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my "best friend" only talks to me when she needs a ride.
I'm a junior in highschool, during the school week I take my best friend Jessica to school and home ai dont charge her gas money. At the beginning of the school year we would hang out on weekends and basically every chance we got so I didn't mind giving her a free ride. but, recently she has only talked to me when it's convenient for her. She doesn't text me on weekends, like i'll text her on friday and ask if she wants to hang out and she'll never reply but then she'll reply to my text messages that involve her getting to school that following monday. Right now, where on christmas break I haven't hung out with her once! i've texted her so many times and she doesn't reply, i'll get on twitter and see her tweets. If thats not being used, then I don't know what used is. When we go back to school, I want to tell her either you give me gas money or no ride for you, but I don't want to be harsh about it. I've been thinking this through and I honestly dont want to give her a ride period but since we have the same first period and the same last period it's kind of hard to get out of that. How can I tell her from now on I want gas money without being rude? and how can I confront her about how I am tired of her using me again without being rude?
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she doesn't sound like a best frend to me. as i always say try talking to her but if that doesn't work you've got to think about what's best for you. tell her how u feal. that u feal used and like she doesn't want to b frends with u for u. sometimes we've just got to pore out our hearts and hope for the best but if we don't let people know how we feal they wont change the way they act and we'll go on fealling rotten.
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just tel her your short on mny can she help with gas at same time ask if she wants to stop for icecream at mcdee..
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I suggest that you approach your friend and say:
"Hey Jessica, you know, I was thinking and I think it's kind of unfair how I give you rides and everything but you only pay attention to me when it's about picking you up or dropping you off, I thought we were best friends? If you just want rides that's fine but I would would appreciate some gas money, I mean, I'm not your personal chauffeur!I give you rides, you give me money, no money, no ride, simple as that. Thanks."
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I would give her a floater on not being around during Christmas. That said, she is taking advantage of the situation when it comes to relying on you for a ride all the time and expecting it to always be there.
Unless you have an arrangement that this is how it is than you can and should approach her about it. She's the rude and inconsiderate one here NOT you. You have every right to request gas money as you're not operating her personal limo service 5 days a week.
Tell her "Jessica, I feel I have been kind in picking you up and driving you home 5 nights a week. The fact is, I make very little money and your house is farther than mine. From now on, I would like it if you would split the cost of gas or provide X amount per semester."
If she won't than it will show you immediately that you are being played. In the same conversation mention "I don't mind driving you or hanging out but have noticed aside from giving you a lift whenever you need it that you're never there for me when I need you."
If fireworks erupt so be it as they might need to so that she learns she can't manipulate people, you learn to stand up for yourself, and she gets that what she expects of people without reciprocating is wrong. Lay it out straight for her point blank.
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