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friends and sex
practically all my friends are sexually active and im not, ive never had sex. but i dont feel like i really fit in, unless i change my mind set to their perverted minds. like i have to act and talk like them to fit in. but im against that kind of stuff with my beliefs and stuff. so what do i do, continue being friends with those kind of people or make friends who are a little more pg? but its only adultry that im against and almost everyone in highschool talks about who they did, and im just a virgin :/
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Quick Question- are you the same person as your friend or friends? no.
sex is not something you do because everyone around you is doing it. sex is a personal choice you make. now you do NOT have to act and talk like them to fit in. you choose to because you feel like they won't accept you.
which is a crock of bull because your friends probably don't care that you're not having sex. you can keep those friends and it's also ok to make new ones who do share your beliefs.
and highschool is full of pervs. girls and guys. take pride in being a virgin, because it shows that you stick to your moral values and don't cave into today's cracked out views about sex and society.
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I am proud that you stick to your belifs. But in the grand scheme of things what they think of you being a virgen is up to them. It is your choice and you will have sex with the person you love when you feel ready. If they dont accept you for you then they are not your real friends. At this age being active is probably not the best thing for you. You have your whole life to have sex. You have better things to worry about like your education, family, core belives. Dont worry about them they are not your friends be your self and stick up for what you belive and stick to them for they will shape you into the woman that you want to be. Dont let society change what you belive in and who you are as a person.
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Stick to your beliefs,i respect that youve done that for so long^_^ Havent you noticed that most high school drama and rumors are about sex?Why should you get caught up in this shit?Youll never be truely happy doing something just to fit in.I think you should make other freinds that are more like you because when you make freinds that share the same beliefs as you,you wont be afraid to be yourself and say what you TRUELY think!When your around people that are different,you sometimes try to change your point of veiw on things so it can match theirs!This is a big problem it will only confuse you about who you are and what you truely think.
be yourself and dont change yourself just to fit in cuz havent you ever wonderd like if you leave high school and go to college and the people there think differently..will you change the way you are AGAIN just to fit in there?
think about that^_^
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Don't feel like you have to have sex because your friends are or that you're AT ALL wrong. Stick to your morals and standards.
I wouldn't just dump your friends, though. When they start talking about it, just walk away or tell them you're not comfortable talking about it. You can also try finding some other friends who share your beliefs.
-Laura (16-f)
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Be who YOU want to be without having to change into someone else for another person because of their own opinions or what they do that would make you uncomfortable. I definitely understand how it feels like you're left out on the topic but don't let that bring you down, just follow in what you believe is right for yourself. Yeah it's kind of tough to ignore since you said almost everyone is practically talking about sex, but you can walk away from that conversation if you think you've heard enough. Like just say you gotta go get something from another class or whatever. You can still keep your friends and make new ones at the same time.
Be true to yourself...you may never know, it's possible that since you've made a really wise decision...you could be the influence of many of your friends!
I hope this advice was of some help! =3
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I think who you choose to be friends with really is your choice, but you should never change who you are for someone else, its not worth it. Good for you in having beliefs, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. To be truthfully honest, all my best friends have had sex, I feel so left out of everyone else, b/c I am choosing abstience. So yes you can continue to be friends with them, and be a leader and set your own goals and stuff, or you can just walk away from them, that really is your decsion, but make the choice b/c its whole you are not because people are making you feel left out. I guarantee you now that by being a virgin, you'll be so much more respected then any of your friends. I've been told I'm the girl the guy will take home to meet his parents and marry someday, sounds like you are too. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Don't ever change who you are :) End of story.
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friends and sex,
well I would have to say. Try going your own way for a while, you shouldn't always be worrying whats going to happen either. I have a belief in God.
And so do a lot of people out there, but others chose to hide, and fuck around fitting in, sometimes you think its worth it, but in 5 years when all your friends leave you, or get killed. it's really not.
Just don't listen to what other people say, keep contact with your friends, just branch out and find some friends who aren't into sex until after marriage or whatever! :]
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