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boyfriend just broke up with me
So last night,in a nutshell my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me.I know it wasn't that long of a time period,but it was the longest relationship I've ever had because I've never had one before! He's never had a serious one like me either. He told me the reason for him breaking up with me is because "he needs space ,he feels like he sees me as a really good friend,and that he doesn't like me as much as he used to" . While we were dating,we were together 24/7 (which i guess was a bad thing). We'd fight on occasion about typical couple fights but never anything too serious.We always were so happy and laughing and doing fun things all the time.He doesn't drive/have a car and I do ,...so i would drive him and his friends around and we'd go so many places all the time and I'd buy him stuff..I basically treated him like a king and I cared to much (which he said I did) .He told me that he "swears to god on the bible ,im the most amazing girl he's ever met" and he said that i'm so cute and whatnot.At first he said he wanted to take just a "break" but then kinda changed his mind. I was sooo blindsighted by this because I had no intentions or had any idea that there was something wrong with our relationship,so our breaking up was completely random.I was so close with his family and friends and they all said " to keep me because im such a good girl" but I just want him back.I did hangout with him and get in his personal space wayyyy to much and when he confronted me about it,we didn't hangout for like one day and then went back to being around eachother all the time.His brother is down from college and he's supposed to go up to the college for a few days (we are on spring break) and then come back and im hoping that's when he will maybe start to miss me.He told me he loved me several times,cried over me in front of my face and was just always there for me so I don't know why this was happening.Do you think maybe soon he'll try and come back? What should I do if he talks to me?
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Boys are stupid sometimes, that's just how it is. Now, I'm not saying anything purely against them, because sometimes girls are stupid too.
Give him some space. I know how hard it is to not text him or call him or be next to him when you were practically inseparable (trust me, I know this from experience) for a few months, but let him figure himself out. If he comes back- that's fantastic, I hope it works out... but if he doesn't come back, then it wasn't meant to be. It's cruel and it's awful and it hurts like hell... but if it was meant to be, he wouldn't jerk you around constantly.
If he talks to you, keep your composure. You're a lady, remember? You're classy, you know how to handle yourself. Remember this! You don't NEED him, you just like having him around. Don't be bitter, don't snap at him. Just talk to him. He didn't mean to hurt you, he just wanted to be honest with you, after all, and you can't blame someone for telling the truth.
Things get complicated when you know each other's families or if you share mutual friends or anything of the sort, but try not to make people pick sides. No one has to be miserable in this, really.
But remember- SPACE. He warned you of this. Let him come to YOU. If he does- it's good news.
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Okay Hun listen..
When in a relationship, It is never always a good thing to be together ALL the time, We all need our space, and time apart from one another. It is always good to try and go out with your friends while he goes out with his at least 3 times a week for a few hours. If you two don't give each other time to breathe eventually you can get drained and tired of one another. Sometimes being apart is what holds the "spark" in the relationship. Also, NEVER EVER put all your money into a guy! It is the other way around or at least 50/50 he puts half into it and you put half into it that is the fair way to do it. You are NOT his sugar mama, The more you blow your money on him the more he is going to expect it. Do not let him take advantage of you men that take woman for their money are nothing but a worthless piece of crap. Breathe, Tomorrow afternoon try to call him explain to him that you feel spending to much time together was a bad idea and that maybe you two should come up with more boundaries. If he is willing to give it another shot remember you are NOT his sugar mama. This is the one thing many woman do that is a HUGE no no. If he broke up with you because he feels you two "needed space" well your boyfriend needs to learn to communicate. If you want any relationship to work out you two have to express your feelings you don't just pick up the phone and say "Well hey it's over" doesn't work that way. A relationship takes time and effort it certainly isn't easy but if you want to make the commitment to being in a relationship then you need to make the commitment to work it out.
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