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It's long, but I would really aprechiate the help. Thanks..
went to a bar last night with my boyfriend, my best friend and her guy friend. My friends guy friend drove down to meet us (He lives 45 minutes away) While I went to pick up my friend she told me that her guy friend had intentions of spending the night at my apartment if he gets drunk. (Which I had no idea until she told me..) I was a little upset about that. However, Around 11:30pm My friend's guy friend already had about 4 beers and was a bit tipsy. I happened to run into an old prick from high school (Rob) Everything was going well until (Rob) tried talking my friend's guy friend into getting drunk...(I wasn't fully paying attention, I was playing pool) Then it happened that after the 4 beers he got tipsy and (Rob) asked me if it was okay if Mike spent the night at my apartment, I told him it was not okay because I was already taking my best friend in along with my boyfriend. (Rob) Then pressured me and my boyfriend into letting the guy stay at my apartment and how if he got in an accident on the way home it would make us feel awful and as if it was somewhat our responsibility. (Rob) and I went back and forth for about 20 minutes after I continuously said No. I also explained to Rob that it is not my responsibility to take in someone who drank to much and that my friend's guy friend was perfectly aware of his intake. (Rob continued to talk me into letting him stay insisting I was friends with the guy and was up in my face about it making me seem cold hearted for turning it down. I eventually got tired of it and told Rob (I'll go outside and talk to him about it) Just so he'd back off but instead Rob followed me and my boyfriend into the parking lot...By this time I was extremely upset I had already been talking to Rob for about 35 minutes and I had intentions of leaving the bar (until Rob followed me out) I explained to my friend what was going on but she was a little tipsy herself. I was put under extreme pressure and I was not sure how to handle it. Basically, My friends guy friend got tipsy with intentions of sleeping at my apartment....and Rob made it seem like if I didn't let him spend the night I would be a cold hearted bitch and if he gets in an accident it would be my fault. Ugh... How can I prevent this if it were to ever happen again
My friend was going to get in the car with her guy friend and meet up at Wendy's..Instead I talked her into coming with me and I drove straight home after her arguing with me about how we blew him off. Ugh....
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That's a tough situation. Your friends should have respected your decision and shouldn't have tried to pressure you into something like that. If you want to prevent this from happening again, the best thing you can do is, before everyone starts drinking, explain to them all that you can't have people staying over at your apartment, so they all need to plan out where they're going to stay for the night and how they're going to get there. Make sure that they know this. They had no right to make you feel bad about the situation, so letting them know that you don't want anyone at your apartment BEFORE they start drinking is the best idea. That way, when they do get drunk, if they start trying to pressure you, you can say that you told them all that no one could stay and that they had plenty of time to find an alternative place to stay, so you're not responsible for what they do or where they go that night. If they can't understand this, then they're obviously not the greatest friends.
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