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Ex-Friend: I just wish she would apologize to me, what should I do? Try and be her friend again?
17/F
Me and this girl were really good friends, I told her things about a guy i used to be friends with a few years back, a lot of "secrets/personal information" And she promised not to tell anyone about it especially him. Well she ended up texting him all the time, and tried to become his friend. Then one day when I wasn't at school went up to him and said "you really need to text her she complains to me about you all the time" My best friend told me that he overheard their conversation. So i texted her after i found out to ask her why she did that and she freaked out saying that my best friend was a liar and all this stuff. then went to bed. I was going to forgive her if she said sorry within the next few days, but she didnt she freaked out about it more and turned it around on me like it was my fault and now we arent friends anymore. It's been almost 3 months and I kind of miss her, I don't know if it's because all of our friends are friends besides us, which makes things difficult sometimes. I just wish she would apologize to me, what should I do? Try and be her friend again, or what?
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Nope, you and this girl aren't really good friends.
I am not sure if you haven't ever had any friends treat you well, or if she really put on a good act for awhile, but she is a shady friend.
True friends don't lie, start drama, deny being jerks, freak out, or ignore you.
In fact, she may have been using you to get closer to him by acting all sweet until she had enough reasons to talk to him.
I can see her doing that as she seems really dramatic and she isn't trustworthy. You are better off without her because she has some pretty messed up behaviors.
You deserve better. I agree with the other writer, zip your lip when it comes to secrets.
Nothing good ever comes from gossip.
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Why would you want to be friends with someone that treats you like that? Not to mention why would you want to be friends with someone that didn't even say sorry to you? A real friend doesn't treat you like that. A real friend admits when they are sorry and begs for you to forgive them. If I were you I wouldn't try to pursue any further friendship with her because she obviously wasn't a good friend if she was treating you like this. I understand you miss her, but just because you miss her doesn't mean that you need to be friends again. You also can't make anyone say sorry to you its got to come from them!
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This is trivial and no boy or who said what to whom etc should derail a long standing friendship. People don't just end friendships based on this kind of stuff when it existed for years. This runs deeper believe me and trust me your friendship wasn't as solid as you believed.
All you can do is invite her to talk things out and go from there. Telling her that you miss having her as a friend is a good starting point.
Even if you are owed an apology don't go in expecting one or giving off the vibe that you want one and she's in the wrong. Nothing that you want accomplished will come of that. Actually, I'd let it slide and deal with the real reason your friendship fell apart as this doesn't make sense.
And one more thing, if you have secrets and personal information you don't want out there don't tell a soul even a best-friend as their temptation and or motives to use it are too great.
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