|
help fast
my boyfriend cuts and im really scared for him..he just started so i want to stop him, but when i do he gets mad at me. wat should i do? help help help!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I think that you should get an adult and fast. This is serious, you should help him even though he doesn't want help. He may say that he's fine, or that he doens't need help, but if you want the truth, he doesn't know that he needs help.
]
i know its really hard. so if i were u i would probably tell some1. i know they will get mad at u. but i mean it could kill them if they hit the right spot.in the long run they will be so happy at u for stoppin them. I wish ya goodluck!
I hope i helped!!!!!!!
:) ~*Brandi*~
]
THIS IS A WORTH WHILE ANSWER! I HAVE EXPERIENCE WITH THIS!!! Cutting starts out as a small action and then becomes a major addiction that the person depends on the cutting to take their mental pain away. It is a way for your boyfriend to concentrate on the physical pain instead of the mantal pain he is suffering. He obviously has something wrong that he is afraid to talk about or express so he takes it out on himself. Now that you understand the problem understand that he needs help. You need to convince him that he has a sickness and he needs help or the pain will only get worse. If he gets mad at you understand that you SHOULD NOT BACK OFF. This could be a life or death situation. Also important that you tell an adult you trust or get him to see a psycologist. He may be mad that you did that but in the end he will thank you for saving his life!
]
I was in the same situation with my last boyfriend. He got mad when I asked him to stop too. So one day when I went over his house, I took all his knives and talked to him about it. I just asked him to stop and told him the bad sides about cutting. He seemed to understand where I was coming from and then he stopped.
I hope this helped!
X_Amanda_X
]
i ahd the same problem with my boyfriend except that he wasnt cutting him self but trying to kill himself. what you should doo is tell how you feel. tell him that if he hurts himself to think about all the other people around him that is going to hurt . tell your boyfriend he is scaring and that he needs to stop..if he doesnt listen to when you say that say if you love you and care about me you will stop. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
]
Help him aim to make it count? If he dies he can't cut anymore.
]
take it from someone who knows: dont bug him about it. just tell him how much it hurts you when you see him like that. tell him in person, not over the phone. its very addictive and hard for him to stop. he needs to feel loved, not confused. dont get mad at him when he cuts. hes having a difficult time with things and he doesnt need you to make it worse. just act normal around him. go somewhere with him to get his mind off of things. it may even take a few months or more to realize that what hes doing is really hurting you. if all else fails, tell him thatg you cant be around someone who cant control his own emotions. good luck. if you need help, just ask.
<33
]
ok if he just started like you said u have to stop him because it can get really serious...i no someone who cut themselves and it got really bad and she had to miss school to be in a mental hospital and everything so tell someone quick they have to stop him he can get really really sick its an addiction they will take anything they can find hurry and get help now!!
]
First there are several things you need to understand. Cutting is an addiction. It is a way of coping.Depending on the person, it can be someone's entire coping mechanism. It isn't easy to just stop.
You need to sit down with him and have a serious talk, not so much so you can say what you want to say, but mostly to listen and find out why he is cutting himself. After that it would be easier to find out what you can do to help him stop.
]
wow tell an adult that u feel comfortable with i know its not easy but u have to
]
You should talk to him about it even if he gets pissed off at you. Tell him that not only that he is hurting himself that he is scaring you and it hurts you emotionally knowing that he does this to himself. Also, tell and show him that you care for him and that you'll always be there to help him. and ask him why he is cutting himself and ask him to quit just for you. If it reaches to the extreme then get help and tell someone.Here is the number for the national suicide prevention hotline : 1-800-273-TALK. ♥ Peachgirly
]
Tell him how much you care about him and try to find out the reason why he is hurting himself like that. If he tells you, then do whatever you can to help him, and if he doesn't then let him know that by doing that it is hurting you too and that if you meant anything to him at that he should be able to try and quit doing this for you.
]
More Questions: |