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i don't know what i want to be for halloween does any body have any suggestions...i love playboy and it can be sluttey and sexy...i am 16 (link)
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Hi There,
I think you are quite young to wearing them kind of clothes, however the only suggestions is you could be original and make a costume of your own, or you can go the shop and ask the person who works there for some advice i'm sure h/she will be help to help thats their job.
Goodluck
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i like this girl and we have been bf and gf before we talk 2 each other each day should i ask her out again (link)
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Hi There,
well i'm sorry to hear about your situation... but we're here to help you out a bit.A lot of people end up in situations like this, and it is
heart-breaking and it does hurt. But all you need is time. What i don't recommend is trying to get her back because then it she'll feel like she can have you when she wants and you could get even more hurt! And you should never be treated like that.
You are very young, so you shouldn't worry too much about things like that. Time heals all so just take it easy, if she's going out with someone else then why can't you do the same ;). the girls (but we usually do haha) shouldn't have all the fun heh. Plus it'll help you to take your mind of things. Chances are that yourrelationship wouldn't have lasted very long nor got tooserious because you both are so young. Maybe he felt that you didn't see eachother as much as you could because of being in different schools. Who knows.
well i hope this helped... :) good luck.
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ok,so i'm going to a show tomorrow night and you're supposed to dress up..the thing is..i dont know what to be!
i want to be something unique and original..but i need some ideas. :] (link)
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Hi There,
Well usually the common colour for this occasion would be black why not go to a costume shop and ask the assistant there to give you more helpful advice or you could be artistic and make the costume at home.
Goodluck
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OooooK....
Im 15 and i've never been kissed. I dont really know what to do. I am always afraid that I'll panic(which i do often) and miss. Are there any tips on kissing that anyone could give me? THANKS!
I RATE HIGH!
~*~madyson~*~ (link)
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Hi There,
Don't be afraid of your shyness, it's only natural to feel self-aware when it comes to something like kissing. And chances are this is what's holding your boyfriend back as well. You've been together for a long time, after all, and so if this feels like a natural step then it's important you let him know.
There are two ways for you to approach this. Firstly, you could try speaking up at a good time. If you're not happy about taking a direct approach, it's worth turning the question away from a 'snog me!' to mentioning it might be fun to explore a different kind of kiss. This way, you're stating a wish without putting him under pressure. If he's keen, you'll soon know about it.
Alternatively, however, you might find it's easier to simply expand your current kissing technique. If you're limited to a lip nuzzle, try gently probing with your tongue and just see how he responds. Hopefully, you'll get the snog you want in no time, and if not then use the opportunity to talk about your feelings for each other.
Sometimes, it can take a toe-curling moment such as this to establish honesty in a relationship. It's something that takes a little courage, but whatever happens you're guaranteed to look back knowing you did the right thing.
Takecare
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ok so my friend and i arent getting along right now and i want to give her some space so at lunch im thinking about just eating with another one of my friends let her calm down you kno, but i really like this guy who eats lunch with me and my friend every day and im afraid if i eat w/ the friend im not mad at he wont eat with me anymore and i enjoy talking to him. should i just stay at my table w/ the friend im mad at or sit with my other friend and hope for the best please help im really confused and dont want this guy to think i dont like him! (link)
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Hi There,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone makes you cringe, but that doesn't solve the issue. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line once more and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whatever your mate has done to make you feel so awkward, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to think about things from your point of view, without leaving them feeling shame-faced. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to shape up straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
Goodluck
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Hey ok, I like this guy and when we hangout we act like we really like eachother but he is known to be a player and always asks me to do stuff with him and i dont, but yet he still hangs out with me.... do you think he is just going to keep trying to get some and doesnt really like me, or do you think he actually likes me because he sticks around? (link)
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Hi There,
This situation can be painful and confusing but it shouldn't stop you from confronting this boy about the way you feel. You have to make it clear to him that you and him need to discuss what happened and that he really hurt you
with him. Before you jump to conclusions it's always good to discuss whats going on with him. He might have been shy or nervous about what had happened and he might be holding back. It is good to straighten things out and tell him how your feeling and if he isn't making the effort to talk to you and include you in his life, then you should do the exact same thing. You might feel hurt at this time but you have the right to tell this boy that he has to take responsibility for his actions. He is not worth the effort. if he begans asking for it again than telling him "NO" is the right way to go. For the part in your entry that said "He said i would have a chance
with him." Is why this boy is not worth it. Anyone who pressures you into things with false promises is not deservant of you or your body.
Takecare
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me and a long time friend just got back in contact and we've always been really close. we've never dated or anything like that.he the type of person you can talk to anything about. he dosen't judge you for you mistakes or anything he just got a divorce and he has a daughter(she's almost 3). he's a really sweet guy and i really care for him.can any give me some advice on what to do..please help!! (link)
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Hi There,
I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and hear him out. I don't think you'll lose anything by that, and then you can at least be satisfied that you have done all you can to try and make this work.It is obvious that you still have feelings for him and thats why i am telling you to meet him. Perhaps his explanation will make sense to you.However, i do urge you to be careful and try to take this as cautiously as possible. Leave the door agar for him but
not wide open...Prepare yourself emotionally to accept that perhaps it is not meant to be. This is to prevent yourself from getting hurt.
Take care, be smart and be careful. I hope this turns out for the best. Keep us updated and comeback and talk to us if you need further advice.
Good luck!
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There's this guy I know, and well, let's call him *Andrew* . I talked to *Andrew* like ONCE. and all i ever said was if he was a sophomore and he's like yea. So that's it. So anyways, i have myspace and i found him on there and i was like HEY! OMGGG! and i was like hey i talked to you like once and stuff and hes like ohh yea i remember you. But before i ever sent him that message, i heard he was having this halloween party. So anyways, i kinda see him like almost everyday. He's in my P.E period and when i walk out of English i see him around. But ever since i sent him that message, we've talked about like random things. And everytime he sees me he either smiles,tapps me on the shoulder and wave or just waves. (I KNOW RIGHT!! GREAT..) But the problem is that i asked him what he was doing for halloween and hes just like uhhhhh ..well..ima C if theres a party i can go to..
UGHH! he didn't even have the nerve to tell me that HE was having a party. I mean, it wasn't like i was just talking to him to get invite me to the party! Now im a person who just doesn't give a flying f***. But somehow this just hurt me. I mean we've been talking just like i guess normal friends. But he could've just told me that he was having the party and i wouldn't care if i got invited. But its at the point that im about to cry. Not because i didn't get invited.But just because he couldn't be a man and tell me the truth. And i guess you can say i kinda liked him. But i dunno. Should i just forget about this? And why do guys do this?! After he sent me that message that he was like "im gonna go c if i can go to a party." i was just like "oh kool." .....should i talk to him like nothings wrong? should i wave to him and stuff when he waves back?. I know i should keep talking to him like nothings wrong because he doesn't know that i know. But ugh..its just weird. Please help me! i feel soo bad && im sorry if this is long!! =( (link)
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Hi There,
The best way for you to tell him is to simply be honest. We can't help the way we feel. Find a time when you can be alone with him. It may be best to do this face to face. Sit down and just tell him that you're beginning to like him. Chances are, he may feel the same way about you.
However, before you break the news to him, you might want to make sure that he'll be ready to accept it. How long have you been friends? Sometimes, if you tell him a little too soon, he may get scared and back down. Make sure you've got a secure friendship in place before you tell
him. Most of all, you must feel comfortable telling him about your feelings toward him. If you don't feel comfortable doing it, then it may be better to wait a while. When you do tell him, like I mentioned above, just be honest about your feelings. I sincerely hope that everything will turn out for the best.
Good luck!
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im a younge girl turning 16 in march the 1 and i been going out whith this guy for 9months now but the only diffrence is hes 21 a five year gape i dont see nothing wronge whith it but some people do im really in love whith him and he says he loves me and wants me 2 be hes 4 a enternity hes in jail at a moment but 4 somthing his friend done and i dont want eny one else to be his girl sep me can i hear what yous got to say plz (link)
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Hi There,
I understand what you're going through. If what you experienced is love as what you have said. I suggested you take it step by step. Age difference is not really a big deal. But in any case you still should take this relationship slow. Maybe after you understand all about
relationship because sometimes even if you believe its true love it might not be the way you think. After a while, your way of thinking might as well change as time passed. Don't ever listen to what other people said. You know its not true, the person you should listen to is yourself not others who didn't have clue of what's really
happened. You could try to talk to him about this. He will surely understand if he really cares for you.
Take care.
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what can i wear 2 b coco chanel 4 haloween? (link)
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hi
Dress in black and emhasise on the fact it is halloween.
Goodluck
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kay..well i hve a boyfriend that im COMPLETELY in love with...we've been together for half a year...and i couldnt be happier...except..i cant stop thinking about my ex. my ex broke my heart so many times...and i was so in lov with him...i didnt get over him for two and a half years..and i gues im still not over him...he flirts w/ me alot..and talks about our pass and says he misses me..and i miss him too. i dont kno what to do...i absolutely cannot make myself stop thinking about him...i cant beleeve i miss him so much..i think i still love him..after all, he was my first love..and i kno its normal to never forget your first love..but this is different...i think i still love him..and i HATE it..i feel so horrible..please help..
signed..allison (link)
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Hi There,
To add on to what has been said one of the things I always sugguest is making a list. Sounds corny I know- but make a list of pros and cons of each guy...at the end of this list try picturing your life without your boyfriend- as if he wasn't ever there...and then do it for your ex. In the end no matter what results the choice is yours. Choose what you feel is right. Maybe you shouldn't be with either man- and spend some time alone to realize what you truly want. Decide for yourself whether it's good or bad it's your choice- and you should be proud in that aspect.
Goodluck
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well i know it's nad and everything but i want another one and another one. im only 13!!!!!!!!!!!! i only had one and i want another one! PLZ HELP!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Hi There,
I believe it is not right to smoke. I think that youshould not be smoking at this age. Your body will eventually become dependent on it, and will not be able to function corectly without them. Once you do something once it will be easier the second tim, so do not try it once or their
might be a chain reaction. Do not fall into peer pressure with your "mates". smoking only do harm. Have a think about what i've said.
Takecare
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I had recently asked a question about spotting& using Estrostep..well I have 2 more questions..
1. how long would it take for the Estrostep to affect my periods?
2. how often does spotting occur, is it like 1 day every now& then..or is it a little bit each day, but everyday?
thanks again! :D (link)
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Hi There,
I've never heard of this before so i'm not sure what you mean
Sorry can't help
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I have a friend who just bought his first home. He told me that the mortgage was only going to be about 300 dollars a month.
I was suprised, I thought that the average mortgage was around 1000 dollars or more a month.
Does this mean that he has already paid for most of the house? Also he said the home was on 16 acres, do you think he paid a lot for it? (link)
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HI There,
all mortgages are not at a fixed price so they do differ thats all I can say on the subject.
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ok i only date aboriginal maori or ti or amercains so i only date darker boyz like my bf is aboriginal but when white boyz ask me out and i say no they say im racist cause there never seen me whith a white man im not racist i just dont find them very hot i like them as friends thats it and how can i be racist if my dads family is white and my mothers family is black thats not racist a (link)
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Hi There,
I do believe your not racist everybody has different tastes in guys and I can totally unterstand what you mean, some people just can't accept being rejected so the best thing they can do is come out with this so make you feel upset. At the end of the day you know deep down that you are not racist and thats all that matteres just don't let narrow minded people get to you just be yourself and you don't need to prove anything to anyone.
Takecare
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What's wrong with me?
My parents think I'm strange and that I have something weird going on with me. "I have weird habits and a weird way of thinking."
Habits as in...counting the number of cracks I've stepped on, the times i circle around something, the seconds im in somewhere and if its not under a certain time then i..feel the need to start over..and then im yelled at when im still doing it ...I dunno. People think I'm retarded X___x I didn't notice that i was doing this stuff... i just do it because...its what i've always been doing..then people pointed it out. Its like ringing the doorbell a couple of times..before entering because..its just..there. I always think about something. I'm afraid of pain. I'm afraid to do P.E. in class. I'm afraid of running..tripping and landing on the ground..seeing blood or having my arm bend the wrong way or having my fingers crushed or having those bent the wrong way. It makes me sick. I don't want to twist my ankle or have a ball hit my face..because it might hit my ear piercings and those might rip out and hurt. I've got glue on eyelashes and I've just recently thought..what if i get the glue in my eye? My eyes will start to water and then i might get eye problems...might have to go see a doctor...and then i get awful images.. I dunno. I always worry a lot. Also.. my little sister was going across the street to a friends house...in my head I heard a loud crash..and had images of her lying in the street covered in blood and...blah. My boyfriend had this safety pin in his mouth...and it was open and for about 20 mins..he was talking with it still in his mouth..and all i could think about is.. what would happen if it cut him...or if he swallowed it and it got stuck..and i couldn't do a thing about it because there was no adult around.. argh. Am I stupid? (link)
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Hi There,
You have made the very first step, and that is talking about it to someone. You might want to talk to your parents or a close friend about this. Secondly when you look in the mirror you have to look at the entire book, not just
the cover. Meaning the qualities that you think you might lack on the outside, you may exceed on the inside.With your parents permission if you have the means to do so, maybe you might want to try a new hair style or different clothing that might make you feel better about
yourself. Maybe you might want to get involved in an after school activity or hobby that makes you feel like you are accomplishing something? Anything that makes you feel like you are worth something. Think about things you are good at
doing, such as drawing, writing poetry, music, etc. Once you actually feel like you are accomplishing things, you may feel better about yourself. But first you must accept and like yourself before anyone else can accept and like you back. When you have confidence in yourself, it shows on the outside, and people tendto respect you more for that.Sometimes however we need a little help in reaching that goal of liking ourselves. So my biggest suggestion to you, is to talk to someone about this. Just like you did here.Have a little faith in yourself, and accept yourself for who and what you are. I'm sure there is a beautiful person in there somewhere. You just need to find her.I hope this helps you. And I wish you all the best. If it's any help to you, I think your a beautiful person and I don't even know you. I can tell just from your words.
Takecare
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my friends a lez right but i think we get a long cause where 4 tha same country we got same culter and we both very sporty and love partying having a drink but when i meet her a few dayz ago she told me that she said to her dad she pretty and the dad was like yeah she said im premo a word 4 better than hot and im going out whith the boyz and her do you think she likes me just as a friend i hope (link)
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Hi There,
Maybe she's just passing a genuine compliment i mean my friends do that sometimes thats no big deal if it gets a bit more then approach her tell her how you feel and then she will know next time to what to say and do without you feeling uncomfortable about it.
Takecare
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sorry this is long, and full of profanities, but i seriously cant take it anymore.
hey i dont know who is going to be up at 10 oclock on a Sunday, but of course i am. You see, i really hate my dad. Time after time he makes me so pissed off and annoyed at him, and i just cannot stand it. Like this morning, he wakes me up at 8 30 to go to church, and then he fucking leaves without me because i "wasnt ready!" Now i have to go by myself and after church i was supposed to have plans with my friend i havent seen in 2 months and i cant even do that! This morning i was writing an away message and he tells my little sister to turn off the computer because i was on for too long and i was "ignoring him" so she turns it off! like wtf? so i slam in the keyboard drawer because i was so pissed off, and it fucking broke! now im in trouble for breaking the keyboard, and not going to mass. Finally, my dad is angry at me because i bought too many songs on iTunes. The bill was 20 dollars.
Who cares?! 20 bucks is not a lot for buying music that me and my brother listen too, and this doesnt even happen every month! Usually its like 5 bucks!
You may think im being like stuck up or bratty over this, but this is how it is for me day after day. I hate my dad and im always mad at him and i wish he would leave my mom so i wouldnt have to deal with him anymore. I go to a very hard high school, and i manage to get A's and B's so i think he should be damn proud of that. can anyone help me? how can i work things out with my dad?
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Hi There,
My heart goes out to you and i understand how painful and frustrating all this must be to you. Our parents love us, each in their way. The problem is that some parents are over critical, they push their kids too hard and expect too much so that their kids fall short in their expectations. Your parents are not able to communicate properly with you; they are over critical and forget to praise you, perhaps thinking that this way you'd achieve more. They fail to see however, what a negative effect
this is having on you.
Now listen to me carefully. You just need to stay positive, believe in yourself, prevent anyone or anything from bringing you
down. Shut out their negative remarks. Ignore them. Take pride in the things you are good at, immerse yourself in your hobbies and little talents, enjoy your friendships and good reltionships with people. Keep a diary and pour
in it all the pain away, ventall the frustration.
Try complaining to a friend about things when
you feel things are overwhelming. Try another councellor and another till you find one you feel comfortable with. Try annoymous help hotlines, where you can complain to someone and just get it out of your system.
Also try talking to a relative you are close to, or perhaps one of your parents' friends. Explain the situation to him/her, and maybe they could talk to your parents about going easy on you a bit.Just keep yourself busy in your own world and surround yourself by friends and people who make you feel good about yourself. Keep your chin up and rise above any negativity. Answer your parents remarks by calmly saying,"Dad please don't do this to me...it hurts my feelings and
i have done nothing to deserve it."
Hopefully, gradually your parents will see what they are doing and stop.
Take care of yourself and love yourself.
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What song is this from? :
Your face looks like the fairy tale explosion - black and blonde and red all at the same time. Did you hear him mutter under his breath "fuck yea it's over" (link)
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Hi
first of all who sing this song then i mightbe able to answer your question?
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I've been with my girlfriend for a bit over 6 months. We're very romantically close, and quite physically close(we've only kissed, but we're still very physical). She has a bit of a confidence problem, but I've mostly got that controlled. I'm wondering, what can I do to make her feel more sexy? She does a lot to make me feel sexy, but I think I need to do more to let her know that I think she is too.
Thank you in advance for your help.
16/m (link)
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Hi There,
You don't need prove anything to her your love and affection is more than enough, always re assure her about how you feel towards her and just be yourself thats why she loves you for who you are not what you are. You could buy her nice gifts etc. take her out the usual romantic things that couples do.
Goodluck
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