This is so embarrassing! When my boyfriend fingers me I really like it and everything, but I just kind of sit there stiff as a rock because I don't know what to do. He thinks I don't like it. :-( The problem is I guess I am afraid if I moan or something he will be grossed out. So what should I do if anything?
You're stiff because you assume(incorrectly) that guys don't like it when girls make noise. You don't know much of anything at this point, wouldn't it be smarter to try to find out?
He's your boyfriend, and sex can get awkward. If you can't deal with it and move on, you're winding yourself up way too much. You should do what makes you feel better, and what makes him feel better. If you don't know what makes him feel better, you should ask. If you don't know what makes you feel better, you should google whatever specific sex act you're curious about and read up suggestions for making it all it can be. [ WittyUsernameHere's advice column | Ask WittyUsernameHere A Question ]
solidadvice4teens answered Friday April 16 2010, 9:55 pm: Tell him you have always felt self-conscious about your body and this is the first person you have let see it or touch you in an intimate relationship.
Tell him you are nervous and find it difficult to "let-go" and react openly but are enjoying it.
Trauma answered Wednesday April 14 2010, 10:46 pm: I can almost guarantee that he would not be grossed out if you moan. Most guys love that, and it shows that you like it as opposed to just sitting here being quiet. I understand why you'd be a little nervous, I was too at first, but by focusing more on your reaction, you're preventing yourself from fully enjoying the experience. Just let whatever reaction happens happen. [ Trauma's advice column | Ask Trauma A Question ]
OhMyLucyDarling answered Wednesday April 14 2010, 10:32 pm: Your boyfriend fingers you because his intentions are to get you turned on. Moaning is probably what his intentions are, When he does this why not play with him back, Kiss him, Kiss his neck get into it. (Act like you love it) Trust me, He won't get grossed out [ OhMyLucyDarling's advice column | Ask OhMyLucyDarling A Question ]
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