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my friends are popular but i am not
my friends are popular but i"am not that much. so when i hang out with their friends they ignore me I try to talk but its like im not even their. what should i do??????
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It's time you stood up for yourself. Next time you are with these people say straight up "I know you have been friends for a long time and I'm new but you people come across as very rude.
I've sat here each time and you've ignored me or cut me off whenever I try to speak. You should be ashamed of your behavior." It may not make them like you but it will show them you don't take snottiness lightly.
Stick with your true friends. You did what you could to interact with these other people and they have an attitude problem and total immaturity.
Tell your friends how you feel these other people treat you and that you would rather they tell their friends off or that you won't tag along when X is there etc. Your friends owe you this. They should stand up united with you and tell these other people they have no right to do this to anyone they bring as a guest without knowing them.
What can you do? Well, you've done pretty much everything right. You've been kind, open to them, hung back a bit until you could start conversations and have been friendly and as outgoing as you can initiating discussion but have been shot down.
It's time to realize that they aren't worth your time and that A) you stand up for yourself, B)Ask your friends to give them some grief or C) hang out with the core group of friends you have and either go along or don't associate with both groups available. Someone preferably your friends need to talk to these people and verbally kick their butts.
You aren't missing a thing if you aren't in the popular crowd. You are a leader and all these other girls are parrots repeating the same exact moves and always following somebody else. They're also more likely to get in trouble with sex, drugs, law, pregnancy etc. If they have an elitist attitude shutting people down like they do than forget it. They miss out on the good that is you. I wouldn't waste time trying to impress or win friends people who are jerks.
I would say to wait things out and see what happens if they plain didn't know you yet but if they shun you every time and cut you off when you try to talk than don't bother hanging with them.
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Seems like their not being good friends but their not really being a friend find other people to hang out with and that are nice and don't ignore u. It's not all about popularity. Sorry and good luck
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