my name is Nat .. ppl call me Noodalie =) um. and i can help you w. some problems your having =)havnt been through everything but i have experienced it through muah friends. im sure i can help in anything. most of my friends come to me anyways. =)
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how do you get nice abs? like i want nice abs with a six pack, just not a noticeable one. i want the outline of one not the inline of one. and i want it to look nice and flat.. any suggestions? i'll rate high! :-D (link)
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do crunches every day. i do 100-200. also eat healthy so it will show. good luck!
~natt~
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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this? (link)
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one thing you need to know is that it was not your fault. it was his choice. not yours. the only thing you can really do is just be there for him......if you know what i mean. and for his family too. dont tke it out on yourslef. keep your chin up! good luck! here to help if ya need me!!! i hope ya feel better. cuz thats a really hard situation
~natt~
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okay well my boyfriend is a football star and im really afraid of losing him because he's really popular and i feel like he's gonna find someone else. he tells me he loves me but i dont know im kinda scared. and also all he does is talk about football sometimes, and it annoys me. (link)
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i think you should just trust him. and talking about football...try changing the subject. it does get annoying but if ya love him then..lol..just tune him out and act like your listening.
~natt~
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well i love my girlfriend with all my heart, she's the sweetest girl ever i would do anything for her, but lately it seems like shes losing interest in me what should i do.. i dont want to lose her because i would be lost.. i just dont know what to do. (link)
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try talking to her. do something that will get her more interested in you. take her out on a date or soemthing. and for your annivirsary....give her some flowers or something. just make sure she always knows she's on your mind. hope i helped!!!
~natt~
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i flirt alot with a lot of different guys and i have a boyfriend is that bad? (link)
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nope. maybe guyys think your too good for them. or maybe they dont have to guts
~natt~
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well this kid ryan, in study hall today he walked by me and hit my pen and messed up my paper, so then after that he felt bad about it and sat next to me and asked me if he could re write it for me.. and then after he was done he wrote "i love ryan" all over my red binder in permanent marker, and hes like, "and it'll stay there forever because thats how long you'll love me okay?" and he walked me to my bus. but i dont know what this means. (link)
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1. hes flirting with you
2. he is just playing
3. he likes you so thats why he wants you to like him
three possabilities. hopefully he'll do something else to you can see waht the answer really is.
~natt~
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At school there's these rumours going around about one of my friends, and someone decided to ask her about them. For some reason she goes and blames me for spreading stuff about her (which i havnt btw) and comes up to me after school shouting and swearing! i tried to explain that i hadnt dun anything but she wouldnt listen, and now shes started bitching about me to everyone i know! Also, i bought her a bday present before we argued and i havnt given it to her yet. I dont know whether to give it to her or not!! i really hate the way shes being so petty and immature, but should i try 2 make things up with her (everytime i try to speak to her she yells at me) or just leave it?
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call her up and talk to hr. maybe if shes acting that way she just needs a friend to talk to. it sux thinking a friend maybe turned on you. just talk to her and if it doesnt work out then jusst let it roll off your shoulder. dont sweat it
~natt~
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ok... this might be long... but i'll rate 5's for anyone who answers i swear!!!!! ok... theres this girl(taylor) on my boyfriends(rob) bus... and me and my friend (anna) think that taylor likes rob... so anna told rob that we thought taylor liked him... and i asked him if he thought she was pretty and i said i want an honest answer i won't be mad... so he told me he thought she was pretty, but not as pretty as me... and i started crying cauz lately theres just been so much stress on me and i just had to break down... then i asked if he would ever like her and he said "i dunno... but i wouldn't cheat on you" and i said ok... but the "i dunno" just broke my heart... so i keep reassuring him that im fine about it... but somewhere inside i no im not and i don't wanna keep bugging him about it... i really love him and i trust him... but i just get this bad feeling about him and her sitting together on the bus...and since he's in a year younger than me his parents won't let him go out on dates so i only get to see him like 3 times durring the day... and taylor gets to be with him more than i do and it just kills me to no that... i don't know what to do.. please help... or give encouraging words.. i luv him and he luvs me too... i trust him.. but i just can't get over it... (im a very sensitive person) (link)
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aww sor sry to hear that. maybe you should talk to taylor. make sure everything will turn out finr. if shes your friends she wont "try" to steal your bf. its just no right for a friend to do that. you also need to be straight out with your bf. im sure he would want to know how he really feels. talk to him too.
~natt~
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okay, i had this ex named bradin about a yr ago and we both liked each other but i dumped him for another guy that i went out with. now im startin to like bradin again because we've been talking again. he says he likes me too but has a girlfriend or "has a girl in mind".. he always flirts with me, saying he wishes it was me and everything just doing normal flirting stuff but wont break up with her because he says hes been waiting for her for a long time. whenever i ask him if i have a chance or whatever he says maybe and then when i ask him if theres any point to liking him he says yes but he doesnt know what. i know he has been waiting for this girl but she says that they arent going out but they both like each other. i really want to go out with him but i dont know what i should do or say to him or act around him or even if i should stop liking him. i dont want to stop liking him. he really does act like he likes me and everything but doesnt want to cheat on his "girlfriend"
what should i do! (link)
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just flirt a lot and he'll get the point and most likely give you a chance. give it some time. do something that will have him give you more attention.
~natt~
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ok i like this boy but i dont ever see him in school anymore. I havnt talked to him in about 4-5 months now and i miss him. He used to like me but not anymore, i had one ofhis friends ask him who he likes and he likes a junior. I really want him to like me but i dont know how becasue i dont see him enough.g (link)
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your just going to have to wait. your time will come
~natt~
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Ok well lately my friend has been ditching me a lot for her other friends. I feel like she thinks im not good enough for her. I will ask her if she wants to hang out, she will say she wants to adn then like 1 minute later she suddenly has plans to go somewhere with her other friends. But when i do get to hang out with her she is all nice to me and acts like she never ditched me. It really hurts my feelings, but when ever she asks if im mad at her i say no. Should i tell her how i feel? Please help me! (link)
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maybe you should say yes. tell her how you feel. if she doesnt understand then shes not worth it. maybe she'll turn around??
~natt~
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Oh god, help! My friend Michelle is getting raped as we speak. I already called the cops. The worst to know if that the person raping her is Danny and she's lettting herself! Rada and I heard it while we were talking to her on the cell phone. Oh god, Rada is bleeding and I'm afraid that he might commit suicide because he told me never to forget this day. I was like ok. I'm crying right now and my arm is bleeding loads and so is Rada's. Oh god, help...please...what can I do to make her stop everything?! (link)
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omg yoou need to get the cops. get off the computer and run to a next door neighbor or something!!
~natt~
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Grr, I hate this! My family hates who I am and what I am. They want me to be just like a prep and shit! I so totally don't want that. I'm a full on metal head and I usually never go to church since I made my communion. They listen to Ja Rule and all this pop bitches like Britney Spears and Hilary Duck...and freaking spanish songs. I hate that shit and like I don't know how to tell them to fuck off and let me be who I want to be. Some one help and no fucking lables please, no freaks or else I'll laugh in your face! (link)
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maybe you should just tell them. they should understand. i mean your their daughter. they should like you no matter who you are. just straight forward tell them.
~natt~
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One of my best friend's brother died in a car crash because of street racing. Tomorrow I am going to his funeral with our friends and to be there for my friend. I really dont know what to wear and what I'm supposed to do there. Do I bring a gift. I feel really bad. He was onlt 17 years old. Please help. (link)
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wear black. be simpathetic to your friend and her family just to show that you care. you couls bring them some flowers. everyone like brings a bouqet or something.
~natt~
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I am interested in substances that can be smoked to get high/stoned that aren't already known drugs. I have done some research and have read about smoking banana peels and tea but I want to know about other things that can be smoked with good results. (link)
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you can NEVER get good results from smoking. so dont even try it. i hate it when people smoke!
~natt~
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So many people in my grade have a b/f or g/f but they don't take it seriuosly. In the hall all they do is say "hey" to each other, they talk to each other on-line about "who knows what?" and in their binders they write "I love----". They don't talk on the fone or anything like that.I feel so left out, but if i ask a girl out it would be weird for me to be going out w/ a girl and telling everyone, but the girl wouldn't look me in the eye or anything like that. it's so stupid. What could i do so i don't feel left out? (link)
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ask someone out. try something new and have ppl follow you. you obviously need to make a change
~natt~
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Ok heres the problem, i LOVE to sing, i can sing very well too. The problem is i can't preform in front of people! I am way to nervous. I can't even sing infront of my family. Its just to nerve -racking. My family says i should go out for singing lessons because sometimes they hear me but im to nervous to go out. When i get older i really wanna try out for american idol, ya it sounds stupid but i do. Its just im to nervous in front of people! Does anyone have any tips to get un-nervous, or any advice for me to go out?
- Shy Singer - (link)
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im the same way. my friends are always urging me to try out. and i am finaaly deciding too. see its not about being afraid. i just want to live my dream and i have to just forget about the people who watch. i hope you take my advice! dreams are more inportant then your fears!!!!
~natt~
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i am 14/f.. and im 5'9. i eat a lot, and i used to weigh 128.. i haven't worked out in about a week and half due to a sprained pinky, and i am down to 125. is there a disease or illness that you can get when you lose weight no matter what? (link)
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no you should be fine ans being 5'9 and wiehg only 128 is really good!! u should be happy. no u should be fine
~nat~
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The guy who I really like thinks I'm obsessed with him. I'm not and I want to show him that I'm not. What can I do to show him that I'm not obsessed with him? (link)
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you could write him a note saying that you arnt. or you could just talk to him
~natt~
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I'm a 14-year-old girl. As I was leaving school the other day, I was walking with a casual male friend. As we were talking, he developed a
very large, very obvious erection. I was so embarrassed for him! I pretended not to notice, and didn't say anything, but he seemed
mortified, and left in a hurry. What should I have done? (link)
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you should probobly just keep it kool and ask him why he ran off(pretend) so he'll think you didnt notice
~natt~
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