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Q: Ok so me and this guy play truth alot. He is not my Boyfriend but a really goood guy friend. Most questions are like "What do you rate me: A.cute B.hot C.sexy" or "Do you like me?" or "If i kissed you, would you..A.kiss me back B.pull away C.make out D.hate me" So I'm kinda running out of ideas, we do not flirt or play dirty and talk about sex. The dirtiest we have ever talked about was making out. We rarely talk about it though. So ideas on questions please, thanx :)

The best way to ask questions is first thing that pops in your head because your thinking about and curious and its for real. You can ask questions like who do you like. who do you want to make out with. but from your mind are always the best. dont think to hard or they will never come to you

Q: What should I have at school if I have my period

You need a pad. I suggest starting with a pad rather than a tampon because tampons could be a little tricky at first. You will want pamprin or midoel because you can get some pretty bad cramps. You will also want a change of pants and undies in case you leak threw.

Q: i am a 16 year old girl, i recently lost my virginity 14 days ago to be precise. im not in a relationship it was a one night stand, we also used protection but im not taking any other form of contraception. im worried that the condom may have split as we were both very drunk. iv also been experiencing pains and cramps in my lower abdomen, im constantly bloated and have been for days, found blood spots in my underwear, have back ache and experiencing nausea. the first thing that came to my head was 'im pregnant'. i came off my period 2 days before i had sex with the boy, i know he ejaculated and im not due for my period until another week or so. i would like to know if these are signs of early pregnancy?? please help me i do not want to wait to see if i miss a period

Yes you could be pregnant, but I don't know nor does anyone else 100%. I would wait until you are suppose to get your period if you don't get your period than take a at home pregnant test if it is positive than you will need to contact your doctor to confirm it.

Q: Hi everyone i'm 23 yrs old and a young mom i have a situation and would like some input,I've been going over this so many times and don't know what to think.Today my boyfriend of 2yrs and myself got into a heated argument and I wanted to go home (we live apart but stay over at times) anyway i got all my things threw it in his truck and in the process scratched the interior leather roof of his truck and he flipped out our 3 month old was strapped in the back during all this and i was sitting in the back with her . He got out and started calling me a bitch and to get out i refused because of our daughter was still strapped in and he tried pulling me out and when i didn't get out he punched me twice in the stomach out of anger of what i did.My question is he going to do it again, am i in the wrong for starting it by throwing my things ?and should i stay for the sake our daughter? I'm still in shock and don't know what to think of the situation its the first time something like this happened.

You can not stay in this situation and allow your daughter to grow up thinking that, that is alright. I think you should suggest to him if he would like to stay in a committed relationship with you than you think you both need to see a counselor together and he needs some anger management. It is never okay for anyone to hit you and it was not your fault because you threw your things. He should of talked to you about it.

Q: Im 24yrs old female partnered for 8 years two children an he hits me he has had a aggressive upbringing and a motocross crash Which left him with a fused ankle,pain and a anger problem I love him an don't want to leave him, I don't never want anyone else but my old partner back should I leave him

I think you need to stick up for yourself by explaining to him if he doesn't get help with his anger management and to learn to stop hitting you that you are going to have to leave him that you don't want your kids raised seeing its okay to be hit by a man and you don't want to be hurt anymore.

Q: My friend treats her parents badly. She wants me to help her, but I don't know how. She treats them badly because of the things they do. Please help!

P.S. She doesn't hit them

A good way to calm down is counting backwards from 10 while taking deep breaths in between. Talking problems out solve a situation better than ignoring the facts. It sounds like she blows up easily maybe she should talk to her parents about what is bothering her so they can understand why she is getting upset so easily.

Q: When I was younger my father would chase me into my room and beat me over the littlest things (ie saying I don't like broccoli), but after he got arrested he stopped, mostly. But now my older brother is taking after him. He is a six-foot-four three hundred pound football player, and has tried to break my neck before, and today punched me in the ribs and now I can't breathe right or move my left arm. When I told my parents they told me to grow up and stop being so dramatic. What can I do? (16-year-old girl)

Call the police imidetaly. I dont care if he is family. He obviously needs to see what jail is like as well. You are going to end up in the hospital if not dead.

Q: Hello.

My cousin is going through a hard time at the moment, with his parents recently separating. He goes to school, comes home, and works in the same room until he decides to eat/sleep. He rarely goes out, which is odd because he seems to be the type that would be quite popular: good looking, good at sport, intelligent etc.

Long story short, his father made an insensitive comment the other day. My grandmother, my uncle, and my mother have asked for me to do something with him to cheer him up. This is fine, but I don't know how to ask without it sounding like a pity invite? I was thinking of just heading into the city, do abit of window shopping, grab a bite to eat, and maybe catch a movie.

The wierd thing is, never have I done anything with him apart from family meetings etc. I feel odd just randomly texting him asking if he wants to do something, because it will seem so obvious.

Can anyone shed some light on how I can ask, without it seeming like a pity invite? It is of course a pity invite (so to speak), but I don't want him to feel that it is?

Thanks a bunch folks.

It isnt going to sound like a pitty invite. You are just being there for him like family should be. It doesnt matter if you have never hung out before just text him and ask him if he would like to hang out on such and such day. If he says no say well how come.

Q: i have been with the same girl for 8 yrs..and she wants to leave me.i realy love her she wants me to move out.i dont no what to do .i am so sad and lonly my life is nothing without her.i just want to kill myself.

Killing yourself is NOT an option and should never be. It will be hard. Hang out with your friends more and keep your self busy. It happens to a lot of people and you just have to find away to deal with it. I think if you should this female that it didnt bother you so much that she left than it will worry her some. That is indeed along time to be with someone but if you cant change her mind than keep your self busy keep moving. or stay the night with friends or family for a few nights.

Q: my boyfriend wants to do anal but i dont know if its a good idea. i need help!

If you want to. I think it hurts.

Q: Theres someone pretty creepy who has been texting me. I asked all my friends if they new the number, and I know what town they are in based on the area code. Is there anyway I'm able to look up who the person is for free online or something just so I can put my mind at ease? Thanks.

You could type the phone number into the google space and it may pull it up. Or you can text the person back and tell them this is creepy either tell me who you are or I am going to contact the police.

Q: Im an 18 year old female and a nympho. The other day I was really horny and my boyfriend was at work so I decided for some reason to look up lesbian porn and old men and young women porn to masturbate to. I'm not attracted to either,girls or older men. Later that night he asked to use my phone and let him,which was probably a mistake. He went to google and it showed the list of things I looked up such as lesbian porn and old men porn. I knew he saw it because it wasnt the last thing i looked up and when he saw it in the google window he clicked on it and left it on that site.The rest of the night it was awkward and then he started talking to me like nothing happened but I knew he saw it so I couldn't help but be quiet. Lastnight he texted me and asked why I was so quiet and I said because of what you saw..obviously. I don't know what to say or why I did it. I feel fucked up in the head for doing it and more the old men porn. Now he wants a few days for space to think. I'm fine with that but I feel like he just found out the biggest secret about me and I don't want him weirded out. Idk what to do or what to think. I love my boyfriend 100% and I don't want this ruin anything. I'm not a lesbian,never will be,I'm not attracted to older men..I just don't know why I looked up what I did..? Answers on all of this please

My husband and I used to watch porn before having sex once in awhile to try something different. He knows I used to look up porn and he was fine with it. You need to just explain to your boyfriend you were turned on and he was at work. You decided to look up those things just out of curiosity. There is no reason to be embarrassed by it almost everyone does it.

Q: Hi! So I'm an eighth grader, and I'm REALLY confused about high school in general. Luckily for me, in my town, the middle and high school are in the same building, so I'm not too worried about getting lost. Here are my questions:
1. What is the difference between AP, CP, and Honors classes? Which one is the most challenging?
2. I heard that you need 175 credits to graduate at my school. What are credits and how do you get them?
3. How do you get placed in a specific level? I earn A's in my classes, so would that determine my level?
4. How much do your grades count in ninth/tenth grade? Do colleges look at them? What about your grades in eighth?

Thank you so much :)

I am sorry that I cant help you your school is 100% different than the one I went to I only needed 23 credits to graduate. But I know dont worry they will explain everything to you and if they dont you can go to your guidance counsler and they will

Q: i am a 44 yr old woman and i am finally in a place i feel at home.i'm single disabled and have the biggest heart anyone could ask 4. But my problem is my youngest daughter 22w/child i addore so much that lives with me for the forth time and her daddy raised her in nc,where i'm from and he stole her from me when she was 2 but she came back to me when her stepmother left to 4 the same reason i did,, drugs...he was on and 4 me physical and mental abuse. i left my home state because he threatened me and my land lord that he was going to burn my house down if he didn't get shed of me.well that was 13 yrs ago and 2 wks ago he called my daughter and asked me if he could stay here temporarily and of course i said yes. well now 3 wks later he caused me and my babygirl got in a fist fight today. i have fybromyalgae and now have bruises on me and then she left with him but said theyd be back tomorrow. well my pt. is i don't want to live anymore because stress brings alot of pain to me and they are taking over my home and won't help clean all they do is ask for money that i have not gottten so i'm miserable i want to kill myself cause well my child told me to die today that it would make her
life so much better well i am sick and tired of being sick and tired.signed MISERABLE

They are abusing you. You need to tell this man you got away from to get out of your house be strong and kick his butt to the crib. You need to tell your daughter you love her but if she is going to live in your home she needs to help you and respect you. Be strong! Your daughter wouldnt be happier with you gone you are the one helping her.

Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for ten months. Half way through are relationship we broke up because my parents did not like the fact that she was 15 and I was about to be 18 in two months, but then we got back together secretly so that my parents would not know. I told my parents I was dating my girlfriend a month ago but I still treat my relationship with her like a secret. When me and her are around other ppl that we don't or do know, I step away from her, thinking they might accuse me of something and send me to jail. The things is it's not illegal to date her. I just can't have sex with her. I'm allowed to hold her hand and hug her in public , but I am still scared to. "How can I over come my fear and show my girl I truly do love her and only her? " I really love her please give me some advice.

You have to ask your self this question if your truely love her you shouldnt be scared to show your feelings for this female. You really have to make sure she is the one you have to spend your life with and just do it or risk losing her. age doesnt matter. I am 20 and my husband is 25

Q: hi i am 18 years old and so is my boyfriend, we have been going out for almost 3 months now and i wanna know more about him. we plan to be engaged and living together before the summer is over. what are some good questions we can ask eachother to get to know one another better.

I am married and I keep doing that stressing my self out trying to think of new questions to ask my husband when we were dating. It really just comes to you. The longer you are together the more you no but in the end you will never no everything about that person. Sometimes at the grocery store I still ask my husband would you eat this or what if I made this lol. Ask questions that worry you or you think about when you not with him write them down so you will remember.

Q: Last night I had a little bit of diharrea and this morning before I even ate breakfast I had diharrea twice! I have aslo has pains in the lower back part of my head. I wouldn't call it a headache because it feels like something different. I am 13/f. My period was irregular and there is a lump in my throat that I feel when I swallow. I would feel bad to ask to go to the doctors because my mom is already sick and my dad is very busy. Thanks for any help you offer :)

You could be coming down with a flu bug. If you are worried about it please tell your parents so they can get you the help you need.

Q: i have had a lot of death in my life from family just recently a very young cousin who i was extremely close to. i have been fascinated by death for a long time Im not a emo or a goth im a typical girl the only thing is i think about death i am extremely terrified by it and intrigued at the same time i like to look up people in caskets and people dieing and look up their stories also but then i get extremely sad and scared and when i seen my cousin in his casket i was SCARED i couldn't go up to it and felt like i was going to pass out. am I weird am I the only person out there? my boyfriend thinks im extremely weird for doing this but i cant help it!!!!!

It could be a possible career for you. Maybe a detective or police officer I mean there are always reasons you do something you may not no why you do it but eventually you will.

Q: I am in a situation where I can no more decide anything. Life has turned out to be a nightmare and I just want to wake up from that dream by killing myself. Please help me. I want to die. Don't I have the right to be happy?

Yes you have the right to be happy but suicide is not the correct answer. Finding the right anti depressent is. Now we dont know what is going on in your like to help you cope with your situation.

Q: I'm 12 years old and I really want a facebook so I can socialize with friends and see pics of my friends I no longer get to see since they live somewhere else. They say they dont want me to have a facebook but for no good reson. How can I convince them to let me getba facebook what are some good things about it and what can i say to them that will let me get a facebook. I really want one! ALL my friends have it. I need help. Tthanks I rate 5s

Your parents have a very good reason to not want you to be on facebook. Maybe see if your parents will create one and you can add your friends to their facebook and with your parents observing you can look at pictures of your friends.

The internet is dangerous. I am not saying this because I am older or a mother. I am 20. My kids aren't your age. I dont like like my nieces nephews or cousins having facebooks. Bad people pray for vulnerable children on the internet.You have to be 13 to have a facebook.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.