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IM NOT GAY why do they think i am??? and 1 other question>>
ok so im a dood (obviously) im 17 and i skateboard alot and snowboard too i love metal and hiphop and to be honest i dont think theres a Homosexual strand in me (i'd just like to say now that if anything offends anyone i honestly do not mean it in the way that it seems unless i make it block clear i do NOT hate gays and lesbians i have a couple of freinds who are)
now then... i am the only guy in a class of girls and have been for a year now. all of them have boyfreinds and i am single and have been for a loong time.. at one point or another everyone of them have said "my god i swear your gay *Followd by a chuckle*" i dont get mad or anything i know thier joking but recently its been getting silly... i work for Asda on thier Home shopping and recently they have employed a few people on for seasonal summer work. theres a sweet Thai girl around my age who's basically asked me if i was gay. i asked her why does she think im gay (after telling her the story of the girls in my class) and she said its cos' your pretty.
I AM NOT PRETTY!! AAAAGGHHH >:( i dont think i am at least. i mean there are times were i ACT a little fruity to get a laugh an a half from everyone because i play on them all thinking im gay but thats very rare that i do that. hmm, im gettin a bit frustrated thinking about it because my second question is
2.) is it because of this that i havent got a girl freind?? i havent had one in a very long time and its starting to bite me in the ass a little now because i get lonely in class thinking they ALL have someone.. :( is it because of this that i am a complete turn off to girls? is it that they would rather have me as a freind? dont get me wrong i would rather be with the girls in my class sometimes because theyre all great fun to be around. i dont fancy any of them im not obbsessed with sex, i'm more interestedon what thier thoughts are and i mean it. i'v been told by all of them that im not like the other guys but is it because ime "gay" or because im so nice... im casual no worries most of the time i play guitar skate snowboard i have a bunch of stuff i love to do besides sit on the pc for a bit. i might have trailed of the point a bit so ile shut it now.. thanks for responses. D
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You yourself would know more than any one else what you are inside. If you are not feeling overwhelmingly homosexual, and you have not acted out any homosexual behavior, then who is anyone else to say? A lot of people do not date until much later into their twenties, and it is not because they are confused about their sexual preference or gender identity. Shyness, lower levels or hormones, having lots of other interests, being busy with other priorities and other factors can delay dating. Sometimes the homosexual guy who is in denial of his sexuality will be the one trying too hard and dating all the girls and acting the most macho. If you are comfortable with yourself and happy then that is really all that matters. People say stupid stuff and everyone has an opinon. Learn to filter out the stupid stuff and not take every opinion personally. Sometimes people blame or accuse others of what they themselves fear about themselves. You should continue to do only what feels natural to you at the right time for you, period.
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Hey dude- I'm just going to let you know that people used to do the same crap to me.
What you should do is just forget about what they say, as hard as that may sound. They could think this of you because you haven't had a girlfriend, but for me it was because most of my friends were and still are girls. So I don't know. To be honest, if any guys say it to you, it's probably because they are jealous that you haven't gone through the stupid drama of dating yet. Really, it's not worth it, and most of them know it ;]
My point is that you just be who you are, do what you're doing and be happy with yourself. It doesn't matter whether you're gay or straight. You're still a person. And if people want to pick on you like that for something that isn't even true, let them. There definitely are plenty worse things they could say, though I know how you feel =/.
--Jack
(16/m)
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First off, Just because your pretty, skateboard, snowboard and play guitar doesn't make you gay.
If you are not attracted to the same sex then you are NOT gay, simple as that. You really shouldn't worry what other people think, you don't have to prove yourself to anyone, when the right girl comes along you'll know.
I don't have a boyfriend I've been single for quite some time, but its b/c I haven't met the right guy yet, sounds the same with you, don't worry about it, my problem is I treat everyone the same, I am outgoing and friendly to everyone, so i guess guys just don't think im interested. I would be if I knew them better. Most guys just want sex. Its pretty sweet your not some sexcrazed manaic obsessive weirdo. I wish I knew more guys like that :) What i'd say to you, is just get to know the girls that you really wanna date, let them get to know you, and not worry what everyone else is thinking.
You're not a turn off to girls, just relax and stop worrying what they think otherwise youll become obsessed with it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Just so you know because you not obsessed with sex doesn't make you a turn off. I would love to date a guy who's more interested in my thoughts then my boob size. Never stop being who you are. You'll meet the right person, you just have to let go relax and enjoy the ride.
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Hahahaha, Don't feel bad, there are many more. My best friend is like this. He doesn't have a girlfriend, but he's friends with a lot of girls. He sometimes helps out a florist, so everyone thinks he's gay. My advice to you would be Don't worry what everyone says. Granted, it will prolly get on your nerves, but just have faith that you'll find this one girl who will blow you away and not care that everyone thinks you're gay. Hold tight, you're only in high school. And any girl would rather have a guy that was really interested in what they think rather than interested in sex. so, you're up one point :)
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