so...my name is Rebecca and I'm 17, going to be a senior in high school . i am currently at either the 2nd or 3rd spot in my class academically, but plan to graduate as valedictorian...so if you have a problem academically I'd love to help! i want to be a journalist (and kind of am), which means i may be a little harsh, but i do have a not-so-sharp edge (don't get me wrong, i can be sassy, I'd just rather smile :) ) . I love knowing that i can help someone and I'm actually of use to someone. When i was younger i was more shy, and all people knew about me was that i was a good friend and for the people i answer...i hope you think so too!
Also, God is big in my life. Like my whole life. And for anything I help you with...I give Him all the glory. It's all about Him and what He's given us. :)
E-mail: nellybly22@gmail.com
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my best friends birthday is tomorrow [8/11] and shes having a pool party. im going, but theres going to be a lot of people there [boys too] and im embarrassed of going in the pool since im 14&wear a one piece. im just not comfortable in a 2 piece. I tried asking my friend to not make me go in the pool but she says I have to. Plus on top of that i look absolutley HIDEOUS in a bathing suit. My thighs are just...awful. Im a very shy person and i know ill be embarrassed beyond what i could imagine, since im not exactly skinny. what should I do?
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I'm sure you don't look hidous and i might be too late but i'll give you this anyway: If you mean a two-piece like a bikini there's an alternative, a tankini (it has regualer two-piece bottoms but doesn't show your stomach, you can also get boyshorts with it [they are bathing suit shorts that go maybe 6 inches down]). If your self consios about the top you could always where a t-shirt over. if it's just the bottem buy trunks (no seriosly) and where them over a black one piece. i would go with that because black will match any pattern and you won't be all hiding yourself. but mostly just remember no one's flawless. even the girls you think look perfect are probably all "does this make my butt look big?" Hope that helps(if i'm not too late). have fun at the party.
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Okay, so on this site, I created Advice Center group where people can ask about anything. (All the other groups with advice was for like only certain topics such as hair, or boys, or pets, etc.) And so I was feeling good because I made the group. And then someone joined the group and posted his Advice From Johnny group link in the msg board for my group asking people to join.
I don't know. I guess I mad because
1)he stole my idea
2)people might go to his group and asks questions there instead of in my group
3)leave my grou pt join his
And do you guys get my point? I don't know what to do. Maybe I should post my group link in his group msg board when enough people join. What shall I do? And yes, I might be a tad bit jealous =X (link)
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ok so im sorry someone stole your idea. it was a good idea and i know you were trying to help people...but does it really matter as long as the people are getting help? so maybe if he isn't really helping you can advertise your ite some more. i mean people will come to someone who will really help them, probably not someone plagerizing other peoples ideas. i say for now just help the people who want your help and see what happens.
(p.s. sorry [lol] but i find it more than a little ironic your on an advice site asking that.)
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Lately I've been having dreams that just seem so real. I wake up and it feels like it really happened. It's so incredibly weird because sometimes I have to actually think about if whatever I dreamed about happened in real life or not. They drive me insane. Is there any feed back anyone can give me? Like, why they seem so unbelievable real or if you've ever had dreams like that? Anything at all, thanks. (link)
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ok so people here keep saying that you might be stressed or wutever but i dont know. i get that feeling alot. not just w/ dreams at night either, daydreams too. usually it's when i'm bored or something so i like start making up something that could happen and it continues in my dream. like i'm living in my head or something. maybe your subconcios is entertianing you w/ realistic dreams because nothing excitind is happening in real life. or maybe you are worried or something but i dont have experience in that. well hope i helped anyway
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Is it safe to buy stuff from eBay? (link)
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my family like lives on eBay. you'll be fine as long as you read everything (for ex. if it says it's the "best imitation you'll find" it's not authntic and it's in "fair" condition it's not brand new) and i also suggest looking at thier sattisfaction rating (so you'll know if they're cheap or something). also you cam=n usually see a picture of what you're buying so you'll know if it's torn or something. so in short...yes it's pretty safe.
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When I had my last boyfriend everything would always go so great and after about 6 months we were both inlove and I really loved this guy! But then about 3 months later we were laying in his backyard in the hammock his arm was around me and we were just relaxing then i decided to put my hand on his chest and give him a kiss so i did and he pushed me out of the hammock smacked me and told me don't touch me so i ran away crying...i didn't talk to him for a couple weeks but he kept calling so i answered
~Convo~
me-what do you want?
him-im sorry i love you
me-too bad
and i hung up
then when my dog passed away he came over with flowers my mom didn't want him to come up to my room because i was really upset but she finally let him, then he started kissing me and telling me he was truley sorry so i forgave him and for about 3 more month it was all good and back to normal then again one night we were watching a movie in his basement (his parents weren't home only his bro and his gf) and we were all watching a movie and he kissed me and we started kissing then i put my hand on his cheek a little bit and he pushed away and was like dont ever do that again and threw the movie case at me and his brother tried to stop him but he just went mad at started punching me and his brother while his girlfriend tried to do somethin --im not really sure what--
So my question is I still love him, I know I shouldn't but I really love him I mean we have been together for about 2 years but stuff like this keeps randomly happening! I thought this guy was really right for me and sometimes he treats me really nice but others he hurts me phsically and mentally...I just want a guy to treat me right thats why Im trying to forgive him again but I can't just forgive and forget I'm scared something like this will happen again PLEASE help! (link)
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you have every right to be upset. it's an abusive relationship. you might not think so but it is and you need out! tell him to get some help but you deserve better.
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i juss got verizon & im "in" & so is my bf. soo does that mean i can call him & text him (i have a texting plan) & it wont use any of my minutes?? can anyone explain the "in" feature?? lets say i had 700 mins & called him only & talked to him for 1000 minutes. on my bill, id still have 700 mins?? this works for text too??
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i'm "in" too and yes for the phone call thing. you can talk for 1000 minutes and still have 700 minutes. but unless you have unlimmitted texts your still charged equally for that as if you'd text someone from cricket or cingular or something.
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yeah, this might be long, and from my viewpoint its pretty confusing so leave now if you want...
okay, im a sixteen year old male to begin with, and ever since i can remember, ive had five best friends (and i mean BEST, these five people mean more to me than anything else in this world). these five friends consist of four girls and one guy (the guy has nothing to do with this so you can forget him). Well, the problem is that near the end of last year, the girls all started fighting with eachother, even though theyd all been the best of friends since forever. the group ended up split apart, with two girls on one side, two girls on the other, and me and my guy friend stuck in the middle while still being best friends with both sides....so here comes the complicating part...for the whole time i can remember, ive really liked one of my friends (lets call her girl 1). well, girl 1 has always acted like she doesnt want to be more then friends with me. so now one the girls from the other group (girl 2), has told me that she likes me...so i asked her out and weve been going out for a month now. well, ever since i asked out girl 2, girl 1 hasnt spoken to me at all (by the way, the two groups of girls hate eachother a LOT)...so ive been trying to find out why girl 1 hasnt been talking to me...and it turns out that girl 1 really likes me....which sucks because im already going out with girl 2....i want to talk to girl 1 again because i love her to death, but i dont know how to do that...she wont answer her phone when i call, ive sent her emails, text messages, and even stuff through myspace...im about to just go to her house and show up with some flowers or something to show her that i still love her to death, and that the only reason that i didnt choose her is because she acted like she didnt like me....but im afraid that my girlfriend (girl 2) will find out and be mad at me for somewhat obsessing over getting my friend back....what should i do? any help is appreciated... (link)
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Wow that was hard to keep track of. i'm sorry but i don't think i can make the answer as long as the question. ok so if we were just talking about friends here you know it would be cool because ofcourse you could be friends w/ girls from different "cliques" but it's not. and you can't date girls from different "cliques". actually it's immoral to date more than one girl wether there in the same "clique" or not. first off let me tell you it's kinda wrong to date someone when you like someone else anyway. you should probably tell girl 2 because that isn't fair to her. And girl 1 (no offense to the girl you ove to death but...) she's being kind of pathetic. She never forbid you from going out w/ girl 2 and she never said she liked you. she shouldn't be mad at you. if you still like girl 1 go for it (that is if not actually liking her already dimminished your chances with girl 2). The flower thing sounded good but you better act before this turns into "John Tucker Must Die".
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hey, ive been trying to babysit my neighbor forever. my mom has been asking them for me to babysit. i mean im going into the 8th grade.. im deffinetly old enough by now. shouldnt there be a reason why there avoiding it? (link)
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is it at all possible that they don't need a babysitter? well if it isn't and like other people have beenbabysitting there or something maybe thay do think you are too young. maybe you haven't proven you are Responsible-women or something yet. maybe they just don't know you well enough. offer to do more jobs for them. come over to thier house more often. play with the kid when they are around so they know you'll be good when they aren't. if that doesn't work there are still tons of other people that need baysitters. look into that.
well good luck w/ your nieghbor!
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Ok so there a guy i've known for a year and he's gonna be moving like 2 hours away...anyway soo im in love with this guy and we have done other things but i got a urinary tract infection which obviously has nothing to do with your "other" parts...But ya so anyway do you think i could still have sex with a urinary tract infection cuz im going to the doctor to get antibiotics but this guy will be gone for good by then. (link)
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i'm not sure how the antibiotics fit into this but i know that if you have a urinary tract infection and you do do it w/ him he could actually get one too. and i know that typically it is just females...actually that's the only way a guy can get one.
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ok, my like best friend, has told me weird things ever since we were in like 5th or 6th grade. Like about God. & she told me yesterday, that god told her to like walk through a closet & she would go to heaven. & she thought she saw a white sparkly light. & then she thought yesterday, late at night, she saw a red lightt. & like she thought shes seen like jesus before & stuff.. so my question is, is she like pyscho? or is she really seeing this stuff? like, it was just weird. & like her mom, takes sleeping pills to fall asleep, her dad is like weird.. he takes pills for everything. he tells her that shes fat, when she probaly only weighs like 90 pounds & shes 13. & like he just puts alot of pressure on his kids..
do you think that has anything to do with it? like she always gets so worked up. & i dont really know what to say to her. (link)
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Maybe God is talking to her. Maybe because her parent or homelife or wutever is so wierd she needs that. She needs to belive she's special (not just wierd like it seems everything else is) and that God does want to with her because her family isn't (not phisically...you know wut i mean right?). Maybe she wants you to know that. maybe she also wants attention from you because you've been her friend and she knows it won't be neggative attention like her dad gives her. She wants you to be a friend and know that you'll be there even if she is physco. i hope you will.
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Hey! I'm not shure if this goes in this category but - does anyone know how to get good karma?
Thank yoU! (link)
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Um...i'm pretty sure the idea of "karma" is that you selflessly do good things for other people and good things come back around(not cuz you were expecting them to, but like becuase the universe like thinks you deserve them). and the same w/ bad things. but you can't be all vollunteering at a homeless shelter or something thinking oh yeah i'll bet he'll ask me out now. just do good things cuz you want to do good things.
Another thing is if you want something good to happen i would go out and make it happen. don't wait for "karma" to catch up with you.
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what is 10% of 83 cents? (link)
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8.3 cents but practically 8 cents
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What books changed your outlook on life? (link)
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alot of people already said these but "the perks of being a wallflower" and "you don't know me" (for like teaching me about stuff that happens everyday). "a child called it" and it's sequal "the lost boy" definently. And an insparation to my writing Han Nolan's "If i should die before i wake"...o yeah and "go ask alice"
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My friend that is 12 years old acts really slutty and doesnt have any self-respect. shes really selfish and ugly. she dresses like a corner girl. how should i tell her to straighten up? (link)
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Ok..so you are saying that your friend is selfish and ugly and acts like a slut. you think she dresses like a corner girl and, um...SHE HAS THE PROBLEM!?! before you can give her advice act more like her friend. i don't care if i get a bad rating for that one it's true. you BOTH should striaghten up.
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I'm writing a college essay on somebody "famous" that I feel to be Heroic. Out of curiosity, if you had to choose somebody to write about, who would you select?
I'm asking because I have chosen Helen Keller. She became an author, as well as a teacher to the deaf and blind, while overcoming those same disabilities. That is what I want to do with my life. I want to educate and assist the impaired, and I've known that since middle school. She is truly a hero in my eyes.
My worry is that Helen Keller will be such a popular choice. I'm scared that other students will be too lazy to search for a slightly less common name and just go with what they already know. I fear boring my teacher before she even commences the reading process. I know it's just one essay, but she is an inspiration of mine. I would be tremendously bummed if I had to write about someone else!!! Do you think my teacher will be bothered with the same old story, even if it were written immaculately? Do you feel it could possibly have a negative affect on my grade?
All input and opinions will be greatly appreciated. (link)
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First of all the chioce may look cliche' to your teacher but if it's who you want ot do it on i say go for it. just make it stand out. ask your teacher if it has to be a typical essay...after all she wasn't a typical woman. be artistic. start off with a poem about how she is an inspiration to you. or begin it with a story through the mind of hellen keller. also you may want to note before it "my essay is on a true inspiration to me, hellen keller, my idol. i chose this woman because of the opstacles she overcame and all that she accomplished despite her dissabilaties. i look up to her and did not simply write the essay becuase she is famous and a common hero and it would be easy. let's not forget she is famous and a common hero for a reason...and that's why i chose her. so please enjoy the essay."
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do you think that a best friend you've had through middle school can remain your best friend in high school if you are very close right now? (link)
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Ofcourse. you can stay best friend suntil death do you part as long as your there for eachother and understand eachother the way you do now.
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Alright, i just got a puppy, and hes 7 weeks old, hes a golden doodle mix (golden retriever/poodle), and he humps his blanket...and other random objects...hes only 7 WEEKS old...is that normal?
any advice you have, i'd appreciate!
thanks
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Honestly i have no clue if it's normal or not but i have a puppy too(he's about 4 months old now). i got him when he was 2 months old and he did that too...mostly too our legs when we wore baggy pants and he's fixed and everything. he does it less now though. if it helps if it's not normal then our dogs are wierd together.
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ok so the problem is that theres this guy i really like. hes cute, smart, funny, sensitive, and just super sweet. he likes me too. let's call him john. my family don't like john cuz they say hes not ur average boy. w/e doesn't make sense but i have to agree so no one will get mad. i'm on a trip right now. but, i'm afraid the family will make me tell him off when i come home. important info: checks EVERYTHING on myspace. reads every comment, message, etc., watches everything i say on AIM and tells everything to write (i don't have a choice), checks my cell phone every day. none of these are options to talk to him. but should i explain the situation. or what do i say? i kinda like john. but, wat do i do? i need advice fast. i come home sunday and i don't want to talk that way to him! i need advice and i need it fast. i can't just say "my family doesn't like you but i do" i need a way for him to know that my mom is the one talking and running my myspace. help me quickly please! and i can't just tell my mom i don't want to sign on. she'll go on for me and start responding to people. thank you! (link)
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Hello, you shouldn't have to tell him off cuz your mom doesn't like him. I mean just cuz he's different(unless she means like criminal record different) isn't a very good reason. In fact liking guys who are different is a good thing, you shouldn't be into someone who's trying to be the clone of someone else; you should want hte genuine article. Tell your mom she doesn't have to like him but you do...you might want to be honest and say your mom's not crazy about him (to him) too but she can't run your life. She can be a mom and tell you her opinion and let you make your own mistakes. And i don't think he's a mistake. So tell your mom no go and let him know you have a mind of your own.
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See this girl I just became friends with at the begin of summer wants me to break her up her boyfriend whos a jerk. But the thing is, i used to like the boy, and he knew it. I'm afriad if i do that, he'll think im lying or I want him or something. but I dont like him anymore. Also, I dont want to do it. I dont think I should be the one to do it. But I dont think she'll do it and he's an ass. Should I do it or should I just ask him to talk to her? (link)
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You're probably right, she should do it herself but she might be more afriad to than you.If you do it just be striaght foward with him. "(name) doesn't think it's working out and before you jump to any conclusions, i don't think it would work out between the two of us. It's her that wants it over."
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I really want to change so badly. Please give as much advice as you can. Im now starting to lose some weight but how can i become more motivated to lose it and to get up and want to go running ? I aslo whould like to become more outgoing and to stop caring so much about what people think of me. To stand up for my self . I need to know how to do this though people always tell me stop caring so much about what other people say but i cant i dont know how? Please help i need it. I need more friends also to become more social i have friends but not enough or not very many close ones. Thanks for your help please explain how i can do all this. (link)
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Caring so much what people think is a problem. That used to be my problem(though i admitidally denied this to myself, my friends and my family many times.) I also used to be REALLY shy. I buried myself in school and my own head. Trust me it's cooler in the real world. First of all remember it's summer and(unless you go to year around school) you can be a totally different person next year. Be who you want to be;work out, die your hair, study up, get a job, etc.. Also what really helped me was find someone you can really talk to(outloud, in public). Don't be dependent or clingy but hang with them. You'll start talking like that to more people, people you've known forever and the new kids. Teachers and family. Soon you'll be able to do that w/o your friend there. Be happy and confident and chill. You won't die if someone doesn't like you.
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