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not getting any!!!!
im at my wits end with my relationship with my 50 yr old boyfriend i dont know what to do anymore.
im 38 well almost and i have a high sex drive and he has a low one we lye in bed at nite and that is it he is hardly affectionate to me more so to his computer we dont have sex he says he is too small we are both large people but this large lady has to have it not use to being without it lol but seriously i have tried everything lingere u name it i have tried it at least once i have even tried telling him about it. nothing works I want to have sex all the time i want to find a sex partner so if anyone is in pennsylvania let me know or close to me i know everyone says i should not cheat on him but sex once in 3 yrs is a bit rude well let me hear what people think be nice i am a person 2
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Men can often have sexual problems at that age. Maybe he is one of those men. Seriously. If you care a lot about him then you should sit down discuss it like adults and find out why he isnt interested. If you don't have many feelings left for him except for sexual ones then perhaps it isnt right to be with him at all.
If the relationship isnt satisfying you and you're having doubts then you really need to think about the whole situation thoroughly and whether a lack of sex outweighs the other parts of your relationship. If no sex outweighs the emotional aspect then it probably isnt right.
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If you are 38 and use chat speak and can't spell "night" or "lie" I pity you. Maybe he wants someone smarter to have sex with.
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First of all, Logic-man, that was harsh. I totally agree with you, and I'm a person with morals, but "You catch more flies with honey" if you get my drift. Girl, get some self-respect. If you have to beg for it, you being the woman, there is something wrong. Sex isn't all there is in a relationship, married or not. But it is a part of it. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on him, so he is withdrawing. What is doing on his computer? Maybe he's into cyber-sex or something. I think you both need to go to a sex-therapist, and figure out what's going on. If he refuses, then there's your answer. If he cares, he'll want help. It sounds like he is insecure about his manhood. Try building up his confidence, by telling him what you find attractive about him. Good Luck!
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dump him ,get some one who can full fill your needs
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buy a vibrator you dont need to nag them or they dont nag you youll hit that button every time too!
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Well, perhaps this guy isn't right for you. If you're both wanting different things in terms of sex, its really important that you either come to a compramise or get a new boyfriend that can satisfy you. However, I don't think you should cheat on him; If you're sure you don't wanna be with him anymore, break up with him first.
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Wow, I never meant to read the whole thing, and I must say you ask me to be nice but I cannot help but be quite POed. It's nice to know plenty of morons out there appreciate the sanctity of marriage and the importance of sex being about love. It's a bit of a shame I don't know them. So, I'm not gonna freak out, and I'll calmly type my answer. Why are you dating him, because you like him, yes? Obviously not e-freakin-nough if you're willing to cheat on him. Maybe you don't have religion, and maybe you ignore morals, but if you're going to be so stupid and sex-crazy than at least have the courtesy of breaking up with him! And if you do care for him, so what if you don't have sex? The moral and the logical thing to do is to wait until after marriage. Then just whine until he caves in. But, YOU DO NOT CHEAT ON HIM!!! I think I'll stop here, before I get too angry...
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