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So theirs this guy I'm dating for 4months .everything was going Gd till last week.he made arrangements for us to meet up on Friday and Sunday..Friday came and I didn't hear nothing from him till 11pm wich was aalready to late to hang out so I when to bed mad....Sunday came and I didn't hear from him till Monday night and all he text was.."I thought my phone was lost" I ignored him cuz he didn't even appologized so the next day I text him to stop wasting my time..he reply baack by saying "I been Bussy were koo relax" so finally we talk on the phone and He is clue less of y I'm mad.so I tell him y diidnt he ditch me on the date of Sunday and he said he had forgotten cuz he had so much things to do that I should Of Reminded him..I should just cutt him of ?or take his excuses? ..I really like him and I don't want to stop talking to him but I know I Should. But its hard. (link)
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If he's been doing this a lot recently then you just need to end things with this guy. You can't just sit and wait for things to get better because they probably won't. If this doesn't happen often then wait it out, maybe his excuses were true even though he should have called you back or apologized or something. See what happens next week and if he keeps this up, it's not worth it. Good luck!
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I'm dating this guy. He's very sweet, smart, funny, and he notices all the little things about me. I feel like he really cares about me. I can be myself around him and we seem to have a good connection.
However, he's a little too sexual for me. We were laying in the grass for a bit and he put is hand up my shorts. I said no and pushed him away. He kept trying and I kept pushing him and threatened to get up and leave if he did so. So he kept his hand on my leg and calmed down a bit, but later he did it again. I kept saying no. And I got up and we talked about it and he said he'd stop and go as far as I wanted. But really, I want to wait. I know he likes doing dirty things, but I want to wait and see where we go in our relationship. I get the feeling he wants me for sex. I mean, we barely talk about sex, but still. He's very perverted and can't keep his hands off of me. I don't want our relationship to revolve around sex.
And something else: we've only been dating for a week or so, and he's already saying he loves me.
I still really like him but I don't know what else to do if he keeps being all over me like this. I want to stay with him. So how do I firmly tell him I don't want sex right now? (link)
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You don't want to be with someone like that. He's never going to change no matter what you do. You might really like him and want to stay with him but it's a bad idea. You've said no plenty of times but he kept trying. It's only been a little over a week and he's already doing this.
My ex boyfriend started getting like this with me but it was after a few months. I kept saying no he'd keep asking but I'd say no and he'd finally stop. Then at one point I was saying no and he never stopped. So guess what happened?
Anyway, I'm saying that's gonna happen to you but things happen that you don't expect.
I thought it was all sweet with him but it didn't end that way.
Do yourself a favor and find someone who won't be pushy with you.
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15/f
I work with a guy that I think I really like. We started out totally platonically but we've become closer, and after a while he kissed me. Proper kissed me. Then a week later he kissed me again and sort of fingered me - I was in a bad mood that day, couldn't be bothered to fight him but I made him stop pretty soon - and then left it at that. We were both sober. He used to text me a lot but then he just sort of stopped. So it's been 3 weeks since I got with him last and over 1 week since I even spoke to him.
To start with I only wanted casually to get with him, but now I just want to either be with him or not even know him and forget him.
He's a bad boy too, I KNOW how bad he was to his exes, due to being his close friend for a year before this all. He cheats, smokes, etc...
Thanks xx (link)
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To find out where you stand with him, you're just gonna have to ask him. You'll just keep on guessing and won't figure anything out.
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this guy at skool it the ultimate guy for me.
hes nice, sweet, really caring for me, and we get on... were practically best friends.
(only downer is im not physically attracted to him)
we have dated.
and because i felt like i was leading him on, i kept dumping him.
i do like him, dont get me wrong, but i think i prefer just talking to someone.
i dont have alot of friends, thats y i think i like him so much.
i know hes going to ask me out this coming Wednesday.. and i dont know what i going to say to him!!!! (link)
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I don't think you should date him again because he's just gonna get heartbroken.
Wanting to just be talking to someone is totally fine and is probably better for you since you're not really attracted to him. Just tell him you don't really want a relationship or that you're into him but just don't want to date or something.
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I'm a 15/f freshman. This guy keeps asking me out, but he is a 14 yr old 7th grader, so I turn him down because I question the advisability of dating someone in a lower grade (especially if they failed a grade). What do you think? (link)
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Usually age isn't really a problem except he's probably pretty immature. I'd always want to date someone my age or older because I hate when guys brag about dating an older girl. Really stupid..Anyway, it would bother me that he failed the grade too.
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this is really long, SORRRRYYYYY..... these people who are supposed to be my friends have been ruining my life for awhile now and this is the first time i've been able to explain it since late last year.
so, i've been friends with one of the girls, let's call her Mary, for a really long time. we had some REALLY good times together, and me & her were each other's best friends. then last year, she got a new friend, let's say her name is Barbie (lol first thing that popped in my head) and i was kinda forced to be friend with her too. that was fine with me, and of course i was a little jealous but not enough to say anything. i wasn't really bothered. then this year, everything changed. we were the 3 best friends to each other in the school until late last year, when out of nowhere, both girls completely ganged up on me, telling me i've been bringing them down ever since i met them, that i'm a bad influence, and all this other shit. i was soooo hurt, but luckily the fight only lasted for 2 weeks.. but ever since then nothing has been the same. i never know when they're really ok with me, or when they're secretly thinking i'm ruining their lives or something crazy again! the day before the fight, i had absolutely NO idea anyone was mad at me. they gave no hints whatsoever, texted me and stuff.. then the next day, i was the worst person in the world. so i can never know!
that's fight #1. next one only lasted 1night, but got me REALLY paranoid. I had a twitter, where i would put down all my thoughts and feelings.. it was like a diary. i have friends on there, it was just my owl little world to escape. everyone needs somewhere to vent, and since i obviously couldn't to my "friends" i did to my online friends who actually could help me sometimes! well,of course, Mary & Barbie (ahaha) find the Twitter, and text me telling me how much of a bitch i am for ever being mad at them. ......... like they never. did. anything. wrong. for example, i remember one of the tweets was calling someone a bitch. i was watching MTV for christ's sake! and both Mary AND Barbie accused me of calling them a bitch. on the tweet that was sent like 4 months ago. so they crawl into my own thoughts, and get mad about how i feel. the only reason we resolved the fight is because they both ganged up on me again, and said i had to "confess" to saying what i did. so i did, even though the tweets honestly weren't about them.. so that led me into a spot where i can't be unhappy, ever, and if i am, i can't express it in any way because then i'd be emo therefore ruining their lives.
yes, there's a fight #3, but it only lasted 2 days and it was only with Barbie.. it started on a friday that was an EXTREMELY BAD DAY FOR ME. worst day ever. so i didn't talk much, cuz i couldn't or i'd be "emo". but at one point, i called my mom and she was cussing me out so i had to break down and cry. THAT was the reason Barbie got mad at me. because i cried, she got the idea that i cut myself. not even kidding. she said she hated me, because i was annoying, emo, and i cut myself. ....... Mary was REALLY nice about it all, was on my side (for once) but remained friends with Barbie. Barbie soon acted like none of it happened, and hugged me. never really apologizing, which was becoming a trait. to this day i haven't gotten 1 apology!
soooooooooooo NOW I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO. should i just ditch them or something and become a loner? when they're being normal friends to me i have a lot of fun, but it's too much to handle not being able to think straight. i'm SO afraid of having another fight, i'll agree to anything they say. i sound like a fucking loser right now but seriously, i don't know what to do right now. i'm REALLY SORRY THIS HAD TO BE SO LONG but I really just need some help on this :( (link)
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To be honest, I just think you need new friends. I'd say talk to them about it but they might not work with that and drama would probably happen eventually anyway.
I think you should just go find new friends and people who would actually appreciate your friendship because these two will never be happy with what you do no matter how hard you try. Don't stress too much about this, just cut them out. You deserve better. Good luck!
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Im a teenage girl and at times i feel so emotional. Like i think im so ugly and i just feel like crying. I get mad that i dont go out like every other teenager and guys think im cute but i dont believe it because i dont think i am. I dont know why i feel lii=ke this i guess i just dont want someone to tell me ur ugly or something and then stop talking to me. Please help what can i do so i wont feel so depressed at times. (link)
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I think most girls are like this. I was like this too.
So you're obviously not ugly. It's just yourself saying it. If someone tells you that you're ugly in the first place, they aren't worth your time. If there are guys who think you're cute, then it doesn't matter what the ones who have bad taste think.
Go out and enjoy yourself and don't let people tell you how you look. You need to make yourself believe it, not other people. You'll be fine. :)
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Me and my current boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and things are good. But recently I've been talking to my ex a lot and we even ended up kissing. I think I'm starting to fall for him again. What should I do? (link)
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If you still have feelings for your ex, you shouldn't be with your boyfriend. If you still want to be with your boyfriend after all this, then don't talk to your ex no matter how much you want to.
Figure out which you want more.
If you're just gonna be thinking about your ex while you're with your current boyfriend then you're not gonna be happy.
Just figure out what you want and once you decide, go from there.
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okay so I am in a stong long distance relationship and have been for avlbout a year now. I love him and I would like to say that I trust him. But yesterday at one AM of all times a girl from his past texted him " cashually " asking what he was doing so he answered saying the usual nm how r u. Now she has responded.... I am ... Annoyed aggravated.... Angry. I mean its not like I can exactly tell him who he can and can't talk to. Help!!! (link)
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It's normal to get annoyed by it. I would be too. I'm in a long distance relationship too and if one of my bfs exes started talking to him, I'd want to punch the girl.
But you need to trust your boyfriend. He's with you, so he wants to be with you. Don't let her get into your mind to where that's all you think about.
He can talk to whoever he wants and you already know that, so just try to trust your boyfriend and not think about it too much.
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Im 14 and my bf is 15,Im a virgin hes not.
I really want to have sex with him but i want to do it secretly.I am just scared of the pain,and if i mess up while doing and im also scared of my reputation being messed up.
He doesnt force mi into it but when ever I bring up sex as a subject he gets quiet and starts biting his fingers.
I want to but i am scared of pregnancy.
His friends tell mi he likes me badly and my friends say he wants you body badly girl
We have been dating 7 months.I need help. (link)
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Maybe it's just me but when I was 13 or 14 I wasn't really wanting sex with my boyfriends.
I wouldn't do it if I were you. If you're scared, you're not ready. Your reputation might get messed up because your boyfriend will probably go brag about it to their friends, most guys do. So other people will find out.
If something messes up, you're so young, you couldn't handle getting pregnant so just wait till you're older.
You've only been together for 7 months, and you're 14.
Trust me, it will mess you up big time, emotionally and physically.
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My girlfriend has been lying to me about smoking since we starting going out. I caught her about 6 months into it and a couple of times after that and she has tried but its not working out.
This question is for smokers
Would you be able to quit smoking for your boyfriend or girlfriend?
she says she loves me and wants to marry me but she cant do this even with my help it seems (link)
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I've had a friend with a similar problem as yours. Her boyfriend was smoking behind her back and she told him if he wanted to be with her, he couldn't smoke.
She eventually realized that you can't change someone. If they want to do it, they will. If they really want to stop, they will.
She might need help to stop, but you can't try and change who she is or what she does.
She's addicted to it, but she also wants to be with you.
Get her some other help, because you might not be able to do it alone since you've already tried. Good luck!
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im 16 male and well a few of my friends say they are having sex they talk about it a lot im still a virgin i maybe weird but im not ready to have sex i havent had a girlfriend im waiting to find the right girl but im happy with being single im not ready to get serious alot of teenagers seems to be having sex but i think im way too young to have sex i want to finish high school and get into college i want to wait 2 or 3 years yet theres nothing wrong with that? is 16 too young for sex? (link)
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Yeah, you're not the only guy waiting to have sex. It's good so don't be pressured by any of your friends.
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There is this guy I like and I think he like me but not too sure. He stares at me a lot and sometimes he talks to me and on a few occasions he's even flirted with me. But then a lot of days he ignores me and it confuses me. When this happens I think he doesn't like me. Why does he do that? (link)
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There could be lots of reasons. He could be into you and doesn't want to over do it so he tries talking every once in awhile instead of every day. I tend to do that alot so I don't seem so obsessed.
He could be shy or nervous.
He might be one of those guys who plays mind games with girls.
So I say just text him every once in awhile so he knows you're into him too. Good luck!
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My girlfriend told her friends(best friends) she cheated on me and when i asked her she just said she was a compulsive liar and that it wasn't true. I really belive it isn't true either because it was supposedly with a guy 10 years older then her. how should i deal with this situation? (link)
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You shouldn't be with her. If she's a compulsive liar, you don't want to be with her. She'll end up lying about other stuff too. How are you gonna know what to believe?
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Okay so I have a bf, and we have been going out for 2 months. And I have a guy friend that asked me to give him a picture of me in my bra, should I? (link)
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No, trust me, bad idea.
Eventually your guy friend is gonna keep asking you for pictures and then start showing his friends so just don't do it.
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a guy just texted me asking me to prom and i dont know if anybody else will... But the thing is that this guy has kind of a stuttering prob, which isnt bad but my friends just kinda laughed and are like "well do you want to go?" And i dont really know. I want to go to prom, i really do!
But this is so complicated because people are gonna be talking and my friends will just laugh at me and i just feel bad.. i dont want to say no.
He isnt like "weird" he plays sports and has friends and stuff but still... idk. My OWN friends are kind of iffy about it.. HELP! (link)
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Well obviously, don't listen to your friends. Do what you want. If you want to go with him, then go. If you don't, then don't go. Don't have your friends make your decisions for you.
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Me and my boyfriend broke up. And I didnt cry. But I felt really bad. BUt I never let it show. I smiled even though I was dying on the inside. I had a rebound, and I didnt like it but I acted like I did. I felt awful and I still do. But everyone just keeps saying that Im already over him and there no reason to go back in time and feel bad about. But I never Really got over him. IS it a bad thing I never moarned our relationship ending? (link)
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I think it's fine not to mourn over a lost relationship. Some people do, some people don't. I haven't really cried and cried over a guy because we broke up. It's not a bad thing at all, it shows you can hold yourself together.
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im not saying im scuicidal but just wondering what other people think on it. Do you guys see it as a person going thru so much that decided to end his misery. Or do you see it as some shallow uncaring jerk that decided to end it. I dont know i just kind of want peoples opinions on the subject whatever it may be. (link)
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I see it as someone going through a lot and can only see what's going on in their life. I'm sure that most people thinking about suicide really never want to hurt everyone else but at the time all they care about is getting out of the problems they have.
So I see it as someone who is pretty much blinded from everything else and see only what's going on in their life.
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Well, i've been datting this chick for over 2 years. The first month we went out, she kissed some other dude, flirted around campus, flirted with my own brother, and was flirting with some other guys on myspace. At first, I was never a jealous person, i was cool, i let her hang out with her guy friends at the mall. etc. First date i've ever taken her out, she held hands wit the guy best friend, kissed his chick, stuck with him making me feel like i was the friend. And i got pissed. Downhill from their. 2 months ago she had told me that she cheated on me 5 times (making out, supposedly)And I always was the one to hold that grudge. I made her cry that day cuz for some reason she hides stuff on her phone, so i said i was goin to stab the guy and whatever, so i got sent to a mental hospitol. Anyways, recently we broke up, she was saying how her feeling changed and she wants to be friends.But it hurts so much to hear that. what shall I do ? :( (link)
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Wow that is really sad. Well she's not worth your time. Trying to be friends with her won't help get over her. You know she's not serious with you on any level especially since she cheated on you and even on the first date she was holding hands with some other guy.
There are so many better girls that will treat you way better. You deserve that, not this.
So I don't think you should be friends with her if you want to get over her.
Good luck!
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im 18/f and hes 19/m
me and this guy have been non stop talking for the past two months. ive talked to him on and off for the last year though, but he had a girlfriend at the time so i didnt really pay that much attention. They broke up 5 months ago after being together for 5 years. for three of those months i was just there on the odd occasion to help him through his messy breakup. But eventually he started opening up to me more and more, and before i knew it we were texting each other non stop, and we were both scared yet so amazed at how much we are alike. How we've always wanted to find the 'boy/girl' versions of ourselves...everything was going perfectly, i mean i found that guy i had been dreaming about since i was 5...Then he over reacted to a fb post i sent one night because i wasn't sure he was into me...and sure enough we got into a fight :( this fight only lasted a matter of hours because i need him, even as a best friend in my life. So anyway, he told me amongst the fight that he DOES like me and whatnot but he said its too soon for him to date again and that he wants to fool around with other girls and have it mean nothing before settling down in a rest of his life relationship with me. Naturally i was hurt by this, but i know how much i didn't want to lose him, so i accepted it and told him that i wouldn't have feelings for him again and that i understood.
Then things got really heated with us...we grew even closer to the point we were sexting and sending photos to each other...Things were better then ever between us, and i was positive he had feelings for me, so i tried to cover up my own feelings cause i promised him i wouldn't let myself like him in that way again. Then one night he was texting me, telling me how amazing i was and how he hopes to find a girl like me because we will never date... that stung so so badly. I was upset, and sure enough it led to a massive fight...this time it lasted for 3 days...and those three days were the most horrible days in my life. because not only did i lose the guy i liked more then anyone before...but i lost my best friend, he confessed during the fight that he did like me again, and how stupid he was for thinking about ever dating me etc etc. eventually he forgave me..but things weren't the same between us... That fight was almost a month ago now...and things still aren't ok between us... he doesn't flirt with me at all anymore. only when he's a bit horny. He doesn't text me any where near as much as he used to...and i miss that. miss it alot. Our conversations when he does text doesn't last long at all...when they used to last for hours. i miss the way we used to be before the second fight.
Whats even more confusing...is that he is so overly protective of me about being with other guys. He gets ridiculously jealous if i even joke about getting with another guy. He told me that him and his best friend (a girl) got really jealous cause he was talking to her about me. and then they got into a fight cause she's in love with him too apparently. but he told me that he doesn't have any feeling for her at all. then he tells me that he was telling her "I was telling her how much alike we are, and how much i like talking to you. and some other stuff that i'm not going to tell you about...she even called you my future wife and i told her to piss off" then i told him my own friends had said something along the same lines as that. and he then told me "i feel bad now :(... cause were never going to date and they probably think we are :(" and then i told him that i sorted that all out and that i told them that nothing will happen between us. and he suddenly started getting all weird and being like "oh okay" and not responding to my text at all about us never being together. yet he's the one that said we're never going to happen. Its constantly like this, if i say something about us not being together or something, hes the one that gets all defensive, when hes the one that says it has to be this way. He's allowed to go out and flirt/sleep with other girls...and if i even joke about doing the same he flips out.
we met up the other night for the 2nd time at one of his bands gigs cause the first time we met was only for 2 minutes of which we were completely beyond drunk. At his show he kept coming over to me and joking round and talking to me, he even told me he tried finding me when he was singing on stage but he couldnt find me in the mosh, and how if he did find me he was going to pull me up on stage with him. but ever since we've met that time a couple of days ago hes been acting even weirder. I feel like something changed between us...and i dont know what to do or what to think anymore. I mean i felt SO comfortable around him, which is odd cause im really shy when it comes to guys i like, especially when im sober. i just really dont know what to do or think about this anymore. i really dont know, i just want things to go back to the way they were, i want to know what changed. i want to know how to fix this. (link)
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He really doesn't know what he wants. It does sound like he's into you. Actually, he is into you. I don't know if it's true feelings or just that whole lust thing just to mess around with you because he thinks you're hot or something.
Right now, he sounds like he just doesn't want anyone and just wants to mess around with girls. You're one of them. Probably not in the same way because I don't think you're sleeping with him.
I was into a guy who was like that. We ended up getting close after my break up. We texted all the time and all that. We made out once and then we got into fights because he was what I wanted but he really didn't want anything real right now. He'd get mad if I'd mention my ex or any other guy. I did end up dating someone else because I wasn't going to wait around for him. He hated me for it. So anyway, to end this story, we didn't talk for 2 months. Now we're texting again and better than ever. He needed time to grow up.
So give this guy some time to realize what he's doing. If you are still that girl that's for him then he'll come back and realize what a good friend you were to him and that he wouldn't want to lose you.
Good luck!
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