and distracting. How do I tell him I want him to shave or at least trim? (link)
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Just be honest and tell him and if he doesn't want to he doesn't have to. Just say it sweetly like "I think it would be nice if youshaved down there it would be interesting to see the difference" or somethin llike that.
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So I'm wondering how to get my boyfriend to do a few things... I always hear that guys get upset or it messes with their masculinity or whatever when a woman asks or tells, rather, what to do in bed. How do I let him know what I want without being mean or feeling like an idiot? (link)
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To be honest you can't make him do anything but you could do something (wink) like so he gets motivated to do things to. If you want him to do stuff you have to so stuff to.
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