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HEY GUYS. I figure i know a lot about advice. I have been threw a lot from family violence and growing up in environments with a lot of stress and stuff to relationships and sex questions. i have had my best friends move away, feel the pain of a lost love one, feel the hurt of loving some one so much it kills, and many different levels of love, pain, sorrow, and CONFUSION! so just ask away ill try to helps ya out ;D later

Hey so Its been a while since I have been on here just wanted to update a little.
I have had a few more life experiences. I have a best friend new to my life as of a few years ago now and she is amazing. I couldn't ask for some one better.I lost my first love from stupid choices i made and now am trying things a little differently i won't do the same stupid stuff as before. Hit me up ID LOVE TO HELP!!
Oh and I started college :)

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Proactive i use it and have for a long time it workes really good.

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i am 13 female and i think that i am lesbian. i dont want to be lesbian and i want to stop. how do i stop being lesbian? i havent make out with a girl yet but here are the things i like: 1)girls kissing. 2) "perfect" breast. 3) cute faces. and 4) hearing girls moan during sexual things. i think that the cute face and perfect breast thing is just me being insecure about myself but what about the other things? anyway how did i become lesbian in the first place? is it in my genes or something? i need help!!!!!
i rate 5"s for good answers!

ok the thing is you may not be lesbian . you'r just currias. like you don't see a girl kissing another girl that often so its intrusting to you or girls kissing cus we probably do it better and if you have not kissed before your new at it so its like an example. and the moaning same thing . your just curias most likely you may grow out of it you may not but don't foget to look at those hotties wiht bodys boys lol jk just some humer hope i helped.
Andie

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lately i want to go bi because i dont like having sex with men anymore ive never been intimate with a girl before i mean their were lots of times but never all the way im physically attracted to woman but emotionally attracted to men but want absoulutely no sex from guys whats wrong with me im only 21

my friend thinks you should do some wild things with guys and then make the attraction comg back but also you can experament with girls but don't go all the way bi

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ok the other day my g/f and i were making out and i dont know what got into me but i stuck my hand down her pants and she didnt like it. she was ok that i put it down there but not too far and one time i think i got a little too far cuz after that she seemed depressed. now i feel like a jerk. afterward she said she sortof liked it but im not sure. wut got into me and how can i make it up to her? by the way im 14.

you should admit to her that iw was ajerky thing to do and say you are so sorry. stuffed animals help there so cute and roses are good 2 i am a girl so i also would know. you should reassure her that you were out of hand and that it will nothappen again unless she wants it 2. hope I helped.
Andie

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whats a way to like lose weight im 95 and i sorta have a gut and im 13 and i do not like it.

ok you only 13 and you only weigh 95 pounds i am 14 and weigh 100 give or take alitte. you don't need to worry about your weight and besides that we all have A LITTLE GUT but do situps and crunches and stuff that will help i need to do some of that lol any way ya hope i helped.
Andie

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ok i have been sexualy harrasded when i was in 2nd grade by a 14 yr old and when i was in 5th grade i like to watch movies about girls beign raped and sexualy harrasded im not a lesbion i like to read books about it too i know i am not weird i htink i liek this stuff becasue what happend to me when i was younger it was very hard to deal with and it took along time to be comfortabel even seeign his face i woud run away and cry in my room but now i just give him a nasty look but i have nit seen the kid who harrasded me when i was in secound grade we had a restreaning order against him i just need back up do you think that is y i watch these movies and read these books hope you can help

ya that is why you watchthem . you can relate to the victom in the movie and its not as bad to other people as it is to you cus they don't really understand exactly that its really that bad. and like you know it really is like that and its just something you relate to
Hope i helped if you need to tlak to some one here is this lady's e-mail address no1left2understand@yahoo.com
she will really help
Andie

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15/m my really good friend,probly best friend in the whole world, who i really like is really depressed. her ex made her feal bad and she thinks its her fault and i never really have seen her happy since. Anyway what can i tell her that would help her. ive tried telling her it wasnt her fault and tried to cheer her up and it wont work. p.s. her name is christy and she is 14. no smartassy answers please and i rate high so please give me suggestions.

ok just tell her he is an ass for dumping you .but he is your EX the past look to the futer and that you will always be there for her if she needs any thing always no matter what. and that its his loss for dumping her cus she beutiful(that will make her feel good)and smart and stuff and like she nice and stuff like that. and that you care about her and don't want her to get hurt by asses like him cus she deserves better. hope i helped and if you need any thing els just ask
Andie

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i'm a 19 year old guy. i figured i'd start with that as well most other people start their questions that way too. she's an 18 year old girl. nothing wrong there so far right? well she has a thing for a friend of mine. but my friend doesn't like her at all. problem is i've developed some feelings for her in this time. we've gone out on a couple of dates hung out nothing serious really. but last night she feels it necessary to tell me she likes him. i knew this, it didn't stop me, and i didn't care that she liked him cause i knew how he felt towards her. now this was in a message she left me and since then has said nothing to me. now here comes m question:

why would she say this to me in the first place? what could her motive have been? is it to tell me she doesn't like me and wants me to back off? (if so that's fine) or is it to tell me to leave her alone altogether? or is it some weird way of sayin g she's starting to like me? or is it just some random thing to say that is totally meaningless and going nowhere? she told me she knows he doesn't feel that way for her, and that she knows he's got his own girl issues now and yet she still likes him. i assume she wants me to ease up and let her be, but i don't know i can't read a girl's mind and if i could i doubt i'd want to (too much crap about makeup and gross things) but whatever the case what do you folks think is the meaning of all this?

ok i am only 14 but i am a girl. i think she means eather ya see i still like him and i want you to back off just a little or somthing like that and or she means that ya i likehim and ai'mnot going to stop likeing him but i might be able to give you a chance in the futer but i bet she is glad to have you as a friend and be there threw this. hope i helped.
Andie

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Okay,
latly i have noticed how..."normal" or "boring" my hair is. Its brown/dark red, completly natural, wavy and a little over medium lenghth. ITS BORING! i wanna spice it up a bit, you know, cut to the shoulders, die it, something! i am thinking straightening it and dieing it orange or brown. i dont know blond for that cut flirty look, orange for that "i need a boyfriend" look, brown for that Dark, deap look, black for that mysterious look or red for a kate windslit "titanic" look. What do you think? I wanta do something with it becaus its so "dull" i need advice. Please no sarcastic remarks like "wahsing it?" none of that please. i need advice, new year's coming up you know....oh yeah "Happy New Year!"

~hair

i think ok one die the elds a new color like blond
or the roots blond. and the straiten it and pit it up a little so that is flares out like if you put it in that ponytail you don't pull threw all the way or crimp it or make it curly . hope i helped
Andie

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the thing is that i've liked this guy since kindergarden and now im a freshman in high school. lets call him jason. but, then i met this other guy, lets call him ricardo. ricardo seemed like a really sweet guy and i started to like him, but deep down inside of me, i was still in love with jason because jason has always been the man lol. well, anyways, ricardo dedicated this song to me, but he sent it along with the music video, and the music video had horrible things in it... im not talking about people having sex or anything like that it was something else that was really bad. but, my mom is kind of overprotective. she sits next to me on aim and watches what i say. well, she saw the video and made me tell ricardo a whole bunch of horrible things. ricardo was really sorry about it he said that he didnt mean for the video to upset me, he just wanted me to listen to the words of the song and the words were nice. so, for christmas my mom got me a sidekick, which has AIM on it. so, last night ricardo IMed me on my sidekick and my mom wasn't watching so i started kind of flirting with him and my mom was like "who are you talking to?" and saw that ricardo was IMing me but then she thought we had stopped talking and went to sleep. i told him only to IM me when I was on my sidekick. but, now im nervous and worried that my mom will find out. i dont want to get in trouble. im so confused also... i noe that im in love with jason.. but i've been having reacurring dreams about ricardo.. but could it be because of what my mom made me tell him? could i hav flirted with him last night because i was mad and wanted to rebel against my mom because since eighth grade shes been watching everything i say online and checking my emails?? and the thing is that im not a bad person. im in a all girls private Catholic high school and i get really good grades and everyone says im the nicest person in the world. can sum1 help me?? did i do this because of my mom or because i have a thing for ricardo??

Ok i think you may have a thing for ricardo . just let what is trying to happen happen but don't open your hart totaly for eather of the guys cus if you do that if the relationship goes bad it will really hurt you and also yes you were probably berebelias but not tords your mom like tords the fact the well i am a good girl i should not be doing this. like i think you should stay close to both of the guys and stuff but friendly close ya know like friends then find out more from there. but it does seem that ricardo likes you so . and also you mom needs to know she can not controle everything you do . its just not fare and you won't be able to go threw life like that something will end up snapping.
hope I helped
Andie

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Ok well i want to downlaod music free, but not illiegal. Not going to download a program like limeiwre or winmx. I need a stie wehere i can get them for free that are compatible with ipods. Know any?

ithink i heared some girl at school say bearshare is like that. ok hope i helped .
Andie

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How many miles does a car need to have on it before it starts to need a lot of expensive repair work, such as a new transmission?

it depends on the car .

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ok i had a rek and it was very very bad wat happended is this car stopped in front of me and i slammed the brakes and the car kept going and the i drive is a dodge durango and i was wondering if ther was like reports an them about their brakes.. if you can help plz tell me

just get new brake pads.it also depends if it is used but they usualy don't have bad brakes.
my friend answered
"turk"

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So I've had my license for a while now (almost a year) and I'm a good driver except when I'm in the car with my mother.


I know all parents get ire when their children start driving but she takes it to a whole new level. She points out the tiniest mistake and then lectures me about it until I make my next one. She gets so uptight while I'm driving with her that after a while I pay more attention to her than to the road. When that happens, I make even more mistakes which lead her to talk and lecture even more.


And it's not even mistakes that she points out to me. It's also what she thinks might me a future mistake. Like, "There's a red light ahead, make sure you don't run it!" or "Don't hit that truck coming the opposite way!" Like I'm blind and I can't see an OBVIOUS red light or a huge 2 ton yellow truck comming my way!


I know she means well but it makes me nerves and I can't drive.


I've asked her to try to just let me drive and it worked...for 2 days. And after the 2 days, we were right back where we started. Any Ideas?

tell your mother the way it is from your point of view .
that is from my friend"turk"

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ok, i'm turning 16 soon, and my parents said that i could get whatever car i wanted as long as it was under $40,000 and met the following criteria: it had to be Japanese/European(they don't like American cars), it had to be reliable, and it had to be safe. i was wondering if i could get some suggestions on what to ask for

my friend is going to answer
You could probably get a 91'-95' honda sivic(sp)acord(sp)"turk"

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I'm 16, female, I have my learners permit. I'm getting my license in May. I have about 1500 dollars saved in the bank. Can that get me a decent car? If not how much should I spend on a used car? I would like a car by May, and I only get paid about 200 dollars a month at the MOST. please give me some advice.

My friend is going to answer
You can probably find 95' mustand in good shapeor if you want a truck you could probably find Nissia frontier 2000 or 95'. if you need more ask and he can help.
"Turk"

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hi. i am 15 years old and have not got my first period...my boyfriend wants to have sex...but idk what would happen...is that horribly bad if i havent got my first period yet
PLEASE help i rate 5s!
despretly confuxed

ok now since you have not started your period the doctors will be worried since youare supost to stat by or beofre 15 and also its not like tarable but atleast you have not had the asle(sp) of it yet. it is a pain I am 14 and i know so any way my friend would like to add something you see i think you can not get pregnant if you have not had you period but she thinks the total oposit.
Andie
and
Solita

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Okay well I have a boyfriend and he's great, he gives me great compliments but he never makes a move!, he never gets jelous and it makes me think he doesnt really care and seams like I'm nothing special when he's around me, but then theres this other guy my exboyfriend, he's great, nice, sweet, thoughtful and he would do anything for me but the only problem about it is he's not that exciting and it makes it no fun sometimes...could someone please give me some advice on what to do its been bothering me for a week and I dont want to hur either of them thanks

My friend
There is a reason they are X's. you tried it once . it did not work.


Solita


Ya he is your X and there is a reason for that but be friends with him and be able to go to him and lean on him when you need him you current boyfriend well just talk to him and stuff.hope we helped
Andie

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hey!!.... im 17.... i went out wit this guy last year for like 2 months....and i really liked him but we barely had time for each other so we broke up...and this year....he went out wit one of my close friends and i liked seeing them together because he seemed happy and i couldnt pick any better girl then one of my girls...and anyways....my friend broke up wit him...and it turns out he didnt like her he was just wit her because he knew he would be seeing me while dating her...and he likes me...i dont know if i like him the way i used to...but wen im not with him i want to be wit him and sometimes wen i am around him i dont wanan be wit him like i kno i can do better but sometimes i dont...so i dont know what to do...

i rate high..please help me the best way u can..thanx

Me and 2 of my friends are agoing to answer .
I think that you should hang with him more and see how you feel. if you you are happyer and stuff go out with him like drop hints that you still like him or have some one tell him . and like when you are around him if you just find yourself smiling then you like him.
my friend who is going as "Turk" is ansoring now.You never know if you like him again like before unless you try again.

My other friend going as "Solita" sais.
If you thinking about him when you are not around him you should deffenentaly go out with him again. And becasue of the fact that he likes you .

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my bf and me just broke up and its hard for me to cry and crying is the only way i can be okie. Whats a good sad love movie i can dl. thanks and no not the notebook. i saw it and didnt like it. If someone dies in the movie that helps, or if they dont end up story.

I LOVED KING KONG AND CRIED ITS A LOVE ACTION MOVIE. you should go see it . hope i helped.
Andie

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