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Q: a girl at my school has been going through a very tough time lately. her dad left 3 weeks ago and she just found out that she might be pragnant. this would be much easier if she WASN'T 13!!! but she is and we are best friends. im the only one that knows about the pregnant thing. what do i tell her i rate high for a real answer
thanx

If she thinks she is pregnant, she needs to take a pregnancy test. If she can't afford to buy one, go to planned parenthood (maybe have YOUR mom take both of you? tell her the situation) and have a test done. She needs to know if she is pregnant so she can take care of herself as well as the baby properly. If she isn't pregnant, tell her to either wait to have another sexual encounter (she is vulnerable right now) or at the very least make sure she uses protection. If she is pregnant, she needs to decided what she wants to do. In any case, be there for an open ear and try to help her out.

EDITED: I am not saying YOU need a pregnancy...I am saying SHE does.

Q: I was with my girlfriend for 2 years when she got pregnant. It wasn't a planned pregnancy but we decided that we would deal with it. The first week that she brought that baby home things were good. We got a little apartment and I was working full time during the day and she would work a couple hours at night just until I could support us with only my job. Well one day I got home from work and she was gone. She left a note saying that she wasn't ready for a child and that she's leaving our daughter with me. It's been a week since then. I've been doing the best I can but I don't know the first thing about being a parent and I have no one to ask about it. I grew up in foster homes my whole life. I love my little girl to death but I just don't know what to do anymore. She doesn't stop crying. I've tried feeding her, changing her, rocking her, everything that I can think and she keeps crying. I brought her to the doctor and he said that there is nothing physically wrong wtih her. I don't know what to do. If anyone has idea of what could be causing this please let me know. I would also appreciate it if any one knows anything about taking care of a 3 week old baby. Please help me.

Jack

Jack, I'd be happy to help you out. It sounds like your little girl could have colic, which would make her cranky at night. Sometimes taking her for a car ride or running the vacuum cleaner can calm colicky babies, otherwise I am sure there are a million people who could give helpful advice if you do a search online. You don't need to be raised by a family to take care of a baby, so don't feel like you are an inadequate father. If you have any instant messengers, please feel free to add me and I'd be more then happy to talk to you.

Q: Ok,i have this friend,we'll call her ...Jenna. Well Jenna and i are "friends" but the problem is when ever i become friends with another person,she jumps all over them and they like her better. She dosent let me have one friend to myself and i get sort of mad by that. What should i do?

Maybe she's lonely so she's overcompensating by trying to make as many friends. Why is it so bad for you both to share friends? It's hard to have a friend to yourself unless they hate her or don't know her, which would put more pressure on you because they would make you feel like you shouldn't be friends with her either. You should be happy that YOUR friends want to be friends with her too.

Q: Im 15/f..
Hey. I've been friends with this one girl since I was about 3 years old because our sisters were friends. Well, for some odd reason she doesn't like me anymore. So we just stopped being friends. She is horrible to my 2 best friends. She tries to take them away from me. It really gets me mad when she treats them this way.She thinks their her best friends and she constantly talks about me to them and I know shes trying to get them to not be friends with me anymore. What should I do?

-->JaKiE

First of all, they may be her best friends too. Second, why don't you just go up to her and ask her what the deal is? Maybe she thinks you did something that you really didn't do, or her sister told her some crap about you. Don't talk crap back to your mutual friends, it will only make you look just as immature. If your best friends don't like being put in the middle of this situation, they will dump her from their group so you don't need to worry about them.

Q: i have got a drama script to lern for this thursday and i have tried everything to lern it,i think i know ity but i go on stage and i forget it. and i dont know what to do. we haev been staying afta school till 8-9 clock in the evenning,now the drama techer is having a massive go at me, i ended up crying cos i was so frustraiting. anyone got a special way to lern it, i ll neeed your advice soon plse guys xx

The only way you are going to learn it is by going through it repeatedly. Even though you are after school until 8-9, you still need to practice at home because I am sure the majority of that time is not based around YOUR lines. When I was in drama, I used to remember what other people started their line with and ended with so I knew when my part was coming. It might also be nerves, so you could try reading in front of your parents and having them do the other lines.

Q: My dad died a month ago and ever since then my mom's been really happy. They used to fight all the time and they were going to get divorced because of it. But ever since he died she's been soo happy and she's been going out with all of these different guys most of which hit me or her. If I ever even mention my dad or I cry about it she starts screaming at me and telling me that I'm a pathetic baby. I loved my dad he was soo good to my mom he tried so hard to make it work between the two of them for me and my older sister (she moved out before he died). I hate my mom she's put us through so much and I just can't stand her. So recently I've been staying with some of my friends a lot and I tried LSD. It was really great and it helped me a lot just to get away from everything that's been going on. I've heard all the horror stories about drugs but I just can't believe that they would be true. Well my question is is there anyway for me to get away from my mom so I don't have to deal with her always being a bitch to me and hitting me? And are drugs really as bad as people make them out to be or are the stories just bullshit like they are for LSD?

LSD stories aren't bullshit. If you have a bad trip, there is no way to bring yourself out of it until it wears off. Drugs aren't a way to get away from problems, they are just going to cause more.

Tell your mom to grow the hell up and start taking care of her family instead of her libido.

Q: hey...i'm thinking of getting my cartilage peirced does anyone know if it hurts and how badly? and also like whats thing like if its in a certain ear your gay and if its in the other you aren't..?

First of all, get it done with a needle, not a "gun". Second, neither ear makes you gay, if you are still in that mentality, you probably shouldn't be getting pierced.

Q: SORRY THAT IT'S LONG

Today my friend and I were sitting together in the gym and we were getting in our groups for our graduation trip. We promised each other we'd stay in the group together - just us, we actually even needed 2 more people in the group -since about three months ago. Well, we wanted to be in a group with 3 other girls, but you were only allowed four per group, but they made an acception of five if you really had to. My friend and I asked if we could room with them- they said no - two of the three girls like me.

About 5 minutes later.. she gets called over by them. I'm sitting there by myself talking to other people and she "sends a message down" saying that she's gonna stay in their group. Luckily, I found another friend to room with.

Do I have the right to be pretty ticked off, and if she apologizes or not, should I say it was rude?

I think you should be pissed, she basically blew you off to feel like she was part of a group. Eventually she will come crying back and you need to express to her that what she did is wrong and it is going to take time for you to forgive her.

Q: ok..i need to save up about 350 dollars... i am old enought to babysit..but the problem with that is that i dont know anyone that i could babysit for...i am not old enought to get a real job like at a store or something...so does anyone have any siggestions on how to earn money??? thanks! i'll rate high for good answers!!

Do chores, mow lawns, take care of people's pets, put out flyers and put up a sign at the grocery store that is very popular. Make sure this is all okay with your parents though, otherwise people calling the house may make them upset.

Q: what do i do if i've contacted my lawyer repeatedly re:a pending case & she won't return my calls. its been almost 3 wks.. thanks, debbie

Either stop by her office to get a face to face answer, or find a new lawyer.

Q: I went out with this boy for 4 months and we broke up. He has a new girlfriend now. I don't know her, but one day she messaged me out of the blue and started asking me if I still liked him and have feelings for him. So I told her that I don't because I kinda do, but only a teeny bit. Anyway, she won't leave it alone and everyday she asks me if I want him back and blehh. What do I say to her to make her stop, cause I'm really tired of telling her that I'm not trying to steal her boyfriend.

Tell her that you aren't going to try and steal her boyfriend and ask why she is so paranoid? She is obviously having some self-doubt issues or her boyfriend is making her feel like if YOU came back, he would dump her for you.3

Q: Every night when I go sleep, I notice tears welling up at the edge of my eyelids for no reason. Its just totally random, I'm not even thinking of anything... Is it possible ,y eyes are just irritated after I've taken my contacts out from wearing them all day? Or is it just another body regulation thing like tapping your leg repeatedly?

Sounds like your eyes are dry (prologed periods of being opened, contacts, allergies) and are trying to replenish themselves. It isn't anything to worry about, but I suggest using Visine or something to moisturize your eyes.

Q: ok, i love my girl friend, and i have loved her since the day i first saw her, and because i have loved her for so long (i first saw her 12 years ago) when i finnally got to be with her (just 3 months ago) i guess i went really into things cause i felt (causa my love for her) that we've been going out for 12 years, but i didnt get to do anything...so i guess i rushed into things when we were first going out... All we have done was i hold her during movies, and i put my head on her shoulder, and then every once in a while i kiss her on her cheek or neck. And now, she said that she wants to take it slower, but i dont really know how to go TOO much slower, i mean, i first kissed her on the cheek when we were going out for 2 1/2 months. So does anyone have any advice on what i can do so i can show my affection, but not doing "too much"??

Maybe she feels that you are pressuring her or that you want to move further. Tell her that you respect her feelings and ask her if there is anything you could do to make her feel less uncomfortable? Also, don't run around telling her how much you love her and always will because that will just make her feel like you are stalking her and have a weird obsession.

Q: okay so me and my boyfriend have been goin out for almost 7 months i mean thats a long time for a couple of 15 year olds...well im 16 and hes 15 but that doesnt matter.. and after a while like it happends to everyone, they get sick of eachother and stuff starts to annoy eachother, i wanna do somehting really cute for him just to do it but i cant think of anything? any idea's

Do something you normally wouldn't do, maybe do a sports day with him or something that only he likes. He would probably appreciate the effort and one day of doing what you don't like isn't going to hurt too much.

Q: My mom is the biggest blabbermouth of all time. She can't keep her secrets to herself. She can't keep MY secrets to herself. She tells everyone the details about my life. She humiliates me infront of everyone. She makes up lies to exaggerate the truth. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stop telling her things? I can't stand the way my life is out there and availible to anyone that wants to hear about it.

Definitally don't tell her anything that you don't want other's to hear about you. I also recommend you tell her to her face that you don't enjoy her gossiping about you and you would rather tell people certain things yourself (or not at all).

Q: This morning, I woke up and I noticed there was a tiny white dot/ball on my upper eyelid. It kind of hurts when I move my eye. Does anyone know what it is and how it got there? How do I get rid of it?

It is either a sty or acne, eitherway, just keep it clean and it will go away on its own.

Q: ok so on like wed. my best friend asked my boyfriend if him and i would go to her boyfriends laX game with her next weekend and then i said i wasnt sure if i could yet or no so she told my boyfriend that if i couldnt go then just them could go. but then yesterday after school she got on the computer and IMed my boyfriend and was tellin him how hes a bad boyfriend and he treats me bad and stuff but he doesnt. and tonite i was supposed to go to the movies with him, and one of my other friends. but that girl(the one that IMed him) told him that if i cant go then he shouldnt go with the other girl cuz then thats wrong. but thats like the same thing as how she told him that if i cant go to the laX game he can go with her together. and since she told him hes a bad boyfriend and stuff hes got that in his head that he is and i tell him hes not and he doesnt listen. i dont know what to do about any of this.

sorry its so long...ill rate high

First off, why does he care what she thinks about him as a boyfriend? She isn't the one going out with him. You also need to tell your "best friend" that she needs to stop starting fights or trying to get with your boyfriend behind your back. She is obviously trying to do one or the other, and I really wouldn't consider her your best friend.

Q: my best friend 15 and her ex 15 me 14 and his best friend 15 please help i really need advice!!!!

ok my best friend and her bf broke up really harsh her parents didnt want them together so her parents warned her to stay away with him and they set me and his friend up on a date and we were at the date and her mom found notes from her bf saying how we were all goingto meet at the movies. and came and caught us.so then her parents found out all this stuff about them having sex and her sneeking out to see him and her and her bf. so the skool said they couldnt be together snce they got in a big fight about her parents finding out and they talked about how much they hated eachother and before she would yell at him about stuff and he would still try to get together but recently his new gf after 2 weeks broke up. welll recently my best friend came ovr and we talked about him and she told me how much she missed him and having him close to her. then she turned on "im lost without you" but blink 182 and started rying because that was there song. and i felt soooo bad for her. i really want them to get back together because they were perfect for eachother. until his friends came in saying shit and they smoke pot and her bf got into it and thats when the problems started. but he stoped for her but she didnt go back to him ehich i felt really bad about. and i asked her my she would yell at him all the time if she still loved him and she said she'd rather yell at him then cry in front of him . and we started crying the whole night she came ovr at 6 and she left at 11pm and thats what we talked about all night.

well my best friend wants to tell him how she feels and that shes srry . if you were him would u still be mad at her. because he told me he wants her to at least apoligize. she at least wants to be friends with him and maybe later they can go bac to the way they were. (since they has to break up a 11 month relasionship so quickly) and she was in love with him and it was the last person they each loved. please help!!!

First of all, it doesn't sound like her parents want them together at all, so it doesn't matter if they should get together now or not.

If her parents have changed and they don't mind them dating, then I do think she owes him an apology for acting erratically. Also, I don't think that they should continue having sex because they are so young it could really effect their emotional decisions.

Q: I have to write a "Dear Reader" Letter Dedication Page for my portfolio, for school all 9th grade have to do this in order to pass the 4th quarter in English. Can I have some ideas to put in it please?

Talk about what you have learned over the past year and obstacles you have overcome.

Q: To all of you girls out there! Is it true that sometimes when you get your period your face can breakout?

Thanks

Yes, because of the fluctuation in your hormones. When your period is coming, start using Clearisil or another acne fighter the week before. Otherwise, just use it all the time to help fight breakouts.