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My name is Amber
I have been through a lot, a lot more than you'd think. I will answer any question you give me. You can take my advice, or just leave it alone, but DO NOT tell me it's bad advice. kay?

advice

My mom thinks I'm to young to date, ?I'm 13/f. How can I get her to think I'm responsible to date now? She said I have to wait until I'm 16!!!!!!

nagociate with her. Like suggest group dates.
and
sneeking is always an opption
♥
hope this helps!

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How do I know if what my parents are doing to me is child abuse? They hit me really bad, but it never leaves a mark. They do throw stuff at me and yell and scream and hit me. They verbally abuse me and say God didn't know what he was thinking when he put me on this earth, and they tell me I'm never going to have a job, a husband, children, or friends and they say I'm going to go to jail. They say they love my sister more then me. They say it to my face. What would you recommend doing? Calling child abuse or reporting it. Is what they do to me considered child abuse?

I have somewhat of the same problem except its my brother not me. so my dad blows up like all the time and sometimes he still does when we have people over like my friends so i tell them like everything and all of them want me to file a child abuse report but i dont know if i can because its not me its my brother. so my advice is to talk to your friends about it they will comfort you. and if it ever gets too out of hand well your friends are there to take you in. then their parents can call someone.
nobody deserves to be treated like that.

♥

Ps- your not alone

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Just wondering... because I'm a little bit worried.

I've been masturbating for years now and never had this happen. I'm a girl and about an hour after my orgasm, I'm experiencing some bleeding similar to my period. I just finished my period a couple days ago and I'm wondering if it's from that or if it's something entirely different.

Thoughts? :(

you could have broken your hymen, it usually gets broken during sex or tampon-usage but i would think it would bleed right away and not an hour after..hmm i dont know then

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on friday night, i have my friends party. we are going to get our nails done and then we are sleepoing over. except theres a few problems. i have a double header softball game on saturday against a REALLY good team. my parents already said i can't sleepover because i'd be too tired for my game, so i have to come home at midnight. the other thing is that on friday night i was asked to play an older leauge game becuase they are missing some players. only 2 girls get to move up for the game, and my coach and the older teams coach both said they want me to play up in the game. i really don't know what to do becuase my friend is already pretty pissed that i am missing some of her party, and now i might have to miss more. i play in a travel softball leauge, and it really is a hugee commitment to play. i really don't know what to do becuase i dont want my friend to be mad, but this softball thing is a big deal! i mean, there will be other parties to go to but i may never have the chance to play with the older team again. pleasee help im really stuck on what to do!!(i'll rate high

deffenitly go to the game becuse well if your friend is really your friend she will be happy for you and support you not be pissed. and she sounds kinda tempermental if she is pissed already...hope this helps!

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alright so im one of those girls who LOVES to always wear their hair up..well lately ive really been wanting to wear my hair down b.c i want to get this one guys attetion..but yah but when i put it down its always too wavy or curly!! how do i make it so it will look like normal down?! thanks!! i will rate!!

you can buy a straitener and you dont have to buy the 150 dollar ones
there are like really good 15-25 dollar ones at like k-mart or walmart. those are the ones i use

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I shit my pants. What do i do?

You should change your pants

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now heres a question that i want you to answer. you know all about it from school and you know who they people are but i want to know what you think about this... (because you where not at rolladium friday) oh and by the way i put this out in the open for people to answer so thats why its wierd...



ok so their is this one boy and i really like him. i finally got the courage to tell him and when i did he told me he like me lots too. i was so incredable happy! then a few weeks after that their was a party that we bolth went to and we hung out and ended up making out on the floor.
but little did i know his ex girlfriend walked in the room and spoiled it. he didnt care but i did it felt so wierd! so i told him and he had been calling me prude. every friday my friends and i go hang out at this place and he was their and we ended up making out their too. but then some how my mother found out and she said that she didnt want me to have any relationship with him. so i tried getting over him. i went to another party and he wasnt their and this one guy i had a crush on for 2 years was their and we ended making out! it was so much fun. but then it got around school. then i found out that the guy i had like for 2 years was going to ask out my friend. and he didnt really like me. i was devistated. then the boy i had made out with twice told me he still liked me and of coarce i still liked him. but then he started flirting with other girls ALL THE TIME! i have been dealing with this FOREVER and the other night i told him i couldnt take it anymore and i couldnt like him i also told him i just wanted to be friends. he sat down and looked like he was going to cry and i dont know if he did because he was wearing glasses. but then he still had enough happyness to be all over another girl. so i felt bad so i went to talk to him and he said that i was the player and the flirt and i told him all the girls he was flriting with that night. then he told me that they where all over him. i had upset him so much he didnt want anything to do with me. what do i do? do i say im sorry? do i stay mad at him for LIFE? what in the world do i do? i NEED advice badly!

if it makes a difference im only 14 and he is too.


thanks! :)

I know that you really cant to do much like go anywhere with him cause of your mommy but like i deffenitly think that you should just tryy to get with him still deffenitly dont say your sorry though cause you didnt do anything and you could make a habbit of it like i do. but yeah he is still an ass but yeah he is hott though so yeah
HOPE THIS HELPS!

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my friends and i can never think of things to do on the weekends. seeing movies is alright, but once youve seen the one or two good ones its pointless to go again, and the same goes for shopping i mean you can only go so many times and not see the same things and run out of money. what are some things that a bunch of 14 and 15 year old girls can do?

Me and my friends have the same problem we are always bored!
you dont have to go somewhere and spend money you can just run around and act like total dorks and have funn. also you can just sit aroudn and talk ((no music and no Tv)) or just play a board game! those are always funn
Hope this helps!

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Im a 16 year old boy who doesn't want sex....at all i have a girlfriend and i guess she expects me to be perverted maybe because her other boy friends were. Im a virgin shes not.She be offering me oral sex but i don't want it.then she calls me gay and all these other homo names.

I was raised on not being able to see people kiss at all if i said sex i was slapped,and i never seen a womans vagina ((Porn)) until i was 15 and I gagged when i seen it.Is this normal? am I gay?

Not really normal but if you were brought up that way thats just the wayy you are used too so it could just take time to adjust. and they are always possiblities of being gayy
hope this helps!

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I really like this guy but there is one problem, he has a girlfriend. I want to go out with him, but I don't want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend. That's just not what I do. He is really easy to talk to and he is really cute. The other guys who I have had crushes on were really cute but shallow. But this guy is different. What should I do?

signed,
confused

THere is really not too much you cann do just wait pretty much. but if you do end up telling him you like him make sure he knows you dont want to interfere.
hope this helps!

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So I have this good-looking next door neighbor, and yesterday my mum and I went to give him back a DVD we borrowed of his because he is going away. Well, I stood there with her and she was speaking to him, but he did not even look me in the eye once! It was almost as if he was avoiding my gaze. I felt very stupid about this. Even if my mum was speaking about me he would not look in my direction. I'm not really sure what I could've done to offend him. I've liked him for quite a while but only seen him a few times.
In case it matters I'm 17 and he's 25.

Am I looking into things too much, or is there a reason he was doing this to me? I felt really embarassed and unwanted being there.

Thanks.

He is so much older than you so i dont think he is veryy interested

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it burns when i pee and it feels like i always have to pee. could it be a yeast infection?

could also be a kidney infection

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alright so my boyfriend comes over here like everyday and i love it because i get to see him everyyyy dayy and thats just fine with me but sometimes when hes over here and im in the shower i get out come to my room and hes on myspace writing someone or reading someones message to him but once i really get in the room he closes out of it really quick and this has happen twice. idk what to do because if hes hiding something i need to know but im scared to ask him because i dont want us to start an arguement. what should i do?????

If your really worried about an arguement then your relationship isnt really veryy strong. you should be able to ask him anything with out getting yelled att. and you can ask him for his password ((i have done that before and he actually gave it to me so i went through a bunch of stuff))((but thats a bad idea if he catches you))
hope this helps!

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alright this is a stupid question but whatever.. so me and my boyfriend hangout at my house alot and i feel bad because theres nothing to do so we just end of watching tv all day and i get bored so i fall asleep all the time haha what else can we do just around my house? (i also live where theres nothing to do so believe me we would go out if there was something to do)

I honestly think that if you guys cant sit there and have an on going conversation you guys really shouldnt be going out. but there is always the option of just going for a walk or playing a board game, you guys dont always have to act like boyfriend and girlfriend you guys can be friends also
hope this helps!

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ok so, my dad is a complete jack ass, according to me, he is completly insane and its driving me crazy.....thats my dad

my mom is sick, she has manic depression, she bought a bottle of perscription drugs and hid the EMPTY bottle, so this gave my jack ass of a faher the idea that she was on drugs! she said she was giving them to her one friend who is the same way as her, manic depression, he just doesnt choose to go to the doctors.....thats my mom


well they have been argeing since before i was born, i recently found out,
it drives me nuts and my dad, i think and my mom does too, is a total NUTCASE!!!!! he bitches at everything and he even spit on my mom once, another ime, this was like 4 years ago, he pinned her down cuz he got mad. i called him mental! he was like yea yea yea you think whatever the hell you want and go on keep letting your damn mother put things into your head, i said that she doesnt but he wont believe me. they argue about everything, you name it they fight about it, we even went to counciling once, they dragged me and my sister ino it!,THEY FOUGHT ABOUT THAT WHEN WE GOT OUT OF OUR SESSIONS!!! its crazy. my mom is thinking about me her and my sister are gonna move out in a couple of months, im happy, the only problem is that i dont want her to be alone, in a single way, because she is sick. knowing that i know that when we move, im gonna be the one taking care of both my sister and my mom. which i am kinda used to but i dont know i just dont want to have all the stress of getting me AND my sister AND my mom up in the morning, and then coming home from school and cleaning the house and everything!! so my questions are, should i worry? and, Do you think that its a good idea for them to get a divorce? and how do i help my mom and me and my sister deal with my moms sickness once we move out? please dont tell me to suck it up, im only 14 years old and my grandmoher said i shouldnt have to deal with all this and that i have grown 2 years in only 6 months!! help me please there is just sooooo much stress!!

sorry its long but *ill rate 5's for n e one with a good answer


I deffenitly think that you should tell someone about your mom so you can like hire someone to do the work for you orr you can just like ask your grandma to do itso you cna go on and live a normal ((as possible)) teenage lyfe
hope this helps!

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So I have strep throat and I probably won't be going to school until sometime next week. My question to you is: Will you make me a pill that cures any type of disease known and unknown? You know, anything as little as a common cold to anything as big as Cancer. (I think strep throat is somehwere in that spread.)

Thanks,
Jeremy =]

HEYY BUDDY!
I MISS YOU!
and yes of chorse i will deffenitly get right on that medicine
feelbetter!
♥

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okayyy. 14/female. there is a boy in one of my classes that i really like. im pretty sure that he doesnt like me, but at the end of class he always comes and kinda sits by me. we start talking and such. he sometimes even asks me to come and sit by him and to be in his group. he has been doing this for a while. we sometimes say hi to eachother in the hallway and we seem to get along pretty nicely. is there a possiblity that he likes me??? if so, how do i make him like me more? thanks a bunchh ♥

Well this has happened to me before and yes there is a MAJOR possibilty he likes you butt then again he could just be being nice or whatever. I dont think you can make him like you more just like dont sound desperate// eagger. just be your slef and laugh at all of his jokes. and when you are sitting with him sitt next to him and like sitt really close but not too close to freak him out. Hope this helps! ♥

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