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i was talking to this guy that i have never seen him or heard him before. (his mom set us up) and i called him one night and four guys was talking to me like i was a peice of trash actually. They was asking me a whole bunch of questions, like what i was wearing and if i would have sex with them (except in a more pig-like manner.) And dont get me wrong i am not making an effort any more with him. But if he does call, which he probably wont, what should i say. I mean if talks like that with his friends, then he could talk like that all the time. And if i see him then what do i do? do i go off? cause i was really really mad. like i was crying because i was afraid of who or what i might hurt. i was shaking. and i just dont know why boys act like that and why they would want to talk like that to a girl. but what would i do in those scenarios? and would one consider the talk sexual harrasment? thanks

Thankyou for your question.
Right, If I were you, I'd do the following:
*If he phones, simply don't answer or return any of his calls, or block his number.
*If you see him, ignore him. If he catches you up, tell him you're in a hurry/busy.

Why did they do it? Well, they probably thought they were being funny and showing off in front of each other.
Did they mean it? I'm guessing not. and probably didn't mean to make you feel the way you did - but they still upset you alot and there's really no excuse for that in the end.
Remember, not all boys are like that. and don't let that bad experience affect future boyfriends etc.

Finally, I wouldn't call it sexual harassment, because you're the one who called.. and they haven't made any effort to contact you since.
I know it's hard, but try your very best to forget about the whole experience.
You're better than that. and you deserve better than them.

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whats that whole to write love on her arms / love is the movement thing all about?

In a nutshell, To write love on her arms (TWLOHA) is a non-profit organization, which focuses on self harm, depression, drug addictions etc ... and gives help and hope to the sufferers.
You've probably seen it alot, because most of their publicity comes from bands supporting them.
If you have the time, here is the story from TWLOHA official website.
http://www.twloha.com/the_story.php

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can masturbating to much do anything harmful to your clit?

Unless you're using a knife to masturbate, no.

On a serious note though, the only thing I can possibly think of is if you masturbate THAT much, it may be hard for your current/future partners to satisfy you,'cause you'll be so used to your own, same touch.

Remember, masturbation, if done correctly, is safer than any option. So don't worry. :)

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im 14/f and my boyfriend is 13/f

do you think that if your really truly sure your in love, like you've had it proven to you,no doubt in your mind and he feels the same,
do you think that we can last throughout highschool?


we've had our problems, what true couple doesnt, but i dont want to lose him again :[ i want this to last forever, as crazy as that sounds.

do you think it can last?

It's not impossible.
but you never know what can happen. People change as they mature, or it just might not be working out in the future.
Just wait and see. There's no use worrying about it now. :)

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What that one disease called where like something happens to you and like you freak out cause u think its liek ALOT worse then it is? i think it starts with an H

You're probably thinking of a hypochondriac.

Hypochondriasis (or hypochondria, sometimes referred to as health anxiety/health phobia) refers to an excessive preoccupation or worry about having a serious illness. Often, hypochondria persists even after a physician has evaluated a person and reassured him/her that his/her concerns about symptoms do not have an underlying medical basis or, if there is a medical illness, the concerns are far in excess of what is appropriate for the level of disease. Many people suffering from this disorder focus on a particular symptom as the catalyst of their worrying, such as gastro-intestinal problems, palpitations, or muscle fatigue.

More info here.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypochondriac

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whats the point of getting your hair trimmed at the salon? how much does it cost? and does it constitute as a haircut? no, right?

1. It keeps your hair in better shape and gets rid of split/dead ends.
2. It's good if you're growing your hair because it shocks the hair into growing more.
Trims aren't expensive and it's best you go to a hairdresser because if you do it yourself and it goes wrong...well.. you know the rest.

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When i wake up i wake up with a bonar every morning..howcome?

I just answered one like this.


"A man's penis becomes erect in response to sexual arousal and excitement, but it can also become erect as a result of deep relaxation, such as what's experienced in deep sleep with or without dreams. An erection is caused by a rush of blood to the penis. A man's penis, especially a young man's penis, can also become erect without any kind of arousing stimulation this is called a "spontaneous erection.""

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why all man get hard on penise thing middle of night?

Are you the same person asking all these questions relating to sex/men?
If you are, please stop, and just use Google.

only search advicenators.com


If you mean whilst they're sleeping and during the morning, read:

"A man's penis becomes erect in response to sexual arousal and excitement, but it can also become erect as a result of deep relaxation, such as what's experienced in deep sleep with or without dreams. An erection is caused by a rush of blood to the penis. A man's penis, especially a young man's penis, can also become erect without any kind of arousing stimulation this is called a "spontaneous erection.""

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Okay. ive just been recently having sex with my boyfriend and it feels really good. but i dont know how to know if ive reached my climax or an orgasm.

i dont know what its like, maybe ive had one already.
tell me how i will know.

oh and when he eats me out it feels sooo good and like i get into like this weird but good feeling to the point where i cant handle the feeling of him doing it anymore and i make him stop is that a orgasm?

thanks in advance!

If you don't know if you've had one.. you haven't. You WILL know when you do. (big build up and release - where muscles contract.. and the general awesome feeling!)
Don't stop when you get to that point. Carry on and see what happens.

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hmmmm..im thinking wether or not to have sex with somone i dont really like. but he likes me. what do you think?

You KNOW the answer.
Save yourself the shame and just don't.

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is it only possible to get an STD if u come in contact w/someone else w/an STD or can u get it from that person even if they dont have an STD?

If the person doesn't have an STD, there is no way you can get one from them.
If the person does, then yes, of course you can contract it as well.

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how can i make my butt grow bigger? and boobs bigger?

You can't.
Eating more will make them bigger.. but other parts of your body will get bigger, too, obviously.
You could try exercising those specific areas. Excercising will build up the muscle giving you the illusion of them being bigger.
Just wait it out, you're probably still growing. :)

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14/f that is a virgin

if your a vigin and a female does masterbating pop your cherry or take your virginity

It can certainly break your hymen but it will NOT take your virginity. Only sex will.

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having alot hair around vaginal mean can't get climax? and also while i am pregant still can get climax?

Having hair won't change anything...
and you can still have sex and orgasm through pregnancy. Just make it comfortable for yourself.

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what's STD and how do you get it?? please don't give me a website about it, but actually tell me about it =p

thanks!!

STD isn't just one thing. There are lots of them.
It's short for sexually transmitted disease.
You can get them through vaginal, anal and oral sex, or even things like using someone elses towel etc if they are unlucky enough to be infected.
You said not to give you a website, but there's too much information to actually type out to you, so I found you a site which is pretty basic and just tells you everything you need to know, including what they are, how you get them, symptoms, how to treat them etc.
It's really useful and packed with information.
http://www.4women.gov/faq/stdsgen.htm#3
Give it a read. :)

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On myspace...I had 119 friends. Now I have 118. Is there any way to tell who deleted me or un-added me?

No, sorry. There isn't a way to find that out. Maybe it will be something you can do in the future, though.
Keep in mind, they might not have deleted you, but deleted their profile instead. :)

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who is this PERSON?
like i know his music and stuff.
but who is he?
and he gay?
or is he one of those whose a guy but was born in a girl's body?
im so confused.
help me outttt

There's more to Jeffree than meets the eye. Most people just think he's a "fag" who wears girls clothes etc. There's so much more to him than just being an internet celebrity, too. He's a make up artist, for one.
Read this.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeffree_Star
and if you took the time to read all of his MySpace, that will help you to understand him more as well.
www.myspace.com/jeffreestar
I like Jeffree. I like the fact he started out as nothing and now everyone hates him because he's successful and different :P

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im going to get my ears pierced (3rd holes)
if i just go to claires to get them done do i need a parent to sign something?
im 17 btw.

In England it's 16. I guess it depends where you are. but it wouldn't hurt to go down and check first.

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after you give a guy head are you not supposed makeout witht him again after? idk if they wouldnt want to because they would basically be tasting their nastyyyy or does it depend on the guy? thankyou in advancedd

Suppose it depends. Some wouldn't mind.. but some might be against it.
Try and see what happens. I mean, you gave him oral.. it's the least he can do in return ;)

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whats an online relationship?
like i know its a relationship online, but what consists of it?
Like do you meet the person online?
What goes on?

You meet them online (chatrooms etc) and have a "relationship" online (without meeting them). If you meet them It's a long distance relationship.
If you're thinking about being in one, I'd advise against it. They're obviously hard work.

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