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When I had my last boyfriend everything would always go so great and after about 6 months we were both inlove and I really loved this guy! But then about 3 months later we were laying in his backyard in the hammock his arm was around me and we were just relaxing then i decided to put my hand on his chest and give him a kiss so i did and he pushed me out of the hammock smacked me and told me don't touch me so i ran away crying...i didn't talk to him for a couple weeks but he kept calling so i answered
~Convo~
me-what do you want?
him-im sorry i love you
me-too bad
and i hung up
then when my dog passed away he came over with flowers my mom didn't want him to come up to my room because i was really upset but she finally let him, then he started kissing me and telling me he was truley sorry so i forgave him and for about 3 more month it was all good and back to normal then again one night we were watching a movie in his basement (his parents weren't home only his bro and his gf) and we were all watching a movie and he kissed me and we started kissing then i put my hand on his cheek a little bit and he pushed away and was like dont ever do that again and threw the movie case at me and his brother tried to stop him but he just went mad at started punching me and his brother while his girlfriend tried to do somethin --im not really sure what--
So my question is I still love him, I know I shouldn't but I really love him I mean we have been together for about 2 years but stuff like this keeps randomly happening! I thought this guy was really right for me and sometimes he treats me really nice but others he hurts me phsically and mentally...I just want a guy to treat me right thats why Im trying to forgive him again but I can't just forgive and forget I'm scared something like this will happen again PLEASE help!
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Are u blind or something! he has mental problems, duh.
he has needs anger managment, he has some sort of attacks. tell his borther and the gf, they saw him beatin u so they will help.
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you have every right to be upset. it's an abusive relationship. you might not think so but it is and you need out! tell him to get some help but you deserve better.
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He might suffer from depression. Or he just doesn't like to be touched. It might make him feel uncomfortable, but he has no reason to hit you. You didn't do anything wrong. You should be scared, though. It might get worse also if he threw something at you, you should tell someone you trust. Don't be afraid to tell someone about him. You should leave him, but make sure you're around other people so they will see if he hits you, or harms you in any way.
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Oh no...Please say your not with him anymore. If a guy EVER hurts you physically like punching or kicking you leave him...no matter what. He WILL i guarentee that he will come back and say hes sorry and all that lovey dovey crap and try to get you back and if you do go back with him he will end up doing it again. I know its hard to let him go but do you want to live with someone who beats you up for the rest of your life? I dont think youd want that and i wouldnt want to see you get hurt and maybe even killed by him. So please do yourself a favor and leave him. xoxo
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you need to stop him in his place....NOW!dont wait for later!! if you dont stop him now hell NEVER stop and he might even hit you hard enough to bruise you!!tell him straight to his face this....."listen up cuz imma say this ONCE....you lay your hands on me or hit me ONE MORE TIME and its over between us"cuz you are a woman and women desserve to be treated with RESPECT!you didnt do anything wrong whats so bad about kissing him?!and in his basement HES the one that started kissing YOU.also tell him not to try to kiss you or anything like that since he gets all mean and hits you...to hell with kissing him!dont if his reaction is so mean!and next time he trys to kiss you push him away(not like he did but just push him)to give him a taste of his own medicine!!you seriously need to stop him call him now if you have to before its too late!and i think this guys no good for you,you desserve to be treated better.its in YOUR hands to make others respect you and in YOUR hands to let them treat you like an animal(i dont mean it the offensive way) hope this wasnt harsh srry if it was...no hard feelings :P
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No man should be putting his hands on u or throwing stuff at you if he loves you. You need to get out of that relationship before he starts doing it more often. I know you may love him but love isnt suppose to hurt in that kind of way. Hope I helped.
*~Sharifa~*
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GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP... before it is too late. There is no reason you should put up with that. No one deserves that!
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Men are great, you cant live with them, but you cant live without him, this one you can live without. I am not saying every man is this way, just some men want to kiss you, but not do anything to them, because he might be using you. i am really sorry i had to be this way, but its just not right for a guy to be violent and hurt you, you may still love him, and he may still love you, dont forgive him, he will do it again and again and again and then trap you and say he loves you and makes you feel he is truly sorry, but he probly doesnt mean it...you deserve better, one who wont be violent and ... will like you to touch him lol please you may love him, but all of that will go away when you find a guy who treats you better.
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i know you love him and everything but if he did this then he isnt right for you atall i can see your a very kind forgiving person but you just cant take him back...he is abusive! if you go back to him you will seriously one day get hurt you just have to get over him which i know sounds impossible but but this guy..hes dangerous...if you want to stay friends then your obiously going to have "the talk" with him so just ask him why he does this to you i mean you never did anything to him all you did was touch him...and it wasnt inapropreiate even if it was he should have explained it to you calmly not by hurting you phyically and emotionally and he will hurt you even more if you go back to him and if you think you cant after sometime tell your truely best friends they will make sure you dont get back to with him....you will find someone else but from the first slap he gave you...you shouldnt have gotten back with him and dont let anyone abuse you like that again
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I can totally understand if you still love this boy. You have a history with him and he must love you too. But the hard truth is that a guy should never EVER hit a girl, ever, not for any reason at all, especially not if a guy loves a girl. Your boyfriend seems very unstable and it sounds to me like me may need psychiatric help for these outbursts. I was getting a little scared just reading this post. You said this keeps randomly happening? That is definately not good. I would advise you confront him, not by yourself, he may attack you if you confront him by yourself. Maybe with his brother and someone else close to him, possibly his parents. Let him know that you love him and you're only scared and worried about him, that you're not cornering him or anything. You should tell him that if he really loves you, he would never, ever hurt you like he did. After you do this, if things still don't work out, get out of that relationship.
No boy is worth tall that.
I'm really big on the whole "guys don't EVER hit girls" thing. I really just think that's wrong. Best of luck to you, I hope everything works out oka for you and your guy.
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Well...you should break up with him if he keeps on doing this randomly then one day he might get really physical on you and hurt you,this is a start of an abusive relationship and it needs to end quickly or you are going to get seriously hurt and end up in the hospital.
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I honestly think you should end it and forget about him. I understand that you may love him and if he truely loved you, he wouldn't be hurting you in any way. You deserve so much better then to have a boyfriend who hurts you so much. You have to move on. If you forgive him again; that will show him that he can keep hurting you and running back to you. You have to be strong about this and get him out of your life because you don't need guys like him.
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