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I am 20 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months last weekend me and my boyfriend got into a huge fight, and i thought he was cheating on me, which was friday, so i broke up with him, saturday i had a one night stand, sunday, i got over the fact my bf didnt cheat on me and was faithful cause i found out he was. so by monday we were back together. it has been a week and we were still together. last night someone told my boyfriend they saw me with the other guy. so i told him the truth that i never thought i was going to get back with him, so i partied and it happened. well he broke up with me, and now i am very sad. I love him more than anything and want to get him back. i have explained the situation to him. any advice as to getting him back? or what to say?

I have very little advice on this, so hopefully someone can come in after me and add on- But OUCH, babe, you screwed up.
I don't want this too seem to harsh, but I want you to remember that revenge isn't always so sweet. See what position you've put yourself in by trying to 'do to him what he did to you'. Turns out he didn't, and then you wrongfully broke his heart.
It seems like this guiy DOES want to be with you though, because he wouldn't have gotten back with you that Monday elsewise, so you have to show him now that you can be there for him and only him. That you were hurt and got the wrong signals from him, so you wrongfully wanted him to feel what you did. You need to suck up, kiss ass, and just be the great GF I know you are!
Send him a teddy bear with an 'I'm sorry' note, a mix cd showing your feelings for him in this situation- cute things that'll get to his heart.
Truth be honestly told, you may not get him back for a little bit, but I have full confidence YOU CAN.

Much love & Goodluck.

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i really cannot remove my blackheads on my nose! i think they were there from a long time ago. do i need to do something else extreme like pop them out using a pin?

I agree with the other advice givers on the nose strip thing, though I haven't personally used them. I've heard they're a charm. And also, I'd like to add to use Clean&Clear's Blackhead Clearing Scrub(its in a purple container). I use it and absolutely love it. My skin's never been more clear.

Hope this helps& Goodluck.

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ok well i really want to lose weight but my mom never buys anything really healthy like instead of getting chipc she could get those 100 claorie pack things but she goes with the chip and it's not helping me at all to lose weight how can i get her to buy better stuff healthier stuff

Explain to her what your goal is here, and that with her food and lifestyle choices its not making yours any easier. Tell her how much eating well and being fit means to you, and that you can still have yummy foods without going crazy on the fats, calories, or sugars. Go grocery shopping at a Trader Joe's or a health food store next time. Or if you're old enough, YOU take HER grocery shopping next time. You pick out your foods, and she, her's. If this still isn't enough try to get her on the bandwagon too by cooking dinner one night using all healthy foods like you've been trying to convince her of-but don't tell her til afterwards. If she likes it, it'll probably be enough to get her to try to change too-or at least be more supportive of your choices.

Hope this helps & goodluck.

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what does the term "heartstrings" mean?
what are they suppose to be??
i'm confusedd..
helpp?

If something "pulls on your heartstrings" it means it touches you. Its kind of like being sympathetic to a situation or a certain something.
Hope this helps.

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on my myspace, when someone comments me or leaves me a picture comment, it now sends me a message asking me to approve it. It has never done this before. How can I get it back to the way it use to be? I hate how it is now and it makes me go ahh when I cant find out what to do. If you know whats going on for sure, please help!! =D

hollister_lover09

You need to go into your account information and change it. Its a privacy setting you need to edit.
If you have any more questions you can contact me.

Goodluck.

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Hey I know people dont like myspace questions,
but i need a new myspace name;

like a good qoute anything
please help!

I like "Those who abandon their dreams will discourage yours", "Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds", "Well did the fuck up fairy just visit us again?", Any quote from any of your fave songs or a quote from my favorite song Iris by Goo Goo Dolls.

About the myspace name, idk, just anything you feel is right for the moment being. You can always change it.

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What are some good father-daughter songs for weddings?

My favorites are "taking you home" by don henley and "get ready, get set, don't go" by billy ray cyrus.
Those two are cryers, but also these people have a lot of great suggestions.

If you're the one getting married, Congrats!

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hi, I just moved and in my old town I really liked this boy for 4 years, but I didn't ask him out. But, now that I moved, I like this other boy. I know that noone knows about me in my new school and I should ask him out, but this school is almost just like my old school. I really don't know what to do. Should I ask one of them out? And, I've never asked a boy out before, so what do I do? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me! thanks SOOO much!

I understand your frustration with the boy you have liked for a long time, but he's too far to make you happy. Plus, you have new oppertunities you can make good ones. The new boy you like may be a good choice and a good suit for you. I wouldn't ask him out just yet, but to ask him on a date. Too many people rush it and ask out people before they really know them well-thats why going on dates first is a good idea. You guys can go to a movie or hang out without any sense of rejection. It gives him a chance to get to know you before you ask him out and face a possible rejection because he was never given the chance to get to know the real you.
Take it slow, and just show your true colors. I'm sure it'll work out great!

Goodluck.

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i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years and three months. we're perfect and everyone loves us and our relationship. we don't have sex because we don't want to take the risks (being seniors in high school with our whole lives in front of us). but we do lots of other sexual stuff. anyway, lately, he's been so.. annoying, as much as i hate to say it. i've always known he's been less mature than me. but for about a month or so it seems like i'm so much more mature than him. he talks about the most random, stupid stuff, and i get disinterested and annoyed, making him wonder what's wrong, and i can't tell him that i think he's annoying. so i just say nothing and we're off to the next stupid subject.

my point is, has anyone ever gone through a stage like this? i love him, no doubt in my mind about that, but it's just tough to hold conversations with him lately. advice please?!

Oh gosh yes. I know what you mean. I have no solution though. I went on for a while in the end of my relationship with a guy who did that and he was 3 years older, so you would figure he'd be more mature. Maybe he's just nervous? He could have nothing else to talk about and feels that he has to bring up a conversation all the time and so that's all he can come up with. Girls and boys the same age don't always act as mature as eachother. Actually, its been proven that girls are usually more mature than guys their own age. I'm thinking that since your both seniors and this is the last year before actual responsibility and adulthood he's releasing all of his teenage immaturity now. You think that maybe makes sense? I tried watching a lot of educational and discovery channel/history channel shows with him- but we were into that sort of stuff and loved philosophical conversations. I'm not sure if you guys like that sort of thing, but it gave us a lot of smart things to talk about and relate to.
This may be just crap, but I do hope it helps somewhat because you sound like a very happy person with him. Oh, and P.S. I have to tell you, kudos for the posponing sex thing, you really are on the right path and your very smart. Keep it up& goodluck. =)

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whats the difference between a promise ring and an engagment ring ?

A promise ring is usually a ring given by parents to their kids-usually daughters, to promise to save themselves and their virginity til marriage. Its usually a vow that the kid keeps to their parents, to themselves, and in some religions to god.
An engagement ring is a ring given from one person to another they love and wish to marry. It is a promise to give yourself in your all-mind, body, spirit and love- to that person who gave it to you.
Hope this helps, and if you still want more info google it.

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how do you wear handkerchief around your neck? has anyone seen people with them perfectly draped around their neck with the folds like falling perfectly

Yes, Its very emo. There's not an exact art of folding it to wear around your neck or anything- just do what looks good. Buy one, play around with it and fold it up, put it on, and if it looks good your good. Goodluck.

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So we all know its bad enough going to highschool for the first time as a freshman because its a whole new experiance, but my parents decided to move during the summer so ill be going to a completely new highschool where i know nobody! So not only am im experiancing higschool for the first time but i wont know anyybody and i dunno how to go about these things. My sister reassures me that everyone always loves the new person which im sure is true. But since im starting school late im sure they all have assigned seats in classes and stuff and im kind of shy so its goin to be awkward walkin into the class for the first time because i dont know where ill be sitting and i hate asking teachers stuff, but will they know that im new? And also another thing is lunch i dont wanna be sitting by myself because then everyone will think im a loser. basically i need tips because im very nervous and i dont know what to do! Thanks!!

I know this sounds bad, but really, this could be a great thing! You just have to have a positive attitude about it all. Just believe it will all be okay and chances are you will be- I know it sounds cheezy, but its the power of positive thinking.

I don't know you, but some people feel the need to take things that HAVE to happen and make them a great life changing experience. You can make this one of those! You mentioned being shy-so much to the point you don't want to ask where to sit... Take things with a grain of salt and try to change yourself by trying to open up a bit more. Ever wanted to join band or a dchool club but were afraid you wouldn't be accepted? Now's the time to do that. You can create a new you and a new image by doing things you were scared of before. OPEN UP.
Its easier to make friends when you are easy to get along with and easy to talk to, so if you sit there with your head down just do your work, people will think you're antisocial and don't want friends.

When you walk into your new classes make sure to smile and to kind of sound funny. Everyone likes a bit of humor so if you trip on your way into the class don't look like "OMG!!!", just crack a joke like "Whoops! I'm a bit of a kluts!" Or "Still asleep!" Like you just woke up and your still really tired. Guarentee people will laugh and you'll already have friends.

As for lunch, the first few days is hard to find a clique, so I always suggest to bring a book with you just in case. It doesn't make you a nerd-because I'm nothing near that and I like to bring a book just in case there's nothing better to do. It makes you look occupied and not lonely, but not so occupied that they don't want to come over and talk to you.
I really hope you the best!!

Goodluck.

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last night i had a very bad dream involving my boyfriend and my best friend. i caught them having sex in the shower. and of course i beat the hell out of her. i started crying and forgave him. which i know is stupid. because once a cheater always a cheater, right? why am i having these dreams. i heard that dreams come true most of the time. how can i prevent this? i would hate to lose him & my best friend. i love this guy so much, more then anything in the world. he means so much to me. i trust him with alot of things. but someone told me that he has been cheating on me within the past 2 months. i also got a phone call from a girl and told me that he had sex with her. i confronted him about it, but of course he said no. how do i know thats true or not? the friend ( she has a boyfriend )in my dream got kicked out of her house, and needed a place to stay,and her boyfriend is best friends with mine. and he asked my boyfriend if she can stay the night at his house. and he let her. i trust them both. but he has a reputation as a player. he says he has changed but how do i know?


16/f and 19/m - we been together for 7 months.

Dreams do not always come true-that is false. Have you ever had a dream about flying?... Ever happened?

I understand how you feel about this, babe. I have been through the same thing-but my advice will be everything but personal. Dreams usually tell you what your subconcious is thinking and your dreams have a way of being very intuitive about your everyday life. It seems like you trust your bf, but your still skeptical about things. I suggest you keep doing this, because there is ALWAYS a possibility. And your a very smart girl for realizing this and the fact that he use to be a player. I think your a little worried about if he's faithful to you and JUST you... But you should really sit down and have a conversation with him and ask him where he see's this going and if he takes you two seriously. Since you have heard of some possible incidents its quite possible he could be. Talk to your friend (though I doubt she would do anything to hurt you that way if she's a real friend) she may know more than you think.
Hope all ends out well.
Goodluck.

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the song on the commercial for the new razr, vsomething2 or we. its like real love by the beatles but renewed? can you tell me by who and whats its called =]

The only razr commercial I can think of is the one playing the song le disko by shiny toy guns.
Hope this is what you're looking for.

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Hi I know this is the wrong category, and I am sorry. I just didn't know what to put it under.

I have a digital camera.. [a Nikon coolpix p2]

I was just wondering if there is any way of getting a picture onto you memory card from just your camera hard drive or whatever without using the cord because I lost it but I need the pictures onto my camera

I don't think there is. I am not familiar with that particular camera, but most camera's don't give you that feature. I'd suggest for you to go through the manual that came with the product, and if you no longer have it, to go to their site and request another one.
Goodluck.

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