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My girlfriend told her friends(best friends) she cheated on me and when i asked her she just said she was a compulsive liar and that it wasn't true. I really belive it isn't true either because it was supposedly with a guy 10 years older then her. how should i deal with this situation?
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You kind of answered your own question there. If the girl says she's a "compulsive liar", then you are headed for a world of pain in your relationship with her.
That being said, your own personal goals for the relationship are the issue here. Do you just want to have sex with her until you meet someone else? If so, then do that (but use protection, for goodness sake).
Are you looking for a long, rewarding relationship and perhaps marriage? If so, you're not going to find it with a compulsive liar.
You cannot change anyone unless they want to be changed. You can't ask her if she wants to change because how would you know she's telling you the truth in her answer to that question...or in her answer to ANY question. How would you know she really loves you?
You should dump her and go and look for someone else. Your only other option is to ride this relationship until it INEVITABLY crashes. Dumping her now saves you time. Waiting for the inevitable crash postpones the pain of the breakup for you both for as long as possible...but wastes time...a resource of which you have only a finite amount.
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well if it's her best friend they tend to tell each other stuff like that and if her friend doesn't have a reason to lie to you then why would she, tell your girlfriend that it's really bothering you and assure her that you wont break up with her and you just want to know the truth that will get her to talk or better yet ask her in her friends presence and see her reaction
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I don't think she deserves to be with you. It doesn't matter if she is telling the truth or lying about cheating on you, she's not an honest person. A girl who is a compulsive liar and feeds off attention is no good and you need someone who will respect you enough to be honest with you. Even though you might like her, put yourself first and realize you deserve better.
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You shouldn't be with her. If she's a compulsive liar, you don't want to be with her. She'll end up lying about other stuff too. How are you gonna know what to believe?
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she is more then likely lieing to you if i were you i'd probly break up with her
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You should break up with her.
Whether it is a truth or a lie, she is not capable of being in an honest, respectful relationship with you right now.
If she lies to her friends for attention and drama, she will do the same to you.
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