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i cannot stand my dad
sorry this is long, and full of profanities, but i seriously cant take it anymore.
hey i dont know who is going to be up at 10 oclock on a Sunday, but of course i am. You see, i really hate my dad. Time after time he makes me so pissed off and annoyed at him, and i just cannot stand it. Like this morning, he wakes me up at 8 30 to go to church, and then he fucking leaves without me because i "wasnt ready!" Now i have to go by myself and after church i was supposed to have plans with my friend i havent seen in 2 months and i cant even do that! This morning i was writing an away message and he tells my little sister to turn off the computer because i was on for too long and i was "ignoring him" so she turns it off! like wtf? so i slam in the keyboard drawer because i was so pissed off, and it fucking broke! now im in trouble for breaking the keyboard, and not going to mass. Finally, my dad is angry at me because i bought too many songs on iTunes. The bill was 20 dollars.
Who cares?! 20 bucks is not a lot for buying music that me and my brother listen too, and this doesnt even happen every month! Usually its like 5 bucks!
You may think im being like stuck up or bratty over this, but this is how it is for me day after day. I hate my dad and im always mad at him and i wish he would leave my mom so i wouldnt have to deal with him anymore. I go to a very hard high school, and i manage to get A's and B's so i think he should be damn proud of that. can anyone help me? how can i work things out with my dad?
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hey, i totally understand what your saying- it seems like no matter what our parents can find a way to ruin everything. But, as much as you probly dont want to hear this, maybe you just have to look at this from your dads point of view. Maybe hes sick of being late to church and just wants to get there on time becuase thats the one time where you can be together as a family and be calm and focused on something othere than the rush of daily life.
Also, as far as the computer thing goes, no it wasnt fair for him to turn of the computer that way, but maybe he just wants you to pay attention to him like maybe hes feeling that talking to your friends is more important than talkting to him. And the itunes bill, i understand u didnt mean it but maybe he doesnt want to waste money becuase theres more important things to pay for. Parents try not to get there kids involved in thier financial life, becuase they dont want them to hav to worry but idk if youve noticed, but the basic needs today are really expensive...even for a family with a lot of money.
I think you just need to tell your dad how your feeling. Tell him that you love him and you know that he just wants the best for you and that your really gonna try harder to listen to him and look at things through his point of view...but that means he needs to look throught your point of view also! Its hard to be a teen and im sure he remembers that..and hopefully you guys cna work things out becuase im sure he loves you and only wants wats best! =]
hope this helped! <333
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You could be more responsible and get yourself up early to go to church like 8:00. If you are tired then, you should get to sleep earlier.
Maybe hes angry with you about money because hes saving up for something or he doesent make enough money. And about the grades, he wants you to grow to be succesful in the future.
You could ask him if you could get a job to earn money to by stuff for your self.
Hope this helps.
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I don't know how to say this nicely but it sounds like you are being inconsiderate.
Sure your father could be dealing with his anger a bit better. But if you are holding people up, charging money to his account without arranging it with him before hand, and taking out your anger on rather expensive things like keyboards, it's not your dad with a problem, it's you.
If something is important to you, like downloading your music or seeing your friend, then you should be responsible enough to communicate that to your father before hand. A simple "Dad I think the itunes bill is going to be higher this month." Or "I'm really looking forward to church tomorrow so I can see my friend." would probably have been enough to diffuse this whole situation and earned some understanding from your father.
It just sounds to me like the communication between you and your father has broken down, and you are just as responsible for that as he is.
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Hi There,
My heart goes out to you and i understand how painful and frustrating all this must be to you. Our parents love us, each in their way. The problem is that some parents are over critical, they push their kids too hard and expect too much so that their kids fall short in their expectations. Your parents are not able to communicate properly with you; they are over critical and forget to praise you, perhaps thinking that this way you'd achieve more. They fail to see however, what a negative effect
this is having on you.
Now listen to me carefully. You just need to stay positive, believe in yourself, prevent anyone or anything from bringing you
down. Shut out their negative remarks. Ignore them. Take pride in the things you are good at, immerse yourself in your hobbies and little talents, enjoy your friendships and good reltionships with people. Keep a diary and pour
in it all the pain away, ventall the frustration.
Try complaining to a friend about things when
you feel things are overwhelming. Try another councellor and another till you find one you feel comfortable with. Try annoymous help hotlines, where you can complain to someone and just get it out of your system.
Also try talking to a relative you are close to, or perhaps one of your parents' friends. Explain the situation to him/her, and maybe they could talk to your parents about going easy on you a bit.Just keep yourself busy in your own world and surround yourself by friends and people who make you feel good about yourself. Keep your chin up and rise above any negativity. Answer your parents remarks by calmly saying,"Dad please don't do this to me...it hurts my feelings and
i have done nothing to deserve it."
Hopefully, gradually your parents will see what they are doing and stop.
Take care of yourself and love yourself.
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i know what you mean, me and my dad hate eachother..
and once your done with highschool you can get out and away from him..
but for now you're just going to have to deal with it, and try not to get on his nerves. but what i would do is tell a counselor at school that you can't stand him and that you want to know if there is any type of counseling that can help, even talking to the counselor everyone once in a while would help you to get it off your chest, and he/she can probably help you a lot more than some of us here on this site.
also, if you never tell him what your feeling, things arent going to change.
hope things get better between you two ♥
if you need to talk my screen name is novembertragedyx
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i think you should sit down & talk with your dad. you probably don't want to, but it's respectful & he'll probably listen to what you have to say. maybe write him a letter. it shows that you took time & effort to write it, trying to explain how you feel about the situation. he is wrong though, because he seems too hard on you. maybe your mom can help you out on this. explain to her how you feel about it too.
-hope that helped!♥
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