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Q: hi im a 15 year old soph guy and i like this frosh girl in my geometry class. i met her 2 years ago and didnt see her at all last year and this year shes in my geometry class..so anyway i told her about 2 weeks ago how there was something about her that drew me too her and she told me she kind of just sees us as friends..and i said ok but i know we dont know eachother that much at all..so i saw her tonight at the football game said hey to her and she said hey whats up i answered asked her how she was and she said something to her friend and walked away. one of her best friends is a friend of mine and i asked her to talk to her for me to see why she kind of just walked away so my question is should i talk to her as well or wait and she what she tells my friend? thanks in advance

Speaking as a girl, whether she gives you positive feedback or negative, she's going to be flattered that you are interested in her no matter what. And what have you got to lose? The worst thing she could say is no. I say go for it.

Q: I am 17 years old i have a 2 month old daughter but i am married and have been for a year to the babys father. Well i have just come across a very serious problem. My husband i have been sleeping together but we used protection but i think i might be pregnant again is that possible. I am very scared. I know if i am everyone is going to say i am a slut and im so worried but wwe both have jobs and stuff but i am scared of what a=our families wil say what do i do.

I think that you could possibly be pregnant if the condom broke. But Also, you shouldn't have to worry about all of those things because there is nothing to worry about. No one is going to call you a slut and if they do it isn't right. You're a married woman with a job and kids. You have a family. That's something to be admirable about, not something to poke fun at or insult.

Q: i have terrible breath and brushing doesnt seem to get it to go away. what can i do to get rid of it?

Don't stop brushing your teeth. That will cause you lots of problems later in life. Try using mouthwash and/or flossing. Maybe not everyday but when you remember to do it. If you feel self-consious about it when you're around and about you can just chew gum (sugarless minty gum would probably give you the best results.)

Q: i met this guy the other month through a friend..and he seems realli sweet and always textin me and phoning me...but the problem is he lives too far away! i have feelings for this guy and always thinking about him and want to be with him.
does this mean im madly in love with this guy even though we cant see each other?

Sometimes we don't know the difference between loving someone and lusting over someone. You probably just want to be with him and want to get to know him better, but this doesn't mean you are in love with him, it just means you have a very strong interest in him, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Q: Ok i have another question for you. We had sex two days ago and i started my period today. Do i still have to worry about getting pregant?

You probably don't have to worry about getting pregnant if you started your period today. When you get pregnant it's something that happens instantly, and your body would automatically start making changes to that, and that includes not having your period, which you have. Make sure you use protection from now on just to be safe.

Q: This is gonna sound kind of gross..but how do u give a hand job?

Just make sure you and your partner are relaxed. If this is your first time, be gentle. I would be careful if he's also touching you, because there is a chance he could ejaculate and you could get some on your hands and touch yourself or he could even do it and you could run the risk of conceiving (Extremely low chance, but possible). So just be careful.

Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for the past 2 years.I recently found out he cheated on me 3 times with some girls from Johnston.Now he asked me if we were dating about 2 days ago and i stupidly said "Yea,I guesss".Today he came to my house and told me that he has a new girlfriend. I said "i thought me and you were together" and he said "O well shes hotter".5 minutes later he tried kissing me.What should I do about all of this???Now im stuck the single one!

PLEASE HELP ME FAST!:(

For one, this guy definently does not deserve you. In my opinion, being single is better than having a boyfriend that cheats on you and says hurtful things.And two, him kissing you after saying he had a new girlfriend is just plain taking advantage of you. Don't stand for that, and move on. Trust me, you don't need someone like that. No girl does.

Q: alright, i'm 15 and I"ve had my period for over 2 or 3 years, but i've never tried tampons. This morning I tried one, but its extreamly uncomfortable, getting up or sitting down, unless my legs are spread apart its almost painful. am I doing something wrong? is that normal?

PLZ, any advice you have, please post

Thank you!

It's a common problem, but it really isn't a serious problem. You're just not inserting it far enough. If you can still feel the tampon with your fingers once it's in, then it isn't in far enough. All you should be able to see or feel is the string. Hope I helped.

Q: okiay, i'm gonna b blunt about it,
can you go pee with a tampon in?

Definently.

Where you pee and where you insert the tampon are two different places entirely. When you pee you don't even realize it's there.

Q: I'm a twenty year old female who finally gave herself to a guy. I have always been worried about having sex and getting pregant the first time. My mother always told me that you have to have an orgasim to get pregant. Is that true?

You do not have to have an orgasm in order to get pregnant. The factor that determines whether or not your pregnant is if any seminal fluid reaches female penetration.

Q: okay, i'm 14/f and there's someone that i like, but he's 2 years younger than me. is it okay to like or date someone 2 years younger? it seems kind of weird, but it's not that big of a difference and in fact i think my parents are 2 years apart. thanks

In my opinion, I don't think it matters how old you are as long as you guys both like each other. You are very young, so as much as you think it will, it probably won't last 'forever', but that's the idea of dating - just to find out who you want when it is time for you to find someone you want to spend all your time with. once you get to your parents' age, 2 years won't be a big deal at all - no controversy. But the answer to your question is yes, it's definently okay.

Q: im 16f and all my friends go out with lads...but i seem the only one not 2...i havent had my first kiss yet and that makes me feel more down and like that no one would ever want me (yes i no its sounds stupid but thats how i feel) i talk to lads but they dont seem interested or anyone who does like me are ugly and i dont like them or there too young...
is there a way too make lads like me or talk to me more often so they start to like me ?
(sorry if its confusing) xox

Guys normally go for girls who are outgoing and bold. They like a girl who can get involved in things and be part of something. Maybe if you try getting more involved with things, you will find guys who share the same interests as you - and they'll be single! You might meet a guy you never knew existed that goes to school with you. Don't try to hard to where you aren't yourself - always be yourself - that is honestly the best advice anyone could give you even though you've probably heard it a million times before.

Q: Okay, theres this guy, that i talk to on myspace, and we go to school togeather, and i talk to him there to.

ANYWAY, whenever we talk, we always end up "fighting" but its SOOOO fun to fight with him, and i just love annoying him, and he's the same way with me.

My friends say that this is flirting, but i dont see how it is. Cause were just pretty much arguing...

Anyway, I really like him, and i'm not so sure if he likes me, but he can be a real jerk.

So, the quistion is, should i go after him, even though he seems to only like to use me to argue with?

~Melissa~

If you guys are arguing and you're not even dating, then chances are it isn't going to work out for very long when you do start dating. It might get worse for you two if you're together because you'll probably be spending more time together and that would be more time to get on each others nerves. Even if you like it now, it could get old after awhile.

Q: HEY PEOPLE

I need your honest opinion, is kissing with lipgloss or without better??

If WITH - what flavor??

There's really no right or wrong answer. Whichever you like you should do. In my opinion, I don't think it sounds like a great idea because it will most likely get everywhere when you're kissing, unless it's just a peck. But whatever you prefer is right for you.

Q: ive kissed/made out before, but when frenching, it says you have to swallow because spit builds up.

so like how do you swallow, because when you swallow you normally have to close your mouth, right?

It doesn't build up in a matter of seconds, so it isn't this quick process where you have to think fast or anything. But you probably want to take a break every once and awhile while you're doing it just to get a breath and then you can swallow there.

Q: i'm a sophmore and i'm probably transferring schools next year. but, this year, i have to go to the open house/take enterence exam, etc. but, the thing is, it's the rivalry school of the school i am in now..... i don' t think the people in the other school are as mean or will treat me bad because of it. but, this is my oppertunity to start over. and everyone will know me because they are both private schools. but, i'm just looking for tips to make new friends and fit in and stuff

any ideas?
i appreciate it soooo much!

xoxo

The best way to make long lasting friends that you'll always keep in touch with is to just be yourself. That way, they know you for you and they're attracted to the real you. My rival school is called Edgewood, and there are quite a bit of people who have came from that school to ours and they didn't have any problem with making friends and being accepted. They joined teams and clubs that our school had to offer and they fit right in with everybody else.

Good luck with your new school!

Q: Dose anyone know any good healthy exercise to do to make my stomach flat(i dont wanna be completly skiny i just wanna lose some fat in my stomach)

Crunches are a great way to flatten out your stomach. Just make the position you would if you were doing crunches, and then go up like you were to do a sit up but don't go all the way to your elbows ; just halfway, then go back down again.

You can also jog a little while everyday. Flex your stomach while your jogging for the best and most quickest results.

Q: What do most people define as "hooking up"?

When most people say "hooking up", they usually mean having intercourse with someone else.

Q: Ok this might sound stupid but i wanna know if this is normal. sometimes if i hear a song that i really really love it makes me want to cry, i think just becuase its so beautiful and i feel so deep, its kind of disturbing. for me its enjoy the silence by depeche mode, and lacuna coil covered it, i like that one just as much.

So is this normal? It might be becuase music is such an important part in my life? Thanks.

Personally, I love music, and coming from someone who has a really strong passion for it, I say this is completely normal. Sometimes things are just so beautiful or so nice that it just makes you happy. It's probably because you feel like you connect so well with the words. It's normal, don't worry.

Q: my friend gets what she wants when she wants it. when i'm mad or upset at her..... like today, we got in a big fight and she said either "i come over and we work this out now or we're no longer friends." whats that all about. shes always like that....help!!!!!

As much as you might or might not think so, "friends" that aren't willing to compromise with you (probably for lack of not caring about others, including you, as harsh as it sounds) isn't worth the extra mile. If she isn't willing to work with you, that means that she isn't putting herself in your shoes and/or caring about your feelings.

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Hi! I'm Becky, I'm from Ohio. I love to help people and I feel like it isn't bad to have questions and want answers. I think that there are no stupid questions, but stupid answers. :) If you need help on something (anything!) just ask.

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