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Me and this girl were really good friends, I told her things about a guy i used to be friends with a few years back, a lot of "secrets/personal information" And she promised not to tell anyone about it especially him. Well she ended up texting him all the time, and tried to become his friend. Then one day when I wasn't at school went up to him and said "you really need to text her she complains to me about you all the time" My best friend told me that he overheard their conversation. So i texted her after i found out to ask her why she did that and she freaked out saying that my best friend was a liar and all this stuff. then went to bed. I was going to forgive her if she said sorry within the next few days, but she didnt she freaked out about it more and turned it around on me like it was my fault and now we arent friends anymore. It's been almost 3 months and I kind of miss her, I don't know if it's because all of our friends are friends besides us, which makes things difficult sometimes. I just wish she would apologize to me, what should I do? Try and be her friend again, or what? (link)
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This is trivial and no boy or who said what to whom etc should derail a long standing friendship. People don't just end friendships based on this kind of stuff when it existed for years. This runs deeper believe me and trust me your friendship wasn't as solid as you believed.
All you can do is invite her to talk things out and go from there. Telling her that you miss having her as a friend is a good starting point.
Even if you are owed an apology don't go in expecting one or giving off the vibe that you want one and she's in the wrong. Nothing that you want accomplished will come of that. Actually, I'd let it slide and deal with the real reason your friendship fell apart as this doesn't make sense.
And one more thing, if you have secrets and personal information you don't want out there don't tell a soul even a best-friend as their temptation and or motives to use it are too great.
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I'm a fifteen year old female and i am currently taking celexa and seroquil for my severe depression. i was talking to someone else who also has depression and he says he doesn't take medications and only takes vitamins and exercises so that he doesn't feel that way anymore. is it possible for me to try this? i'm not fond of the idea of taking celexa and seroquil because of the side effects, such as defects in a child that i might have in the future, and i really want to have kids.
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I'm on Seroquel and have been for 9 years. I'm not versed on Celexa though. I do know one thing. DO NOT go off your medication on your own.
Withdrawal symptoms will cripple you for one thing and it's also bloody dangerous. Why? in all likelihood you NEED medication to function. If you go off of medication like this your depression as severe as it is now multiples. You'll end up 9 times out of 10 back in a psych ward and at square 1 having a crisis and needing support.
Talk to your psychiatrist about the medication and that you see no improvements or wild side-effects that are impacting ability to function. They need the info you just told us. They and ONLY they can adjust your medication or even change it or stop it correctly to make you function better. That's 100% the best way to go. Talk to them about your fears re: side-effects, children, long-term exposure etc.
They will put you at ease and even guide you when you choose to have children. Trust me there's a way as oodles of people in your position have kids with no problem whether on this drug or something different.
The doctor will know what to do when it comes time. Think of the doctor as your best friend and start telling them all of this stuff as they'll help. They can't fix what they haven't been told about by you.
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Before I start, I am looking for any advice or any opinions from anyone, negative or positive I don't care. And as many answers as I can get also.
I am 17, Female. Senior in high school.
I am a virgin.
I've only had one serious boyfriend, Sophmore year, and it only lasted 4 months.
I don't have any sexual experience, and this bothers me. I would like to have sexual experience, as well as loose my virginity but I don't have the boyfriend experiences. I'm not very attractive I suppose that's why i'm not liked by guys ever/ or rarely.
I'm tall and skinny which i don't think there's anything wrong with, but I don't have a pretty smile, I need braces badly but can't afford it, and I think that is why people find me unattractive, which I don't blame them because I hate my smile too. I also have small boobs, that could be why? Or maybe i'm "too skinny" I don't know..
I just want a guy to like me, ask me out, and for us to do things together :P to put it bluntly.
By the way, this isn't for society, or for the pressure, or because other people are doing it, or whatever else. this is because I want to.
Anything helps, thank you (link)
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It's not a competition. I think in your eyes that you see this as something you must rack up by X,Y,Z age or you aren't normal. That's crap for lack of a better term that you need to chuck.
Actually, you're well off. You may have only had one boyfriend who was serious at 17 but the relationship likely had more depth than those of your friends.
If some of your peers hooked up and got physical early or to experience something sexual with someone they didn't totally care for than they likely they're regretting it. Also, peers lie and may not have done much or had disaster experiences.
You haven't missed much. Most people's first sexual experiences are not at all what they hoped for and don't go smoothly for them. The best thing you can do is WAIT for the right person who treats you well and genuinely cares and loves you and then research about sex and explore the idea further.
To just do it randomly or hookup is detrimental to you long term. It may seem like everyone's doing it but trust me they aren't. Your problem is how you carry yourself.
Guys may not know why you lack confidence but they can read your facial expressions and body language enough to know that there's something the matter with this girl and back off completely.
There's ZERO amiss with you or the situation except for how you value yourself. They'll only see the image of you that you project to everyone.
Work on that smile and show those pearly whites once in a while gap in teeth or braces don't matter. Most people your age don't have good teeth and it's the last damned thing a guy will give a shit about trust me :)
Start showing them what they're missing and be who you are or you won't get very far. The right guy will seek you out. Also talk to guys, go on group outings etc. and chat them up. You may find this difficult at first but it gets easier.
There's nothing wrong with your stature or bust size either. The right guy knows this and won't care as it's you, the total package they want.
I would work with a teacher, parent or trusted people on your social skills, eye contact and ability to start conversations and steer them in the right direction. That will help you communicate to guys.
Finally, there's nothing wrong with being curious about sex or thinking of doing it but there is in it being rushed, unplanned and with the wrong person just to do it. It may be fun at the time but don't regret the who and the circumstances.
In the meantime, get researching and understanding more about sexuality so that when the time comes you are prepared and ready for a partner. If the person is experienced be honest that you aren't. I'm sure they will slow down and make you comfortable. A good partner would.
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Hello, I am a seventeen year old female. I love fashion and I love make up, I recently had gotten addicted to the new tv show Jane By Design. So, I was wondering about getting an internship for my favorite magazine, which of course, is Seventeen. I just don't quite understand, on the website it says that I must be able to receive college credits for my work, I don't know what that means. Can somebody help me out and tell me if they interned anywhere and if you liked it? Thanks a bunch! (link)
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This means that you must be enrolled in a college program where the internship is something that counts toward final grade in a required course. Take journalism for instance. You would earn a grade for that as part of a program in journalism.
Journalism is what they would be looking for you to have at Seventeen or any fashion magazine along with your knowledge of fashion you can't intern at any magazine if you have an inability to write or lack of clippings showing you can. Elementary Education won't help here.
You need to know the harsh reality of interning for that magazine or any major magazine. Don't get your heart set on being chosen. Odds are they won't get past the letter and package you send in because thousands upon thousands of people from all over the U.S. and elsewhere want 1 or 2 spots each year. I would try anyway but only after you get the college education they ask for.
Some internships a quality places other than Seventeen are easier to get and will teach you a lot. Just like any work place there's always politics, resentment or people being nasty to newcomers.
Then again, there are internships out there where it's bliss. You have to be well-researched and talk o people who have worked there and gain a sense of whether it's a positive environment and fit. I can tell you Seventeen may be a great place to work but it has its politics, is high-pressure environment and you have to be an extremely skilled writer, photographer or page designer.
You have choices to make but don't rush things. Think about them and consult parents, teachers and other trusted adults to get a sense of where your rightful place is.
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Im 17 and I recently found out I was pregnanedt I want to tell my family but im scared. My boyfriend already knows and he told me not to worry he'll take care of both of us he really is a a great guy but I was wondering how do I just tell my parents because im not confortable with talkin to them about certain things like sec and subjects related to it I guess thats how I got into this in the first place I just want the best answers to tell my family that im pregnant. Please and thanks for the help. (link)
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There's no right or wrong way to do this. It's unfortunate they never educated you about sex or made you feel that you couldn't ask.
If you can't handle face-to-face because you expect a volatile reaction you could always write a letter for the more understanding of parents and ask them to help you.
Do you have an aunt, uncle, grandparent close to your family that has advocated for you before? You could ask them to be with you when you tell them. You could also set up a meeting with both sets of parents and do it that way. No way is easy and they may be livid but will come around and support you.
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Okay, me and this guy he is 15 im 13 and im really confused he broke up wit me in august and it is now jan, he keeps calling me saying he loves me and i'm beautiful then he tells me about some other girls how they are beautiful he tells me everything them i tell him to go for them and then he says something bad about them now, i do not want to go out with him cause he has a girlfriend he always calls me and telling me that him and his girlfriend are not working out.. okay now get this he told me not to tell anyone about our conversations and stuff and my friend invited him to go to the movies with me and her and he tells her it would be to awkward... i remember asking him if he wanted to hangout and he said at your house? i said yeah sure and he said alright , now don't think i'm just stupid i no whats going on i just need to no your opinion and 1 more thing since he didn't wanna go to the movies with me i went with some other guy and now , he is all booty hurt and mad ? i don't get it tell me what i should do!! please (link)
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RUN!! The guy is bad news and class A jerk. Think about it he has a girlfriend and then he wants to hang out and you be a "secret girlfriend" He's crazy ;) I would cut off all contact and let him know he makes you uncomfortable. Certainly don't hang out alone let alone period.
He also knows if those secret conversations come out to his girlfriend that she'll have his head. He must think you aren't too bright or something if he thinks you would be cool with that. He's pretty stupid to assume that.
If it were you in her shoes you would hope that she would tel you what this guy is trying to do. I think you both should get together and teach this guy a lesson as what he's doing isn't right.
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Hi I'm 18 years old and I have a little sister who's 10 years old. I found her fingering herself on the bed on her bed but when I look at her fingers they were covered in cum!.
I have 2 question.
Is she going to be pregnant and how do I stop her fingering herself.
PLEASE HELP NOW!!!!! (link)
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At 18 you should have been taught that intercourse is the only way to get pregnant or a situation where semen enters a woman's vagina. It concerns me that you thought she could get pregnant through masturbation--which is what she's doing.
It doesn't have to be a sexual thing either. She could be doing it simply out of boredom or inadvertently discovering it felt good. It's nothing to worry about and doesn't mean anything bad. Unless you suspect someone molested her or showed her this than don't worry.
It's common in males about 90% do at some point and 77% of females. Any doctor will tell you it's normal and to leave her alone about it. Making a big deal and making her feel embarrassed, wrong or dirty or trying to stop and prevent it is detrimental to her.
What you should do is apologize for interrupting and tell her it's a private thing to do and make sure she's discreet so nobody else catches her at it.
There's a big chance your parents know she does it and know it's normal so it likely won't phase them any. You could mention that you caught her doing this and have no idea how to discuss it if at all. That would be your best move so that they could answer her questions and let her know it's fine and to be discreet.
Pretty much around puberty it becomes a universal thing where it may be sexually driven but at this stage has no connection or those feelings attached. She's normal, it's normal and there's no way she can harm herself. At age 10 there's also no presence of menstruation even so there's no anatomical way she could get pregnant and can't from this either.
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my friends are popular but i"am not that much. so when i hang out with their friends they ignore me I try to talk but its like im not even their. what should i do?????? (link)
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It's time you stood up for yourself. Next time you are with these people say straight up "I know you have been friends for a long time and I'm new but you people come across as very rude.
I've sat here each time and you've ignored me or cut me off whenever I try to speak. You should be ashamed of your behavior." It may not make them like you but it will show them you don't take snottiness lightly.
Stick with your true friends. You did what you could to interact with these other people and they have an attitude problem and total immaturity.
Tell your friends how you feel these other people treat you and that you would rather they tell their friends off or that you won't tag along when X is there etc. Your friends owe you this. They should stand up united with you and tell these other people they have no right to do this to anyone they bring as a guest without knowing them.
What can you do? Well, you've done pretty much everything right. You've been kind, open to them, hung back a bit until you could start conversations and have been friendly and as outgoing as you can initiating discussion but have been shot down.
It's time to realize that they aren't worth your time and that A) you stand up for yourself, B)Ask your friends to give them some grief or C) hang out with the core group of friends you have and either go along or don't associate with both groups available. Someone preferably your friends need to talk to these people and verbally kick their butts.
You aren't missing a thing if you aren't in the popular crowd. You are a leader and all these other girls are parrots repeating the same exact moves and always following somebody else. They're also more likely to get in trouble with sex, drugs, law, pregnancy etc. If they have an elitist attitude shutting people down like they do than forget it. They miss out on the good that is you. I wouldn't waste time trying to impress or win friends people who are jerks.
I would say to wait things out and see what happens if they plain didn't know you yet but if they shun you every time and cut you off when you try to talk than don't bother hanging with them.
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ok so im a 15 year old female and i have a problem with cutting myself in the last year ive been in a mental hospitiol 3 times i just love to cutt myself and its everywhere i can find and hide and i stopped taking my meds i hate them also i like blood alot now what should i do? (link)
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TRUST the mental health professionals who are caring for you. They have had thousands of people through the hospital ward and decades of experience in knowing how to treat your illness. And it is an illness that fuels the desire to self-mutilate.
Having bipolar I know the medications work and that you have to stay on them or you'll wind up in crisis over and over with a never ending cycle.
You never said why you HATE the pills and perhaps should have done so in your question. Is it the side-effects, sluggishness or weird feelings, inability to focus, function etc? If so, that's your mistake right there for not telling the doctor.
Your dosage may need adjusting so it fits you right and you feel normal. This takes time. You have to speak up with the doctor and tell them the truth about the drugs and things not going well. They will help you but you have to work with and not against them to get there. It takes time and you have to hang in there.
It's dangerous for you to have stopped taking your medication without being told to by a doctor. I've seen this scenario so many times with people doing this and having a crisis scenario and revolving door into and out of hospital wards for not listening to or following doctor's instructions to stay well.
You MUST tell your parents what you have done with stopping medication on your own, that you want nothing more than to self-mutilate, obsessed with blood and know you're in trouble or headed for it again.
They have to take you to see the doctor who prescribed the medication and made the diagnosis to get you back on medication as you can't stop/start on your own. You may need to re-enter the hospital but it's for your own good, well-being and safety.
You have to work with these people when in and out of the hospital as a team to keep you well. Thus far you haven't done so and that's one of the reasons though there are others for repeated hospital stints. Do the right thing and get help and take the diagnosis and meds seriously and eventually you can put this behind you.
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I heard on the news that sears and k-mart are closing a bunch of stores, but which stores are going to close?
Does anyone know the locations that sears and kmart are going to close? Like a list of stores that are closing or something?
Also! If I have a sears credit card does that mean that my sears card won't be any good anymore?
What about sears or Kmart gift cards? Are the gift cards still good even if you bought them at a store that is going to close?
Thank you! (link)
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That list of closings pertains to 2002 from what the article says at the top. When it comes to Sears and K-MART they're national chains. Therefore, and unless said otherwise all gift-cards, credit cards will work in any location not affected by closure.
How do you find out if your store is affected? Look up the phone number for the mall admin office or plaza admin and ask if the store is set to close. They'll know for sure because they have a lease with the store and if it's closing will know for sure when and why.
You can also find the number for the head office for K-MART or SEARS in the phone book or by visiting one of the stores and asking for it and you can ask them if X,Y,Z store will be affected.
Also, watch your local news. If this announcement of store closures is really new than you can bet that further information will be on the news and in your local paper as it pertains to your area and store.
You can also look in the phone book for the local TV station or newspaper and ask to be put through to the newsroom or an editor. Tell them you saw the story on K-Mart and Sears that they did and ask if they have any new info or know where the list of local stores affected can be found or if they have that info themselves yet. You should find an answer this way.
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i am a 13 year old female and i have never had a boyfriend or been asked out. my friends say im pretty though. i question if i really am though :(
people say i look like a 13 year old brooklyn decker but idk who she is. i have dirty blonde hair that is kinda long. i have really unique eyes though. they are like blueish green with a ring of yellow around my pupil and my eyelashes or normal length. i have straight white teeth and good lips. i have a bit of acne though :( and my body now: i have a fit lean muscular body. im naturally skinny and am not fat whatsoever i am very muscular though from dance cheerleading and volleyball. guys love my but though my nickname is bubblebutt. its firm and cute :) haha im not freckly but i have a light colored freckle in marilyn monroe spot.its like hers but lighter.my skin tone isnt fair but isnt tan im american caucasian. i am pretty petite i am 5'2 and weigh 100 lbs. i am also a 32A bra let me know what you think of my apperance! no mean comments please! thanks! (link)
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It's not what others think of how you look that counts. It's what you feel about your appearance and body that does. People can sense your insecurities about it.
You aren't ugly either. The thing with 13-year-old guys is that most aren't mature and are not sure whether they want to play with action figures or date a girl. Those who are ready likely feel intimidated by you or your popularity and don't ask you out.
What I would do is organize some group events and invite guys you like and try to develop something from there. Relax, 13 is pretty young to be dating and you will find the right person soon enough and it has zero to do with appearance.
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I'm a junior in highschool, during the school week I take my best friend Jessica to school and home ai dont charge her gas money. At the beginning of the school year we would hang out on weekends and basically every chance we got so I didn't mind giving her a free ride. but, recently she has only talked to me when it's convenient for her. She doesn't text me on weekends, like i'll text her on friday and ask if she wants to hang out and she'll never reply but then she'll reply to my text messages that involve her getting to school that following monday. Right now, where on christmas break I haven't hung out with her once! i've texted her so many times and she doesn't reply, i'll get on twitter and see her tweets. If thats not being used, then I don't know what used is. When we go back to school, I want to tell her either you give me gas money or no ride for you, but I don't want to be harsh about it. I've been thinking this through and I honestly dont want to give her a ride period but since we have the same first period and the same last period it's kind of hard to get out of that. How can I tell her from now on I want gas money without being rude? and how can I confront her about how I am tired of her using me again without being rude? (link)
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I would give her a floater on not being around during Christmas. That said, she is taking advantage of the situation when it comes to relying on you for a ride all the time and expecting it to always be there.
Unless you have an arrangement that this is how it is than you can and should approach her about it. She's the rude and inconsiderate one here NOT you. You have every right to request gas money as you're not operating her personal limo service 5 days a week.
Tell her "Jessica, I feel I have been kind in picking you up and driving you home 5 nights a week. The fact is, I make very little money and your house is farther than mine. From now on, I would like it if you would split the cost of gas or provide X amount per semester."
If she won't than it will show you immediately that you are being played. In the same conversation mention "I don't mind driving you or hanging out but have noticed aside from giving you a lift whenever you need it that you're never there for me when I need you."
If fireworks erupt so be it as they might need to so that she learns she can't manipulate people, you learn to stand up for yourself, and she gets that what she expects of people without reciprocating is wrong. Lay it out straight for her point blank.
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Im twelve and ive only had one period. I dont think my mom knows that i know what tampons are. i want to use them, but im afraid she might get mad or something. Im pretty open with my mum, but idk about this please answer! thx (link)
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At some point your mom will have expected you to experience menarche and for you to have told her about this happening. She will be happy for you and likely delighted to answer any questions or concerns about menstruation you have.
There shouldn't be a thing that's embarrassing about it for either of you as it's a normal thing that all females deal with. Why on Earth would you mother be mad at you for experiencing something that all girls will at some point or for wanting info on how to handle it effectively? I think she would be more upset if you didn't disclose this and ask her about tampons.
Just tell her privately what's happened and reason you want to use them over pads/liners. Most teens do because of sports, swimming etc. I would just tell her straight up and ask her outright about them. If you can be open with her about anything else in your life you can definitely be open about this.
There shouldn't be anything to fear here. You may think it's embarrassing but she was once your age and likely in the same boat talking to her own mother about it. It'll be fine. It's better to ask and be informed rather than experience difficulty with this.
You really should talk with your own mother however, if you have an older sister, cousin aunt, grandmother, friend's parent, health teacher whomever you also might trust you could ask them about their experiences and advice on what to do about tampons or not to do. I do think however, that just talking to your mom and getting over this initial talk is best. She's a girl too and knows you would someday approach with questions like these.
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Hey everybody well I have the best yorkie for three years the longest dog me and my family has had, and well I got a new 9 week old puppy for Christmas yesterday and my dog just won't except him, if my new puppy comes near my dog he'll growl and bark. He woun't even except treats when he pees which is bad because he's obsessed with his treats. It's really upsetting us all and it's making me sad because I want things to be good. So I was wondering will they get along like does my older dog just need time and that's all please help because it's disturbing and sad. We are woried that are older dog will even get sick over him! Any help will be appreciated thanks:D (link)
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They have to work things out on their own to determine who the pack leader is and it's important that you not react to what you're seeing as disturbing.
The growling, avoidance, and even what appears as fighting need to happen. Eventually, both will settle down in time. Your older dog will not get sick over this nor will anything bad happen to the younger dog. They're just sorting out who is the leader amongst them and finding or re-affirming their own place.
I've bred dogs on several occasions and know that this is true. Also, you might and probably have or will notice that the puppy snarls at you, might show teeth and try to push you around. That's him/her doing what he's doing with the other dog and trying to establish that he/she is boss over you.
You have to counter that. It's all 100% normal dog behavior. If your dogs weren't acting in this manner I'd be worried. I mean, if this continued for months you'd have a problem that needs a trainer but as it is right now it's normal and all about both dogs adapting to one another. What you have to do is let them do it no matter how ugly it appears to be getting. They won't hurt each other but do watch them together. It'll be fine. They both want to be top dog and that's what they are ironing out.
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The other day, I had asked to go to the bathroom during class, and my teacher had said yes. After I went to the bathroom, I noticed that my locker was open. When I went to close it, I noticed that the binder I needed for the class I was in was still in my locker, meaning that in my hurry to get to class, I had grabbed the wrong binder (my locker is right across from the restrooms). I got my binder, along with a textbook, and went back to class. Evidently my teacher thought that I had lied about going to the bathroom and had gone to my locker instead. He was angry with me (everyone was staring). I felt horrible because my favorite teacher thought I was a liar. After class, he apologized for seeming harsh, and he told me that he wasn't mad and he wasn't giving me a detention. Somewhat relieved, I wished him a merry Christmas and left. I still can't help but worry about
it. I feel like I unintentionally have hurt him and myself, and that he hasn't fully forgiven me for his idea of a crime. What should I do?
(Sorry it's a bit long...) (link)
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To be blunt you are making a mountain out of a molehill here. You told him what you were doing, he didn't believe you at first but at the end of the day he apologized and that should have been it. It clearly isn't on his mind anymore nor should it be on yours.
I'm sure that he doesn't think of you as a liar either. You're beating yourself up over nothing as to him it's not this big an issue. It won't affect his relationship with you unless you do something else he would have issue with.
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I'm M/16. There's a gal I like in school. I like her for many reasons and I just can't explain everything. My Junior class was having a candy-gram thingy. So I sent her one. She hugged me & said thanks. I thought that by now it would be obvious that I like her. But I don't see anything, I want to be able to talk to her and stuff. I don't even think the shyness is the issue. I think its because I don't know what to say, I have no experience and I don't want to say something that I shouldn't. Example: I was thinking of asking her if she was straight or not, but then I thought that's too much to ask, I would look desperate and rude. I'm like stuck. I need to know if she likes me or not and if she has any interest at all. I'm starting to think she doesn't. 8( (link)
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There may be a chance that she has no idea how you think of her or feel. The hug probably is something she normally does with people. It's easy to misread that one.
You need to understand that it's just as hard for girls as it is for guys to approach each other and admit how they feel. If she likes you this could be the issue. You aren't going to get anywhere with anyone without talking to them or becoming friends. Just treat talking to her like you would any other friend as it's really no different. She's not going to physically attack you or bite.
Find out from someone who knows her about whether she has a boyfriend and what her interests are. Talk to her about them. One way to gauge if she has any interest is to set up a group bowling or movie night and ask if she wants to go with you and friends. If she's not interested in you she will decline.
You have to try and approach her or you won't get anywhere. She's just as shy around guys as you are girls. Treat her like anyone else and see what happens.
Finally, it's nobody's business to inquire with someone about their sexual orientation. I'm sure if it were you that you would get pretty angry straight, gay, or whatever about being asked such a personal thing. Don't do it. It's social suicide, will annoy her and just plain wrong to do. Just because she hasn't noticed you yet doesn't mean she could be anything other than straight.
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I'm 20yo my bf and i have been together for a year now. He's my first for everything except sex. I'm a virgin. I love him but i change the subject everytime he brings up sex. I'm really scared of getting pregnant as contraceptives are not 100% safe. My friend once had a pregnancy scare and i dont ever want to be in that situation. The thing is he keeps telling me that i turn him on but there's nothing i can do about it and i'm afraid dat if i dont start doing something about it, he'll find someone else. I'm really confused (link)
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Let him find someone else because you don't need that type of guy who is selfish and puts himself ahead of you. If he genuinely values you telling him that you aren't ready won't be an issue. NEVER do anything especially to do with sex if you aren't fully ready nor to please someone else PERIOD. You'll always regret it.
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Okay, so this is a little embarrassing. I think I may have chafing in my vaginal area, but now I am freaking out about herpes because I searched it online and found that what I'm experiencing is one symptom of herpes. I don't think I have herpes though.
I believe my problem is masturbation. I tend to do this everyday or every other day, sometimes rather rough. Not vaginal penetration, just clitoral stimulation. But I read online that the friction and lack of lubrication can cause vaginal chafing.
Two months ago, I had a UTI that was cleared up with medicine but it was followed by a mild yeast infection which cleared up on it's own. Right after, the skin on the inner part of my labia started to peel which I learned sometimes happened after a yeast infection. So naturally, after the old skin was gone, there was a new layer which was more sensitive and vulnerable. This is when my problem began to start.
If I masturbate for a few days in a row, I develop a sore crack on the area above my clitoris that only hurts if I touch it. When this happens, I stop masturbating for a couple of days and it goes away. That's my only symptom. I have no abnormal discharge, no abnormal smell, no painful urination, no hard and sore bumps all around my genital area. All I have is just that one area of sore cracked skin. I believe it is caused by the friction of masturbating.
Does anyone have experience with this problem or is there someone who has an idea of what might cause this if it's not the friction? I don't think I have herpes, but I might get tested for STDs just to put my mind at ease.
Thank you. (link)
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You have to be careful with medical sites on the Internet. While many are written and staffed by professionals there are those that aren't. Either way it leads people to self-diagnose or think that they have a dreaded problem when they may not.
Unless you have reason to doubt a partners history, suspect cheating, or have concerns about who they have been with you might want to put off STD testing.
I think you have figured out what the problem is actually. It's from being too rough or vigorous without lubrication. It can cause irritation, soreness and the peeling you speak of. Similar things can happen with males. I'm sure that's all it is. After all when you stopped for several days so too did the problem described. That's all it is.
What it means is that your body doesn't produce enough natural lubrication which leads to the irritation, flaking and sores you described. You don't have much to worry over in my estimation.
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I brush my teeth twice a day and floss but i still have cavities. I'm 17 and i don't get to go to the dentist very often because my dad can't afford it. I know if you get a cavity in a molar they drill it and give you a filling, but what if its in between two of your teeth? Is there anyway I can get rid of them? /: (link)
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Most dental offices have cameras as well as standard X-Rays that show them exactly where the cavity is, how deep, and exactly where to start working or drilling from. In some cases cavities don't need needles for freezing. Instead they apply it as a gel on a cotton swab.
Yes, it's possible and highly so to get a cavity between teeth. I've had more of those filled than I would ever want but they happen and can be fixed with a little difficulty for the dentist and not much trouble for you pain wise.
You cannot be 100% sure you even have a cavity until their X-Ray machine says so. My question for you is do you have pain around a certain area or tooth? If so, when did it start? It could be more than just a cavity if the issue is discomfort or pain around teeth. Only the dentist can fix cavities.
While your father can't afford it I know that dentists offer all kinds of payment plans and maybe that can be worked out. If you know something isn't right about your teeth you must get it seen to soon as leaving it makes it worse.
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17/female
I have absolutely no privacy. I don't have a bedroom. My parents are home most of the time. So I don't get much if any time to masturbate. I also don't have a bathtub, as that has been suggested before: just a stand up shower with a very small bathroom so that doesn't give me much of an option either. Idk what to do. (link)
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What you need is a simple chain lock that you can slip back and forth or a small hook lock that works the same way.
That way you have your privacy when you need it in general to have your space to be alone overall. I know a lot of parents are opposed to locks on doors but you need to explain that you lack privacy in general and not even in the bathroom most of the time.
They aren't stupid and probably have suspected you have done this or will be doing this activity at some stage because it's normal and pretty much universal in teens and people of any age. Nothing really to be embarrassed over if they were to find out but I'm sure if you ask for a lock for privacy that they would understand you have no privacy in general without it.
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