This is so embarrassing! When my boyfriend fingers me I really like it and everything, but I just kind of sit there stiff as a rock because I don't know what to do. He thinks I don't like it. :-( The problem is I guess I am afraid if I moan or something he will be grossed out. So what should I do if anything?
18 female
I can almost guarantee that he would not be grossed out if you moan. Most guys love that, and it shows that you like it as opposed to just sitting here being quiet. I understand why you'd be a little nervous, I was too at first, but by focusing more on your reaction, you're preventing yourself from fully enjoying the experience. Just let whatever reaction happens happen.
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I want to try dyeing my hair different colors, and I want to see which one really suits me as quickly as possible. So when you have nonpermanent haircolor, how long does it last? Can you just wash it out or does it wear off more quickly than the other ones?
Thank you for all your help!
PS even if you don't know all the answers please just give me your experiences with hair coloring.
It really depends on which kind you get. You can get the come-in kind if you just want a basic idea of how a color will look, and those come out as soon as you wash your hair. Or if you wanted something that lasts a little bit longer, you could get a semi or demi permanent hair color that comes out after so many washes or after a few weeks.
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hey brianna ok well let me get straight to the point....ive been out with alot of guys....ALOTTTTTTTTTT of guys,,like 10 in the past 4 monthes...and i bet hats not gonna be the end...so anyways..people r now saying that im sortof a player...and like thats not it at all...im just looking 4 the right guy...and non of them r the right ones..ther all a bunch of bad boyfriends..excpet 4 one..but we broke up.... so i dont rly want them to call me that..and i guess its b/c some of my relationships arent vry long..but thats jsut b/c they arent it...well..do u think people r just jelouse? or not? cuz its gettin rly annoying...like im not a player at all..what should i do? should i lay low..and not date anymoe guys 4 alittle bit?
People are going to think what they're going to think. There's not much you can do to change that. I'm sure some of it could be jealousy. You could be a saint and someone would still have something bad to say about you. That's life. You don't have to lay low or stop dating all together, but if you want my advice, maybe try to get to know a guy really well before starting a relationship with them. Start off as friends first. That way, you'll have a better chance of figuring out which guys probably aren't right for you.
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I met this guy and we totally hit off. He's pretty much in love with me, and I strictly just like him. Apparently, he has this girl who is obsessed with him, and he can't stand her. She's always making these depressing blogs about it, and in a way.. i can sense that she's not too fond of me. I don't want to be in the middle of this, and im sick of her friends complaining to me about "stealing him away from her"..especially when he never even liekd her. How am I supposed to deal with these people? I can't help the fact that we like eachother.
There's really nothing you can do about this girl. He doesn't like her, so even if you ended things with him and told him to be with her, chances are he wouldn't do it. Just because she likes him doesn't mean no one should date him, because it's his choice. All you can really do is ignore this girl, and her friends. She's jealous, she's going to act immature because chances are she can't handle the fact that he likes you and not her, so she's got to make excuses, like you stole him from her. Eventually, she'll get tired of acting like this and find someone else to obsess over.
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Hello my name is Emily and i am 14 years old I desperetly need a job i have ben looking for jobs for 14 year olds all night and i could not find one so i was wondering if u might help me find a job or give me some advice. Thanks for your time i greatly aprasheat it hala:)
Depending on where you live, most places won't even hire you until you're at least 16. You can still check around, though, and maybe if there's a small store around or something family owned, they may be more willing to hire you. However, if not, your best bet would be to start small. Try babysitting, mowing lawns, cleaning houses, or other small jobs. I know they don't sound as fun, but it does help to have some work experience on your resume when you get older and start applying for other jobs.
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I was wondering, even if I'm not sexually active or anything..and I just want to get on the pill (for my period), would I still need a pap smear? Also, what other things should I expect during my appointment with the gynecologist?
You shouldn't need a pap smear just to get on the pill, but your gyno might want to do one just to be safe. I didn't even go to a gyno to get the pill, just my regular family doctor. However, once you're sexually active, a lot of doctors will suggest seeing a gyno for a pap smear. Your gyno may want to at least look down there, though, but he or she should tell you everything they plan to do and if you're uncomfortable at all, tell them.
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when u pope ur cerry does it hurt?
I'm assuming you mean "pop your cherry", right? Popping your cherry is pretty much a figure of speech. What actually happens is your hymen is torn. Some girls have their hymens torn before sexual intercourse, from riding a bike or a horse, or several other things. It doesn't always hurt, but it does hurt fairly often, more from the stretching than anything else. It probably won't be anything unbearable. The best advice I can give you is to use lube, make sure you're relaxed and 100% ready, and take things slow. Also, use protection.
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I just broke up with my long-distance boyfriend 2 days ago because I couldn't handle the distance. I really do still love him, and I'm not handling the break up well.
We decided mutually to be friends, but it's not really working. He's being unusually mean to me (which is to be expected I guess, since it's only been 2 days). This is too hard on me, and every time I end a call with him I end up crying. My feelings for him are still strong, but I do want to stick with my decision. Today we planned to chat at a certain time, and it's about 2 hours past & he's nowhere to be found.
My question is: should I cut off all contact? I really would like to be friends, but I can tell it is clearly going to take me some time. Also, if I do decide to cut all contact..should I tell him or just do it?
Btw, I'm leaning more towards the 'just doing it' option, without telling him, because after I talk to him it usually leaves me wanting to talk to him again. If I just stop contact, I won't have a chance to talk to him first. My only concern with this option is that when I am ready to be friends (maybe a month or so down the line), he won't want to speak with me/be my friend because I did the no contact thing without telling him. Ahh, please any advice would help!! I just want to be happy again. Thank you.
I don't see any problem with you two trying to be friends. However, right now, you're both clearly not over the breakup. I can almost guarantee that's the reason he's being so mean to you. People handle breakups in different ways. You both need some time to focus on yourself and getting over this. Stop contact for now, and sometime in the future when you think you've both had enough time to recover, then try the friendship thing again.
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I need help. I think my mom is going to do my hair so i need some how to's for my prom do & for my makeup also. I have medium length hair & my face is kinda oval shaped and fat though. My skin is fair but i'm getting tan. just tell me what hair style would look good on me and how to do it and how to do my makeup. maybe you could leave pictures to.
There are a lot of different hairstyles you can do. You could do an up-do, or leave your hair down and maybe do loose curls. It's hard to know what would look right for you until you try it, so I would recommend you and your mom sit down one day before prom and try a few different styles until you find the one you want. There are tons of sites with prom hairstyle ideas. This site has a few: http://www.2promhairstyles.com/prom-hairstyles.shtml. You can google 'prom hairstyles' or even 'formal hairstyles' for more ideas. As for makeup, try to match your colors with your dress, but don't go too crazy with your makeup. In my opinion, subtle looks much better. This site has some prom hairstyles and makeup tips: http://www.prom.net/makeup/, and again, you can always google 'prom makeup ideas' for more options. And as with your hairstyle, I would try out some ideas before the day of the prom until you find the one you like.
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I know that when you get your license, they require you to bring proof of current enrollment and your recent attendance record from school. [You usually get that in the attendance office at your school.] But since it's summer, do they still expect you to get that? Also, in a letter from my school district [that i received from drivers ed course] it lists the documents and things I need to bring with me to get my license. No where does it say anything about bringing proof of insurance, is that also required or no? [By the way, I live in Texas and I already looked at the DMV website for these answers and couldnt find them anywhere.]
Since the requirements are different for different states, I can't really tell you what you need to bring. Your best bet is to call your local courthouse or the office that does your license tests and ask them what you need to bring and how you can get the documents from your school since it's not open. They can tell you what you need to do.
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Okay to make this very long story short, my boyfriend of two months cheated on me. We were bestfriends at first for over a year and a half before we dated. I'm 17 btw. I've always cared so much and beileved in him when no else did, his reputation for being a man whore always bothered me. His phone had been "broken" for about two weeks and I get this text saying hey. I started to notice it wasn't him and whoever was on the phone was beating around the bush about what they were doing. So "kate" let's call her, starts saying that my bf is hot, that he wants her a whole bunch of bull that I simply ignored. Kate ends up sending me a text saying I I shouldn't be happy because Im not the one making out with him now. I broke down. Later on that night he admitted to what she said and showed some remorse. Then day at school I saw he had a HUGE hickey on his neck. I still didn't want to beileve it. So at lunch Kate sits at choking distance so now my friends torment her and I'm a well known person so now the whole cafe hates her. I'm still unhappy my bf and I still together we sat down and talked it out it was long but we thought about it alot i still couldn't believe he let her get a hold of his phone. I know I'm stupid for taking him back but I'm in love. /: I still depressed haven't eaten in 4 days and not really much sleep either.
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I hate that you have to go through this. I know how much stuff like that hurts, trust me. But depriving yourself of food and sleep is only going to make it worse. That girl is a horrible person, and no offense, but your boyfriend isn't much better. It's your decision on what to do with your relationship, but if you want my advice, past experience has taught me to run away from guys like that because there's a big chance he'll do it again. But some guys can change. You really need to step back and evaluate your relationship. I know you love him, and I know it's hard, but do you think you can ever fully trust him after this? Trust is extremely important for a relationship to work, and if you're anything like me, worrying about whether or not he's doing these things again is going to drive you insane. Really think about what you want to do, and if you decide you want to try to stay with him, talk to him and try to see if he really is sincere about his apology. If things don't work out, it'll hurt, but I promise it's not the end of the world and you will find someone who knows how to treat you right.
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So my boyfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago. He said he needed to clear his head. We were still talking, still friends.. and then he just stopped calling.. when I would call him he would say he was busy. He just called me.. no idea what to say. help!
Maybe he just needed to be alone while he cleared his head. I'm sure the breakup wasn't easy for him, and trying to maintain a friendship so soon after a breakup can be hard. When he calls, just ask him how he's been, let him say what he has to say, or if he just called to chat, talk about what you used to talk about as friends before you stopped talking.
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17/f
Okay so I kinda like a guy at my school, he's a freshman and i'm a senior but I don't see age as an issue. We've been texting back and forth but ever since I got on my vaca he jus randomly stops answering. Last night he told me the guy that walked up to me thought I was hot and said he had good taste. So basically he told me I was good looking. I said aww thanks :) ur sweet...and I didn't get an answer...so wtf is he not interested?! In tired of the mixed signals like that!! Also I wanna ask him to my prom but now I'm afraid he will just say no. What do I do to make this better? I need to know if he's interested bc sometimes he makes comments like he is and other times he either doesn't answer or outta nowhere says um I'll let you go. Ahhhhh help! Thanks.
He may be afraid of the same thing you are, that you don't really like him or that you'll think he's coming on too strong. Part of the reason he didn't answer your text could have been that you didn't really give him much to say (no offense). Try texting him and asking questions so that he'll have an opportunity to say something back. As for the prom thing, I would go for it. Sure, he may so no, but you never know until you ask. Life is about taking risks, and being rejected may suck, but it's not the end of the world.
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My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He was going through a depression and cut off all connections with everyone. He says he needed time alone and that he was no longer happy with anything. First he stopped talking to his best friend. Then all other friends, then he broke up with me. I tried to still be there for him and told him to call me whenever he needed me. But after a couple of weeks of roller coaster emotions and not being sure if he was going to call or not, i decided to end the whole thing. He kept telling me that he will come back one day and that I just need to be strong and move on for now. So thats what I told him that I needed to move on and not to call me anymore unless things were going to be different. he told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore. because he doesn't know how he feels about anything anymore. He said that his depression was getting worse and needed to find jesus. So we said our finally goodbyes last week and haven't talk since
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we were really in love and didn't have a bad relationship. Even planned marriage
he was in a depression when we were both in freshman year. He stopped talking to all of friends then too and then later regretted it and tried to get back in contact with them a year later when we started dating.
we are both seventeen and are in our junior year of high school. We were together 9 months but have know each other for 4 years. We liked each other freshmen year but he became very depressed because he was backstabbed by his friends and his first love cheated on him. He cut off all connections with everyone at school then to. He moved schools our 10th grade year. We didnt talk all school year but I texted him out the blue during summer and we began to have a relationship. He tried to get back in contact with the friends he cut off because he regretted doing that to them.
I REALLY MISS HIM AND IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK WE WILL EVER TALK AGAIN?
he was my best friend and i was his. We talked about everything
Please do not tell me i need to just move on. Because i am doing that. When i am ready to date again. I will do so. But I just really want him in my life again... .. or do you think it would be weird if i wait a couple of months give him his space... then call him to check on him?
i will do anything to have him in my life again... even if its just as friends
& please excuse any misspelled words and my grammar I wrote this in a rush..Thank you in advanced
I do think there is some hope that you two will talk again in the future, but right now I think he does really need to focus on himself and getting over the depression. The only thing is, he might not be as willing to talk to you since you told him not to call unless things were going to be different. If you really do want to continue a friendship with him, maybe you could call or text him, and let him know that even though the relationship is over, you would still like to be friends with him when he feels like he's ready to. And I don't think it would hurt to contact him every once in a while to let him know you're thinking of him and to find out how he's doing.
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I'm 18 & im a female. I have a friend who has a boyfriend & her boyfriend is always around her, so I never get to spend time with just her & I told both of them about how I feel but they don't believe me. What can I do to spend more time with just her?
I'm sorry about your situation. First, I find it really weird that they would think you were lying about something like that. I understand how girls can get so caught up with their boyfriends that they forget about their friends (I've had many friends do this to me), but at the end of the day, she needs to understand that this relationship may not last forever, but friendships can. Maybe you could try asking her to have a girl's night, and possibly do something pretty girly like a manicure or anything so that her and her boyfriend both may get the hint that it's a girls only thing. If possible, maybe you could ask her to have a sleepover. It may sound childish, but I'm 19 and I still do it, and she should be able to realize that this means no boyfriend. If none of that works, you might want to try talking to her without her boyfriend around (if it's possible) and telling her that you have no problem with her boyfriend and that you understand that they're going to spend a lot of time together, but that you miss hanging out with her alone and see how she reacts. If she still doesn't believe you, then maybe you should step back and re-evaluate your friendship.
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Does getting your eyebrows hurt?
i want the truth please (=
ive heard many things about it
and i want expreienced people.
mmkthanks i rate
It all depends on your pain tolerance. I absolutely cannot pluck my eyebrows, and I have several tattoos and piercings. Plucking is just an extremely annoying pain to me. Not that it hurts really bad, it's just so annoying.
For me, waxing is nothing. It does hurt a little, but it's not a bad pain and it's really quick. Afterward they may have a slight throbbing feeling, but it's nothing unbearable. I'm sure you can handle it.
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So, I found a kitten super early monday morning outside my apartment and he ran right up to me and started meowing and purring and I brought him upstairs and fed him (he was really hungry) and he was also really dirty. I have since taken him to the vet and had all his vaccines done and am planing on getting him neutered on the 20th. I already love him and I am one of those people who considers animals to be like humans.
Today, I am walking around the neighborhood and there are flyers everywhere with the kitten I found on them. I don't know what to do. I don't think I can give him up (it would be like giving away a human baby) and my other cat already has bonded with him.
Should I ignore the flyers and not do anything and just keep him? Should I email these people and say that I found him and Im not giving him back, or should I give him back :'(
I need some advice. . .
First, think about how attached you are to this cat already. Now think about how long his original owners have had him (a lot longer than you have). Think about how much they love him and miss him. What if your cat went missing? Would you be okay with someone taking it in and then refusing to give it back? I know how hard this is, and trust me, I know how easily you can get attached to animals because I'm the same way, but you need to give these people their cat back.
Also, you say you consider animals to be like humans. In that case, you're pretty much refusing to give back someone's child. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, just put yourself in their situation.
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My friend is a senior in high school and im not even a freshman yet. We been talking for about 4 years now. We're not together but we really love each other. The only we aren't together is because of what we kno everyone will say. My mother knows I talk to him and how i feel about him. She likes him and things he's very nice. He's graduating this year and plans on going away 2 college. I think that's great but im going to miss him. So my question is "Is it best for us to just stop talking now ?"
I wouldn't necessarily stop talking to him. Things may be hard since he's going away, but you could at least try to remain friends and talk every once in a while, and maybe sometime in the future you can meet up and see where you stand. Just stay friends. Maybe don't talk as often, as it may be hard, but don't lose contact with each other.
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me and my best friend have been best friends for about 7 years. For all of that time, whenever we went out together we would be asked if we do threesomes. We always laughed it off, we've never kissed and we're not bi but we're not opposed to kissing, not in a romantic way. I don't know how to describe it. Anyway she's been dating her boyfriend for almost a year and he's one of her best friends and before they were dating we all joked around about a threesome. Then I met my boyfriend and we've been dating for over a year now and he knows about my previous threesome offers and he obviously enjoyed the thought of it but would never ask for one.
To the point. Me and my best friend were talking about our boyfriends birthdays coming up and she just blurted out "we should just all have sex in the same bed." And we both looked at each other for a minute, waiting for a response and then we agreed on it and she told her boyfriend and he of course was down for it. I'm hesitant to ask/tell my bf about it because I'm not sure if she was 100% serious. We agreed that it wouldn't be a swapping partner type of threesome but we would stay with out partner with some mild girl on girl.
My question is, how do I bring this up with her again without it being awkward? It wouldn't be happening until late June maybe July but I'm the type of person who likes to plan. Also, I wouldn't even know how to start this, how to break the ice. Somehow I have no concern that it'll effect my relationship with any of the people involved, the guys might be weird afterward but me and my best friend have pretty much seen each other naked anyway. Are there any websites to help with this that aren't porn? lol thanks
I don't know of any websites about this. I'm sure their are some, but I'm afraid my search will turn up too much porn. lol. Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with this, and I actually admire people who are so open and secure in their sexuality that they are willing to experiment and try different things. I would just come right out and ask her if she was serious. Maybe one day when you're hanging out, just causally go "so, were you serious about the birthday thing?" and see what she says. If she is, it would be a great time to sort of talk about what you can do to not make it awkward. It's always better to confide in the people you're going to do this with about your worries, so you can all work it out together.
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went to a bar last night with my boyfriend, my best friend and her guy friend. My friends guy friend drove down to meet us (He lives 45 minutes away) While I went to pick up my friend she told me that her guy friend had intentions of spending the night at my apartment if he gets drunk. (Which I had no idea until she told me..) I was a little upset about that. However, Around 11:30pm My friend's guy friend already had about 4 beers and was a bit tipsy. I happened to run into an old prick from high school (Rob) Everything was going well until (Rob) tried talking my friend's guy friend into getting drunk...(I wasn't fully paying attention, I was playing pool) Then it happened that after the 4 beers he got tipsy and (Rob) asked me if it was okay if Mike spent the night at my apartment, I told him it was not okay because I was already taking my best friend in along with my boyfriend. (Rob) Then pressured me and my boyfriend into letting the guy stay at my apartment and how if he got in an accident on the way home it would make us feel awful and as if it was somewhat our responsibility. (Rob) and I went back and forth for about 20 minutes after I continuously said No. I also explained to Rob that it is not my responsibility to take in someone who drank to much and that my friend's guy friend was perfectly aware of his intake. (Rob continued to talk me into letting him stay insisting I was friends with the guy and was up in my face about it making me seem cold hearted for turning it down. I eventually got tired of it and told Rob (I'll go outside and talk to him about it) Just so he'd back off but instead Rob followed me and my boyfriend into the parking lot...By this time I was extremely upset I had already been talking to Rob for about 35 minutes and I had intentions of leaving the bar (until Rob followed me out) I explained to my friend what was going on but she was a little tipsy herself. I was put under extreme pressure and I was not sure how to handle it. Basically, My friends guy friend got tipsy with intentions of sleeping at my apartment....and Rob made it seem like if I didn't let him spend the night I would be a cold hearted bitch and if he gets in an accident it would be my fault. Ugh... How can I prevent this if it were to ever happen again
My friend was going to get in the car with her guy friend and meet up at Wendy's..Instead I talked her into coming with me and I drove straight home after her arguing with me about how we blew him off. Ugh....
That's a tough situation. Your friends should have respected your decision and shouldn't have tried to pressure you into something like that. If you want to prevent this from happening again, the best thing you can do is, before everyone starts drinking, explain to them all that you can't have people staying over at your apartment, so they all need to plan out where they're going to stay for the night and how they're going to get there. Make sure that they know this. They had no right to make you feel bad about the situation, so letting them know that you don't want anyone at your apartment BEFORE they start drinking is the best idea. That way, when they do get drunk, if they start trying to pressure you, you can say that you told them all that no one could stay and that they had plenty of time to find an alternative place to stay, so you're not responsible for what they do or where they go that night. If they can't understand this, then they're obviously not the greatest friends.
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