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PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!
One of my friends, Lizzy, is always talking about her friend, Kate. It didn't bother me until I realized how much Kate hates me. Kate once went on Lizzy's screenname on AIM and started saying "I hate you!!" and stuff like that. When I told Lizzy, she said, "I'm going to kill Kate, I am so mad at her!" but they are still best friends. Also, Lizzy talks about all this stuff she hates and when I do, she says its not that bad. And she is always saying blondes are dumb, which they truely aren't and it bothers me to hear people say that. But when I told her it bothered me she just said "Its only a joke." K, so today I said, "wow, Mrs. F really acted like a cheerleader today!" and she said "most cheerleaders aren't ditzy."
K, she said blonde jokes as a joke, I realize it...so when I say the cheerleader thing as a joke, why should she get all mad? She's not a cheerleader, but I am a blonde. blondes aren't dumb. I told her that!
PLEASE HELP ME! WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER WHEN I TALK TO HER??????
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These girls sound really weird, and to be honest, I dont think you need them making your life weird in the process. Maybe you should find some new friends, or hang out with other people.
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If you really value the friendship tell her exactly how you feel. Say that Kate isn't always nice and although it may be a joke it still hurts. If Lizzy feels the same way about your rfiendship she should tell Kate.
If you don't want to talk to her try giving her a little bit of the silent treatment to get her attention. If she is smart she will realize that something is upsetting you and will ask you about it.
AS a last resort you might just want to stop being her friend. I mean she doesn't seem like exact best friend material. Hope I could be some help! Let me know how it all turns out!
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I really think you need to sort things out between you. you have to explain to her that she confuses you, and you just don't get why she contradicts herself so much. Other than that, i would recomend getting rid of her.
I will *never* understand why people stay 'mates' with peole they obviously don't click with.
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Lizzy may be a fun girl to hang out with, but I don't think you should worry about what she thinks or does so much...this gives her control over you. Just smile and roll your eyes when she's not consistent. It doesn't matter what she thinks is dumb or who she talks about. When you don't give her a reaction, when you call her bluff and don't let her bother you, she'll have no reason to act that way anymore. Be nice but tough with the girl.
As for Kate, the poor girl needs to figure out Lizzy for herself. It'll probably blow up in your face if you get involved too much. You MAY want to talk to her for a second about the AIM thing, (if you feel like you need to) but don't get too involved. She may lash out at you, but she'll probably hear you and feel better.
Say something like..."Kate, you have no reason to hate me. Trust me. I have no problem with you." Then let that go as quickly as you can (before it turns into an anti-Lizzy conversation.) Don't let anyone bully you or bother you or turn you into a gossip (they end up sounding needy and petty) Keep your cool, keep your kindness,
Vina
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Tell her the truth...what bothers you.
if it doesn't work out...call it quits and get another friend.
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Just stop talking to her. If she asks why you stopped, tell her the truth. She needs to know that you don't like the way she's treating you and maybe that'll prevent her from doing it again.
*Friends can hurt you*
Abby
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It sounds as if you and your friend Lizzy are at different points in that awkward time of "finding out who you are." Keep contact with Lizzy, you don't want to burn any bridges as a teen, but look around you and see who else you could hang out with these days. Is there anyone who shares your interests? Try joining a new club at school and see what happens.In the meantime, try not to have any convos about Kate with Lizzy. Just keep your talks with Lizzy short and simple until the drama blows over.
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