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Real Confused!!
Question Posted Saturday February 28 2004, 8:50 am
hi, it's me again who wrote before, "wat do u think" well bascially i have this male friend in college and his quite older then me, the thing is we have a good times by ourself or in groups but the thing is sometimes i'm confused in what things he say's to me and why? he say's thing's like it's just like being married to you? i mean wat was tht all about?? and he also said this in a joke way before that he said "you need relationship counselling i think" as in a jokey way though, then i replied and said; well look who's talikng when you are then one had lots of breakdowns in your past relationship and being dumped ny your ex-girlgriends then he say's; i actually dumped them when only he was trying to deny himself but when i said that he had a grin on his face and went red.
As in the other hand i'm single and i havn't been out with any one for a long time even though i had lots of guy's askin me out in college and out of college but thats not the point i didnt say this to him though because he was saying to me in a joke way and saying are you trying to play hard to get? wat was he on about there! not only that he say's that he has a great sociable time with me when were alone and has called me "you'r such an sex symbol" and no wonder why older guys prefer you more is because you are so attractive and nice/very mature and loving caring person etc...
He also said the other day i can imagine already bumping into you in 8yrs time having lunch with you while you tell me everything about your life.
i mean he does talk to me alot and has a happy smile when i say something to him or make him laugh alot and sometimes he goes red, i'm just confused when he says things tome and why does he say it and what does he mean about it's like being married to you. Recently he has been in a funny mood blanking me then talking to me and sayin is everything ok and how r u etc.. but then agian he makes me be the last perosn to be looked at while he takes his time talking to other girls but i don't mind it's just that why doe she keep me the last one to be listned to is it because he is trying to get my attention or what? and when he talks he looks deep down m eye even thogh my hair is in the way it's like he is trying to serach them and when he talks to teh other girls he always try to glance at me every now and then if i'm looikn or not or wat am i doing? also he does tease me alot and jokes with me alot and winks at me when ever he see's me and say's frount of people it's like being married to you, and he does say hi all the time or if i don't reply he will say it continously and tells me at least you can smile back at me or say hello! and not only that he said i remind him soo much of his ex-girlfriend as he was laughing but he used to say nice thing about her, even though it's his x and he said i also remind him of somebody else with a happy face but why does he mention these peculiar things to me or says it to me then somebody else and he always takes me as a game or a joke and somtimes not taking me seriously or listening to me apart from mirroing me with his face expression or when i say something he is trying to make laugh and always pull his eye-brow up and down but why it's really annoying and embrassing, but we are only gd frineds though we only known each other for 6/7 months. SO PLEASE HELP ME OUT I'M REAL CONFUSED LIKE HOW THIS PERSON IS ACTING AND SAYING THESE THINGS HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY OR WHAT IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO SAY? ansd i never know what he means it's like being married to you he was realy laughing and having a grin on his face when he said that. well srry about this long essay and thanx ever soo much 4 ur reply tke care! bye sweet facex
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This guy at college sounds like he likes you; he sounds like he's a bit too shy to tell you straight out so he's trying to hint, and for you to work it out. Have you talked to him about it? Perhaps if you could bring it up in conversation. It doesn't sound like he's playing hard to get, just that he's shy (especially since he went red). He probably said "It's like being married to you" because he's so comfortable around you - maybe he can imagine you two being together because he likes you so much.
I know what it's like when boys blank you though - when they talk to you sometimes and blank you for others. I think he may be feeling a bit rejected (which IS NOT your fault), because he's been dropping hints but he thinks you haven't picked up on it, so that's why he's blanking you - trying to push you away so he doesn't get hurt. He sounds really confused - talking to other girls because he thinks you don't like him, or, perhaps, like you said, he's trying to get your attention.
I think he teases you and tries complimenting you to make you laugh - a lot of my guy-friends try to be funny to get girls to notice them. My best friend is a boy and he's hilariously funny around girls - and he goes red too. I really do think this person likes you a lot, and you should perhaps try to talk to him about it. Try to get it so his friends aren't around and it's just you and him, and ask him for his honest opinion about you. It's the only way to get things out in the open, and this guy sounds really wound up.
Anyway, I hope this helps :) And you're welcome for the reply, I hope everything works out for you.
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