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Q: what works with chicks

Three main things...Confidence,Personality, and Looks. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: There is this absolute gorgeous guy who I have somewhat of a crush on. My friends and I just started hanging out with him a few times this summer. He was flirting with one of my friends at a party. I was talking to him on IM that night, and we were flirting alot. He asked me when we were going to hook up. I told him only if hes not hooking up with other girls, and he said no only you. A few nights before he told me he wanted to hook up, he slept with this one girl. They didn't have sex, they just slept together. I don't want to go out with him, and I know this won't be anything serious, but I'm scard that if I hook up with him, I might get involved, and end up with a broken heart. I've never hooked up with a guy before, and this is the only guy I would ever want to. What do i do?

It seems like this guy is just looking for a good time,wants to have fun and doesn't want to have a serious relationship. You can hook up with him if you want but I suggest that you shouldn't become too attached to him and prepare to have your heart broken eventually. So don't expect to have a serious relationship with this guy. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: I think my parents are gonna get a divorce? What do i stop or help to prevent that?

There is nothing you can do to stop your parents from getting a divorce. The problem is between your parents only. The best thing you can do is stay out of their problems and issues and just don't get involved. If you really wanna take action just sit down with both of your parents talk to them about the divorce and tell both them how you feel. I wish you the best of luck. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: what album is the Backstreet Boys song What Makes You Different on?

da Black and Blue album. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: Who sings this song? and whats it called? it goes, 'I gave you everything, I loved you endlessly but when it comes to me you don't even notice me' or soemthing like that.

Itz called Notice Me by NB Ridaz. Itz an awesome song. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: my boyfriend cuts and im really scared for him..he just started so i want to stop him, but when i do he gets mad at me. wat should i do? help help help!

You should talk to him about it even if he gets pissed off at you. Tell him that not only that he is hurting himself that he is scaring you and it hurts you emotionally knowing that he does this to himself. Also, tell and show him that you care for him and that you'll always be there to help him. and ask him why he is cutting himself and ask him to quit just for you. If it reaches to the extreme then get help and tell someone.Here is the number for the national suicide prevention hotline : 1-800-273-TALK. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: were can i get cute clothes and they are for a good price? thanks
luv hallie

Forever 21,Charlotte Russe,gojane.com,
Mervyns,Kohls, and delias.com. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: hi peachgirly. so this is about my bf of over 1 year whom i love to death except... the probelm is that i dont think he feels the same way back. not anymore atleast. in the beginning everything was great and we were both really happy but now, he doesn't call anymore, and he says he doesn't have time to go out because of his hw and other excuses like that. basically he's saying that an essay on wuthering heights is more important than me. and i know school is really important too but i feel that maybe he doesnt want to talk to me. sometimes he says things, like "oh you're so fat- lose some weight" and i know he's joking about it (atleast i hope) but it still really hurts you know? if i get a good grade on sumthing he gets mad because i did better than him and it really pisses me off because i think we should support each other and help build one another up- not the other way around. for the last month i've been debating on whether to dump him or not but i still have really strong feelings for him. are my worries worth breaking up with someone for? we're both 15. thanks

No offense but I think that he may have lost interest in you and in the relationship or may like another girl. Before you take any action I think that you should talk to him about how you feel and tell him some of the stuff that you just told me. You may feel better by letting your feelings out and you'll be stress free. If he acts like a jerk about it then you should just dump him. if you two aren't together anymore then he just isn't the one for you and you deserve someone better. At times guys are just weird, confusing and hard to understand like another language. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh so don't take the things I said too seriously. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: f/13
ohk so i've gone out with many people b4 ... some were crushes, dares you know your typicall 12 -13 year old stuff only like one or two i really truly loved . yes loved i would do anything for them. i have had my heart broken a couple of times and i have broken a few ... but why is it that all a sudden i feel like love can be/ is such a scary thing ?

Love can be scary because there is the risk of heart break and rejection. When you give your hearts to each other you are trusting each other not to break it. and you have no idea on what is going to happen like if it was meant to be or not. Love is about taking risks on whether if they love you back in return or not. you have a full life ahead of you so don't worry too much. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: hello i am having a pool party and i need a bathing suit i have picked out 2 that i think are cute from kohls can you guys tell me what one is better and keep in mind im 13 and im a size 16 so no worries about me being younger and also i like to be different and go bold with colors here is the link to it

http://www.kohls.com/products/product_page_vanilla3.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=163769023&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=168393005&bmUID=1119630672104

click on the swatches to see the bathing suits up close is the purple and blue one cuter or the green and yellow one cuter and you see the little bow string tie thingis the front well im taking that out so it doesnt look kiddish please help me decide i rate HIGH

I like the Green the yellow swim suit cause it looks a lot better than the purple and blue one. But, ugh...the model in the picture looks weird and looks ugly in the swimming suit. lol. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: A guy I know said he wants to neck with me. What does that mean?

It means that he wants to make out with you. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: can you swim when you are on your period?

Yes, you can if you wear a tampon. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: All my friends say my boyfriend is weard (mohawk) and an @$$. But he is always kind and respectful to me. Every time someone askeds me if i'm "really" going out with him they laught an say "wow, ok". I think i should dumb him but as i said "he is always kind and respectful to me" what should i do?!?!?!?!

You shouldn't listen to what others say even if they are your close friends. Don't dump him just because of what others say or think of him. It doesn't matter if no one likes him or thinks he is weird. What matters the most is that you like him for the way he is and the way he treats you with respect. A guy shouldn't be judged just because for the way he looks or seems on the outside and that he can be sweet in the inside. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: ok there is this really good and i dont know how it is by or what it is called because i usually dont listen to that kinda music but the words go:

you wanna know more more more about me
im the girl whos kicking the coke machiane
im the ones thats honking at you 'cause i left late agian
hey hey hey
could you see i want you by the way i push you away
yea
dont judge me tomorrow sumthing sumthing really fast

hey hey get tangled up in me

if you need more of the song just tell me!!

The song is called Tangled up in me which is by Skye Sweetnam. And that is an awesome song! ♥ Peachgirly

Q: Do guys give advice on here? Just randomly wondering!

yes, they do. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: Tommrow im going with my grandma to her "Bring your kids to work day", and I have no Idea what to wear?

Any Suggestions?

Thanks;)

Wear something comfortable,cute,not too revealing and appropriate at the same time. One time when my dad brought me to his "bring your kids to work day" I wore my cute red t-shirt but then I didn't notice the minor detail since the shirt saids f**k you. my dad was introducing me to his co-workers and they were all staring at my shirt. lol. Think of it this way think of what you would wear if you were hanging out with your grandma the whole day. put some thought on what you are going to wear and don't follow what I did. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: did destiny's child really break up?

Yes,after their summer tour and it was announced on KIIS FM. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: i told a guy that i liked him and he told me he doesn't feel the same way. i feel awful and i don't know what to, i'm trying to find ways to get him off my mind. i'm depressed and i don't know what to with myself today. What should I do?

I've had the same situation before so you're not alone. You should do something that you enjoy like hang out with your friends, go out somewhere,go to the movie theater,mall and just have fun. Or if you don't wanna go out anywhere or you can't you should let you're feelings out by talking to a friend and writing your feelings down. Think of it this way you and the guy weren't meant to be together and that special someone is out there but you just haven't met him yet. So don't worry you will get over it eventually. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: i reallly need some advise can anyone helpme?

of course, feel free to leave a question in my in-box anytime. ♥ Peachgirly

Q: I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

All guys are different on showing if they like someone and there isn't really a TRUE 100 percent guarenteed answer. Sometimes there can be a lil twist and it turns out that he doesn't like you. Also just take a shot at it cause life is about taking risks. But try getting some info on finding out who he likes or the type of girls he likes. Or maybe somehow walk past him with your friends and have your friends see if he is staring at you(without making it too obvious). here are some signs that i thought of...

-he gets nervous around you like when you are close to him or he tries to talk to you
-His head is turning towards you
-he gives you eye contact and stares at you alot
-Mostly his body language(this may sound really stupid but sometimes when you stare at someone you like our pupils dialate.)
-His friends get close to you or just talk to you

Hopefully this helped, ♥ Peachgirly

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"Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances, you just have to live life to the fullest. laugh as much as you can, spend all your money, tell someone what they mean to you, tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someones hand, comfort a friend, pig out, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, smile till your face hurts, dont be afraid to take chances or fall in love...& most of all live in the moment cause when you look back someday knowing you have no regrets it's gonna be what makes you smile."