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lunch table
14 female
ok so my friend and i arent getting along right now and i want to give her some space so at lunch im thinking about just eating with another one of my friends let her calm down you kno, but i really like this guy who eats lunch with me and my friend every day and im afraid if i eat w/ the friend im not mad at he wont eat with me anymore and i enjoy talking to him. should i just stay at my table w/ the friend im mad at or sit with my other friend and hope for the best please help im really confused and dont want this guy to think i dont like him!
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during ur next lunch sit with the friend you like and then simply go over and ask if he wants to join you
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its your choise if the one is rlly mad at u i sugest u go sit with the other one...cause he wont be rlly MAD at u...u can try trust me
good luck
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You should introduce the new friend and the friend your mad at and ask if they could both sit together with you. and if that doesent work, sit with the friend your mad at and ask your new friend for his phone# so you can invite him to hang out with you or vice versa. Hope this helps&heats;
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Hey,
Yeah, that's a really good idea. The guy won't think you don't like him BUT he might think you're being petty or silly...and you don't want that.
How about letting the guy sit in the middle? On the other hand, he might actually feel 'in the middle' and get awkward. I think the best thing would be to say something along the lines of 'look, *name*, I'm not gettong on so great with *name* at the moment so I'm gonna sit over there with *name* for a bit while she cools down. I'm still friends with you so please keep talking to me, but don't feel like I'm forcing you to take sides'. That way you will seem the grown-up one, you won't look petty and he won't think you hate him or anything.
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ok...i think if you really like this guy then you should sit with the friend your mad at so you can still talk to him...maybe you should try to work things out with your friend to so it wont feel weird when you sit with them...hope this helped some..
your friend,
Jess
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Hi There,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone makes you cringe, but that doesn't solve the issue. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line once more and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whatever your mate has done to make you feel so awkward, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to think about things from your point of view, without leaving them feeling shame-faced. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to shape up straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
Goodluck
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I really think you should give your friend some space. You cant forfeit your friendship for some guy. I guess it all comes down to who's more important to you. You could even just talk to the guy about why you're sitting somewhere else. I'm sure he'll understand. But i doubt you would be happy with some guy if you knew your friend was kinda angry. That's my opinion but whatever you do, good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple
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