Gender: Female
Location: United Kingdom
Occupation: Student
Age: 21
Member Since: February 22, 2004
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Last Update: November 20, 2004
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I have a friend, Alyssa, who has not had any sex yet. She wants to wait. Thats okay, but she always says that none of it can be fun. Does any one here already had sex and knows how fun everything sex related can be? (link)
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Firstly, it sounds like your friend is on the right track with wanting to wait for the right person. Secondly, I think she should be able to discover for herself whether she thinks sex is fun or not. Everyone is different, and discovering for yourself is better than being told by someone else. She might hate sex when she actually does it, but so what? Someone I know had sex when they were far too young for it, and hated it for years. Let your friend discover sex for herself, try not to push anyone else's ideas about it into her head because, as i said, everyone's different.
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Real Confused!!
Question Posted Saturday February 28 2004, 8:50 am
hi, it's me again who wrote before, "wat do u think" well bascially i have this male friend in college and his quite older then me, the thing is we have a good times by ourself or in groups but the thing is sometimes i'm confused in what things he say's to me and why? he say's thing's like it's just like being married to you? i mean wat was tht all about?? and he also said this in a joke way before that he said "you need relationship counselling i think" as in a jokey way though, then i replied and said; well look who's talikng when you are then one had lots of breakdowns in your past relationship and being dumped ny your ex-girlgriends then he say's; i actually dumped them when only he was trying to deny himself but when i said that he had a grin on his face and went red.
As in the other hand i'm single and i havn't been out with any one for a long time even though i had lots of guy's askin me out in college and out of college but thats not the point i didnt say this to him though because he was saying to me in a joke way and saying are you trying to play hard to get? wat was he on about there! not only that he say's that he has a great sociable time with me when were alone and has called me "you'r such an sex symbol" and no wonder why older guys prefer you more is because you are so attractive and nice/very mature and loving caring person etc...
He also said the other day i can imagine already bumping into you in 8yrs time having lunch with you while you tell me everything about your life.
i mean he does talk to me alot and has a happy smile when i say something to him or make him laugh alot and sometimes he goes red, i'm just confused when he says things tome and why does he say it and what does he mean about it's like being married to you. Recently he has been in a funny mood blanking me then talking to me and sayin is everything ok and how r u etc.. but then agian he makes me be the last perosn to be looked at while he takes his time talking to other girls but i don't mind it's just that why doe she keep me the last one to be listned to is it because he is trying to get my attention or what? and when he talks he looks deep down m eye even thogh my hair is in the way it's like he is trying to serach them and when he talks to teh other girls he always try to glance at me every now and then if i'm looikn or not or wat am i doing? also he does tease me alot and jokes with me alot and winks at me when ever he see's me and say's frount of people it's like being married to you, and he does say hi all the time or if i don't reply he will say it continously and tells me at least you can smile back at me or say hello! and not only that he said i remind him soo much of his ex-girlfriend as he was laughing but he used to say nice thing about her, even though it's his x and he said i also remind him of somebody else with a happy face but why does he mention these peculiar things to me or says it to me then somebody else and he always takes me as a game or a joke and somtimes not taking me seriously or listening to me apart from mirroing me with his face expression or when i say something he is trying to make laugh and always pull his eye-brow up and down but why it's really annoying and embrassing, but we are only gd frineds though we only known each other for 6/7 months. SO PLEASE HELP ME OUT I'M REAL CONFUSED LIKE HOW THIS PERSON IS ACTING AND SAYING THESE THINGS HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY OR WHAT IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO SAY? ansd i never know what he means it's like being married to you he was realy laughing and having a grin on his face when he said that. well srry about this long essay and thanx ever soo much 4 ur reply tke care! bye sweet facex
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Hey!
This guy at college sounds like he likes you; he sounds like he's a bit too shy to tell you straight out so he's trying to hint, and for you to work it out. Have you talked to him about it? Perhaps if you could bring it up in conversation. It doesn't sound like he's playing hard to get, just that he's shy (especially since he went red). He probably said "It's like being married to you" because he's so comfortable around you - maybe he can imagine you two being together because he likes you so much.
I know what it's like when boys blank you though - when they talk to you sometimes and blank you for others. I think he may be feeling a bit rejected (which IS NOT your fault), because he's been dropping hints but he thinks you haven't picked up on it, so that's why he's blanking you - trying to push you away so he doesn't get hurt. He sounds really confused - talking to other girls because he thinks you don't like him, or, perhaps, like you said, he's trying to get your attention.
I think he teases you and tries complimenting you to make you laugh - a lot of my guy-friends try to be funny to get girls to notice them. My best friend is a boy and he's hilariously funny around girls - and he goes red too. I really do think this person likes you a lot, and you should perhaps try to talk to him about it. Try to get it so his friends aren't around and it's just you and him, and ask him for his honest opinion about you. It's the only way to get things out in the open, and this guy sounds really wound up.
Anyway, I hope this helps :) And you're welcome for the reply, I hope everything works out for you.
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Did you see where my sanity went? I need to catch it and sacrivice it to the Gods of Randomness. (link)
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If you find yours, can you let me know if mine's there too?
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oops i did it again
i got tangled up
in the computer cord
oh no, oh no
oops i think that im stuck
and im getting bored
ya
im not that innocent
yoyoyoyoyo. yoyoyoyoyoyo.
oh, that isnt the cordstuck to me is it?
yes, its all tangled up just to annoy me!
awww... that sucks.
i'm still just sitting down here
got nothin to do
got nowhere to go
oh baby baby
oops i got tangled up
lost in the
computer game
and now im stuck here... (link)
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That's a lot better than the original, actually.
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i have ben single for about a year and a half i have been seeing diffrent lads but none o then what a relationship i want to find the right person how long do you think that will be (link)
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Don't 'look' for the right guy, wait until he comes along. You can't force yourself to find the right person for you; make lots of guy-friends first.
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What can I do about those annoying idiots online who never bother to spell anything right? (a.k.a. newbies). They're really annoying! Everytime I run into one online I just want to stab a fork into an electrical socket... It tingles, but then you die. Can anyone help? (link)
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Please, don't stab a fork into an electrical socket. Not a good idea. Maybe you could jab a fork into some mashed potato instead?
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im at my wits end with my relationship with my 50 yr old boyfriend i dont know what to do anymore.
im 38 well almost and i have a high sex drive and he has a low one we lye in bed at nite and that is it he is hardly affectionate to me more so to his computer we dont have sex he says he is too small we are both large people but this large lady has to have it not use to being without it lol but seriously i have tried everything lingere u name it i have tried it at least once i have even tried telling him about it. nothing works I want to have sex all the time i want to find a sex partner so if anyone is in pennsylvania let me know or close to me i know everyone says i should not cheat on him but sex once in 3 yrs is a bit rude well let me hear what people think be nice i am a person 2 (link)
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Well, perhaps this guy isn't right for you. If you're both wanting different things in terms of sex, its really important that you either come to a compramise or get a new boyfriend that can satisfy you. However, I don't think you should cheat on him; If you're sure you don't wanna be with him anymore, break up with him first.
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Ever since I was little I couldn't talk to people I didn't know. When I became older, I started having the same problem with girls. I had a few girlfriends early in high school, but they asked me. They weren't really my type either. They always wanted to party and do drugs. I didn't. I guess that I am the last of a dying breed. My freshman dance was 2 years ago and I didn't even think about going because I was to shy to ask anyone. I always use the excuse that I have a rejection phobia. I am the person that you see at a party that is hanging out with with his friends because no one likes talks either. I can't just go up to a girl and say, hey do you want to go and see a movie this weekend or something. I used to be fat through elementary school and 7 and 8 grade. Then I went to the gym and I went from 250lbs to 180lbs. I am 6'1 so this weight is better. Even though I look better I still don't have the courage to talk to girls. I always think that if I ask them, after they turn me down that they will go off and blab to their friends and make fun of me. I have asked a couple of girls out and they say that they like me as a friend or that they don't have time for a boyfriend and then a couple days later someone else asks them out and they say yes. This year the prom is fast approaching and I didn't ask anyone. Someone tell me how to get over this. I am 17. I don't play sports, maybe thats why. Girls want sports guys. And I don't hang out with the popular crowd because they are too fake. Help.
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Hey!
Don't worry about being in too much of a hurry to get a girlfriend. I'm 18 years old and I've never had a proper long-term-relationship before, simply because I haven't met the right person for me yet. Don't ever change yourself for a girl; if you don't like playing sports, don't force yourself to play them because you think girls will like it. A genuine person will like you for who you are, and will love you just for being yourself. Any girl that turns you down isn't worth your time.
Try and make some friends with girls. Many of my best friends are boys, and they're the most amazing friends I've ever had. Friendship is always the basis for a relationship. You can't just "get over" this -- but please, don't feel like you're alone, because loads of people feel the way you do. Strike up a conversation with some girls in your classes, just go over and say "hey". They won't bite, I promise :)
Congratulations on your weight loss, by the way. It's an amazing achievement and I hope you're proud :)
Like I said, don't try and force yourself into a relationship. Wait for it to come - you're still really young, and there's no rush yet. Just go out and enjoy yourself :)
Good luck!
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my boyfriend wont kiss me because he doesnt know how to kiss. im not a very good kisser either. im afraid to make the first move becuause i think he will pull away b4 i get to his lips and i will look like an idiot. how can i get him to kiss me? should i send him a site about how to kiss on email or what? i really wanna kiss him. (link)
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Practice makes perfect! You and your boyfriend should start off slow, but just go with the flow and you'll both get the hang of it :)
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why do guys tease girls alot even though there good mates and respects each other and why does he jokes alot and why does he always winks at you and says hello u ? in an akward way!and why does he say its like if i talk to u its like havin a cup of tea? i mean wat does this mean and if i say something he goes red and laughs really funny way but in a good way i think and he says tht i am soooo nice why or how comes?
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Most of my best friends are boys, and they are the funniest bunch ever. My best friend and I are always teasing each other and grossing each other out, and we still have the utmost respect and care for each other. Boys will be boys, take it with a pinch of salt and laugh along with it. Teasing can also be a sign of liking someone - maybe this guy likes you. Just have fun with this, I think that's the best solution, when my friends and I tease each other we end up laughing for hours.
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i need more friends. it sux. i have friends online and all but i need more. and more in real life. if u wanna chat email me at gods_gal_90@yahoo.com ok well im gonna submit this so u guys can see it and email me or respond or whatever (link)
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Making friends is probably one of the most intimidating things ever invented. But trust me, it's not that scary once you get the hang of it. Strike up a conversation with someone, find people who share your interests and like what you enjoy. If you don't speak up to people, they'll never know that you wanna be friends with them. Good luck :)
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Most my friends have seemed to not care about me anymore. They all just care about other friends now, and never have time to even just say "hello" to me, but they have time to spend time with other people for hours on end. I feel so betrayed, these people that i called friends just don't seem to care anymore, I hardly ever talk to them anymore, when when i attempt to, i get responses of "uhuh" or any other word related. What can i do to get them to actually notice me? =( please help! (link)
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Aww hun, I know what this situation is like, i've been there and done it before. These people aren't worthy of your friendship. You could try striking up a conversation with someone in your classes, getting some new friends around you. If you really do want to get back in with these people, you need to ask one of the more sensitive people in the group what's going on, why the others are acting this way toward you. Hope it all works out for you.
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One of my friends, Lizzy, is always talking about her friend, Kate. It didn't bother me until I realized how much Kate hates me. Kate once went on Lizzy's screenname on AIM and started saying "I hate you!!" and stuff like that. When I told Lizzy, she said, "I'm going to kill Kate, I am so mad at her!" but they are still best friends. Also, Lizzy talks about all this stuff she hates and when I do, she says its not that bad. And she is always saying blondes are dumb, which they truely aren't and it bothers me to hear people say that. But when I told her it bothered me she just said "Its only a joke." K, so today I said, "wow, Mrs. F really acted like a cheerleader today!" and she said "most cheerleaders aren't ditzy."
K, she said blonde jokes as a joke, I realize it...so when I say the cheerleader thing as a joke, why should she get all mad? She's not a cheerleader, but I am a blonde. blondes aren't dumb. I told her that!
PLEASE HELP ME! WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER WHEN I TALK TO HER?????? (link)
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These girls sound really weird, and to be honest, I dont think you need them making your life weird in the process. Maybe you should find some new friends, or hang out with other people.
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I am a 25 year old female, and the other night my boyfriend accidentally (he says) called me his ex-girlfriends (mother of his childs) name, while giving me a compliment. Is this a big deal, I can't help but be bothered by it. He says it was an accident, and that it's me he loves, and he doesn't know why he said it. What should I do? (link)
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Hey, I understand why you would feel upset over him calling you someone elses' name - but it might have been a genuine accident, especially if your boyfriend has a child by the other woman. If you feel really upset about it, then you should talk to him. Ask him if he's serious about you, if he really does want you and not the other woman. In my opinion, it sounds like a genuine mistake. Hope all works out.
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I got a job at a pizza restaurant. I've worked for the same chain several years ago (a different location). I filled out the application online, made some nice customer comments about that particular location because it's my favorite place, and the owner called me last night! I was feeling really down when he called, so I look at this as a good sign, because it really made me feel better. This may sound totally lame or corny to you, but I'd much rather being doing something, even if it's just making pizzas, or taking orders for them, then sitting around at home being broke. I need to help out my family, but I also feel better about myself when I'm working, like I'm "contributing to society " by having a job. Ok, so I'm not curing cancer, but treating people nice can really make the difference in somebody's day, and I will be working with the public, which I know I can do. It's been a long time since I've worked a cash register, but it didn't look hard, I'm planning to stay there as long as I need to to save money and go back to school to finish my child development credits, but I didn't tell the boss that. I think I conviced this new boss that I can handle it, so why am I so nervous? Any suggestions? I start my training friday. (link)
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Hey, its a great thing that you've got the job :) I'm a college student and I do part time chambermaiding at a hotel to get my money - at least you are on the right track. Your nerves could be down to a number of things - worrying whether the people you'll get on with will be nice, scared of making a mistake, that kind of thing. I had the same qualms about my job when I first started too, but trust me, you'll settle into it and the nerves will disappear. Hope you have fun :)
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hey any of you people out there know how i can start an affair i am in my mid 30 so i am old enough my boyfriend is 50 we get along ok but no sex i gotta have it im going crazy from not having it dont no one worry i will use protection i dont want no diseases and no im not a slut either so dont no one say i am but if you must know i have an extremely high sex drive is all i just wanna find a willing participant if i can and all i wanna know is how i go about finding one if anyone knows thanks gave a good day
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Affairs are never a good idea. Break up with your boyfriend first.
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Why is it that every time I talk to my mother on the phone she somehow steers the question towards the fact that I'm not married? I thought she was all proud of me for being a tough independent woman but that all flies out the window when the subject of love comes up. My boyfriend and I are in no hurry to get married, and this is like a personal insult to her or something. I don't get it. (link)
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Hey, I'm an eighteen year old single girl, and my mum is always going on about me not having a boyfriend. I think that maybe your mum wants what's best for you and only wants to see you happy - maybe she wants to make sure that the guy you're seeing at the moment is genuine and won't hurt you. But I think she probably is proud of you, for being tough and proving you are independant, but just has your best interests at heart. If you are uncomfortable with it, perhaps you can tell her that you're happy with the way things are, and you're in no hurry to get married, and then steer the conversation in another direction. Good luck, hope all works out :)
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i have friends but the second i turn my back they talk about me make fun of me and they are so two faced and a backstabber because they always go crawling back to my arch arrival enemy antonia what should i do? (link)
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Get rid of these so-called friends. They're not your friends if they're making fun of you and being two faced all the time. Make some new friends.
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I need help. There is this guy that I have liked for the pass eleven months. We used to be friends and today I talked to him for the first time in a month and he told me to never call him again. he sounded like he was on drugs but one of my friends told me that he is not. If something doesn't happen soon, my best friend will kick his ass. He used to be really nice, but he is being a bitch to me. Ask me a question if you would like
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Well, if you really care about this guy maybe you should find out exactly what's going on with him - why he's told you never to call him again, whether he IS on drugs and needs someone to help him out. Maybe you could write him a letter or talk to him on the internet? You need to tell your best friend NOT to kick his ass - he didn't do anything to your best friend, did he? But if you find out that he doesn't want or need help, and still doesn't want to hear from you, maybe you should try to move on. You don't need to be jerked around by a guy who's being a bitch. Good luck, I hope everything works out :)
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Toady I had my first kiss with my boyfriend. I guess I kinda wanted to do it but I wasn't 100% comfortable. I thought it would be really great but now I think that it was totally horrible. And to make it worse my friend got online afterwards and told his I liked it...ew. What should I do, I dont want to break up with him...maybe i do...oh i dont know! Help! (link)
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You probably didn't like the kiss you shared with your boyfriend because you weren't 100% comfortable with it. First kisses are often akward, and that doesn't help either. I think you should tell your boyfriend that you weren't prepared for it, and that you wanna take things a little slower until you're certain it's what you want. Don't ever feel pressurised into doing something you dont want to do, and if he gets mad then he doesn't deserve you :)
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