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What are some websites i can go to to get some quotes about love and best friends? thanks!! (link)
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I found one on best friends and love.
http://www.quotegarden.com/best-friends.html
Hope it helps! There pretty good :)
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Do you think it's wrong to only ever look at the bad in people? I always seem to see the good in people. I was trying to explain to my friend that I think people should not just look at the bad in people, but also the good (we were talking about this upcoming presidential election). She thinks i'm stupid for even thinking it, and that you have to see the bad in people. Do you agree with me or do you agree with my friend? Am I wrong to be offended by this? Let me know what you think. I mean if you've ever done something bad in your life do you want everyone to focus on only that? Or do you want them to see the good things you've done too? (link)
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Personally, I think its an awesome qualtiy in a person to be able to see the good. So if you do see the good then kudos to you. I generally look for the good in people but I am very negative about myself. Its unhealthy because I am limiting myself by looking at the bad in me. So if you look for the bad you will find it, its theres, in fact its easier to see the bad then the good. Its okay to acknowledge somethings that are bad so that you can learn from it, but if all you do is see the bad, then somethings wrong. What I notice is everyone says the world is the bad place, but thats b/c we read about the bad, if we actually tried to be good, and do good, then the world will be so much better off. Look at it this way, our life on earth is so temporary and short, so don't waste time with the bad, b/c in the end itll still be there. But if you can do something somewhere, and leave it better off then it was when you found it, then you have done your purpose, you have done good, for those around to see and follow. Make a difference, and yes you are right on track by seeing the good, keep it up!!
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15/f
so me and my boyfriends one year is coming up in one month. for a 15 and 16 year old i would say thats pretty awesome! i'm so happy with him. i know he has something planned because my friend was like i know something you don't know and said it was about our one year ha she said it's cute so the thing is i don't know what or if i should like get him something or do something for him? if i should any ideas? i have a really tight budget. thanks a lot! (link)
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I think you should do like a scrapbook, and list titles of songs next to the pictures that remind you of him. Also, you can have different songs for different situations, like when your in love, and when you guys are fighting, how you guys are best friends, I mean there are so many songs that can go with the album. It shouldn't cost that much money b/c you can do it all handmade.
Good luck! and Congratualtions!! 1 year is amazing!! Enjoy!!
Write back to me if you want more ideas :)
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so there is this one guy i like he is 14 as am i and i really like him i think he likes me but i dont know. I wanna ask him to homecoming and i wanna go out with him and stuff. My problem is that i am really shy and dont like talking to guys and really hardly trust anyone espically guys ive never had a bf i know lame right. im afaid if we do become really close and stuff he'll laugh and not like me cauze ive never really kissed and one before. I want to impress this guy and want to know what to do to impress him. we are walking together in his sisters wedding so that may be a good time to talk to him but him and his family will be over next weekend also i dont know what to do. pleaze help the hopless (link)
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You are not hopeless, and its not lame that you've never had a boyfriend before. See the media potrays people to be older then they really are, and forces young girls to grow up too fast. Take your time for one thing, and you really just have to give it time. Ask him when you guys are alone, like when he comes over your house. Thats perfect. But don't ever do stuff you aren't ready for because you feel lame or too young, there ain't no such thing. Because the older you get, the younger you wish you are. I know. Oh and by the way I got my first kiss when I was 17. I don't feel any different than anyone next to me, b/c in the grand scheme of life it doesn't matter. There is no set age of when you should have your first kiss. I waited until it was the right moment, not in some game like spin the bottle. The first kiss is usually awkward, cause you don't know exactly what to do, but it gives you so much to look foward to for the second kiss. I have to agree with you, I am very shy, when talking to the guys I like, its hard you have to force yourself to get out of the shyness, how? well look at it this way, you ask him hes not interested, but if you don't you'll be kicking yourself for the rest of your life, trust me I know, I've done it so many times, with so many guys, b/c I was scared, and thats something you have to face. You only get one chance, you will have plenty of guys that will hurt you, I'm sorry buts its reality, but you'll learn from it. Just think through each decision, you can learn so much from the side lines. And when the time is right, jump in!
I hope that makes sense, I'm just trying to give you advice from my own personal experiences.
All the best! and don't rush, everything happens for a reason :)
In response to your second ? you should casually bring it up, basically say hey I really would like to go to homecoming, you going? he'll probably say yes, then say maybe we can go together, you have to let him know that you are interested. Just see how he feels by asking, it may be very nerve wracking, but can also be very worth while.
All the best!
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this year my schools doing guys and dolls for a musical! i'm wicked excited, but really nervous for auditions! i've done some research on it but i'm not sure what song i should use for an audition. i've looked online, but i can't find all the songs involving a girl singing. so i was wondering, what are some good songs to sing for a girl auditioning from this musical?(i'm trying to go for a lead)i can sing both alto and soprano, so either one is fine. thank you so much :} (link)
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Thats so funny I just wore a shirt today with guys and dolls on it. lol okayy anyways, yeah I've seen that show its really cute!!
You could sing Bushel and a Peck
and the other really cute one is Adalade's Lament I think I spelld her name wrong. Anyways go on you tube and watch carol burnett's version. its hilarious!!
Best of luck!!!
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My ex and i started dating in april 2007 and broke up in early july 2007. we broke up because my "best friend" showed him a video of another guy on top of me. he broke up with me of coarse, but i still liked him alot. i tryed alll summer to talk to him but he would not talk to me at all. now its been a year later, we have talked a few times but only casually online and hardly in person. i tell myself im over him but others still believe im not. i even have hooked up with other guys since we broke up. and he has had a girlfriend and sometimes i really feel that i am over him and done with him.
right after we broke up i would have dreams as that we are still together and about a month later he was not in my dreams anymore. that lasted for about two months and suddenly when school started again in september 2007, i saw him at school all the time and it really hurt to see him, he is also the star athelte which made it harder because im a cheerleader and at football games i would hear touch down by him like every 5 minutes.
but anyway he started to appear in my dreams but we would not look at each other or say anything (no contact at all) as a weeks went on, he started being in the same room as me in my dreams, then after a week, the same car as me, then he would look at me, then we would have major eye contact, then he would start to say hi to me in my dreams, then we would have just a friendly conversation, then we would hug in my dream, and now in my dreams we are hooking up and of coarse it feels so right because when we were together i cared and liked him soooo much. but im over him now since its been a year later and moved on.
but now im just confused as to why im having dreams like that and what i want to know most is what the meaning of those dreams are or if i should talk to him or what should i do and what do the dreams mean?
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sounds like you are subconsiously trying to talk to him and have closure. Cause you aren't doing it in person you are doing it subconsiouly.
The cure/ resolution: you somehow need to talk to him, forget the timing and stuff, you guys need to go through everything, you need to sit down and get everything out in the open. awkward? probably, but it needs to be done.
Once you do that, you can move on. You will ifnally have closure. I know you guys rarely talk, but you need to, tell him your side and let him open up to you, it may finally heal the open wounds, and you can really truly get over him, not just say you are.
Best of luck, you need to react, b/c I've had dreams like that too, its all subconsious, and it doesn't fully end, until you fix it and respond, its kinda like your conscience. You have to finish the dreams and do something about it.
hope I made some sense at least :)
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I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
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First off I'm not going to lie to you, I am 100% prolife. so I'm not going to suggest an abortion. you said it yourself you are against abortion, so if you are I don't think you'd be considering killing your unborn child.
You really need to take a pregnancy test to see if in fact you are. If not, no worries, but since you are having sex, you really need to be more careful.
Also why isn't adoption an option? I know it would be hard to give up the child, but that child needs a home where he/she can be raised properly. You said it yourself,you have both your lives ahead of you. Thats where adoption is a good choice. Even if you do raise the baby, I just don't see how aborting a child solves anything. I mean seriously, you abort the baby, you know its going to affect you later on. Maybe not at the time but it will years later. Thats a fact.
I hope you make thr right choice, but first of all take a pregnancy test then talk to your parents.
Best of luck to you!
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ok so im a dood (obviously) im 17 and i skateboard alot and snowboard too i love metal and hiphop and to be honest i dont think theres a Homosexual strand in me (i'd just like to say now that if anything offends anyone i honestly do not mean it in the way that it seems unless i make it block clear i do NOT hate gays and lesbians i have a couple of freinds who are)
now then... i am the only guy in a class of girls and have been for a year now. all of them have boyfreinds and i am single and have been for a loong time.. at one point or another everyone of them have said "my god i swear your gay *Followd by a chuckle*" i dont get mad or anything i know thier joking but recently its been getting silly... i work for Asda on thier Home shopping and recently they have employed a few people on for seasonal summer work. theres a sweet Thai girl around my age who's basically asked me if i was gay. i asked her why does she think im gay (after telling her the story of the girls in my class) and she said its cos' your pretty.
I AM NOT PRETTY!! AAAAGGHHH >:( i dont think i am at least. i mean there are times were i ACT a little fruity to get a laugh an a half from everyone because i play on them all thinking im gay but thats very rare that i do that. hmm, im gettin a bit frustrated thinking about it because my second question is
2.) is it because of this that i havent got a girl freind?? i havent had one in a very long time and its starting to bite me in the ass a little now because i get lonely in class thinking they ALL have someone.. :( is it because of this that i am a complete turn off to girls? is it that they would rather have me as a freind? dont get me wrong i would rather be with the girls in my class sometimes because theyre all great fun to be around. i dont fancy any of them im not obbsessed with sex, i'm more interestedon what thier thoughts are and i mean it. i'v been told by all of them that im not like the other guys but is it because ime "gay" or because im so nice... im casual no worries most of the time i play guitar skate snowboard i have a bunch of stuff i love to do besides sit on the pc for a bit. i might have trailed of the point a bit so ile shut it now.. thanks for responses. D (link)
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First off, Just because your pretty, skateboard, snowboard and play guitar doesn't make you gay.
If you are not attracted to the same sex then you are NOT gay, simple as that. You really shouldn't worry what other people think, you don't have to prove yourself to anyone, when the right girl comes along you'll know.
I don't have a boyfriend I've been single for quite some time, but its b/c I haven't met the right guy yet, sounds the same with you, don't worry about it, my problem is I treat everyone the same, I am outgoing and friendly to everyone, so i guess guys just don't think im interested. I would be if I knew them better. Most guys just want sex. Its pretty sweet your not some sexcrazed manaic obsessive weirdo. I wish I knew more guys like that :) What i'd say to you, is just get to know the girls that you really wanna date, let them get to know you, and not worry what everyone else is thinking.
You're not a turn off to girls, just relax and stop worrying what they think otherwise youll become obsessed with it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Just so you know because you not obsessed with sex doesn't make you a turn off. I would love to date a guy who's more interested in my thoughts then my boob size. Never stop being who you are. You'll meet the right person, you just have to let go relax and enjoy the ride.
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I'm auditoning for a role in Willy Wonka. I want to be Veruca Salt and Violet Beauregarde is my next choice. I need a comedic 30-second monologue. The paper says, "Remember, the characters in this production of Willy Wonka are funny, unique, and larger than life, so choose a monologue that showcases your talents and abilities to assume thies characteristics well. Monologues from children's plays are encouraged." I can pretty much act anything so can anyone give me links, or book names, or like tips?! (link)
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Check out a website on Neil Simon. He's pretty amazing. You can google it. I had to use a couple of his for competition.
oh and if you are ever looking for serious or sad, i know not this time, look up monologues from the book "Sometimes I wake Up In The Middle Of the Night" Its really good.
Later
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Has anyone ever heard of the term 'pop your cherry'? What is that and what does it mean? (link)
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pop your cherry means when a girls hymen breaks or "pops."
pop your cherry means when she has sexual intercourse for the first time the guy breaks the thin or thick layer to get into her.
The layer is known as the hymen.
The hymen can break through other activites like wearing tampons or sports activites.
Hope that answers your question.
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I am 16 and got braces in June, just on my lower teeth. I have had a problem with one of my lower adult teeth not coming in... it's been about 2 years waiting for it to come up on its own and its still way under the gum. I'm sick of waiting and my mom talked to my orthodontist about an oral surgery procedure he had previously discussed. We will be looking further into it and, hopefully, having it done so my braces can be off sooner!
All I know right now of the procedure is that the tooth would be taken up from under the gum (unless it is fused to the bone... ick) and then a bracket would be put on it.
If anyone has any experience with something like this or has a career in this field, could you tell me what to expect? Will I be knocked out for the surgery? Will they inject something in my veins... because that makes me freak out..? How long is the recovery period? How long do you think braces would be needed afterwards? My teeth are already straight, but that one tooth is stuck under.
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I did actually have something similar to you, what they did was, they waited until my tooth was up just enough to fit the bracket on, then they added to to the rest, with these spring like things(the doc will show you) It felt a little tight, but it worked miracles on my teeth.
I don't know exactly what they'll do to you, but my situation was very similar, and I just told you what they did. But you will be fine, It may feel a little tight, but you will get used to it, and trust me its worth it. :)
Good luck.
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I am 17 years old and I'm seriously considering suicide. I've already been through some tough times with my ex-girlfriend, we had so many things planned out for the future and she left me for her ex. I found another girl I like but she's been playing games with me and I'm just sick of everything. Part of the reason I want to do this is because I get jealous very easily, so when I see her flirting with someone else it really upsets me. Now I'm only a Junior in high school, but I've been through alot of adult situations. I just want to know the quickest, easiest way to do it. I would appreciate advice on how to handle the situation properly though if anyone has it, thank you. (link)
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please don't kill yourself. She wasn't right for you. That is not a reason to kill yourself. We all have our own crosses to bear. You have so much up ahead. Its normal to miss an ex. And its normal to have someone mess with your head, but its so small in the grand scheme of life. Look at babies that are being aborted, at least you've been given the chance to live, so rather then killing yourself, go out there and live for all the babies that never got the chance!!
To be truthfully honest, you will get your heart broken again, I know you don't want to hear that, but its reality, its true. I tend to stay away from relationships because I'm scared, I lost so many guys, that I could have dated and the 2 I really wanted. At least you've been in some kind of relationship, so what if it didn't workout out, you have plenty more experiences to go through. Quitters don't win, and winners don't quit, and seriously, between you and me, I think even if we do live to be 80, that still isn't enough time to do everything there is to do on earth. So put down the weapons and push the obstacles aside, and go finish highschool, travel the world, go live all your hopes and your dreams, Christ is the Lord, he will tell you when its time to go, so keep living, your time hasn't come yet. And just some personal advice, don't rush it away, it flies by faster than you could ever imagine, so cherish every moment!
All the best
Go make memories, laugh, love and of course, live!! :)
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ive always been a pretty jelous person, not going to lie.. i am 14 yrs old and going to be a sophmore. i am pretty, a cheerleader, hang with the 'popular' crowd, have an older boyfriend, and a lot of friends. (not trying to brag, just want you to get the full idea, i would never say this to someone and i dont want to come off as a snob). so you may think i have all this, what more could i get, right? well most of my friends have A LOT more than i do. money wise. they are loaded for the most part.. and im not poor, but i cant afford what they can and i try to fit in my best. also, im not saying im fat, but im not skinny like my friends... i try to be SUPER nice to everyone, and i have a lot of apathy for many people but when you get on my wrong side, i can be the biggest bitch you will ever meat.
so now you know about me, lets get to the story.. i dont know who 'myself' is. for example, when somebody says "be yourself" i just cant because i dont know who i am. im always trying to follow my friends because for some reason im always jelous of them and their personalities. i dont know why. i try to say to myself that what i have in life is fine for me and i dont need to be someone else to be happy but it just happens.. if i hang out with one of my friends like 3 days in a row, ill immediately start to act and talk like them and its very wierd because i cant help it and it is very wierd and it lasts for a few days.
part of me thinks this happens because my mother is a complete bitch and always tells me im never happy, im such a butch, im so mean, no body likes me, im a fatass, (etc.).. she lowers my self esteem so much till the point where i cant take it any more and i tried to talk to her about it but she doesnt want to hear it. and i know you may say 'dont listen to her' well at first, i dont.. but then after, what she said repeats in my head and i cant help to believe it might be true. and the way she describes me, i dont want to be that way.. she makes me feel like my personality isnt good enough for people and maybe thats why i try to act like my friends.
someone pleas help me =(
and when someone says act yourself, i seriously dont know how to act because i dont know how to act myself.. its hard to explain but please help me with that too!
thank you=) (link)
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Its okay to not fully understand who you are. You are only 14. Just because your still finding yourself, doesn't mean you need to act like your friends. Thats not fair to you, or them. What you need to do, is look for things you like to do, don't copy other peoples personalties, because if God had wanted you to be like them, He would have created you to be like them. Its okay to be not sure of who you are, Im 17 and I have my doubts sometimes, I try to act like other people too, but you know what, I'm most comfortable in my own skin, when I'm being myself. As you get older, you will figure it all out who you are and everything. It just takes a little time, and you have to trust. I used to be just like that, where I would copy my friends and talk just like them, but you know what, there their own person, we don't need 2 of them, ones fine, and I like having my own sayings and my own laugh, my own personalty, my own self, being who I am. I'm sorry if this is confusing, but its something you will learn with time, you need to really do soul searching to find who you are. And just beacuse your pretty, popular and a cheerleader, doesn't mean you are going to be happy, you need to find who you are, otherwise, youll be a spitting image of everyone else, and youll become a lost soul. What you need to do, is take the time to find who you are, but creating you own identity, and finding stuff you like to do.
Good luck, like I said Im 17, I don't know who I fully am yet, but I'm comfortable in my own skin. Thats what you need to do too, is just wake up every morning, thank God for the new day, and don't dress like other people or try to be like them, make your own style. And just b/c your friends have money, oh please, you don't need to be rolling in the dough, to have friends or keep up with them, thats what I meant before, you have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and you have to figure it out on your own. It comes with time.
Good luck!
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is it really possible to light a fart on fire? (link)
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yes, if you fart long enough, and hold the ligher by your butt, you can light your butt, and leave a nice burn mark.
my dad knows someone from highschool that did that, and he had to go to the doctor. It made a great story!! :)
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practically all my friends are sexually active and im not, ive never had sex. but i dont feel like i really fit in, unless i change my mind set to their perverted minds. like i have to act and talk like them to fit in. but im against that kind of stuff with my beliefs and stuff. so what do i do, continue being friends with those kind of people or make friends who are a little more pg? but its only adultry that im against and almost everyone in highschool talks about who they did, and im just a virgin :/ (link)
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I think who you choose to be friends with really is your choice, but you should never change who you are for someone else, its not worth it. Good for you in having beliefs, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. To be truthfully honest, all my best friends have had sex, I feel so left out of everyone else, b/c I am choosing abstience. So yes you can continue to be friends with them, and be a leader and set your own goals and stuff, or you can just walk away from them, that really is your decsion, but make the choice b/c its whole you are not because people are making you feel left out. I guarantee you now that by being a virgin, you'll be so much more respected then any of your friends. I've been told I'm the girl the guy will take home to meet his parents and marry someday, sounds like you are too. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Don't ever change who you are :) End of story.
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16/f.
theres this one kid who likes me like alot, he always calls me and texts me but i just dont feel the same way about him. and whenever he says stuff, i just dont respond back to it.
what should i do.
i dont want to hurt his feelings..
but i also dont want to lead him on.. (link)
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I know a guy like this right now. I'm actually standing in your shoes. I'm goingto be honest with him, because I don't want to lead him on.
What you should say is"I love our friendship and for me thats all it is"
You want to let him down easily, so compliment him, and tell him how great of a guy he is, but theres also nothing there. Yes he will get hurt, but thats life, it happens ya know. YOu should end it now rather then lead him on, b/c then hell get hurt more.
Good luck, I'm going to do the same thing. hope it works :)
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i was molested at 7 by a older kid who my grandmother would babysit. everytime she would to sleep he would take me and play games where i would suck him and he would finger me. im now 15 and my mom and my bff knows but my mom doesnt know the extent. i have repressed it so much and when his father died my family went to his wake and all i wanted to do was laugh. but then i saw him and went to the car and cried and mind u this is the first time i have acknowledged it. so now i have a masturbation problem and i look at porn and stuff online. i cant do this much longer i feel guilty and pray to God for me to stop but do it again i feel as if i am truly a bad person who fakes a front of happiness. inside of me there is a hidden darkness that rears it ugly head when i feel lonely or sad and have suicidal thoughts i know i would never do it cuz i hate pain but i dont think this is normal and the worst part is that when my bf touches me i feel dirty or repulsed i desperately want to serve God but i cant because of my past
sry for the rambling and bad grammar but i dont know what to do (link)
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I am so sorry you had to go through that. You can not hold blame or guilt. You really must let it go. I know that has to be so hard for oyu, I've been stuck in a past for so long too, I learned that guilt doesn't change the past you have to talk about it and let it out. Thats what I did. I talked to the priest in the confessional, I think i was in there for like an hour, butafterwards I finally felt this calmness, this happiness, the darkness and thoughts of suicide fled my body, it was replaced with like this uncontrollable happiness, I just couldn't hold it in, this gust of wind just filled my body, and I was happy again. I realized the past can't be changed, but it no longer affects who I am becoming. I wrote a couple songs about it, that really helped, b/c it was my real pain on the paper, and with every note, I felt the past get even further and further behind me. That was such a good feeling, knowing God took over my life, and I'll never go back to okay or bad. God gave me life, sin tried to take it then God saved it. Thats where you need to give your life to God, and eliminate the guilt, by talking about it and seeking help like a priest, therapist, or trusted adult. You don't need to be ashamed, this is absolutely not your fault.
MY advice, is to talk about it, and find a healthy way to let it out, mine is writing, maybe you should try it too. But please don't blame yourself, you were only 7. YOu were just a child, your 15 now, its time to let it go. Really, hold your head up high, you conquered molestation. You are such a strong, amazing person, so many people would have already killed themselves, good for you, in having so much self respect. I think you need to talk about it.
If you would like to talk about it, I'm here just email me :)
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i dated my ex for a year and a half. he was my first love & my everything. now we're still really good friends, but closer than most would be i guess because we have that history. on saturday his 3 month old nephew died. they didnt know how, and today the results came back and said heart complications and SIDS. he's taking it really hard, and im doing everything i can to be there for him, but i dont know what to say? he was always there for me & now i feel like im not doing a good job at being there for him. i've told him im always here for him if he needs me, that im sorry, and that he's in a better place & now God's got him and he's watching over them all. but it just feels like it's not enough. what can i do? he's really crushed. (link)
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Aww im so so sorry. Thats so sad. Truthfully you've done everything you can. Just continue to stay with him and lend out a hand. He knows your there. Just stay with him and listen to him, he really needs a friend.
I know this must be really hard, I will pray for him and his family.
Let God intervene, he will save. Also, listen to the song "Held" by Natalie Grant, it shoul dhelp you guys. I'm so sorry,
At least the nephews in a better place.
God Bless!
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so this year it was my second year at a sleepaway camp. i loved this camp last summer, i had the best time of my life and i loved all of the people and made so many friends. this year a little bunk mixup happened and everyone blamed me for it because i requested two people that didnt request me. it didnt end well. before camp started, the bunks were back to normal and everything was good. on the first day i decided to swicth back into my old bunk, the one i was in last year. even though i was friends with the bunk i wanted to be in this summer. but they were ignoring me so i felt left out and switched to the bunk i was in last year. anyways, the whole summer i had a horrible time and cried every single day. no joke. so after a while i was fed up and was allowed to leave camp and come home. this happened a few days ago, august 8th actually. so now ive been home 3 days in a row because my friends are all busy. or at least they say they are. it really upsets me. i feel like my friends dont really like me anymore and i dont know why. this is the same feeling i had at camp. its not that people were mean to me at camp, i was just left out of everything. and it really hurt me because i thought these people were my friends. and i didnt know why they were doing it. i got home and texted all my friends to see if they could do anything and all of the replies said im sorry i cant :[ but i keep asking different people for different days and there ALL busy. i feel like the biggest loser ever. every year i go to long beach island near the end of august, and i NEVER ever have anyone to go with. no one. i always ask all my friends and they are always doing things. it really makes me sad. and i just feel like i dont have any friends anymore. i do have two best friends from my old school, but they are always busy. btw i forgot to mention i switched from private school into public school last year going into freshman year. it ws really hard for me because i can be really quiet at first. i had some in school friends but not that many outside friends. i lost two close friends i met last year. it was a hard year. this year im going into school feeling like i have no friends and im just so nervous. i dont know what to do anymore. its also embaressing becuase my sister who is going to be a senior has so many friends and shes always busy and so far ive done nothing ever since ive been home. i just wish i belonged somewhere. into a certain group or something. last year i had scattered friends, i was never in a group or anything. ive been having weird thoughts ever since the middle of camp, when i was having a really bad time. even now when i get upset i have these thoughts about like cutting myself or sometimes i think what it would be like if i killed myself. i dont think i ever will but sometimes i think about it. its really starting to worry me i dont know what to do anymore. and i cant tell anyone these things. help me (link)
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hey, im sorry that you feel so left out. I can relate to the switching school thing, because I went to catholic school for nine years and went to public for highschool. I do feel left out of things too sometimes, everyone does feel like that. I really wouldn't blame yourself, I'm sure it has nothing to do with you. My friends are all busy too, they work. I don't want you to have thoughts of killing yourself or cutting, thatll make it so much worse for you. I know you're feeling really left out, but is there some kind of activity that you love or are really good at. If you try new things, like for instance in highschool join more clubs and do a sport or 2 b/c youll meet different people that you have stuff in common with. Also, you become a family with your sports team. I did that with soccer, it gave me a new form of being wanted, and i didn't feel left out. you really got to find your niche. I had trouble with that, my thing though is acting, so I have friends from my drama class, because we have that in common. does that make sense?
Since this is a start of a new year, what you need to do is, take these next couple days and do some real soul searching, look inside your heart at the person you are becoming. Sometimes in order to get a friend, we have to be one to other people. Thats kinda hard, b/c its so easy to get lost inside problems that seem so big, ya know? ANyways, think about who you want to be this year. Okay lets break this down, think about your favorite celebrity, your best friend(s), someone in your life that you really truly admire. What are the qualities that you like int hat person? Once you name them, write them down, and see if you want to be like that too. I know people because I put myself out there, I try to be as optimistic and as nice as I can be to people. I am by no means popular, but who cares, I try to help people every chance I get.
When you think of good qualities in the ppl around you, it somehow can inspire you to be more like that person. Now I'm not saying, try to be like everyone else, b/c thats how you lose yourself, you have to find your balance, you know what makes you who you are. Personally, I would love to sing like Carrie Underwood, but we have one of her, we don't need 2, shes her own person, so you need to be too. Am i making any sense?
What I'm really trying to say is its okay to feel left out, and its okay to talk about your feelings, if you talk to your friends, maybe they dont realize theyr hurting you.
And as for the things that are haunting you, write them down, write them all down. It will help you get over anything, if you try to write a song, just lyrics even. The feeling are raw and original, they tella story, and writing them may help you discover who you are and who you can be. Look in your heart, the answers waiting for you to find it.
I really hope I helped you. I've been in the same boat, the no friends, switching schools, being left out, thats when I started doing soul searching. I don't know who i fully am yet, but i am finally comfortable in my own skin.
Good luck with everything, if you need anything just let meknow. :) all the best!!
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I'm 13 and i cut myself,drink, suffer from depression, and have suicidal thoughts. i need help but i don't want to speak to anyone because no one knows. and i want to stop without some one even knowing i had this. how do i do this?? i'm a mess.
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I know you want to getout of this alone, but being alone really hasn't helped you so far. You need to talk to someone you can trust, a family member, adult, sibling, someone who will get you out of this. You are headed down such a hard dangerous path, there of course is hope though, just talk to someone, explain to them exactly what your feeling.
I really like listening to people if you want to email me, please feel free to do so, I would love to help you get out of this mess. The first step is always admitting you have aproblem, good for you. Youll be in good hands now.
If you get time listen to "The Last Night" by skillet, its a really good song, and it will help you :)
All the best!! :)
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