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the most insane thing i've ever thought of doing....EVER
me and my best friend have been best friends for about 7 years. For all of that time, whenever we went out together we would be asked if we do threesomes. We always laughed it off, we've never kissed and we're not bi but we're not opposed to kissing, not in a romantic way. I don't know how to describe it. Anyway she's been dating her boyfriend for almost a year and he's one of her best friends and before they were dating we all joked around about a threesome. Then I met my boyfriend and we've been dating for over a year now and he knows about my previous threesome offers and he obviously enjoyed the thought of it but would never ask for one.
To the point. Me and my best friend were talking about our boyfriends birthdays coming up and she just blurted out "we should just all have sex in the same bed." And we both looked at each other for a minute, waiting for a response and then we agreed on it and she told her boyfriend and he of course was down for it. I'm hesitant to ask/tell my bf about it because I'm not sure if she was 100% serious. We agreed that it wouldn't be a swapping partner type of threesome but we would stay with out partner with some mild girl on girl.
My question is, how do I bring this up with her again without it being awkward? It wouldn't be happening until late June maybe July but I'm the type of person who likes to plan. Also, I wouldn't even know how to start this, how to break the ice. Somehow I have no concern that it'll effect my relationship with any of the people involved, the guys might be weird afterward but me and my best friend have pretty much seen each other naked anyway. Are there any websites to help with this that aren't porn? lol thanks
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Me and one of my friends have joked about doing this kind of thing before! I think it would be sexy! Just ask her nonchalantly if she'd still be down for you guys having a double sex session for the guys' birthdays and I'm pretty sure she's going to say yes! I think it would be a really good experience! You're young and hot, why not go for it?!
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Make sure you're all agreeing to the same thing and be prepared to revoke the offer if it turns out what everyone else wants is something you're not comfortable with.
Also know your relationship with both your BF and your best friend will change forever. That's just a natural outcome of doing something this out of the box together. You have no basis for understanding how it might change your life. You may become uncomfortable with your bf and your best friend being in each other's company again, with them having seen each other naked in a sexual situation. You may feel embarrassed around her boyfriend afterwards.
Also be prepared for either your boyfriends to become jealous all of a sudden (men don't like other men seeing their GFs naked) or the reverse, asking to do it again. You will have no control in how it plays out.
Just make sure you're going into this with your eyes wide open. And though it's fashionable these days, keep it quiet between you, don't videotape it or take pictures.
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I don't know of any websites about this. I'm sure their are some, but I'm afraid my search will turn up too much porn. lol. Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with this, and I actually admire people who are so open and secure in their sexuality that they are willing to experiment and try different things. I would just come right out and ask her if she was serious. Maybe one day when you're hanging out, just causally go "so, were you serious about the birthday thing?" and see what she says. If she is, it would be a great time to sort of talk about what you can do to not make it awkward. It's always better to confide in the people you're going to do this with about your worries, so you can all work it out together.
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