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Changing !!
I really want to change so badly. Please give as much advice as you can. Im now starting to lose some weight but how can i become more motivated to lose it and to get up and want to go running ? I aslo whould like to become more outgoing and to stop caring so much about what people think of me. To stand up for my self . I need to know how to do this though people always tell me stop caring so much about what other people say but i cant i dont know how? Please help i need it. I need more friends also to become more social i have friends but not enough or not very many close ones. Thanks for your help please explain how i can do all this.
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Caring so much what people think is a problem. That used to be my problem(though i admitidally denied this to myself, my friends and my family many times.) I also used to be REALLY shy. I buried myself in school and my own head. Trust me it's cooler in the real world. First of all remember it's summer and(unless you go to year around school) you can be a totally different person next year. Be who you want to be;work out, die your hair, study up, get a job, etc.. Also what really helped me was find someone you can really talk to(outloud, in public). Don't be dependent or clingy but hang with them. You'll start talking like that to more people, people you've known forever and the new kids. Teachers and family. Soon you'll be able to do that w/o your friend there. Be happy and confident and chill. You won't die if someone doesn't like you.
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ok in order to change first thing is you have to WANT to change.heres how it is.to be able not not care about what others think is pretty easy(im like that) people call me arrogant and self concited all the time and i dont care.you have an opinion about everyone right?your freinds,your teacher,your neighbors,everyone!and youre not afraid to say what you think!so,THEY have an opinion about YOU too and they can say it whenever they want so for example you think your neighbors girlfreind is a hoe and youre all mean to her....she wont go up to you saying..."dont you dare think im a hoe!"because you can think what you want!if you keep caring about what everyone thinks youll never be happy and never have your own opinion and personality because it will constantly keep changing as you hear the opinion of others.and as for standing your ground,anyone that pisses you off piss them off back and if they do anything that annoys you and you told them to stop and they dont and its gone way too far(bullying) BEAT THEM UP itll make them respect you and be scared to look you in the eye(trust me i did this before and it worked GREAT) you shouldnt be scared,they arent scared when THEY pick on you so why should you be scared to defend yourself?hope this helped:)
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I think your first step needs to be happy with yourself. If you want to lose weight then exercise or eat healthy and if you do that successfully you will already feel better about yourself. I'm not sure how old you are but if you are a teenager, just be yourself. Easier said than done but I am out of high school and one thing i regretted most was not being myself. I was shy and not that social. But now being out of high school I realized that if i had been myself and not cared as much as to what people though of me, I would've enjoyed it so much more. Just open up to people, start talking to someone you've never talked to before. You may realize you're actually funny or enjoy doing something other people like to do, people other than your friends like a sport or something, raise your hand in class if you know the answer. If you don't care what other people think of you it will show and people will admire your confidence as will you.
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Anyone you will ever meet wants to change. People are always wanting to better themselves and become better people. The first step you need to take is accepting you for you and believing in yourself. Something that would encourage you to lose more weight? You could try listening to uplifting and inspirational music while you excersize, you can not eat extra snacks and stuff in between your big meals. The more you take care of yourself, the more you'll learn to love yourself and accept you for who you are.
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The only way how u can do this is if you learn to love yourself and accept who you are. That is what i have to do and it works! Motivation is not easy but what you can do is wake up and tell yourself that youve made a commitment and you want to do this for you, not for others to fit in or anything. And to make more friend and be social, JUST BE YOU. Go out and talk to people. But be yourself, dont front to fit in. Not caring so much of what poeple think is justr basically loving yourself and remembering your not around to please others. Good luck. I really hope I helped. If you have any more questions...You can always find me on this site my name is ~Keosha~
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