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I'm puzzled ans shy.
I'm M/16. There's a gal I like in school. I like her for many reasons and I just can't explain everything. My Junior class was having a candy-gram thingy. So I sent her one. She hugged me & said thanks. I thought that by now it would be obvious that I like her. But I don't see anything, I want to be able to talk to her and stuff. I don't even think the shyness is the issue. I think its because I don't know what to say, I have no experience and I don't want to say something that I shouldn't. Example: I was thinking of asking her if she was straight or not, but then I thought that's too much to ask, I would look desperate and rude. I'm like stuck. I need to know if she likes me or not and if she has any interest at all. I'm starting to think she doesn't. 8(
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There may be a chance that she has no idea how you think of her or feel. The hug probably is something she normally does with people. It's easy to misread that one.
You need to understand that it's just as hard for girls as it is for guys to approach each other and admit how they feel. If she likes you this could be the issue. You aren't going to get anywhere with anyone without talking to them or becoming friends. Just treat talking to her like you would any other friend as it's really no different. She's not going to physically attack you or bite.
Find out from someone who knows her about whether she has a boyfriend and what her interests are. Talk to her about them. One way to gauge if she has any interest is to set up a group bowling or movie night and ask if she wants to go with you and friends. If she's not interested in you she will decline.
You have to try and approach her or you won't get anywhere. She's just as shy around guys as you are girls. Treat her like anyone else and see what happens.
Finally, it's nobody's business to inquire with someone about their sexual orientation. I'm sure if it were you that you would get pretty angry straight, gay, or whatever about being asked such a personal thing. Don't do it. It's social suicide, will annoy her and just plain wrong to do. Just because she hasn't noticed you yet doesn't mean she could be anything other than straight.
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