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HELP ME FAST!
ok so the problem is that theres this guy i really like. hes cute, smart, funny, sensitive, and just super sweet. he likes me too. let's call him john. my family don't like john cuz they say hes not ur average boy. w/e doesn't make sense but i have to agree so no one will get mad. i'm on a trip right now. but, i'm afraid the family will make me tell him off when i come home. important info: checks EVERYTHING on myspace. reads every comment, message, etc., watches everything i say on AIM and tells everything to write (i don't have a choice), checks my cell phone every day. none of these are options to talk to him. but should i explain the situation. or what do i say? i kinda like john. but, wat do i do? i need advice fast. i come home sunday and i don't want to talk that way to him! i need advice and i need it fast. i can't just say "my family doesn't like you but i do" i need a way for him to know that my mom is the one talking and running my myspace. help me quickly please! and i can't just tell my mom i don't want to sign on. she'll go on for me and start responding to people. thank you!
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There's a lot here that you haven't said. Without knowing how old you are, for instance, it's hard to know how to advise. Also, you failed to mention specifically who in your family has a problem with John. If it's your older brother, then it's really none of his business, but if it's your mother and/or father, you should take what they say into account.
Your mother has no business logging onto your MySpace account and pretending to be you. That is dishonest and deceitful. You should immediately change your password or cancel your MySpace account. If you are under 18 then your parents have the right and responsibility to monitor your online activities, but not to tell lies under your name. This is an issue that needs to be settled seperately from John.
As far as John himself goes, you need to determine whether a relationship with him (friendly, romantic, or otherwise) is worth causing a rift between you and your family. You should also think about whether there's any chance they will ever warm to him. My family didn't like my wife when I first met her, but they have done a complete turnaround since then, so sometimes it works out.
Your question is really vague on the details. What do you mean by "not your average boy"? Are you saying he has an unusual personal style, or that he's a chess prodigy, or he's ten years older than you, or what? When you say you "kinda like" him, is this another way of saying you're attracted to him as a potential boyfriend, or do you really just mean that you kinda like him? Without knowing these kinds of details, I can't offer advice on whether you should follow your family's lead or take your own path.
Whatever you tell John, you owe it to him and to yourself to make it the truth. Do not "tell him off" just because your mother wants you to. I would recommend that you begin by telling him, however you can, that your mother has been using your online account and that what he reads under your name is not necessarily coming from you. If your mother is able to spy on that message, then so be it!
That's all I can say without knowing more about what's going on. Best of luck to you.
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Hello, you shouldn't have to tell him off cuz your mom doesn't like him. I mean just cuz he's different(unless she means like criminal record different) isn't a very good reason. In fact liking guys who are different is a good thing, you shouldn't be into someone who's trying to be the clone of someone else; you should want hte genuine article. Tell your mom she doesn't have to like him but you do...you might want to be honest and say your mom's not crazy about him (to him) too but she can't run your life. She can be a mom and tell you her opinion and let you make your own mistakes. And i don't think he's a mistake. So tell your mom no go and let him know you have a mind of your own.
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OK, first off i would just politely ask your parents what they dont like about him. They might see something you dont. Also, explain to them that you understand they are trying to protect you, but you need some space and checking all your ways of contact to anyone is to invasive. Tell them that they need to trust you more to do the right thing. Hope i helped!
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Well, for one thing, your parents are pretty nosy. My family is nosy, but I learned to deal with it. As for john, do you see him in person? If so, then that would be the time to say, "hey, I like you and all, but the internet is not me", ya know? Just be open and honest with him! If your mom doesn't listen to you phone conversations, you could also tell him there, or text messaging is an option if you can delete them before your mom sees.
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