Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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when i want to talk to the guy i like, i always have to write it on Word first. i get so nervous that he'll laugh at why i say and then i don't know what else to say. then when i talk to him he barely talks or answers but thats besides the point. i feel like if i say too much of something he'll get annoyed and block me. why am i like this and how can i stop? (link)
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Hey. You're not paranoid. Every girl goes through this when they like a guy so it's completely understandable. You also probably got into the habit of writing things on Word so now you feel that if you stop you won't know what to do or say. Don't feel bad if the guy doesn't say much because people don't really talk much on aim anyway. They say little things like "hey" or "whats up" or "nm". Especially guys who don't talk much anyways. Just think of it this way if you really want to stop writing things on Word. They're a person just like you among billions of other people and your just having a cute little conversation. There are things that will be much harder in life. Not that I'm saying this isn't hard (believe me I know it is) but this will make you feel better. Just set your mind to typing what you want to say just as if this guy was your best friend or your mom, dad, or a family member. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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okay im turning fourteen on the eleventh and i want to have a birthday party but i don't have any ideas. i either want to invite my three best freinds or invite my whole clique which is roughly 15 girls.
i need some ideas for both.
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Hey, you can have a hotel party. You wouldn't have to sleep over with everyone, just you and your family can. Or, since you don't want a sleepover you can invite your three best friends to go to the mall and plan a ton of scavanger hunts which would be really fun. I'm fifteen and I'd still like that =). Then you can go to a restaraunt at the mall. Or the three of you can go have a three in one day where you go to ice skating for example, then out to eat somewhere else, then to the mall. For the big group you can do a lot of things. You can go ice skating, roller skating, bowling, etc. I really hope this helped and good luck, happy birthday! =)
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okay so my old friends are stupid so im making a new clique or a new group of friends. but what is IT that people like about the LEADER of the clique?
when i talk about the LEADER of the clique i mean like the head person. the person everyone wants to be around. how do you become that person?
i need the most help i can get. please help meeeee. thanks in advance :) (link)
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Hey. To be the leader of a group you have to have confidence. But you can't just get confidence you sort of just have it. You sound like you do and if not just think of what an amazing person you are and what an amazing life you've had. Also, you have to be friendly. Being friendly is about the key thing because everyone appreciates someone who talks to everyone, not just their select group. Lastly, and most importantly, you have to be nice. Being nice is about the one key thing to make any group work out and not end in the way your old group did =(. By the way I wouldn't feel bad because these things happen to almost everyone at least once in their lives (as I'm sure you know). Anyways, just be nice, friendly, and have confidence and everyone will really like you. You won't even have to declare yourself as leader with these qualities. I really hope this helped you and good luck! =)
No totally I understand you left =) thanks for the feedback!
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Hello there, My name is stuart im from the uk,,
i need advice,,, can you help?
there is a women aged 24 (im 22) who i have
been very good freinds since i was about 6
years old,i am also freinds with her brother,
he is my best freind..she (jay) has just
came out a long term relationship 6 months ago
which she has got 3 children,. i go round
to her house evey day, to see her. the problem is i think im in love with her,but i carnt tell if she feels the way,we can sit there for hours talking about things,i love spending time with her
,what do you think i should do? as i dont want to lose our frendship,but she is my ideal lady and i can not live without not no,ing is she feels the same way as i do......
PLEASE HELP ME A.S.A.P KIND REGARDS STUART
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Hey. Wow! That is an amazing friendship! 16 years! If you feel that you're really in love with this women I would definitely go for it! Also, you have a great relationship with her family and you two sound like you really work together if you can talk for hours. Although, she may'be felt the same way about you for a long time and just never had the guts to tell you. This may be why you've stayed friends with her so long, you may both be in love. I would start things off slowly though because you may have both waited so long that it will come as a shock to her and she may not know how to react. Start by inviting her to a movie or something you both do together and then give her a kiss. See how she reacts. You'd be surprised and she may reject you at first because she's so shocked. But it will let her think about things and she probably knows what a great father to her kids you would be. If she says no don't be hurt because she may not want to wreck your friendship. But I have a feeling things will eventually work out great if you start out slowly and then eventually ask her out. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Hi,
I am a home daycare provider. I have been taking care of a 2 year old, Mikey, for almost 2 years now. I NEVER call in sick, I am very dependable. The only time in almost 2 years I have EVER called in is when I had to be hospitalized for 3 days. And even then, I got a back-up sitter so the parents didn't have to miss work. I am cheap too. $100 a week for a 2 year old is unheard of! I am very loyal and loving to all of my daycare kids. I have grown very attached to Mikey, I love him as if he were my own.
I am a very passive person. I let people walk all over me and I know it. I never say what's on my mind, in fear that I will lose the kids or cause an argument. But in this case, I have had it!
I have my own child, who is very sick right now. He needed to see a doctor yesterday. I understand that being a daycare provider means that you have to be dependable, and I am. I put the daycare kids first and waited to take my kid to the doctor until all the other kids were gone to take him to after hours care.
I discovered that my son has strep throat and an ear infection. Strep is very contagious!
Trying to do the right thing, I called all the parents and told them that my son had strep. Being that all the kids were here yesterday anyway, they were probably already exposed. I told the parents that their children are more than welcome to attend daycare, but I just wanted to make the parents aware that my son does have strep. I made it abundantly clear that it was THEIR choice whether they wanted to bring their child to daycare or not.
According to my contract, I am to be paid whether the child attends daycare or not unless I have 2 weeks notice. If I call in sick and cannot provide care for their child, then they do not have to pay.
Mikey's mom called this morning, FREAKING out on me. She says that she cannot find another sitter on such short notice, and if Mikey doesn't come today then she isn't paying me...blah blah. She totally made me feel like I was screwing her and leaving her optionless. I explained AGAIN that it was HER choice to bring Mikey or not to bring Mikey, that I was open and already had other children there. She rudely said she would call me back and hung up on me.
She calls back and rudely says she has absolutely nobody to watch Mikey so she is gonna stay home with him. Before I could even say OK or I am sorry, she hung up on me again!
At this point, my blood is boiling. She has no right to get an attitude with me or to hang up on me. I have always given her child love and I have always respected her. I do not deserve to be treated this way.
But being the passive one, I let it go. Then I saw that I had a voice mail. I checked the message and it was her. Again, she is saying I don't know what to do....this is ridiculous....If Mikey doesn't come I am not paying you, I will not pay for 2 sitters...Blah blah...then rudely slams down the phone.
First of all, if the measley $20 is an issue, all she had to do was talk to me about it. In the contract, I am entitled to it. But I am such a push over that I probably would have waived it because I felt bad.
Secondly, I never told her Mikey could not come. I made that very clear more than once that this was her choice.
So my question is, how do I handle this? I am so angry with her that I wanna scream. How dare you talk to me like that and then hang up on me? I would never do that to her and I don't deserve that. Should I offer to waive the $20? I would have anyway. Should I put her in her place and tell her how I feel or just let it go?
I am really upset about this! I love Mikey and want to continue caring for him, but I know this is going to turn into an arguement if I bring it up.
What would you do???
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Hey. Wow I would be really angry too and I don't blame you. You have cared for her child for two years and she treats you this way?! Try to think of it from her point of view to make yourself feel better though. She is probably under a lot of stress since she cannot miss a day from her own work and now doesn't know what to do. She probably would feel really guilty if her son got sick (not your fault of course =)) so she doesn't want to send him to your house. She's probably very angry that she still has to pay you even if your childs sick and can get her son sick. She probably feels that this isn't really right at all and was just very stressed out about a lot of things when she called you. She should have been a little nicer to you after all you've done but I can tell you wrote this when you were very angry and I would call her back when you're a bit calmer and she will be too. Explain to her what you told us (but very calmy) and explain that you understand why she was angry. Say that you would have given her the discount if she wouldn't have jumped down your throat like that and that you felt she treated you very rudely for someone who's been so nice to her child. And offered a great discount for 2 years! If you feel that you won't be able to get through to her on the phone send her a letter. Things are much easier in writing. She should understand and you will see Mikey again if she settles things out with you. I'm sure if you do all of this everything will work out fine. Since you're the agreable type a letter might be best since your courage will be higher when you're writing your feelings. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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my life has been hell lately. my mom freaks out all the time about how horrible of a person ive become. my church is against drugs and all that other stuff. i could care less about the church. but i am straight edge and thats the only thing that keeps me from doing drugs,drinking,etc.but ive been miserable the last few days. school has been horrible. and i dont want to see a counselor at school kuz they wont do anything about it.they cant help.and my parents cant afford a therpist right now. theres only ONE person who will always be there for me nom matter what though and thats my girlfriend.i want to quit.run away.i dont know.but i know i need to keep my head up.
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Hey. Your family is just really upset right now if they know you're on drugs. They would be so upset if anything ever happened to you because they love you more than anything. The church cares about its members A Lot too and they just don't want anything to happen to you. If you continue with drugs you could get brain damage or even worse and it will mess up your entire life. You could've had a long life ahead of you with your girlfriend even and a family but if you continue with drugs that's definitely Not an option =(. Your parents know you're not a screw up and I know you're not so don't go around thinking that. Everyone just loves you so much and they need you. They're just saying this because they're angry and think you're not trying. Just think of how hurt they would be inside if you ran away. They may act angry but it's a cover-up for how hurt they are and how much they love you if they Think You're on drugs. Just keep this in mind as you're trying your hardest. As for school just try your best and you will be surprised how good this will make you feel. It will be hard to get into a habit of studying regularly but once you do you will feel amazing about yourself. Please try it! I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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for my sweet 16 my mom wants to bring me to the bahamas but i want to something with my friends but i dont want to have a party
and she says that we dont have the money to bring my friends with me
im soooo pissed because its my 16th birthday and i want it to be fun and special
any ideas on how i can convince my mom to change her mind? (link)
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Hey. Well I wouldn't try convincing them about taking your friends to the Bahamas because that is Extremely expensive and soooo nice that they're taking you there! That is a Really special gift so be greatful =). But, I also understand why you'd want to do something with your friends too. Maybe you can have a party with your good friends right before you go away and you can have it at a hotel near your house for one night so it's A lot less expensive compared to taking them all to the Bahamas but you'll still be having a sort of "mini vacation". But please be understanding if your parents say no to this because the Bahamas is a really nice gift. You can have another sort of party with them beforehand too if the hotels not a good idea. Maybe a sleepover at your house or something or a day at the mall. Your family will appreciate that you're happy about the trip and that you're still trying to suggest cheaper options. Oh, and give them a pat on the back for such a nice trip! Good luck and happy sweet 16, can't wait for mine next year! =)
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well i think i like this guy im not really sure... thats my problem.... everytime i think of him i get exited and i smile and stuff... but im always afriad to hang out with him... this is the situation... he likes me im positive about that... but i didnt like him.. and i think im now starting too... but i think i might be afriad to like him because of what other people think... cause everyone i kno hates him.. so why do i like him? should i like him? i dont kno what to do... and im afriad hes gunna ask me out and im not gunna kno what to say... (link)
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Hey. If you smile and get excited everytime you think about him then you definitely like him. Don't be afraid to hang out with him because of what other people think. It could be true love that you're ignoring here. If they were really nice people, they would understand that you two really like eachother and honor your opinion. Don't be afraid to hang out with him because you're nervous either because if he definitely likes you than he should be the one who's nervous. He probably always felt bad that you didn't like him (in his mind, whether you did or didn't =)) and so he would be more nervous. You should feel much more confident thinking of it this way. You're both just people who may be meant to be for eachother. You should definitely hang out with him and ask him out and it may start something really great! If not, than oh well, it least you tried it and now you know. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated. (link)
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Hey. It was so funny to read this because you sound Exactly like me. I love that kind of stuff. Here are some suggestions that I hope you will think are fun. You can make a scrapbook with pictures of all your friends and family, you can build a house (out of any materials you would like) that you would like to live in sometime in the future (I'm not sure how old you are). Then you can make a book to go along with that house and put a picture of each of your friends and family members. Then write a description about something you put in the house to fit each of their personalities and why. You can try to make a pot and then paste pictures onto it that you took, you can build a jewlery box (out of wood they sell at a craft store) and paste pictures onto that, or you can build a small, decorative chair and paste pictures of your favorite vacation spot on it and then make a matching pot. I really hope this helped and if you need more ideas feel free to ask. Good luck! =)
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I know will be a hard question to answer but I'll take anything you got.
http://www.afo.com/Products.aspx?pn=480&Vid=E5BF731239028&t=Photographs&i=0
Thats a picture of the desk I have and I'm having the hardest time organizing it because it always looks over crowed. I have my computer and prinder in the same spots as they do. But I have some jewerly, phone, picture frames and a few lil nick-nacks. And I have no clue how to organize it. I know this will be a hard question but I figure it couldn't hurt to ask. I'm 15/f btw.
And thanks for any attemps. (link)
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Hey. Well first of all, that's a really nice desk! Anyways, I would put all of your jewlery right in that one little drawer that's on the desk. This way you'll always know that that's the jewlery drawer. I would put the picture frames where that picture has them and some of the nick-nacks in the top left area (as many as you can fit and that doesn't look too mishmashy) and than any others in the compartments below. Then I would put your phone in your jewlery drawer so that it's not always laying out and you always will know it's in that drawer. I really hope this helped at least a little and send me a message if you need any more help. Good luck! =)
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does anyone know of any print catalogs that you can order by us postal mail that have flower or butterfly jewelry mAde out of fabric im not talking about the plastic or metal butterfles i'm talking about the ones made out of fabric. (link)
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Hey it looks like this website has them http://www.mydivascloset.com/3busehaclfor.html and also http://froogle.google.com/froogle?q=fabric+butterfly+hair+clips&hl=en&sa=X&oi=froogle&ct=title I really hope this helped and that it was the kinds you were looking for! Sorry if they weren't =(. But anyways, I really hope this helped! =)
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um i have some screen shots form this movie and I'm goign to make a music video with the pics, putting them in order to let people who haven't seen it like know the story line here.
Problem: fromt he song to the end of the good part of the song is going to make the video between 0.01:20.00 to 0.02.00 mins long. But I only have 9 pictures.. any ideas on how to make it long enough to fit that time but still make it good so people who are watching it don't close the video halfway? (link)
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Hey. Well, is there any way you can make each picture stay on there for a while? Like 10 seconds each? Also, you can make your own pictures inbetween that say like "Me and Katie" for example and you can make this show for ten seconds. Then show the picture for ten seconds or whatever time limit. You can add in like a picture of a rainbow or something just to add in extra time, which you can find in a magazine or if you're doing it on the computer... online. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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does anyone know any good songs that basically say "i wonder if you ever think about me?" or something like that? (link)
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The song When The Cold Winds Blow in the album from Monroe Crossing's 'Somebody Like You' have those exact lyrics. I found this on http://www.monroecrossing.com/slylyrics.php Also I Wonder the Robert Cray band lyrics on http://www.lyricsmania.com/lyrics/robert_cray_band_the_lyrics_4253/strong_persuader_lyrics_13143/i_wonder_lyrics_152502.html Also, Diffuser, I wonder on http://azlyrics.free.fr/bofilms/freakyfriday/freakyfriday.htm#11 I really hope this helped! =)
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Me and my sister are both teenage girls, 15 and 16. We butt heads on a daily basis. We fight at least twice a day, and by fight I mean physically and definitely emotionally. We've physcially fought so badly that we leave bruises, marks and scratches on each other. Emotionally is the worst though. She has no idea that everything she says to me/calls me hurts me so badly. As my older sister everyone expects us to fight, but this type of fighting is over the line. We fight twice a day, at least!
We're past the point of working it out, our parents have tried everything. And honestly I'm sick of crying everyday.
What do I do? And please don't say ignore her, that NEVER works. (link)
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Hey. It sounds like you and your sister have just gotten too close. Try to get out of the house as much as possible for a couple of weeks if possible. Remember that whatever she says is out of anger and she doesn't really feel this way about you. She may just be saying these things to get back at you for the things you've said to her during the fight too. Whenever you and your sister begin to fight try to think of her with a little umbrella hat on doing crazy karattee moves and doing the robot. It should definitely help because you will be able to block out the things she's saying and it will be amusing to know she has no idea what you're thinking. Now I'm not saying to secretly make fun of your sister at all but it will help you to prevent a fight and she will appreciate that you're trying. Or just try thinking of her going blah blah blah while she's talking. This way nothing will get physical and you'll be in a much happier mood. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Okay, I'm fourteen, a girl, and in desperate need of some advice. There's this guy I like (he's two years older than me, if that makes any difference) and he goes to a different school than I do. So, I only see him once a week at karate--sometimes not even that! Now, I found out that he likes practically everything I like. He seems a little nervous when he talks to me though, and I find him occasionally looking at me. But if I look at him, he quickly turns away.
Now here's the problem. I convinced him to try out for his school's play, since he never did before, and he tried out. Not so bad, right? My friend's friend knows more about him though, so I asked her about him. She said he was in all of the previous plays, that he's never had a grilfriend, and that he's a loser! That's horrible! But, did he really lie to me? We're friends, why would he do that? It's just...some people say he likes me, and it's just...no one I know is like him. And the signs are there...so...does he like me?
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Hey. That's horrible that your friend said that about anyone. She may have just been jealous and she could have lied to you. It Definitely sounds as if he likes you without a doubt from an outsiders point of view. He may have told you he's never been in a play before to make it like if you told him to go for him, you helped him out a great deal. He may have felt that this would make you feel great that you helped him out and would make you like him more. It does sound like that girl was jealous though so I would definitely go for it with this guy! Who cares what other people say, don't listen to anyone. It could be true love! I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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15/f
Hi, I am going to list a few facts about me in hopes that someone can list a few careers that interest me. My school career counsellor has a personal issue with me because my mom fired her daughter, so I am not comfortable with working with her.
- I am a grade ten
- I have a 4.0 GPA
- I excell in all of my courses
- I would like a job that has variety and is somewhat challenging
- Have considered being everything from a Kindergarten Teacher (to work with children) to an architect (to get rich - but I am not sure if I would like to work that many hours)
- I am good with people
- I am equally strong in math/science as english/socials
- I am interested and 'have an eye for' photography
- I love working on a team or with children
- I can be bossy and controlling
- I am a natural leader
Are there any careers or areas I would be best suited for?
Thanks! You may change my future. =) (link)
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Hey. If you like working with children you could be: a pediatrician, a nurse in a children's hospital, a children's book writer (you like photagraphy too), a researcher who studies child nutrition or development, a social worker, you can be a principle, or someone who takes the pictures for weddings. You can be a lawyer if you like to take control (of your clients life), or a doctor might be good too. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Do they sell PSP's in stores? and can you go online on a PSP for free? (link)
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Yes they sell psp's in stores. Stores like Best Buy would have them. I've never heard of you being able to go online for one and getting it for free. I don't think anything online is free, lol. But you never know. Toys "R" Us might have them too. I really hope this helped and if you need more help send me a message =).
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15/f
How many grams of protein should I be getting a day. I swim for about 2 1/2 hours 6days a week. I'm 5'10" and 160 lbs. I don't know if that affects it or not but w/e. haha. Thanks. (link)
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The average adult should get 60 grams of protein per day so since you're 5'10" that's probably a good amount. If you keep up with the excercising you may need less, but proteins always healthy so I would stick with the 60 grams. I really hope this helped! =)
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Hey lately I've been having dreams about water and the ocean. The first one, i was swimming in a pool with Orca whales and then my dad and my brother threw them into the ocean so they could be back in the wild. The next one, my dad, grandma, and brother got eaten by sharks while I watched from the window of a rental house. The last one, I was swimming in the ocean with my brother and my friend's dad. The lifegaurd told us to get out of the water because a shark was near. Next thing i know, my friend's dad has the shark in a headlock and killed him. WHAT DOES THIS ALL MEAN?! Thank you. (link)
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Hey. I've had a lot of dreams like you explained but they never really meant anything, although a few of them may have, not quite sure. But I've had about three of these types of dream sequences where I have them constantly. In the past they never really meant anything. I think it's just that your brain is being creative and it may be doing this a few nights in a row. This was always just my assumption but I could be totally wrong. This website is good for explaining dreams http://goddessqueen.typepad.com/ihadthestrangestdream/chicago_tribune_cover_story/index.html The water and sharks may symbolize something but it probably doesn't mean that what you're dreaming means something bad. I really hope this helped! =)
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13/f
maybe guys around my age can answer this queastion. do guys with girlfriends ever think about liking another girl that they are friends with?
because i know that when im going out with a guy, even if i liked another guy right before it happens, i kind of forget about it and just focus on my boyfriend.
so do guys with girlfriends ever pay attention and fall for other girls while there dating someone else? can they like two girls and be dating one of them and just not tell the other?
any answer appreciated...thanks! (link)
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I'm not a guy but it probably really depends on the guy. I mean some really nice guys would just focus on their girlfriends unless they fall deeply in love with some other girl. Most guys though, probably could fall for another girl while they're dating one. Guys are just like that. But than again, it really does depend on who he is. I really hope this helped! =)
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