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suicide: I want to be with god. i don't want to live anymore
hey.. im only 13.. i want to be with god. i dont want to live anymore. BUT hey thin about it.. wouldnt it be better with him. no drama no bullies no nothing bad!!!!! yes. i should live my life but. thats kidan hard when i wanna die. i need help. please. please. please. help me........
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Just think about all the things you would miss out on. You having a family of your own and seeing them grow up etc.
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I apologize beforehand if this is too blunt.
If you commit suicide, you're being selfish. How do you think your mother would take it? Your father? Grandmother? Grandfather? Brother? Sister? Teacher? Best friend? Family friends? Aunt? Uncle? Niece? Nephew? Boyfriend? Girlfriend? (you didn't mention your gender ^_^ ) Anyone else I didn't mention?
You're being a coward. If you can't fix your internal/emotional/social problem alone, go seek help. A guidance counselor at school or a therapist will be able to help you through this. Maybe even reading these answers from people who care will at least help. Before you even think about a therapist though, tell a friend, if not, a parent, then if not you go to a guidance counselor, and if even they can't help, ask if there's a local therapist that can help. Don't be weak. That says enough. If you are being bullied... there is so much to say about that... you have NO idea! If you check on my page, there's a couple of questions like this I've answered. Long story short, bullies are weak people (they want to belittle you to feel better about themselves) who won't even be relevant to you when you get older. You would probably even forget that they exist by the time you go to College or are in High School, who knows. Now that I remember, in my life I had 5 people so far who have TRIED to be my bully. Their ATTEMPTS to make me feel bad about myself only worked for one day, just one time. After that one time, I would just laugh in their face and say thank you (a really good strategy. It confuses them, you should try it!). I would attach a link to the girl on YouTube who helped me get through, but sadly, I recently found out that she deleted her account. Just in case someone knows who I'm talking about, her name was something like xxBariBeexx
Anyway, back on topic, when you do something like this, you leave the people who love you behind. DO NOT say that nobody loves you. I don't care if only one person loves you (God) it's not your time. If you were meant to die, you would have died already. He would have given some sort of sign or just SOMETHING to let you know he was ready. You need to be thinking about the future and picture yourself happy, go back in time (in your head) & think about how life would have been if whatever thing that's making you depressed didn't happen. It gives hope that things will change, and they will, unless you just sit there crying in a corner. Learn to open up.
I had a friend (and many, many, many more...) saying the same thing as you and they didn't kill themselves and MOST of them thanked me later for talking to them (individually and at different times in the year) like I'm talking to you. Give it some time and you'll see that you'll be thinking, "she's right" because I've repeated this so many times you have no idea. My friends swarm only to me with things like this, sadly, but I love to help, so it's not a problem, but it makes me sad to think that a friend like me is so rare for them.
You won't be with God if you commit suicide. He will send you to hell because suicide is a sin. So your argument is invalid. Besides, you're 13! You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't you want to know what your kids will look like? Don't you want to see how your kids will look? How successful you'll be? If you don't, that's fine, but do yourself a favor and keep living your life, it does get better, and I know if you follow my advice and your friend keeps telling you this, it is not just something we say. It is true. Trust Me, I've been through this too.
Have you thought about getting a dog, or any other pet? When people say they're therapeutic, they aren't kidding. Last year I asked my parents for a guinea pig and I remember I would walk into my room when I was crying or just wanted to smile, (I calm down first, because whenever I cry I get mad) I'd pick Brownie up out of her cage, brush her hair, feed her, clip her nails if she needed it, and just talked to her. Just taking care of her made me feel better because it helped me remember that someone needs me and someone loves me, even though I had many friends who could've helped, I knew they wouldn't understand what I'm going through.
Sadly, I moved two days before last Christmas. A few months before that, my dad told me I had to get rid of her, because our new house was way too small, and the climate was too extreme for a guinea pig. (I had a 2x3 C&C cage, and that isn't that big, but for this house it is.) So I decided to give her up for adoption. The adoption center was an hour from my house, and I offered to pay for gas on the way back and anything else that came up, because it was my idea. But before I even knew about the animal adoption center, we looked in a Pet Smart to check if they took animals. Of course they didn't, and miraculously the same day we went in there was a woman that said she'd take care of Brownie while my family went on vacation to Dominican Republic for 2 weeks. (this was late June of 2011 by the way) She saw the tracks of the tears on my face and offered right away. I thanked her and asked how much she wanted. She looked at me and said, "No charge." I couldn't believe my ears. There really should be more people like that woman in this world.
I'm telling you this because when the woman offered to take care of Brownie, I'm sure it was a message from God, ans as I write this I cry. I can feel him in this room with me. He was telling me not to give her away. Either that or something else, I really don't know and I'm still trying to figure it out. Sadly and unfortunately, I didn't listen to him. The point is, animals are amazing creatures that stay in your heart forever. I miss Brownie, and I don't know where she is now, but I hope whatever new owner she has now has done his/her research, because Brownie deserves it.
Once again, I'm sorry that this seems like I don't care or that I'm yelling at you, but trust me, I'm not. If I didn't care, why would I take 2 hours out of my homework (and sleep) time to answer this question? I don't like to see things like this, it makes me sad to think that something like this is still happening to good people, who become victims of themselves because of a few useless words from some other person's mouth, who doesn't even matter.
I hope this made you feel better and more importantly, change your mind about your decision. If it didn't then I didn't do my job.
God bless you. :) Goodnight.
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I've wanted to die so many times before. But i never knew how i wanted to die. Dying isn't going to do you any good. Does it make your pain and problems go away? No, it just leaves them unanswered. You may think it helps but it really doesn't. How would your parents,friends, or siblings feel about this? If you don't care for your life some one else does. God cares. He knowa when he wants you to come to him because he will grab you himself. Just hold on until he does. There must be some good times in your life to look back on. If not just be patient and wait for them to come.
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First off, to that who-ever-the-Hell-you-are who told her it was a sin, thats sooo not the way to go about it .
Suicide is never the answer, believe me, sweetheart . Two years ago, my mother committed suicide, no one in my family has been the same since . Imagine what your friends would think, or your family . The world has enough tragedy as it is, a beautiful gift such as yourself shouldnt be tortured with this thought . If you truly feel this way, you should talk to someone, a teacher or something . I know how you feel, Ive tried . But I talked to my teacher, and a counselor, and a therapist, and a whole bunch of other people, and its getting easier for me to get up in the mornings . I hope Ive helped .
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If you believe in god you would no that suicide is a sin. Now a few other things I would like to point out about what you have wrote you stated you age, "yes i should live my life", I need help please" This tells me that you don't want suicide but you want someone to help you deal with the pain you are going threw. Growing up is hard. I used to be over weight kids picked on me then I lost a ton of weight and i still had enemy's no matter what you do people can be hateful. I am now 20 years old and have barely any friends. i have one who is my next door neighbor but we BBQ together we don't really talk. You have to find that group you click with add friends to Facebook and you have to remember people say hateful things because they are insecure with them self's. Now counsling can help you deal with the depression but play a sport or join a group a school. God doesn't give us things we can't handle sometimes it feels like it.
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There's a bible verse that goes "the kingdom of God is within you." You don't need to die to feel or know God. You just have to awaken to the fact he's already there and turn towards that. Heaven and hell are states of mind.
I'm not trying to be religious but rather trying to show you that you can already experience this without dying if you change your thinking and outlook.
If you are being bullied relentlessly tell every adult at school or in your life exactly what is happening and that you have thoughts of suicide. They will help curb the bullying and find you a psychiatrist (you need one) to talk to about depression, counseling, medication and thoughts of death and straighten that out for you. You need help and have to get it. Hang in there it does improve. You have tons to live for and experience beyond 13.
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Please don't commit suicide. That is NOT God's plan for your life. Death and destruction are the works of Satan. Plus, it's not in anybody's place to take away a life, whether it be ours or somebody else's because all life belongs to God. God can help you through this temptation, just turn to him. In 1 Corinthians 10:13, the verse is “But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can’t stand up against it. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you will not give in to it”. God will help you through this if you turn to him and give him your heart and your faith. Also, tell somebody you know and trust about this. They can also help you. And call 1-800-273-8255 (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline).
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