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all-a-sudden annoying?
i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years and three months. we're perfect and everyone loves us and our relationship. we don't have sex because we don't want to take the risks (being seniors in high school with our whole lives in front of us). but we do lots of other sexual stuff. anyway, lately, he's been so.. annoying, as much as i hate to say it. i've always known he's been less mature than me. but for about a month or so it seems like i'm so much more mature than him. he talks about the most random, stupid stuff, and i get disinterested and annoyed, making him wonder what's wrong, and i can't tell him that i think he's annoying. so i just say nothing and we're off to the next stupid subject.
my point is, has anyone ever gone through a stage like this? i love him, no doubt in my mind about that, but it's just tough to hold conversations with him lately. advice please?!
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Hey. I understand where you're coming from. I get annoying with my bf and I talk to him about it. It might be hard too and I totally understand but he loves you the same way, I'm sure he will be willing to fix it. Talking and communication is all it takes to get your point across. If he does something that you don't like be like "babe, I don't find that attractive." and if anything he would keep that in mind; however, if that doesn't work than try a different approach... More blunt, "Babe, I find that immature can you not do that anymore, please?" Do tell him a sincere way and not annoyed because with guys they will take it wrong. Plus maybe because You haven't said anything about the things he is doing to annoy you, he might feel like you're okay with it. Just let him know. =] I hope I help and I hope everything goes well. Take care.
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I have to cases that very much relate to your problem: Me .. and my best friend.
My best friend was in a year long relationship, for the last month or so her boyfriend began to get on her nerves and acting immature. She finally called it quits. She was very sad to do so, because she loved him. But she felt it was time to let go because they just couldn't get along the same way anymore. They've been broken up for a month now, they still talk and hang out but the loves slowly fading. She has moved on to new friends and new oppurunities.
Now my case, I've been dating my boyfriend for seventeen months. No sex, but sexual stuff like you as well. Anyways, for the past four months he's been getting on my nerves. I'll enjoy my time away from him, and being with other people. I still love him, but some of his imperfections have found their way onto my bad list. I've noticed this list growing and growing, we're just not as happy as we used to be. We may still be together, I still love him, but were not happy.
Now its your turn. Maybe you should talk to him, let him know how you feel in a concerned but nice way. Maybe you should let go, is it time for you? Or maybe, you feel that you can fix this problem with educational television like the advicer below me suggested. I just wanted to give you a couple real life examples of what this kind of case lead to.
I hope everything works out for the best.
Good Luck<3
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Oh gosh yes. I know what you mean. I have no solution though. I went on for a while in the end of my relationship with a guy who did that and he was 3 years older, so you would figure he'd be more mature. Maybe he's just nervous? He could have nothing else to talk about and feels that he has to bring up a conversation all the time and so that's all he can come up with. Girls and boys the same age don't always act as mature as eachother. Actually, its been proven that girls are usually more mature than guys their own age. I'm thinking that since your both seniors and this is the last year before actual responsibility and adulthood he's releasing all of his teenage immaturity now. You think that maybe makes sense? I tried watching a lot of educational and discovery channel/history channel shows with him- but we were into that sort of stuff and loved philosophical conversations. I'm not sure if you guys like that sort of thing, but it gave us a lot of smart things to talk about and relate to.
This may be just crap, but I do hope it helps somewhat because you sound like a very happy person with him. Oh, and P.S. I have to tell you, kudos for the posponing sex thing, you really are on the right path and your very smart. Keep it up& goodluck. =)
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