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helloo; my names allie. [: & i'd like a scene name for myspace. not a SCREENname. a scene name. [: any suggestions? i don't want anything like standard though. something original. :]

It's really best if you come up with it :P
Anyway;
Play around with characters and see which words have "allie" or something similar sounding in them.
Example;
allieCAT�
Or make use of alliteration like the rest of the MySpace world seems to be doing. (highly unoriginal though)
Example
_allieactually�
What do you like? find a way to perhaps add that into it, for example, say you like Monopoly:
ALLIEopoly
If you have Windows, use your character map. It's located at Start, All programs, Accessories and System tools if you didn't know already. :]


(fyi, some characters won't show up on my advice column, but they will on the answer page. and definitely on myspace.)

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Okay. I have a punk/emo/skater style && i wanted to change my hair a bitt to match that.
I want to keep my hair LONGER, But i don't know exactly what i want to do It would be wonderful if you could show me some pic's to go along with your ideas. I want it to look good on me.

Here are some pic's of me.

[IMG]http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x304/StuSt/067.jpg[/IMG]

[IMG]http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x304/StuSt/035.jpg[/IMG]

[IMG]http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x304/StuSt/YEAHMAN084.jpg[/IMG]

Keep your length. It's nice.
I reckon you just need to add a bit of texture to your hair. Go to your hair dresser and ask for long and short layers and to cut in your fringe some more. It doesn't sound alot, but it will make alot of difference and add more shape to your face. :)
Perhaps experiment with different colours, too.

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female

the back of my neck has a lot of hair on it and its pretty long. its also dark and thick so its really noticable when i put my hair up. its really embarassing. what should i do?

It seems odd to shave an area like that. Wax it if really necessary or go to a salon and have it lightened. They're pretty much the best options.
and don't worry.. just because you know it's there, other people probably won't even notice it. It's normal to have hair around there anyway. Your hair is just darker, making it more noticeable.

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how do i tell my girlfriends that she needs to shave down there without being really mean. she can be kinda sensitive about that kinda stuff. help please.

You can suggest it, but it's her decision whether she wants to or not in the end.
To be honest though, I don't think there's a nice way of saying it. You're basically pointing out you don't like it how it is and it's bound to hurt her feelings in some way.
It also depends on the type of relationship you have with her. Do you tell her anything and everything? If so, there could be a way of you suggesting it without hurting her, like it would feel better for her if she at least trimmed it.. but at the end of the day, it's not very important. So if she's not a fan of the idea, don't get annoyed over it.

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"how long dose females bleed after having sex for the first time? and dose there anything that hangs out?"

Okay i had sex two times with the same guy, But three days ago my cherry popped. He didnt use a condom and i didnt tack the pill. But anyways im still bleeding, i feel like its im on my period but im know im not. I think he ripped me because my hymen is hanging out more and it hurts when i wipe. i dont know if this is normal or what.

That doesn't seem very normal to me.
Are you positive you aren't on your period? If so, and things are "hanging out", you need to go to a doctor. Noone here can see or really knows what part of you is "hanging out" or if it's normal or not. Your description is bad because you don't even really know yourself.
Go to a doctor to put your mind at rest if it doesn't seem like it's stopping any time soon.
Tip for the future: Protection.

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what is the latest song from westlife? remember tha boy band? i feel like theyre not famous and theyve died down... can anyone tell me what happened to them??? and are they split up? making new singles cd's?

"Home" is the latest single. They haven't died down here in the UK...

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OK this guy has dumped me but still wants to remain friends. We text back and forth like everyday and both of us has remained single since we broke up. He says he wants to still think about it and we broke up like two months ago. Is there any hope of the two of us getting back together?

Honestly, it's impossible for anyone here to say.
If you've dated him previously, you should be comfortable enough to talk to him.. so come straight out and ask him if there's still a chance. You have the right to know, so you aren't holding on to something that won't ever happen.

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15/f please i need as many answers as possible.
help me.
ok...i had sex yesterday...unprotected. and i have a few stupid questions first...
is there any way to know your pregnant without a test?
how long after sex do you have to wait to take the test?
is there anything i can do/take that can prevent pregnancy even though i dont know if i am?
i know the pill(morning after)
is there anything i can do to make my period come faster?
so basically he doesnt know if he finished in me...he said he felt something so he pulled it out, but there was nothing when he did that. could this just be a feeling? orgasm??
also...hes 15...is he like fully making semen and stuff? he doesnt even have hair on his face or...much anywhere else so does this mean he hasnt finished puberty?
how long during sex does it roughly take for a guy to "squirt"?
i heard of maybe something you can drink that kills sperm?
idk :( im so worried and trying not to think about it because i know ill just breakdown. please be honest and tell me everything you can to help me.
and if you have any advice how to kepp me going right now...
thankyou so so much. thankyou.

To clear a few things up:
*You COULD be pregnant.
*He DOES produce sperm - it doesn't matter if he hasn't got facial hair etc.
*Every guy is different depending on how long it takes him to ejaculate. Other factors will also help, depending on how turned on he is.
*There is NOTHING you can drink to kill sperm.
*You CAN'T make your period arrive faster.
*After having unprotected sex, you can take the morning after pill within 72 hours. The sooner you take it, the better it works. but since it's now Christmas eve/day (depending where you are in the world), I'm assuming you won't be able to get hold of it.

Secondly, you really shouldn't worry. Worrying will only delay your period.. and that will just make things worse.
Wait for your period to arrive. If it does, great - and never let it happen again. If it doesn't simply take a test. From that point onwards, you will get advice on the options you have.

What's done is done. There really isn't any point in worrying right now. I know it's an awful thing to go through, but in the mean time whilst you wait, try to relax.
It's not the end of the world, okay?

and.. try to have a Merry Christmas.
Good luck

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There's a christmas party tonight but I'm not sure whether to go or not. Our house got broke into about two weeks ago and I'm scared of leaving the house unattended for so long.

I could tell everyone to go and I'll stay at home but it's everyone goes or nobody goes, my mom doesn't want to leave me alone in a house that might come to a dangerous situation.

I don't really want to go but i don't want to break my sibling's spirit, it IS a Christmas party and the last thing I want for them after having a pre-terrible christmas break with someone breaking in is to not go to the only party that they want to go.

But..we'll live if we don't go right?

But..my cousin was so excited, tleling me how hard she picked the presents and that it's that ONE PEFECT NIGHT.

What should I do?

If you were in my place, would you go or not go?

It's up to you. They would understand if you didn't attend though. You have a good enough reason.
but if I were in your position, I'd go. I know it's pretty risky, but I'd leave on a few lights to make people think I'm still inside.
You shouldn't have to live in fear because you've been burgled.
Merry christmas, by the way. and I hope you have a good time if you go.

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What is the typical side that you get a cartilage piercing on?
If anyone has one, what side do you have it on? Thanks.

There isn't a more popular side. It's what looks better on you personally. If I got a top cartilage piercing, I'd go for my right ear, because I already have a tragus piercing on the left. Everyone's different. See which side you prefer on yourself. :)

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me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time...how do we know if her cherry has popped??

Was her hymen still intact anyway? It could have torn before sex. If YOU broke it through intercourse, it most probably would have bled a little. My guess is if you had sex, the hymen is most likely broken.

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well me and my gf tried sex for the first time we were both virgins and it felt really good for me but it didnt feel good for her she said it hurt a little bit on the edges and it felt good when i was all the way in and i dont know if i popped her cherry or what...i dont know why it dont feel good for her i dont think im big enought to pop her cherry what do i do? does your cherry have to be popped for it to feel good??

It probably didn't feel good because it was her first time. It's normal for that to happen. It might not feel too good for the next few times either, but after she gets used to it, the pain will go and she'll enjoy it more. It happens to alot of people if they aren't used to larger things being inserted, so it's nothing to worry about.
Also.. if your penis went in all the way, her cherry is most likely to be "popped". It could have popped before you had sex with her anyway.

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Okay , well I was at a dance and me and this guy kept locking eyes allll night. Then we passed eachother and locked eyes for the longest time and once we passed eachother we looked back at eachother at the same time. Then he finally came up and asked me to dance and then to grind.. and he kept asking me questions like do you have facebook? What grade are you in and things like that. Then , a day later im away on msn and he keeps talking to me and everything.. But after we grinded he said he would let me go and come back to me later but he never did..My question is does he like me? or just think im pretty? What should I do next?
THANKS A BUNCH!
BETTY.

It's really impossible to be certain to tell you the truth.
but the signs are there that he does like you (talking, asking questions about you etc)
There may have been a reason for him not coming back.. or maybe he wanted you to do the chasing for once :)
Continue to talk to him as you are. It'll become more clearer if he like you in a girlfriend way over time. Good luck!

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I recently went to the doctor for an ultrasound, and they saw that there isn't much fluid around the baby. The baby needs fluid to live and develop correctly so I am very scared. The doctor referred me to a specialist, and he told me that the reason could be one of three things: the baby has no kidneys to produce fluids, my water broke, or something else that happens at the end of pregnancy. I am just now 5 months, so the third one is not a possibility. My baby has kidneys, so it isn't that. They asked if I had had any fluid gushes and I said no. He said that it isn't always noticeable if you have a leak in your amniotic sack. He told me to come back in two weeks and to hope that there is some fluid made. This morning when I woke up, I had a lot of fluid in my pants... I am very worried that it is all leaking out and my baby won't be healthy... Does anyone have information on this? Or perhaps even gone through it? I don't want my baby to die, and I am so very scared for it to be healthy. Any information is appreciated.

I can't offer great advice on this matter, but I know if I were in your position right now, I would definitely go to get checked out again, since he asked if you had fluid gushes and you said no.. although now you seem to be experiencing it.
You shouldn't ever wait and let things get worse. Trust your instincts and get another opinion. It's always better to be safe than sorry.
I really hope everything turns out fine for you. Best of luck.

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How do you give hickeys and while making it, not to make any weird sounds? cause you know when you kiss sometimes it sounds weird . well making hickeys sound weird so. how do you have a strong yet sensitive pull while being sensual and a turn on without making any weird sounds?

Practice on your hand. The trick is to basically suck on the desired spot. Try different ways, such as sucking hard and soft, maybe using your tongue. Try not to have saliva in your mouth, or to suck in air, because it's those which make the sounds.

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whos the lead singer of backstreet boys?

There isn't a lead singer. They all took turns, although Brian and Nick, sometimes AJ seemed to have the bigger parts, whereas Kevin and Howie did backing quite alot.

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ok, u answered my Q about the boy who moved closer to me at the convo. When we get back from Christmas Break o Jan 3. I will really hard to get the courage to talk to him. Ok there are more oarts to the story. I've asked around to find some info about him. First off I will say I am in no way judgemntal. A lot of people have told me he is gay. It is so mean how they descirbe him. Yeah, Ryan's a fag..." They said he has never had a girlfriend, which is good fo me and bad. Good because compared to no one i'm pretty good plus i'm giving him the time of day. Bad because he may be gay or too shy to ask me out if we became friends. I will also add that he comes from a well off family and is a super-genius. I have also heard he crys a lot and has been picked on. He is very shy and sometimes sits alone at lunch. He sits with the populars, but isn't really included, know what i mean. So what i'm asking is what do you think of this situtation a.k.a what so i do? sorry it is so long!

Sorry I took a while to answer. I didn't see a question in my inbox :S
Anyway;
What you hear about him being "gay" may not be true at all. It might just be peoples lame way of describing him, like you say. So it would be good if you could find out for sure, whether that being you getting to know him and finding out yourself, or hearing it from people who actually 100% know.
Also, if he is alone some of the time, or isn't really included, you should ask him if you can sit with him, or if he wants to join you and your friends. I know it's nerve racking to ask, but it's such a nice gesture if you can do it. If I were in your position, I would definitely pluck up the courage to talk to him and get to know him, especially since he gets picked on. He probably wants all the friends he can (and more) at the moment. You can start off by saying hi one day.. and afterwards, ask him to join you for lunch - that way, it won't be as weird because you would have at least spoke to him before (even if it was only saying hi). Friendships and possibly more are bound to build from that point.

Also, if he has any online accounts (such as myspace etc), it could be worth talking to him on there first, so it won't be as "scary" when you talk to him in real life.

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what does s4s mean

Support for support.
It's when you give someone your myspace "code" and they post a bulletin telling people why they should add you. Just like "whore for whore"
For more definitions, visit www.urbandictionary.com

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has my penis gone yellow? :|

I really can't offer any help on this subject.
I've never heard of a penis turning yellow before.. See a doc.
Sorry..

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I know this might be kind of weird ,believe it or not ,im an 18 year old virgin but the thing is that there are a lot of girls who keepin tellin that im cute ,i have dated numerous times before but i just never got to that stage ,do i have a problem guys

Why do people seem to think being a virgin at your age or more is bad?
There's no set time to lose your virginity. Wait until there's someone worth giving it to.

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