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okay im a singer as some of yous may know i have a really great voice and sing at places the probelm is i smoke..i noticed my voice cracks sometimes.I really need advice to quit smoking because my parents smoke also so it will be hard and any tip to improve my singing.Please help me! (link)
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there are a few things ive heard of. my mom just quit, she slowly reduced the amount of ciggarettes she had a day. she also wrote down every ciggarette she smoked on a chart that said time, who with, what you were doing, if it was out of habit or if it was a craving. once you fill in all this information you'll begin to see what things influence you to have a smoke. once you know what you're usually doing, etc. it will be eaiser to break those habits. you cant solve a problem if you dont know what it is. my friends grandma used to eat a carrot once she felt a craving coming on. you should try to not be in places where there are ciggarettes available or people are smoking caue thats very tempting. good luck with the quitting and i think its great that you are, as well as an improvment in your voice you'll be so much healthier! hope i helped.
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I have a thing with the dark. At night if i go downstairs while everyone is asleep or upstairs in the rooms, im always scared someone is watching me. I dont go downstairs that often but i need help. Is it because im weird or am i going crazy. Please help.. 14 female..
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you're not going crazy and you're not weird. im exactly the same way, i get extremly scared if im alone in the dark, i feel like theres someone there waiting to attack me. its just the fact that you dont know whats there so your mind gives you all these farfetched possiblities and it freaks you out. dont worry about it, you're just fine.
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hey. ok. i think i might be bi. but i only feel this way for ONE girl. so it could be obsession or something. and we only talk during softball. and she is graduating this year coming up. i no this is gonna sound bad, but i got on my brothers s/n just to talk to her last night..i pretended to be a guy and i found out she was gay. and i also asked her a bunch of personal questions (if you no what i mean) and found out a BUNCH of stuff about her. and everytime she answered back i got butterflies in my tummy and this HUGE smile came across my face and i got VERY nervous every time. i dont no i have never felt this way for anyone. could this be a crush, love, or just obsession? (link)
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i cant tell you wether you're in love or not. i think that you might want to consider asking her out and see what happens. by the way you describe your feelings i think it may be a little more than a simple crush, or at least it could be more. i think that pretending to be your brother may have been invading her privacy a little, but i know that you wanted to know all you could about her. if you do end up asking her out don't mention it until you think the time is right. i think you probably are bisexual because you clearly have very strong feelings for this girl. if you dont feel ready to ask her out then i would tell you to try to get closer to her, as yourself. build a foundation. i hope you figure it all out. if you have any other questions just drop it in my inbox. good luck.
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anyone have any quotes about love and friendship they can give me? thx
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try http://firehotquotes.com
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Okay, I made a new friend at the beginning of this previous school year and we are pretty close. Well, she can get very annoying sometimes and be really aggravating alot. Well, is it normal for me to want to spend time away for her? (link)
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its always normal to want to spend time by yourself sometimes. if someone annoys you, then yes its completly normal to want to spend time away from them, even if they are your friend. i have lots of friends that i am close to that i want to spend time away from. you just dont want to be around some people all of the time. its normal, dont worry.
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I have 16 fat, ugly pimples on my face. I wash my face 3 times a day but nothing works. Anyone have suggestions? (link)
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i use spectrojel...it seems to work really well on me. it depends on your skin type, i guess. you can also help clear up your skin by cutting back on greasy foods (fries, etc.) and chocolate. you dont have to STOP completly. if you do eat a lot of that kind of stuff try to cut back and wash your face with spectrojel (or whatever you find works)and your skin should clear up quickly. good luck.
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well my friend died when i was 12 years old, and he was like my life we did EVERYTHING together, he called me every morning i called him every night we were always at each others houses, etc. anyway, im now 23. and the other day i was moving out of my camper because i got into a fight with the people i lived with so iwas moving in to a house with my friend Derek, and i was clearing out my closet and i found a box with all my friends stuff in it, like stuff he gave me, and i went over to my bed and sat looking threw it, and i started bawling like crazy and i threw the box across the room and the baseball that he gave me that was inside the box cracked my mirror so my friend came running in and called my other friend and he came over and held me and talked me threw it.. and he said i do this every once in a while but i dont remember.. is there something wrong with me that i still throw fits like this 11 years later and i cant remember the fits? (link)
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i think you might want to go see a phycologist abut this kind of thing. you suffereed a huge loss and thats not the kind of thing you just get over. throwing fits is not abnormal. im not sure about the not remembering them part. my best guess is that you dont want to remember anything about the pain of losing your friend, so you block out the fits you throw. thats just a guess, though. this may sound harsh, but you might want to see a phycologist about this. contrary to popular belief, therapy is not for "crazy" people. its for people who have issues that cant be resolved on their own. thats my advice. good luck with it.
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just this year i decided to loose my virginity to my boyfriend of 10 months. the first two times we had unprotected sex. it freaked me out because i thought just maybe i could be pregnant. we have been intimate a couple of times more. truthfully, i wished i waited like i intended in the first place. i love my boyfiriend and i am 100% sure that i will marry him. but i am soooooo scared of the responsibilities that comes along with sex. i really wanna wait til we get marreid, or at least until we are finanially responsible for any "accidents". He loves me , and he said he will never be upset if i decided to wait. but lately he haven't been coming over. i think its because he knows i dont want to have sex. he is very persuasive and that scares me because 80% of the time i give in to him. i love him and he loves me, but i truly believe he will be very unhappy if we discontinued being sexually active. (link)
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honestly, if you want to wait until you get married you should wait. if your boyfriend loves you as much as you says he does he will respect your chioce and wait until you're ready. if your only concern is getting preganant you might just want to use a condom, condoms are only 97% effective. they will protect mostly against pregnancy and STD's, unless the condom breaks. there are other forms of birth control some are sold over the counter, some you will have to see your doctor for. depending on your age your doctor might have to inform your parents. if its an emotional thing then i say wait. if he gets mad, dont give in. stand your ground. like i said, if he loves you he will wait until you're ready. i know you're afraid of making him unhappy, but the sacrifice you'll make is much larger than his sacrifice. if he doesnt respect your choice, gets mad, etc. then hes not worth it. hope i helped.
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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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first of all do you like him? if you dont then dont even bother. you dont have to freak out that you havent had boyfriend yet, 13 is very young. dont worry about it. but im guessing that you would like to go out with him. of course you could always just ask him, thats way you'll know for sure, but you clearly dont want to do that. i'd say that you should try to be around him more and see if he flirts. or if he gets shy when you turn up. either one is a sign. im not sure what this means "his friend heeps on looking at me." but it seems like he is dropping clues here an there. maybe you should try dropping clues yourself and see how he reacts. if he calls you on it you can always deny it or make up some excuse. i think that if you do how him that you're into him even a little he might come out of his shell and ask you out. he might be afraid of rejection. if you have anymore questions just drop it in my inbox. hope i helped.
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i always get really bad cramps when i have my period. does anyone know good ways to dull the pain, either home remidies or medication? thanks. (link)
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midol seems to work well for me. a lot of girls use advil or ibuprofen. heat helps, so a hot water bottle or heating pad. i know the last thing you want to do is move around, but just walking around the room seems to help. taking a hot shower helps. if its really bad eating might make your barf, it does for me. anyway, i hope you get the cramps under control, they suck, i know.
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mmk, so i really need to go to my friends house really bad because we havent seen eachother in forever...(okay okay like 1 week but ya no, its my bff) and my mom wont let me ebcasue she says that i have to stay home with my sister. my sister is 10 and isnt 10 the legal age to leave ur kid home? well i need reasons...like why i should be able to go...im already gonna clean the house and everything...I need advice FAST!! PLZ HELP!! (link)
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actually the legal age is 12 where i live (canada). you could always ask your mom if your friend could come over to your house, that way you'll get to see your friend and there will be two of you to watch your sister. personally i think that 10 is a reasonable age to leave a child at home alone, i was left alone at eight and im fine. if you have already tried that and your mom wont agree then why dont you try to get your sister to go to her friends house for a day and go over to your friends for that day? good luck.
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what do u do when u workout but the muscle builds underneath and pusheds out the belly fat that you already have? im a cheerleader and i play softball. im really in shape minus the bulge on my tummy. (link)
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you might want to try reverse sit-ups, they wont create that bulky look,in combination with regular sit-ups/crunches. do some cardiovascular exercises. keep going with your routine. good luck.
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well im seeing this guy and he might have a girlfriend he said he's on a break with her but do i believe him or not ? (link)
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if you have enough of a doubt to ask this question, then i dont think you trust him. i wouldn't either. i think you should wait until he can honestly tell you that they have broken up...for good. being on a "break" is not very commital, is it? basicly i wouldnt trust him, but the again i dont know him. he may be honest, you have to really ask yourself if hes being truthful. good luck.
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is there anyway to keep my eyeliner on longer.. like so it will stay on and not get off.. i dont want a type of eyeliner i just want tips (link)
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you can either get a new eyeliner...mac is good. you can also use a bit of black (or whatever colour the liner is) shadow to set it. it should keep it on longer. you might want to carry the liner with you and check every once in a while to touchup. the shadow is your best bet if you dont want to buy a new one.
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Okay I sweat really bad under my arms.ALL the time. And I've tried every deoderant there is! Nothing helps.And it doesn't smell it's just sweat. Help? (link)
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you may have a condition called hyperhidrosis. it is a condition where you swaet a lot under your arms, on your top lip, on the plams of your hands and in other various places. you might want to see a dermatoligist. if you cant find one, you should consult a family doctor and they should be able to direct you to one. there are treatments for hyperhidrosis. odnt worry about it too much, just see a dermatoligist and see what they say. good luck.
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I was just putting a tampon in for the first time. I was supposed to go swimming today but I just got it. It's light for now. I followed the directions on the box but it hurt sooooo bad!! I did it a second time and it was the same. It even hurt to pull it out. The directions said if it feels uncomfortable it's not in far enough. It was in far as it could go though. I relaxed when I did it but it still hurt really really bad. It hurts awhile after I take it out. I want to go swimming but I don't think I can. I used the Lites/Junior if you're wondering. Is there something wrong with me?? =( (link)
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no, theres nothing wrong with you. it may be that you dont have it in the right position. if your body is in the wrong postion it wont go in properly and it will hurt a lot. i find its best to just straddle the tiolet or stand with my feet apart and put it in. i know it says that you can put your foot up on the sink or something, but that makes it harder for me at least. id start with just the legs open. its always hard the first few times. dont let that dis courage you, tampons are eaiser and let you do whatever you want, pads are more restrictive. especially if you are a swimmer. keep trying and remember to relax as your putting it in and taking it out. you'll get the hang of it. you wont even be able to feel it after a while.
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ok, so i'v had my period for a year and a half now and everyone says after you get your period your boobs are suppost to grow. Well, my boobs havent grown for a year!
I eat healthy and my mom has decent sized boobs. (link)
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your boobs might be done growing, which is fine or they might just be taking a little while to get to it. you can tell when your boobs are growing because they start to tingle or hurt slightly. i'd wait a little while, see what happens. not everyone grows at the same rate, so you'll just have to be patient.
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you know those chermicials that say when your little brother needed you and you weren't there you can just tell him that you were out getting stoned. What does the getting stones part mean? (link)
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being stoned means that you are high from drugs.
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Does anyone know the song the goes i like girls who wear abercrobie and fincth something like that whats the name of the song and where are some of the place i can get it for my advice column?
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it pains me to admit this, but i know the song...its "summer girls" by lfo, im not sure where you can get it though, sorry.
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ok i have been looking all over the internet for a homemade recipe for a face mask that gets your skin glowing... well i was always gunna try them untill they start telling me these weird herbs that i never heard of or dotn know where to get them...so what is a recipe that has ingredients that i have at home or that i could just go to the store and buy...i want a glowing face!!!pleez help (link)
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the reason jennifer lopez has such glowing skin is partly because of what she eats. she eats a lot of fish, such as salmon. your diet effects your skin a lot, greasy foods such as fries makes your skin greasy and makes you breakout. chocolate is also not good for your skin. just remember to wash your face regularly, prefeerably without soap. a good skin cleanser is SpectroJel. you might have to try out a number of things to get the right product for your skin.
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