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how to nicely sujest they should shave it.
how do i tell my girlfriends that she needs to shave down there without being really mean. she can be kinda sensitive about that kinda stuff. help please.
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when you guys are fooling around you could be like "hey babe have you ever thought about shaving? its not a big deal i was just wondering. i think it would be hot" something like that.
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well this is how i heard it once that youjust go you know what would be hott and say what eva!
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Ahh, and you can see the ladies ringing in below.
First things first. If you approach this from a "I shouldnt be asking" standpoint and act guilty when you say it, shes of course going to scent that theres something wrong and be upset about it.
Step one: Act like it isnt a big deal.
Because it isnt. Its grooming. Anyone with half a brain and a decent sex life knows its because you find someone who is all about pleasing you. That has to be a two way streak, partners should always be willing to try things out to make the other partner happy within reasonable bounds of comfort.
If she wanted you to trim you should be equally willing.
Step two: the ask.
Be naked with her. Give her a nice rubdown. Make a few comments about how soft she is. Girls are soft, smooth, and sexy. Let her know you notice this. Rub a hand up her thigh and comment again on how smooth she is. Run your hand up higher to places with a little hair and say something like "I wonder how smooth you could be here"
Step three: The actual request.
Ok. Asking her to shave with a razor regularly is going to be hell for her and you. Razorburn kills sex drives and the 5 o'clock shadow downstairs is even worse (yay sandpaper =/). But you want her nice and neat.
Solution is a beard trimmer. Those can cut her down to about a 1/4 inch or less, prevents ingrown hairs, and leaves her with a patch that is short enough to have the hair be soft and long enough not to be scratchy.
Hell, go so far as to buy the beard trimmer (like 15 bucks at wal-mart or target or CVS) to prepare.
Approach this whole thing with an air of curiosity. You arent "asking her to change because you dont like the way she is" you are "asking her if you can try something out because you've never been with a girl who was trimmed like that and you want to know what its like"
The best wishes of guys everywhere go with you. Tame the jungle. ;-)
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well you two can get on the subject of hair down there and be like "well i think its super sexyy when a girl shaves down there" then she would prolly get the hint she should do that in order to please you!
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You can suggest it, but it's her decision whether she wants to or not in the end.
To be honest though, I don't think there's a nice way of saying it. You're basically pointing out you don't like it how it is and it's bound to hurt her feelings in some way.
It also depends on the type of relationship you have with her. Do you tell her anything and everything? If so, there could be a way of you suggesting it without hurting her, like it would feel better for her if she at least trimmed it.. but at the end of the day, it's not very important. So if she's not a fan of the idea, don't get annoyed over it.
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Well, frankly, you can't tell her that she *needs* to shave, because she doesn't *need* too. There is no medical reason that she must shave her vagina, in fact, it's suggested that woman might be healthier if they don't.
SO, if you would LIKE her to do so, that is something you may gently bring up as a request. If you keep your message positive (say “I would think it’s awesome if…”) instead of negative (don’t say “It looks messy this way…”) and be patient, you should be able to avoid hurting her feelings. It might take her a long time to get around to it, and you'll need to be very supportive of her first efforts and very patient as she takes this risk.
Seriously darling, think about how frightening it would be to take a blade close to your most delicate skin... It's scary and it takes a while to get used too and a while to get good at.
Welcome to humanity, where if you want someone to change, you must be positive and patient and accept that you still might not get what you want. Because if she doesn't want to shave, I'm afraid you are shit outta luck.
Ask nicely, a few times, encourage and be supportive, be honest about what you would like and find attractive and then let her make the decision for herself. It’s her hair. She has do all the work and live with the results. It’s her choice.
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