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i need help on trying to quit thinking that my girlfriend is cheating on me
Hello! I need help on trying to quit thinking my girlfriend is cheating on me :(.. I'm 20 and she is 17... I love her a lot and I can't stop thinking that she is cheating on me! We have been together for 6 months and it scares me to think about it and I hate thinking about it! Its complicated to explain, sometimes she doesn't show that she loves me and every time I want her to hangout with me she says that she can't control it because of heer parents but yet she can still go and hangout with her friends! And when we do hangout we have a good time and sometimes we fight! I just don't know what to do :'(... Makes me angry! If someone could help me I can explain more! Thank you!
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She might not necessarily be cheating on you, she just might not be into intense relationships. Some people in relationships don't hang out or talk all the time while other people see each other every day. You should try telling her your concerns and she what her reply is to it, it is possible that her parents don't want her spending too much time with a boyfriend but they don't mind her friends. She should see though because ye are going out together after all. Everybody fights, that's not a big deal- it just depends on what ye are fighting about. If they are very serious arguements then that's not a good sign. If you feel she's not that interested then maybe you should take note of that and see if there is a relationship out there better suited to your needs
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Coming from a 19year old girl I can tell you my opinion about her. Have you ever asked her or implied anything about her cheating. Does she hangoutt with other guyss. And honestly bacck when I was 16 17. I was a lot more immature and I'd lie to a bf when really I could hangout. Maybe she's trying to end it slowly. Ir doesn't want to make you feel bad. I'm sorry :( maybe not to worth it. Its been six months shouldn't fight tooo much yet.
Kriss.
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Usually I wouldn't talk to someone like this, but in this case I think I will.
Man up. You're 20 years old. You're not a 15 year old little freshman boy.You're a grown man. You're the adult in the relationship. You need to wear the pants. Try not to be so sad. You have power in this relationship, don't let her upset you so much.
With teenage girls, its often hard to sit down and have a serious conversation about things, especially when her parents are a huge factor in the relationship.
Has she done anything to make you suspect she is cheating on you, or are you just paranoid? Has she said anything that would imply there might be other guys? If she has, it would be best to confront her about it directly. And don't even think about letting her guilt you into the whole "how could you think I was cheating on you, don't you trust me?" routine.
If she can hang out with her friends she can hang out with you. Don't accept a stupid excuse like that. And when you are actually together, what do you fight over? Make sure its not over stupid ****. There are way too many couples ready to start yelling at each other over the smallest things. Make sure you're not one of them. The both of you should try to have some patience with each other.
It would help if you could explain more, but from what you've said it sounds like typical teenage relationship bull**** drama that a lot of people have to deal with. Hopefully she is turning 18 soon. The more freedom girls have, the easier it is to have relationships with them. Parents have a much larger influence on teenage girls than they do on teenage guys. Once she is an adult the whole issue might become a whole lot easier.
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