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I don't know what to do anymore. Im so frustrated by nothing. Im mad and at the verge of crying all the time. Im bipolar and stuff. I've been feeling so out of it. What can i do to distract myself from how im feeling. I feel so lost. Please help. I just don't know what to do anymore! "/ (link)
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Here's what you absolutely MUST do. You really have no choice here you MUST proceed to the emergency room of your local hospital upon reading this and tell them your doctor's name and diagnosis of bipolar.
Tell them the TRUTH that you cannot function normally, cry all the time, are deeply frustrated and KEY WORDS "feel totally out of it." What it sounds like is that you are headed for a crisis that needs to be averted immediately.
I have bipolar disorder myself and I know from experience that you're in a lot of trouble here and headed for far worse if your doctor doesn't intervene pronto. Your medication levels are WAY OFF and they have to fix it or even change the drugs you take as they aren't working. It could be as simple as changing levels and or more complex.
At the ER tell them your doctor's name, your diagnosis as bipolar II, how long you have had the illness, the info I mentioned above and have their on-call psychiatrist assess the problem.
I know you want to stay as far away from a hospital ward as possible (and I feel that way too) but you have to do the responsible thing as this is life altering business if you don't and get help now rather than when the full hurricane hits you.
The doctor may decide to put you on a 72 hour hold. All this amounts to is a brief hospital stay where they will monitor your condition, rectify the medication and make sure you can function as close to normal as possible.
In the event they think you're delusional again or headed for it they will keep you in longer to make sure no harm can come your way. This isn't great but in many ways it's best for you as they make sure your condition is in 100% check.
So, do yourself a massive favor and head over to the hospital tonight and get helped as you will be saving yourself a world of hurt in the process. Write me back to tell me how things are after.
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Ok, so this boy who is in my grade, and 12, (I'm 11 soon to be 12) really hates me, and I want to talk to him when Spring Break is over. Unforchanetely, (please exuse my awful spelling) every time I try to practice what I'm going to say in my head, I either get insulted after "hi" or there is a really really awkward silence. What should I say after "hi", asuming it's the awkward silence option? Oh, and a few addition details is that he is always surrounded by a bunch of people and if you didn't figure this out for yourself already, I have a crush on him. Kk, thanks, any advice helps! Just no advice telling me to not talk to him I yet that enough from my friends! Thank you! :D (link)
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Why waste your time with anyone who won't give you the time of day and to be blunt treats you like shit? Not to swear for the sake of swearing but he sounds like a real asshole when you think about it. Why have a crush on someone like that?
For every person who treats you like that there's 20 that will give you the time of day. Trust me, if he hates you now there's no chance in hell he will improve nor want a relationship. I think you shouldn't waste time on him as he's bound to say or do something mean if he finds out.
I would introduce yourself to him and ask him what his freaking problem is when it comes to you just to know for reference and move on hard as it may be and realize the crush is fantasy and reality is he's a jerk.
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hey.. im only 13.. i want to be with god. i dont want to live anymore. BUT hey thin about it.. wouldnt it be better with him. no drama no bullies no nothing bad!!!!! yes. i should live my life but. thats kidan hard when i wanna die. i need help. please. please. please. help me........
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There's a bible verse that goes "the kingdom of God is within you." You don't need to die to feel or know God. You just have to awaken to the fact he's already there and turn towards that. Heaven and hell are states of mind.
I'm not trying to be religious but rather trying to show you that you can already experience this without dying if you change your thinking and outlook.
If you are being bullied relentlessly tell every adult at school or in your life exactly what is happening and that you have thoughts of suicide. They will help curb the bullying and find you a psychiatrist (you need one) to talk to about depression, counseling, medication and thoughts of death and straighten that out for you. You need help and have to get it. Hang in there it does improve. You have tons to live for and experience beyond 13.
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So to give some backstory my father was am obsessive lier (i didnt know him) however i recently Lied to my mother about handing a form into my school (which was an accident)and now she will not trust me with anything and asks how can i trust you. How can i deal with this situation also she had clinical depression and so do I. (link)
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Clinical depression and habitual lying have no correlation. The fact your father was/is a pathological liar isn't the reason you lied. However, it may play a part in the reason your mother won't trust you.
She's come to expect people in her family lie in the same fashion he did. That's her problem--trust issues and not yours. What should you do? Well you should say "I was wrong to lie about handing in the form when I forgot and did so to avoid punishment here and at school."
Be honest and direct and admit the lie and reason for it and tell her you'll act like an adult in the future and not lie even if it means something negative happens for the truth. Then comes the tough part FOLLOW THROUGH! She needs to see through actions that you mean it.
In a separate conversation when she's in a better mood (and you have to have the conversation inevitably) tell her that you know your father was a bit of a schmuck and pathological liar and hurt her but that you have no desire to hurt her or lie your ass off about everything and won't. Explain your depression and hers as well as dad's problem hold no links other than an irrational fear."
Tell her this trust issue is one you both need to deal with when you see your psychiatrist next as there's more to this lying thing and her reaction than the stupid form and she has to see lying isn't something handed down or a part of your illnesses either.
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hello, so i'm looking for excersise ideas that will help me loose weight.
The only trouble is, months ago i was in an accident, and my injuries (right shoulder, knees and hips) prevent me from doing thinks like biking running standing for long periods of time, stairs or lifting weights.
Ive gained at least 15 pounds since my accident, and i would really like to somehow get back in shape. Ive always been the type where i needed both heathy eating and movement to shead the pounds.
Any ideas on physical activity that would be low impact yet get my heart rate going? I was thinking swiming, but thats all ive come up with so far!
Any ideas welcomed!
Thanks :) (link)
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What you should do is ask your doctor for ideas that are safe for exercising with your injuries. They may tailor design a program. Using a treadmill would help, swimming is excellent too.
Its best to ask your doctor as nobody here wants to see you get hurt by recommending anything your doctor doesn't want or that could make things physically worse. Your doctor knows exactly the right exercises, diet plan etc. to get those pounds off.
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This is hard to explain but I've been thinking about what to do in life and today a new idea hit me! so I often have a unique perspective of things and I realized my unusual comments about a subject from my point of view really get people thinking and really listening to what I'm saying. So my question is are there any kind of jobs where you can voice your perspective on things that others wouldnt normally think of in that way? I want to do a lot of things and I want to have a voice in the world although public speaking at this point of time is not my strong point. Thanks for reading please leave comments and thanks :) (link)
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Journalism. Right now while you are still in school you could start your own blog site and share your views and get feedback. You have the audience but just need to design and show them your platform for your work. Alternatively, you could do pod-casts.
While I am not out to promote anybody's web site or affiliated with any of these recommendations nor want to give them a plug on my column I know for sure that they'll help. http://www.teentalknetwork.com is one site you should check out as they produce professional pod-casts on teen subjects hosted by teens. Try pitching them your idea.
Also try Teen Ink Magazine (Google Search it) as they do print and electronic magazines with teen writers. Also try http://www.ypress.org as they do the same thing and their editors could at least tell you how to get your views out to an audience.
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I'm a senior in high school. I just turned 18 like 5 days ago. There is this sophomore in my high school who really likes me but I dont like him in that way at all. He cant take a hint. He always texts me and writes me on facebook. When I dont respond, he still texts me like every 3 hours. I dont know any other way to tell him to leave me alone without being mean. Can you please help me? Thanks. (link)
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Be direct. Keep all your Facebook stuff printed that he's said. You may need it. Write him "I'm sorry I'm feeling extremely uncomfortable with all the texts and e-mails. Please stop. Honestly, it's a bit much. I'm not interested in being friends or anything else with you. Please let this be the last e-mail from you."
That will do it. You can always block him on Facebook but I would wait to see if he responds again. Show your parents the texts, e-mails etc. and if he won't leave you alone tell your teachers or admin to deal with it for you.
The thing is this is likely an innocent thing and not an obsession in a dangerous way but an obsession non-the-less. He may have no idea how to relate to girls, has social skills that suck at best and genuinely likes you but the approach is wrong. Either way deal with as I suggested as that'll stop anybody.
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I have an interview for a job in several days (the 15th I believe), and I'm pretty sure I will be drug tested. I am most definitely not a frequent smoker. I've only tried weed four times in my life. Unfortunately, twice was in the past month. What will have been 25 days prior to the test, I drank bizarre weed infused vodka and what will have been a week before the test I took one hit at a party. I'm not sure the hit would really show up in the drug test, as I don't think I did it right. I am a 19 year old female and 5'4 and about 135 pounds. Do you think I will test negative? Does anyone have any detox tips? (link)
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The only way to successfully pass a drug test is to never have done drugs in the first place. Information I have looked up varies on how long marijuana can stay in the system. Occasional usage usually means 10 days in the system. If it's mixed with another drug...
If this happened nearly a month ago I would think you are fine. I don't have any detox tips for you but I hope you'll see what drugs even if used once or twice can cost you especially if you want this position.
I'm not (nor are any of us)medical practitioners or lab employees so what test they give and what can or will show up still isn't 100% I don't want to steer you wrong. I would do the interview, the test and worry about the result when it happens as I think enough time has past.
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So I have been seeing this guy who Is three years older than me so my parents don't know about our relationship and he mentioned oral sex a few times. I trust and love him and I'm ready but he said fingering will be nice. Hedoesnt pressure me though. My parents are very protective and they will take me to the gynecologist if they feel the urge to. So my question is, is fingering me going to break my hymen? And I use tamponsos there a way for me to see if it's already broken? (link)
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It doesn't break or pop but rather stretches or tears. Odds are it has already done so through falling, certain sports such as riding, tampon usage or self-touching. It has NOTHING to do with virginity as any gynecologist would soon confirm anyways.
Even if sent to one they can't tell your parents by law a thing. If you don't want them in the same room let alone office they can kick them out at your request.
Your decisions about your body and sexual activity are yours to make good or bad not your parents. Yes, they have right to be concerned and to properly educate and prepare you for later but the choice is yours regardless of approval but make darn sure you are ready and guard against consequences.
Tell your boyfriend your concerns and that you have been heavily sheltered, fear what your parents will do and want to proceed but when it's right and you feel secure in doing so. Don't rush in just because he wants to even if he hasn't pressured. If you are too worried about parents and this it means it's time to wait a while longer until you can make the decision for/against without worry over their over-reaction which may/may not happen.
ADDITIONAL: Wikipedia has an article on the hymen and different types. It contains medical diagrams that shows what each looks like intact so it could give you an idea of what it looks like if not present.
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So, me and my boyfriend are deciding to take it to the next step. and we were talking about fingering and handjob but the thing is i get really wet when we do stuff and i feel like he will be grossed out how to i stop myslef from getting really wet or aviding it when it comes to the moment. (link)
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Can you control when you sneeze or cough? Much like that this is a normal bodily function you haven't control over. It just happens when turned on and it's totally normal. There's nothing to be ashamed of. Your boyfriend knows and loves you and won't be grossed out.
Just explain to him what usually happens and your embarrassment and I know he'll understand and might even think it's a good thing as his ego may boost as he will feel that you're really turned on by him.
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Im in school right now and recently I've been extremely depressed in school Ive cried randomly in my classes within these 2 weeks and idk what to do cus I'm so bored as well I don't do anything all day till my final class which is math I graduate in June and I'm a senior but when I'm in school I get sad being around a lot of people and I want to know if I can do anything to make time go by faster or something (link)
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Do yourself a GIANT favor and tell any and all adults you trust about these crying spells and sudden depressed thoughts. It's vital you do as this is and or can be signs of a mental health issue especially related to cycling moods and or depression. It won't fade on its own.
Tell them how uncomfortable you are, how long the crying spells have been going on, as well as how long your mood has been shifting from content to depressed to back again on a sudden cycle.
Next, you need to go to an emergency room as it's an emergency and tell them your moods are constantly changing, you feel suddenly depressed than back to normal and cry for no reason.
They will have an on-call psychiatrist (don't be afraid but be 100% honest) talk to you, figure out if its a mental health issue and likely prescribe medicine and provide counseling. This person cannot and will not put you in a hospital at all unless 100% delusional or of harm to yourself or others so no fear here talking to one.
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For the last two months I've been going through some depression, though it's not always a constant thing. That is, I guess it's always there, but I can only feel it for a few days at a time before it fades. I go about 3 days where I feel fine, but then I drift into 3 days where I feel horrible. I know the roots of it are in self-loathing brought on by relationship problems, drug abuse/dependence, etc.
I can feel it coming and I can feel it leaving. I just started therapy, so I don't necessarily need advice on what to do -- I'm just interested in knowing if anyone else has gone through the same thing, and whether medication was necessary. (link)
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I will be blunt based on experience. Get rid of the therapist. They aren't doctors nor trained to deal with any aspect of depression and often get people in trouble.
Some are good, but if you have depression you need to be talking to a psychiatrist--a specialist and not anyone who isn't. A psychiatrist will assess your illness, figure out how to treat it and if necessary put you on medication.
Now here's the major area of concern. You mentioned that the depression comes and goes and majority of the time you feel content, then you get a period of depression for a few days, and then back to content. It's a cycle and it could mean you have a mood disorder here and not depression as this is a signature sign for that.
You need to keep a watch out for how often it changes first of all, whether you have racing thoughts, insomnia, and anything grandiose in your thinking as that's signs for bipolar.
I would definitely see a psychiatrist and have them diagnose what is wrong as a therapist cannot do that and help you in the manner you need.
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I'm a bit confused on something
If you have a ceremony but aren't legally married would you be able to take the last name of your spouse or would it need to be a legal marriage?
What exactly makes a marriage legal?.....What is the difference between a ceremony and a legal marriage?
Also, If you had a ceremony would you still refer to others as husband and wife? (link)
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I'm not a lawyer nor am I an American or European for that matter. Laws vary by state in the U.S., nationally and Europe is a whole other ball of wax.
I do know enough to answer your question in part without running into trouble or leading you astray. If really concerned call a lawyer or call city hall and ask them about laws on marriage and being legally married and they should know that.
If you have a ceremony without a piece of legal paper saying you are married it's a civil union between two people from what I've been told. You can take on another person's name but must legally change it for the name change to be your legal name.
Again, I am not a lawyer but what makes a marriage legal is that piece of paper saying you are legally husband and wife and it's recorded as such.
Would you still refer to your partner as husband or wife without the legal ceremony? Yes, you can in fact do that. It's true! After you live as a couple for a certain amount of year (again check the law in your area) you're known as common law married. The law sees you then as husband and wife. Again, check the laws but this is all based on what I've heard and or read.
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last night i was looking at my boyfriend Facebook and some girl posted a status saying "I hate sleeping alone, I need a boyfriend with money" he clicked on like and told her "I have money, a living room and a kitchen" she just said "hehehe" but every time she wrote something he would like her comment! There is another girl that i don't want him talking to because she has feelings for him and he knows this. Well last night she wrote a status saying"I didn't went to school!~My clock" He licked her status. Why would he do that.? I just don't understand him. I don't want to tell him anything because I already talked to him about it, but look now. Im so confused. What do you suggest me to do? or if you were in this situation what would you do? :'( (link)
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Liking someone's status update doesn't make him a cheater. Maybe he found the above line humorous as it was intended by the writer.
The second statement about missing school because she didn't set her clock is also a benign statement. It doesn't matter that she likes him or not as nothing said nor liked was inappropriate.
Nothing here suggests he's even interested in these girls nor cheating, nor thinking of it. The problem is you FEAR this and jealousy and insecurity are eating at you. RELAX! Unless he gives you ample reason to be concerned don't be as that will push him away rapidly.
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I am thinking of having my birthday party at a hotel. I know it happens a lot but I dont understand how thats possible. There will be alcohol... obviously so everyone will be drinking and it just seems like a hotel room would be too small and sense we will probably be pretty noisy it seems like we would get complaints and be kicked out or have to pay extra or something. Plus there will be a few underage girls there so I wouldn't want the cops called on us... can that happen in a hotel or would they only tell you to keep it down?. I dont understand how its possible to have a party at a hotel. Advice, Tips? PLEASE!!! (and also if you know some of the best hotels to have it in that would be cool too. I live in Utah by the way) (link)
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The person renting the room by law and by agreeing to the rental is responsible for EVERYTHING that happens there from property damage, under-age drinkers, drugs, assault of any nature, noise etc. It all comes back on them and yes people can get arrested or in trouble with cops.
I remember not too recently in Toronto that an entire graduating class from some school went in on several rooms. Things got out of hand and almost all the rooms in the newly renovated motel were destroyed. It's still being figured out who is responsible and who gets charged.
It's a pretty bad idea in my opinion to rent a hotel room and many won't these days to people under a certain age even if they're 18 out of fear.
I think what you should do is find a hotel with a small ballroom or party area you could rent and have the party supervised there, your dancing etc, gift exchanged and let the hotel staff man the bar, cut people off, or deny under-aged people at their discretion. You aren't on the hook that way.
As far as a room goes for yourself and a partner that's up to you. If you decide to rent one on top of the party don't let people know you have and keep them out. That's the only way I see you can avoid problems with a hotel.
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hi everybody! well im always depressed i accually almost commited suicide a couple of days ago i quit i cut the line, if you get what i mean… i dont wanna leave my friends and family everbody describes me as a happy person… its all fake im never happy i just try to be for everyone elese someone get me out of this rut...!? i have a great life i dont understand why im so depressed maybe im missing somthing im not sure… (link)
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You have an illness. It's clinical depression and it doesn't matter to it whether normal life should be happy and great or not. It can get anybody and make them feel as low as possible and even contemplate death. It has nothing to do with class either. It's something random and in some cases genetic that grabbed a hold of you.
What you have to do now is get professional help as this is something that doesn't fade or go away on its own. You should go to an emergency room and tell them what you feel and be 100% honest about a suicide attempt in the past.
You're in crisis mode and need their on-call psychiatrist to diagnose, treat you and start you on the right medication. You have to and can't let this slide. It's your life you have to get it in check. Even if they put you in the hospital to sort things out it's better to be safe with them than not as this thing hits like a hurricane if ignored.
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He doesnt have a foreskin and it's really hard to give him HHS like it Dosent glide like if he had one I don't know what to do use lube? Because I don't wanna hurt him and it's uncomfortable for me. I don't know what to do (link)
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This is actually a pretty interesting question. Prior to the '90s it was expected and North American parents didn't question doctors to have baby boys circumcised.
You grew up with boys who were uncircumcised and never saw anyone who was circumcised. You NEED to tell him this, that you find it uncomfortable and haven't a clue what to do. Just be honest about it.
It will save embarrassment and he'll understand. He's the expert on his body and what he enjoys so it's better to ask him what to do than run into a bad situation. You can't hurt him but he can become uncomfortable otherwise.
We can't give you any info bordering technique or how-to on this site so it's best to talk to him. Don't want to sound dense but not sure what your HHS acronym stands for. Perhaps others might not know either.
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Im 16 years old, almost 17. I've never had a boyfriend, i've never kissed a guy, i've never been drunk, i've never done drugs, and I don't go to parties. At my age that's all my friends want to do. They get drunk/high, they go to parties, and they hook up with guys. I feel like such a loser because I have no intentions of doing any of that stuff anytime soon. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about with my friends because that's all they talk about. Like everytime i've gone to little get togethers with them everyones smoking weed or drinking, and I just stand there awkwardly. There's been times where I want to try it, but theres just something in my head that tells me not too. What would you think of someone like me? should I continue to be the way I am? are there any other teens out there like me? should I just let go and open up to new things? What does being high/drunk feel like?
do people at parties who do get messed up all the time think badly about the ones who don't? HELP! (link)
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They have no idea yet but these people who are always on drugs, drinking and partying either hit rock bottom or die. There's no escaping what that lifestyle does. It destroys your life and you one way or another.
I know you badly want to fit in but you shouldn't sacrifice morals, beliefs, principles and what feels right for you. What do I think of you? I think you're normal and wise enough to know that this lifestyle is destructive and they're self-destructive. You see and know the reality of what they're into.
Are there other teens like you? You can bet on it! People just don't advertise it. If you want to meet them I suggest talking to people with MADD in your area and asking them where you can meet people who don't drink or do drugs as they would know of groups. There's an idea.
That voice in the back of your head is one of reason and if it's saying "don't" it always knows what it's saying. Being high or drunk is being completely out of control of body and mind to make the slightest decision or function.
Cocaine for instance is a high feeling that doesn't go away for a long time, parceled with inability to sleep, no concept of time, poor decisions, sexual or otherwise and grandiose ideas/delusions in most cases. Not fun. Why anyone does it mystifies me too.
There's nothing wrong with not ever doing this stuff--it fact it's the sane choice. As far as drinking goes as long as it's 1 drink and done on a special circumstance it's okay if you know where that limit is.
As far as boyfriends and kisses go it will happen. Eventually, the right person will meet you and you'll both know it when it happens. This has nothing to do with age.
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Hi!!! ok so i like this guy in my class and i DONT know if he likes me!!! why? well cuz sometimes he's nice and super cool and funny!!! (which is what i like about him!!!!) but on some days he's sooo mean!!!!! (and a a**hole) i DONT even know if he likes or not!!!! he even ask me out then said he would NEVER go out with me!!!! (which really hurt my heart!!!!) HELP!!!!!! (link)
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With all due respect the individual who gave advice saying this person was either bipolar or in need of a shrink wouldn't know bipolar disorder if he ever really saw it.
This kid is just a teenage boy not unlike any other it's what they do especially when immature. If they like you one day they'll show it and the next day for reasons unknown but to them they try to repel you. To him it's just a cat and mouse game.
What should you do? Don't take it so seriously. Next tell him that someone who likes me would never hurt my feelings like that or pretend to be interested. How would you feel?" Maybe he'll see what he has done. If I were you I would even say "What's your problem? You're really coming across like an A-hole (use that word to illustrate what he's done. and let him fend for himself.
Wait and see how he acts after that but I would have to wonder why you would want to be with someone who treats you like this. A lot of guys before they mature play games like this with girls they like and as they mature or get told they're acting like idiots it fades.
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how can i get back my document on my mac? just now i found my document lost and i can not find it anywhere on my mac! anyway can help me ? manythanks! (link)
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Did you purchase Apple Care? If so call them first because they give you tech support for 3 years. If you don't have that click on the hard drive icon and search by home folder, documents, recycled folder and in pages by whatever you called it. If you saved it it's probably on your computer and saved to a different place.
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