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my mother
ever since i was very young my mother has been abusive to me. i am the oldest of two children and the only girl, and my mother has always been jealous of my goals in life. she used to hit me severely when i was younger but the rest of my family ignored it and i have police reports but child services couldn't do anything because all i had to show were bruises and no witnesses. as i got older my mother started drinking a lot, she is probably drunk at least 4 nights in a week and she hasn't had a job for about 12 years. she just sits around all day and smokes and drinks and has her scummy friends over.
within two years though, i've been finding drugs and substances throughout the house that were clearly hers, marijuana and cocaine only. but she has the worst relationship with me because i don't go thorugh one day without being called a slut, cunt, little bitch, twat, you name it. i don't even fight back anymore because it's pointless.
this past december my mother in a rage pulled a knife out on me and put it to my throat. my entire family witnessed it and my dad ripped her off of me before she could have done anything. i called the police and because my father denied it happening they escorted me out and i began to live with my aunt up until now.
i just came back because my mother asked me to and appologised, and because she is my mom i agreed. but my younger brother is moving out with my grandparents because he cant take it herer anymore, and her name calling towards me is starting again. bowls and bags of marijuana lay around my house and it's disgusting. she smokes around all of us and my brother and i both have asthma but she dosn't care.
i've never lied about the situation or cried wolf to get pitty, the only firends who know about it are ones who have witnessed our fights.
my father won't divirce her because he says she'll take all of his money and we'll be broke. and he is scared of being alone since my brother and i are on the verge of graduating highschool.
is there anywhere i can go where they will put a stop to her durg abuse/ alcohol abuse/ child neglect, or is there any way i can have a restraint against her because i don't think it's fair my brother and i have to be thrown around to family members to live with because of her choices. it would be nice to live ina normal home for once in my life.
where can i go for help?
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Like all the other people said, go and get proof. Take the pictures of the drugs and everything and report it all to the police and Social Services, and explain to them how she's been abusing you and everything. I know it's hard to report your own mother to the police, but you need to for you and your younger brother's saftey.
Social Services will remove you and your younger brother from the house and put you into the care of someone else, so I would suggest going to your Aunt's or grandparents house or somewhere with family, and they'll have your mother go to Drug/Alcohol/Abuse programs to try and get her better.
And your father should help you report her. I know she's his wife, but he really needs to consider you kids I mean, she's hurting you. But he just might be afraid to leave her for the fact that yes, he's scared of being alone and losing money and everything, but also for the fact that if she could pull a knife on her own child, he might be afraid of her and what she could do.
And if everything gets worse, and you can stand to be around her, you could also try filing for a restraining order so she can't come near you or anything unless she wants to get in MORE trouble with the law, which I doubt she would seeing as she's already knee-deep in it.
I'm really sorry that this has all happened to you, and I really hope your mother gets the care that she needs and I hope everything gets better for you, your dad, and your younger brother. I hope I helped. <3
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omg.What im about to tell you is a bit hard but it might work.Put a tape recorder and hide it somewhere and let it record you and her fighting.Take a camera and take pics of the drugs and make sure shes not behind you.It would be GREAT if you can get it on camera,her beating you up.Then show it all to the police.Why dont you also try to move outta there?PLEASE DONT DROP OUTTA SCHOOL.Its your only chance of having a future now.If you have a college diploma,youll have a real job and be successful and wont have to stay at your house anymore.I say you try to get a job NOW,any job and have your own money.You never know WHAT will happen tommorow and you need to have your own money.You can also move in with a freind mabey.OR,why dont you make sure your moms not home one day and let there be drugs on the floor and QUICKLY call the police and let them see what she takes?If you need more help,contact me.I have myspace,yahoo,messenger and its listed on my column.Good luck.
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I think what you need to do is get proof of this so that not only the authorities but social services believe you. You need to take pictures of the drugs lying around, tape record your mom yelling and cussing you, not so she would know though. Bring this to Social Services and they will have no choice but to help you and your mom get the treatment she needs.
Your dad needs to be a man and step up to protect you kids. I think you should tell him that your safety is at risk as is your mental health. If he doesn't step up then he is just as bad as your mom and is basically giving her permission to be as bad as she is by not objecting.
If you need to vent or talk please feel free to leave a message in my mailbox.
Sara
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try & get emancipated. i'm not really sure how you go about it. you could google it or something. sorry i couldn't help more. [:
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Why not call the police and tell them you have found drugs in your house? She will go to jail and hopefully gets the help she needs. That may be further than you want to take it though.
I think if I were you I would go back to my Aunts house or grandparents house. Anything has to be better than what you are living through.
You should tell your dad that if she gets bad enough that she is pulling knives on her kids he needs to check into having her committed somewhere that can help her. He can at least have her observed for 24 hours as being a danger to herself and/or others. It would be a big help should you complain about her again.
He also needs to take the safety of his children into consideration when deciding to stay or leave her. Sounds like she has him mentally whipped as well.
Good luck to you. :)
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