Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Last Update: August 9, 2008
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My mom pushes me with grades. She made me study all day for 5 days for one test, and I got a 77. Now I'm grounded for 2 weeks and have to study even harder and longer. I have no social life during the week and rarely on weekends because my mom always makes me study. I'm just not that smart. My first language is Chinese, so school in America is difficult and my mom doesn't care. She hit me with the textbook once because I didn't take notes like she told me to. My friends and I agree that I'm doing the best I can, and adding even more days of non-stop studying won't help. What do I do? (link)
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You should ask your mother if you can get a private tutor or something to help you understand everything better and maybe even suggest to her you get someone to try and help you learn English a little better so school might not be so hard, and let her know all the studying is stressing you out and really not helping you concentrate it's actually making it worse. I have a friend who used to live in China, and her parents are very strict of her education, and her parents just like your mom needs to learn the standards in America are different and probably not as high and strict as they might be in China. I would suggest that for an hour before you go to bed, study. Because whenever you learn it at the end of the day and then go right to bed and sleep on it, you'll remember more of it, and I also study on the way to school so I can soak more of the information in and I study in homeroom too if I don't have any other homework. I also hurry to the classroom and read a little before the class bell rings. I hope I helped.
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ok so i'm in a long distance relationship and he has not seen a pic of me but i wanted to wait cause i am a little overweight how can i loose some weight fast??? cause i really like him but i dont really think i'm pretty at all is it normal to feel this way is it just self conciousness?? how can i feel better about it??? please help me
what do i do?? (link)
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Well, you don't have to take a picture of your whole entire body, just do take one from the shoulders up or something. But, I think you SHOULD take on of your whole body. You shouldn't have to lose weight for a guy, if he doesn't like you for you, screw him. But, if you still want to lose weight, run outside alot and eat healthy fruits and vegtables. You probably don't think you're pretty because you're self-concious of yourself, and it's normal because mostly every is self-concious about themselves. But like I said, I still think you should just send him a picture of you, and if he doesn't like you for you, then who needs a guy like that? I hope I helped.
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ok so there is this boy who is two years older than me (im 16) he has a gf who is 20, they pretty much only date for sex.
i like him ALOT and i have liked him for a long time. he is always flirting with me and being nice and all of my friends swear that he likes me. he has told me he thinks im pretty and that if he didnt have his gf he would date me. it almost hurts me inside because of how frusterated i am. i am a very prude girl and wouldnt take advantage of a guy, (his girlfriend treats him like dirt) he told me that he has trouble breaking up with girls because he doesnt like to hurt them.
if i have an opportunity to hook up with him should i go for it?
p.s. his girlfriend cheats on him (link)
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I know you like him alot, but I wouldn't go out with him. If he's trying to hook up with YOU, while dating HER, he could just as easily try to hook up with another girl while he's dating you. And also, if him and her are just dating for sex, he just might want to date you for sex too. If you really want to get together with him though, wait until he breaks up with her at least. Don't help him cheat. Don't be the "other girl". Be the "girlfriend". And just tell him,"I know you don't like to hurt girls, but look how she's hurt you. She treats you like dirt, she cheats on you, she should get dumped. She doesn't deserve to have you." I hope I helped.
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so I have 2 boyfriends. I'm not a hoe like you would think. I mean I'm nothing like that. but the first boy I am going out with I am prob going to dump after his birthday which is tomorrow. cuz there's too many things. i really don't like rude guys and he's rude. and then my other boyfriend i just started to go out with yesterday. i know i'm doing the wrong thing but i know that i'm prob gonna dump him. it's not that i want the other guy it's just i dont like my first boyfriend anymore. i'm sorry but i'm not sure what to say to him. please help me. thank you. (link)
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Just tell your boyfriend now that you don't want to go out with him anymore. Just let him know that he can be rude at times, and you just don't feel that way anymore. You feel more as friends, so hopefully you two can remain friends. Yeah, I wouldn't do it after his birthday cause he'll probably be all excited and happy it was his birthday, and I'm sure you dumping him would put a damper on things. But I seriously wouldn't try and have 2 boyfriends again, if you want to date another guy, break up with the first one.
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Okay so I have this friend, Bianca. Her and her boyfriend Joe are taking a break as of yesterday. They are honestly like the closest couple you would EVER meet. But anyways, Joe knows a girl named Olivia. She is in a Band with him. I guess Joe started liking Olivia, and thats when they took the break. So Olivia and I are REALLY close friends. [ I am also friends with Bianca...and Joe] anyways, Oliva spent the night at my house last night and told me everything. So today I guess Joe asked Olivia on a date and this very moment they are downtown on a date. I just invited Bianca to spend the night. I also have a friend named Alyssa and she is spending the ngiht too. Bianca Alyssa and I are pretty good friends. I already told Alyssa about Joe and Olivia but idk if I should tell Bianca..shes on her way here NOW. We told her we had news to tell her and thats why shes coming over. I started having second thoughts...SHOULD I TELL HER? idk wut to do!!! (link)
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I would tell her because she deserves to know, and just put yourself in her shoes, wouldn't you want to know also? Plus, if she ever does find out from someone else and finds out that you knew, she'll probably get pretty mad that you didn't tell her. And it's probably better for her to find out know from her good friend then seeing them together or something in school. Just explain it to her in a really calm tone. Just be like,"Well, you know that girl Olivia? Well, I guess Joe has started to like her, and he asked her out on a date, and she said she'd go on it, and I just wanted to let you know before you heard it from anybody else." And if she gets upset, just be there for her and hug her and everything. And then just try and cheer her up the best you can. I hope I helped.
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hi i'm 16 year old girl and i am thinking of going out with this guy who is 18. i live in massachusetts, is it illegal if we have sex?
help please!
only answer if your positive :) (link)
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I just googled up the age of consent for people in Massachusetts, and it says you have to be 16, so you're perfectly fine.
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Does anyone know if theres a way I can have voicemails from my cell phone traced to find out who left them? I want to ask the police but im not sure if they can do that. Also, is there any way I can have IMs traced back? Or to get the people who own the screen names in trouble? The harrassment is out of control. Thank you :) (link)
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Well, for phone calls, just call the police and tell them about the harassment and they'll probably try and trace the phone number for you and they'll get in trouble and you can block the number, probably. But as for the IMs, I don't think there's really anything you can do. Whenever people IM me I keep them talking, and then I'll have a friend IM them and be like,"Hey Amanda!" or some random name and then they'll go,"This isn't Amanda, this is ______" and I'll try and get their name that way. Or I'll just save their screename, and then the next time they sign on I'll know and I also check their profiles to see if they have a link or something to their myspace. Also, you can always just block their screename. I hope I helped.
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14/f. i really want to buy a tredmill so that i can exercise everyday without leaving the house and while watching TV. but there are some problems.
1) my parents don't want to buy one becuase they are expenisive.
2) and i definitaly don't have the money to pay for one all by myself.
what can i do? i really want one so that i can stay in shape during school. i can't go running outside, so i really need this tredmill. what can i do?!?!
thanks so much for any help that you can give me (link)
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It might take alot longer to save up for, but just try doing some stuff around the house, walk the dogs maybe, walk the neighborhood's dogs, do anything you can to earn some cash around the place. Also, sometimes people just run up and down their stairs over and over again to count as running, so while you're working on eaarning the money, at night time or something before you go to bed you can run up and down the stairs. Or just run/jog in place for like, 10 minutes, give yourself a 10 minute break, and then do it again for another 10. Or try signing up for a gym, and maybe even ask your mom or your friend or somebody to go with you so it's alot more fun exercising with somebody. I hope I helped.
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My problem is my boyfried has been smoking pot for about 5 years now, and i am having trouble dealing with his habit. He does not get high around me or expose me to it. He only does it once and month because we came up with a compromise that we can both live with while i go away to school.
Though he insists in complaining to no end about it. He isn't addicted but he feels it is "apart of who he is as a person" which i think it bullshit. However when i express how it makes me feel to him he says that i shouldn't feel like it's my fault because it is his problem.
I can't get married to him he is is still smoking pot years later you know? I just want him to stop then we wouldn't fight about it so much. I'm sick of just dealing with it i want it gone all of it and i don't want him to ever touch it again! I'm only 19 years old but I want to spend the rest of my life with him but i can't do that if he is still getting high. (link)
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I think you just need to sit down with him and have a serious talk with him. Just be like,"Look, I want to be with you, and spend my life with you, but I can't do that if you're always getting high. Even though you say its YOUR problem, it's not. I'm your girlfriend, so it's MY problem too. I care about you alot, and I just want you to be healthy and I want us to stop fighting about it. I'm just really worried about you and everything, and I just want you to stop smoking it." [ or something like that ] If he really cares about you, he should be willing to give up pot for you guys's relationship. I agree with you, he can't keep doing it. If you two do get married, I mean, what's he gonna do? Smoke pot around your children? I would also mention that to him. Ask him if he'd ever want HIS kids to be sitting there smoking pot, cause I'm sure he wouldn't want them to.
I found these sites:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1579.html
http://www.43things.com/things/view/728
http://www.quit4good.com/marijuana.html
http://drdrew.com/article.asp?id=885
So you should read some of those, and you should have your boyfriend read some of them too. I hope I helped.
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I've had my braces on for 2 days now. They kill like crazy. I'm taking tylonal, moltrin, and advil so I don't need any more medicine. What else can I do to make the pain go away? And also all I can eat right now is soup, mashed potatoes, ice cream, yougurt, pudding, spaghettios, and oatmeal. What else can I eat that's soft enough? I can't chew at all not even a banana! All hep is appreciated!
--Metal Mouth (link)
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Dear Metal Mouth,
I remember whenever I got mine. If they're hurting the sides of your mouth or anything, try using wax on the sides of your mouth to make it hurt less, cause then it's not rubbing on your gums and everything. What I did is I also ate ice cream and really cold stuff because it'd make my stuff really cold and make the pain go away a little, and plus it was soft. For bananas and other stuff that's a little harder to eat, try just putting it in your mouth, and then smashing it against the roof of your mouth with your tongue and then swallowing it. That's what I had to do for awhile. But here's a site I found:
http://www.archwired.com/soft_foods.htm
^ Just go to SUGGESTIONS BY CATEGORY, and it lists all the dairies, breads, etc. you can eat. I hope I helped!
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13/f
I'm not really shy in case that helps.
I sit next to this one guy in three of my classes. He's really funny, nice, and a really good friend to have. No, I don't like him. I'm friends with his about five or six of his good friends, but not him. I'm not sure if he even knows my name! He doesn't hate me or think I'm weird, though. Is there any way I can become friends with him? (Like some way to start a conversation without sounding like some stalker/freak or at least let him know that I'm alive and I have a name?! Don't say flirting because I end up looking like a freak.) (link)
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Well, have all your friends and him and stuff hang out together, and whenever everyone's just sitting there talking, just listen to what he's saying, and then make a conversation about it and make him laugh and stuff and keep it going and then by the end of the night, just be like,"Hey, do you got a screename or something?" I hope I helped.
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So my schools starting next week and i actually managed to get a locker this year. The problem is, because last year i shared a locker with a friend, i cant remember my own lock combo. I had the lock the year before last year when i had my own locker, but after sharing a locker with my friend, i completely forgot it! i just remember the numbers are all even and im pretty sure theres a 14 in the middle and maybe 36 somewhere.. is there any way to find out my combo or will i have to keep guessing or buy a new lock??? please help o_O; (link)
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Well, I would try going to the office and asking them that you forgot your locker combo because you shared your locker with your friend and so on, and ask them what you should do. And they might be able to check and find out what your combination is, or have the janitor go and open it for you and change the combo, but just make sure you write it down somewhere and just keep it in your bookbag so if you ever forget it again, you know where the paper is. Also, if everything else fails, just keep sharing the locker with your friend again. I hope I helped.
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Okay, I know that just about everyone on this site (or atleast the girls) has at one point thought about what to name their kids one day, so I need your help. I need boy & girl name suggestions middle names would be helpful too. Thankyou guyss I appreciate it. (link)
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Girls:
Ashlee,
Stefanie,
Melanie,
Adrianne,
Scarlett,
Reese,
Kiki.
Boys:
Harper,
Chase,
Tyler,
Hart,
Skyler,
Jason,
Shane.
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okay see theres this band called " straightlight run", i don't know if you people have heard of them or not. you probably have. but i want to listen to them but i can't find a website that has them. any suggestions ? i already checked myspace, and yahoo.. nothing. (link)
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Haha, that's probably because "Straightlight Run" is "Straylight Run". :P
But if try going to purevolume and finding them there, they should be there. And I just checked and Myspace has them, so I'm sure Yahoo will have them too.
:]
I hope I helped.
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ok. my old buddy list has all my friends and there are like 200 so i dont want to go one by one. i just got a new sn and i want to have all the buddies on the new one. i have aim triton so it wont let me. please explain to me step by step how to get the buddies on not one by one. thanks so much. (link)
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I don't know if AIM Triton does this, but hopefully it does. Just go to MY AIM or if there's an OPTIONS or anything on the top and look for the words "SAVE BUDDYLIST", then click on it and click save and type in a name and save it to a folder you'll remember that you'll remember. I usually do it in MY DOCUMENTS, and I save it as "Bl[the date]" and then all you gotta do is go back to where "SAVE MY BUDDYLIST" is, and find "LOAD BUDDYLIST" instead, and then all your friends will come up again. If Triton doesn't allow you to do that, just tell all your friends that you've made a new screename and everytime you leave the computer, put up an away that says "I GOT A NEW SCREENAME, ITS _____. ADD IT." and also, if you have a myspace make a bulliten saying you've got a new one too. And just keep letting everyone know for about a couple days, and then go one your new one. And also, if Triton lets you do this I'm not sure, see if you can connect two screenames onto one buddylist so you can both be on your new one and your old one at the same time so you can still let people know while talking to people on your new one. I hope I helped.
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can your hair fall out from dyeing your hair?
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If you just dye it once and then leave it there, then no it won't. But if you keep dying your hair over and over and over every week, then yes, there's a chance your hair could fall out. And also bleach can make your hair fall out too. I hope I helped.
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Okay, well, I'm usually an optimist. I love and appreciate all that I have. I just have one little problem.
Since school started, it seems like all of my friends have had guys who have liked them, or have gotten boyfriends. It all seems so perfect for them, but look at me. I've liked this one guy for a while and he likes me as a friend. I guess I'm still hoping he'll come around and realize that he could like me.
It hurts when all of your friends talk about getting kissed and going on dates and you can't.
What should I do? (link)
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See, it only "seems" perfect. I mean, yeah it might be for them, but being single can be just as good. I know you'd rather prefer a boyfriend, but sometimes it's better to be single for awhile cause you can meet more guys [ more potential boyfriend ] while a boyfriend probably wouldn't want you to, you have more time to do stuff and hang with friends [ while some boyfriends girls always hang out with and lose time to hang out with others ]. But just keep being optimistic. Your guy'll come along, sometimes it just takes awhile. And I'm sure whenever he comes along, it will be worth that wait and then other girls'll be where you are right now thinking,"whens my guy gonna come along?! they look so perfect! im so jealous!" :] So if the guy just likes you as a friend, I wouldn't wait around. You can't make a guy change his mind. Go out there and meet more guys and flirt a bit, and snag one! :] I hope I helped.
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uhmm, what the heck? okay so my crush recently asked me if i liked carrotcake or not, and i was like "uhh, what kinda question is that, you're so random!" and he was like "no i think you can really learn alot about a person by asking that question!" SO WHAT THE HECK? is it like a trick question? is there a special answer guys expect when they ask this to a girl? or is my guy just a weirdo? (haha) so im just thinking.. instead of answering the question, i'd like to make a joke out of it, or just randomly move away from the subject instead of having to answer that question were i might get the "wrong" answer.. you know? maybe its something he's made up in his mind, like "if the girl says YES, she's the one for me, if no.,. shes not" or vice versa..
so i dont wanna ruin mu chances here (haha i know its dorky) but seriously.. can you make a joke out of this? or should i just be like "hahha, you're so random!" and not even answer.. or can i make a joke of something else he wrote in that email and not bother replying to that part at all? maybe i can comment on the fact that he's trying to get to know me.. through carrotcake. haha, he's so weird!! but seriously, what do you guys think?? (link)
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Hahaha, I'm sure he's not being real serious or anything like "she's the one" types of question, he's just probably being random and wondering if you like it or not because he could either really hate it, or really like it. But I'm sure it's not going to effect wether he likes you or not or anything. I've had times where I've been like,"I love mushrooms!" and the guy that likes me is like,"Ugh, I hate them they're disgusting how can you like them?" but they still like me none the less. If carrot cake makes a guy decided wether they like you or not, that's a little strange, haha. So just be like "Hahahaha yeah I like it." or "Haha no, I don't."
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ever since i was very young my mother has been abusive to me. i am the oldest of two children and the only girl, and my mother has always been jealous of my goals in life. she used to hit me severely when i was younger but the rest of my family ignored it and i have police reports but child services couldn't do anything because all i had to show were bruises and no witnesses. as i got older my mother started drinking a lot, she is probably drunk at least 4 nights in a week and she hasn't had a job for about 12 years. she just sits around all day and smokes and drinks and has her scummy friends over.
within two years though, i've been finding drugs and substances throughout the house that were clearly hers, marijuana and cocaine only. but she has the worst relationship with me because i don't go thorugh one day without being called a slut, cunt, little bitch, twat, you name it. i don't even fight back anymore because it's pointless.
this past december my mother in a rage pulled a knife out on me and put it to my throat. my entire family witnessed it and my dad ripped her off of me before she could have done anything. i called the police and because my father denied it happening they escorted me out and i began to live with my aunt up until now.
i just came back because my mother asked me to and appologised, and because she is my mom i agreed. but my younger brother is moving out with my grandparents because he cant take it herer anymore, and her name calling towards me is starting again. bowls and bags of marijuana lay around my house and it's disgusting. she smokes around all of us and my brother and i both have asthma but she dosn't care.
i've never lied about the situation or cried wolf to get pitty, the only firends who know about it are ones who have witnessed our fights.
my father won't divirce her because he says she'll take all of his money and we'll be broke. and he is scared of being alone since my brother and i are on the verge of graduating highschool.
is there anywhere i can go where they will put a stop to her durg abuse/ alcohol abuse/ child neglect, or is there any way i can have a restraint against her because i don't think it's fair my brother and i have to be thrown around to family members to live with because of her choices. it would be nice to live ina normal home for once in my life.
where can i go for help? (link)
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Like all the other people said, go and get proof. Take the pictures of the drugs and everything and report it all to the police and Social Services, and explain to them how she's been abusing you and everything. I know it's hard to report your own mother to the police, but you need to for you and your younger brother's saftey.
Social Services will remove you and your younger brother from the house and put you into the care of someone else, so I would suggest going to your Aunt's or grandparents house or somewhere with family, and they'll have your mother go to Drug/Alcohol/Abuse programs to try and get her better.
And your father should help you report her. I know she's his wife, but he really needs to consider you kids I mean, she's hurting you. But he just might be afraid to leave her for the fact that yes, he's scared of being alone and losing money and everything, but also for the fact that if she could pull a knife on her own child, he might be afraid of her and what she could do.
And if everything gets worse, and you can stand to be around her, you could also try filing for a restraining order so she can't come near you or anything unless she wants to get in MORE trouble with the law, which I doubt she would seeing as she's already knee-deep in it.
I'm really sorry that this has all happened to you, and I really hope your mother gets the care that she needs and I hope everything gets better for you, your dad, and your younger brother. I hope I helped.
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Well, this is REALLY REALLY long so if you want to back out now, do so because I wouldn't blame you.
Anywhos, my bestest friend and basically my only friend is Brandon and he's gay as in homosexual, not weird gay. And I hang out with him at school as much as I can and we like link arms, hug, etc. And no I don't like him like him.
And Tom, who liked me (he hugged me, sat next to me everywhere, kept on talking to me, and etc, etc.) Well, he must've asked someone if I was going out with Brandon (he was new to the school so he had not heard about Brandon being gay) and that someone told Tom that Brandon was gay.
The problem is that Tom is a homophobe...people that I loathe. And he was kind of..okay, he was pulling away .. barely sitting, talking walking with me and such. So in the hallway I was like "Tom, are you homophobic or something?" and he said yes..and I kind of got pissy at him so I basically said down the hall "Tom's a homophobe" kinda loudly.
But anyways. The problem is I still like him..other than the homophobe problems, he's perfect. Smart, funny, cute, and plays lacross which is the best sport yo. But now that Tom knows that Brandons gay and that most of my friends are homosexual, he is barely friend
I know that I shouldn't be hung up on a boy that is shallow and wont be my friend because mt bff is gay, etc, etc. But what should I do..?
I mean I'm going into high school and I know that I don't have any classes with Brandon (but we have lockers right next to each other) I don't know if I have any classes with Tom though. Should I try and get in touch with Tom or not?
And if I do be back to being friends with Tom, that's another problem. Melanie (she loathes me, got me into a lot of trouble. I loathe her like woah.) told me a long time ago that Christina (who I loathe and loathes me back) likes Tom. Now the whole "'Christina likes Tom' said Melanie" thing was before all the loathing went on.
But whenever I'm with my guy friends, everyone says I flirt. But I really don't. I don't risk my friendship with my good guy friends for a stupid relationship. I'm just being me and I guess that counts as flirt =X. Anywhos, but if I do become friends with Tom, I have like a 99% chance of "flirting" with him. And then that will start another drama/rumor around the school by the oh so dearly loved Melanie and Christina..bleh. I'm too confused. (link)
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Well, I would try talking to Tom once and trying to work it out. Just let him know, "Look, if you're going to be my friend, you have to accept my other friends. I'm not asking you to like, hang out with him or anything, I just don't want to saying mean things about him or freaking out about him or anything. And if you can't accept me for being friends with him, then I can't be friends with you." [ or something like that ] But if he's willing to try and be your friend, then give him another chance. Just, don't try and talk about Brandon around him and don't try to have them hang out. But I would just try remaining friends with Tom, because if you go into a relationship with him, best friends and boyfriends who don't like eachother? Usually makes a turn for the worst.
And if Christina and Melanie [ haha my names Melanie, coincidence ] start spreading rumors, just confront them and let everyone else know too that you it doesn't seem like it's flirting to you and you just think you're talking and hanging out with the guys and stuff so you're sorry, but you don't notice, and you don't mean to. Apparently whenever I talk to guys too I "flirt" whenever to me, it's just hanging out with them and goofing around. But I don't let it get to me, I just tell people,"Sorry, to me it's not flirting, I don't notice it." I hope I helped.
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