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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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Hello,
I'm going to a sleep over on Friday..and I'm on my period what should I do while I'm sleep..tampon or pad? How long can you keep in a tampond?

Wear a tampon because you won't leak. I wore a pad to sleep once and when I woke up.. there was blood everywhere. Not good. When you're laying down, you bleed less and you won't really get TSS so if you wake up in the middle of the night, change your tampon. If not do it when you wake up in the morning.

Reputation Clean
Dear xO holLiSteR baBe
I am finishing off my
last years at my grammer school and I wanted to
finish it of a blast, however one of my best friends
Vicky M. is making it very difficult. First of all
we have a sleepover every Friday and for the past
several weeks she has been all caught up in talking
with the popular boys in the grade. I asked my mom
for advice and she says it's just hormones,
I am having a difficult time believing that.
Also every Saturday we hang out by the monkey bars
with a few special boys and every week she kisses a
different guy. I tried to talk to her and I did listen
to her response and the only thing she could say was,
"We are in eighth grade now and we soon will be attending
high school we have to be prepared." The reason I don't
think this is a healthy response because I don't want
her reputation to ruin our high school years . How can
I change her ways? Please Help!
Kim M, Oak Lawn Illinois

It's nice of you to look out for your friend and her reputaion but then again, you can't watch her every move and you can't always tell her what's best for her because she might take it the wrong way. Part of the reason that she does that is hormones but it's not exactly why. Like you said, they are the "popular" boys so that kind of answeres your question. She wants them to like her. It's simple. Even though she wouldn't admit that, it's true. She wants them to think better of her and she's basiclly showing off. Her kissing a different guy every week won't make her popular or "cooler" but she needs to realize that what she's doing is pathetic. She should just be herself and if she continues doing that, her reputaion will be ruined. People in high school will call her a slut, whore, anything really. You're being a good friend by being concearned and wanting to help, but if she's not willing to stop, just let her make her own mistake.

I know this may seem stupid. but i cannot stand freaking "popular" people. i have an advice collumn, and everyday i have a different message in my inbox from them like "stop being jelous of the popular people" or "why dont you wear preppy clothes and dress like everyone else? you'll never be popular if you do." and i sware im not jealous, and i wear all the same clothes they do. why do they think there the best? there really not that great. and i know im not a loser, so why do they call me one? they are all extremely mean, and full of themsleves. i dont want to be friends with them, but is there any way i can make them stop this? i really cant take it anymore and its really lowering my self esteem. pleaes i need help as soon as i can get it! thank you so so much!
love always.

oh bye the way if you are one of the popular people at your school, i'm really sorry im not being steriotypical and saying all popular poeple are like that. so please dont take thi the wrong way!

I know what you mean about that. In my school we have groups like popular people, goths/punks, smart people.. you get the idea. Anyways, I'm best friends with the "popular" people and I've been hanging out with them since a looong time but I don't consider myself popular. I don't even consider my friends popular. People's appearance effects their spot in school and who they are. Just because they wear certain clothes doesn't mean they own the school. Anyways, their idea or them being popular is all wrong. Popular people are supposed to be nice and everyone knows them and likes them.. not stupid bitches. They are saying that stuff to you because they want you to be like everyone else. They want you to be like them and don't ever do that. I know you're not jelous, you know you're not and so do your friends, so if you don't really like these people and you don't care about them, why are you letting their stupid opinions get to you? It's really good that you're not like them. I'm sick of people wearing the same stuff and acting the same. They need to be a little more original and themselves. They think they're the best because they made people belive they are. People let them boss them around, say mean stuff and just don't let them get to you. Stand up for yourself and don't let them talk crap to you. You're not a loser. They are actually the losers. Every one of them is probablly the same and it's kind of pathetic but still, everyone is different. You can't really make them stop so just ignore them. Who cares about what they say? You shouldn't. You know they're wrong and their opinion shouldn't matter. My attitude used to be like those "popular" people, but it's hard to explain why they're like that. Not all popular people are mean but I know you didn't want to offend anyone. Good luck. :]

i wear a thong, g-string, or sometimes go commando. would people consider me as a slut or a whore?? or anything lik that?

If people consider you a slut, they're seriously insance. Thongs and g-strings are just undies and you're not a slut. They obviously don't know what the defenition of a "slut" means. Just don't stick out the strings of your thongs so people can actually see it.

dis is knda weird n personal but here the embarrasement comes i dnt lke 2 finger i just use a remote to make the top part feel good nd i put it up N down when im doin it nd it feels great, is dis weird?

It's not weird. There is more then one way to masturbate. I just hope that you're the only one that used that remote..?

hi, I'm thirteen and I'm about 5'4 almost 5'5, and I weigh 133 pounds. Yeah, I'm overweight. and I'm going on a cruise on June 17th and if i could wish for anything it'd be to loose weight to look good in a bikini, and it's just not working, I'm done with wishing. I really want to loose weight QUICK. Please help.

sincerely,
girl without
figure.

I answered soo many of these questions and I always give the same answer. It's not that hard if you stay motivated. Eat healthy.. it's important. Eat 6 meals a day, 3 full and 3 snacks which is 6. Eat fruits and veggies. Not too many fats, sugars, soda, juice, junk food. Exercise. Walk, run, swim, play a sport; do whatever but just stay active. You should be losing 1-3 pounds a week and that's really good.

The song Someone by Bandcamp,does anyone know the lyrics to it.I have tired many sites,none work or have it.♥

I tryed to find it but they don't have lyrics to that song. Every other song by that band they have, but not that one. Sorry. :[

okay, now that we know that summer is coming, that means one thing; bikini's ! so, my question is, how do i get a flat tummy for the summer? in a really small amount of time, and easy. something easy like exercises ? please help someone. thanks ! =]

Are you seriously asking me this question? Getting a flat tummy is common sence and I've answered questions like this a billion times. Eat healthy and exercise. If you stick to it you'll be fine. I'm not trying to sound bitchy but seriously, use your head.

wats orgasum

Google it.

whats a good way to get rid of bacene...ive tried a whole bunch of stuff... but they havent worked for me. does anyone know any things that does help?

Nutregena Ace Body Wash. It's for acne on the back, shoulders, & the chest. I don't know if you tried it but it does work. Tanning and ocean water also gets rid of acne but if nothing seems to work, maybe you might need to get something prescribed.

well lately my parents have been bothering me a whole lot. and i ran away like once to my friensd house. and than i got in so much trouble. and than after that i got so tierd of my dad and ym mom. and in the car on the way home my dad said to me if i ever ran away again he would give me to a adopted family. and sometimes i just want to like leave and hurt him so bad. [i know that sounds bad but its true]. and im tierd of comming home. and i dont even want to live here anymore. and i want to leave so bad, but i can't even go to my friends house or go to the movies or anything. and my sister is 2 years older than me. and shes perfect. perfect grades and everything which isnt me. and im so tierd of being the one that gets the worst grades. well if i have a bad day and im not in a good mood when i get home its so annoying how my parents want me to be all nice when i get home. and im so tierd of being around them. do you have any advice?

thankss

I can relate to your situation. I was the same way except the grades part. I don't really know why I felt like that but I was tired of doing the same thing everyday and just fed up with everything at home. I hated comming home, talking to my parents because I just felt negativity from them. As time passed by, I was wrong. It's normal to feel like that but you should know that your parent's just want what's best for you and they want to see you happy even if it means ruining your day once in a while. They don't want you to be perfect but think about how you're treating them. You won't talk to them, you get mad at them, and you just don't care about anything but making yourself happy. I'm not trying to sound mean or anything but it's true. Even when you have bad days and your parents ask you about it, don't just yell at them and say NOTHING. Talk to them and show a better side of you. Since you're not the one who gets all the good grades and "perfect" like your sister, you can change that. If you tried a little bit harder at school and took it seriously then you can see how good you would do. Make your parents proud and show a better attitude. I understand what you're going through but there's no reason why you should push your family away. I know you just want to be with your friends and all but your parents have a reason why they don't let you go out. It's because of your attitude and they can't trust you as much as they used to. Running away wasn't the smartest thing you did. You made a mistake and just show your parents that you learned from it. Again, running away wouldn't solve any of your problems. When you got back home, I think you realized you just had to deal with it again. I hope you know that I wasn't trying to sound rude or anything, but I'm just being honest.

sometimes i feel tierd of everyone, and tierd of myself. when i was younger i was skinny, but i felt like i was fat. now im not fat but i feel like i am. and i feel like im ugly too. is there a rason why i feel like thsi alot?

I don't really get what your problem is. Is it about your weight or what? There might be a reason why you feel like that but no one can know why except you. I can't help you figure out your problems, that's all on you. I can just help you solve it.

I'm 12/f, 4'11 and 95 pounds. I'm not fat or anything, but is this a little too heavy? these girls at my school weigh around 80 pounds and i was wondering i weighed 2 much for my age. thanx!

Your weight is fine and you don't weigh too much for your age.

soo this is personal but.. sometimes down "there" it sweats really bad and smells. my mom says its normal and because its getting hot the pores open and sweat. is there ne way i can prevent it? after school i take a shower and change my clothes so it doesnt smell.

thanks.

I'm not sure how you can prevent it. Wear pany liners so it doesn't get on your underwear and after a while, change it.

i've been really moody about the past month or 2. does that make me bi-polar? what is bi-polar?
what is a sign of my moodyness?
help
thx in advance

Bi-polar is a kind of depression. It means you change moods a lot, you don't need much sleep, act happy & then get sad. It doesn't neceseraly mean that you are bi-polar. Stress can also cause mood swings.

this is the first time im trying to lose weight, so i just wanna know one thing. if i dont eat junk food, mostly healthy foods, cut down on my portions of food (i tend to eat to much), and exercise every night for around an hour.. how much weight do you think i will lose by the end of june? im new at this whole weight thing, so i have no clue. o and if it helps, im 13 5'2. thanks so much! i love your advice♥

You should be loosing at least 1-3 pounds a week if you stick to this.

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90102&navroot=clearance&productId=0352_5324

What skirt would go good with that cami? And what's a cute sweater I could wear over it? Please help.

Would this skirt go with it?
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90104&navroot=clearance&productId=0319_3046

That wouldn't go together. That cami is dressy and that skirt is sporty. A denim skirt would look a lot better.

k well theres this guy andi liked him since the beginning of the year. hes really popular and so am i. but i dont know if people will accept that he likes me. well i always try and talk to him and so do my friends. and he always talks to me & my friends ask him if they like me and he does the arms and says idk. i dont know what to do. should i ask him out? ps. he always stares at me and trys to talk to me and be next to me.
thankss for the helppp
i rate 5's

When friends ask guys if they like one of their friends, that really bothers them. It's really annoying and kind of stupid. Why should they care though? Tell them to stop asking and just talk to him and keep flirting. He's showing you signs that he likes you and he's flirting with you so just do it back. Smile at him and just keep up the conversations. He probablly does like you but isn't quite comftrable enough to ask you out. Just wait a little and see what happends. There isn't anything wrong if you ask him out, but when girls ask guys sometimes it gives them the wrong idea. They might think that the girl is desprate but not every guy thinks like that.

Alright on sunday my boyfriend fingered me, and this was the first time I've ever been fingered. It hurt a lot, and afterwards I bled a little. Now when I pee it burns and hurts a lot...

Is it normal for it to hurt or bleed the first time? And if he scratched me could it get infected?

Thanks

When it hurts it's pretty normal but it isn't supposed to bleed. He probablly was rough and ripped a piece of skin or maybe, possibly, broke your hymen. If it continues to hurt, get checked just incase it isn't serious.

Yesterday, my flow was pretty heavy, so this morning I put in a tampon and went off to school. It felt uncomfortable, and when I went to take it out, it hurt really bad then when it came out, it was almost completley white, with very little blood. It burned to take it out, and ever since then, I've felt sore down there.

Is there some wrong?

There isn't anything wrong but you defenetlly put it in wrong. You didn't put it in all the way so of course is was uncomftrable and white. Next time just make sure you put it all the way in and that you're comftrable before you leave. You'll be fine and you won't be sore for long.

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